Single life after a mastectomy
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wow. I was way behind reading. Oddly, I am stuck in upstate ny in a hotel and was watching the ion channel tonight for the first time ever. Then I read your posts. Funny.
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B is joining the ION Girls
(stay safe and warm)
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Just having time to check in. Laughing out loud at the comments about males and size!
Enerva = Gentle Hugs fro you and your sister.
Sandpiper = Thank you for the beautiful picture just posted. We can all dream can't we. Although my son is about the same age!
DebDylan - yes who are we? I still do the mother piece for two teens, have a good job, but the piece around relationships - now that is a struggle.
I have two "friends." One is solely in it for the benefits, and I am OK with that (mostly) It has been a long time since I have had any benefits and he is good company. But he is clear it will never be more than that-so I have to keep my head around that! A second gentleman just reappeared, we had seen each other a few times but it was before cancer DX and but I was recently separated so as he put it, I was sort of a mess. We have had a few conversations about getting together so we will see what happens from here. The attention is nice but this is all so loaded.
Be well,
Nel
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Yes, i am trying to read the 16 chaps this book is brutal, o think chemo fked my brain, i find myself readying twice even more some theory then an hour later i have no clue what did i read. lol Anyway I am trying to keep positive about my dear sister,tmw she is getting the core biopsy the good thinh about Vzla is that she is able to move some connections to get the test as fast as possible. here it took weeks foe me to get the appointments. I am glad cuz after the biopsy then we will know foe sure ;(
Thank you all, I am so tired i took a pill but yet i am awake lol
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E What are you studying?
Thinking ALL "negative" thoughts for your sissys Bx Today! And sending warm ones for you.
BTW, I luv the moon pic.
Working the next 2 nights. good thing or I wouldn't go out much until the Spring.
Work is having a "Weight Race" I signed up. I am really needing to shed the depression, winter, Tamoxifen weight I have gained over the last year.
I am rambling. Gonna take a pre-work nap!
Have a wonderful day, stay warm
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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Hi all, Deb, my sister found a lump las year but mammo and US show nothing to be concerned now she realized the lump grew so went back to the doc. Well today they did a core Biopsy the doctor says it does not look good but that we must wait must wait for the results. Now there is no history in my family and last year i did the genetic test and it turned negative. I am so worry i hope its not BC. ;( she is older than me and she is a heavy smoker
Anyway i ll keep you posted. Sand i took a correspondence real estate course which is very hard lol been studying to try and pass it so u can enroll in another course and get a different job
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Enerva - I am hoping your sister receives good news. Please keep us updated.
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hi deb,
Finished my deadline yesterday. Said goodbye to my teammates who were being very understanding though they had no idea what I am going thru. They really touched me.
Going to pick up some raw milk later....I love raw milk now. They are so yummy
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Oh Deb....delicious hunk! YUMMO!
Found a little funny posted on FB. Going to try and post it here.
The last line killed me.
Andy Rooney's thoughts on women over forty, Do you agree with him?:
As I grow in age, I value women who are over forty most of all. Here are just a few reasons
why: A woman over forty will never wake you in the middle of the night
to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.If a woman over forty doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit
around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s
usually something more interesting.A woman over forty knows herself well enough to be assured in who she
is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of
forty give a hoot what you might think about her or what she’s doing.Women over forty are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with
you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course,
if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they
can get away with it.Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what
it’s like to be unappreciated.A woman over forty has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women
friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best
friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over
forty couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she
knows her friends won’t betray her.Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a
woman over forty. They always know.A woman over forty looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not
true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over
forty is far sexier than her younger counterpart.Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you
are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder
where you stand with her.Yes, we praise women over forty for a multitude of reasons.
Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart,
well-coiffed hot woman of forty-plus, there is a bald, paunchy relic in
yellow pants making a fool of himself with some twenty-two-year-old
waitress.Ladies, I apologize.
For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk
for free,” here’s an update for you. Now 80 percent of women are against
marriage, why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire
pig, just to get a little sausage.BUWAHHAHAHA
Be back later.!
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Well i am ok but its very cold i am in my bed with my books and trying to figure out math problems lol also cat stop worrying about my sister, anyway hope you are all well too
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Piper - I'd say Mr. Rooney had it right. :-)
Since we're all posting photos of eye-candy now, this man (Paul Walker) was very photogenic.
Enerva - Still no news about your sister?
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Deb - I'm sure you're more "in the loop" than I am. I don't even watch TV. I saw only the very first Fast & Furious movie, and that was years ago. I don't think I've ever heard a Justin Bieber song, either, but I'm not sure I'd want to, anyway. ;-)
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Deb-Perhaps you didn't mean to be so humorous but I am ROTFLMAO!
I cannot let you ladies live in ignorance any longer.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kffacxfA7G4&feature...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M11SvDtPBhA
http://www.nfl.com/superbowl/48
Stay safe and warm ladies.
Life-ty for the additional images
E-hoping you absorb tons of info. I used to lay on my books at times hoping osmosis would ensue. Mostly because exhaustion and sleep deprivation would blur the words.
Bradley Coopers eyes get me every time
I turned down OT tonight because the roads are craptastic! and I just needed a night off.
I have decided to cozy up to a bottle of Cab Sav.
Random postings will keep coming.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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piper - i love mr. rooney's thoughts.
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June-There is much truth and wisdom in that post........
Bradley and Barry say 'Hello'
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Ok now Piper... there we go
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I'm ashamed to say that I don't even know who those last two guys are. (lol)
Piper - Thanks for the links. Thankfully, I have teenage sons who don't listen to that stuff.
Something I just realized: Deb seems to like musicians, and she posted a pic of Keith Urban - right?
Me - I always was a sucker for guys who work on their cars...
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Hi Ladies, Reading through some of your post and realize that we have to come to accept our bodies and anyone who doesn't --really isn't someone we want to be around anyhow. I had my PI surgery on Nov 26 2013; it did not turn out right. My left breast that was suppose to have been lifted is low and droopy and much larger than my implant that is sitting high on my chest. So, my PS has told me that in 4 months we will have to do a revision--and I haven't even talked on when I am getting the areola or nipple tattoo.. He will lift and reduce the left one and do lipo on both sides. Meanwhile, I am walking around with one up and one down breast. It hasn't stop me from trying to date. It looks the same way with the TE. I actually met someone who was very accepting of my body and I really liked him but after knowing him only three months, he suddenly died from a heart attack. I had to ask God if it was his plan that I am never going to find someone who will love me. I have pity parties sometimes for myself but it helps to come on these boards and get back to reality. I read what you ladies say and know whatever I am or have gone through--there is someone out there who is going through something like me or similar. I can identify with all of you--DebD,Enerva, Lifeis, Sandpiper and all the rest.. Love the support we give each other. Humanity at it's best!!
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After a little thought DEB.......There really is no Super Bowl unless the PGH Steelers are in it
With that ..........may I introduce you to Troy
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Sandpiper--thanks for the laugh--ROFL!!! Love the part about the pig and sausage!!!
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I luv that part too Dwill.
I am so stunned by your loss.
So sorry
(((((dwill)))))
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Dwill - Welcome back. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, too. Life is so fragile. How long ago did this happen?
As for your reconstruction, it sounds much like the stages most of us have probably gone through. I found the Genie bra very useful at that time - it's comfortable, and you can insert padding on just one side, if you need to.
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sandpiper, this guy was the first guy in 7 years that I fell in love with--yet I never had a chance to tell him. I met him on Christian Mingle. the surprising thing is we had so much in common. He was a minister but he was a man who was compassionate, caring, nonjudgmental, funny and loving and he told me I was the first woman that made him feel alive in a long time. Although I only knew him three months, we could talk about anything and even the second time he visited my home, he stayed at my house 4 hours while we just talked, laughed, had dinner and listen to music. During intimacy, I notice he had a long scar from neck to bottom of his stomach and his arm--that is when he told me had a heart bypass 10 years ago. My body did not bother him either. He got sick at my house but we thought it was the food poison acting up again. It was the last time I saw him--although he texted me every day asking me to pray for him to get well. I never thought he was going to die and then one day instead of him texting me, it was his daughter texting me saying he had died that morning--just two weeks after we were first intimate and his last visit to my house. I was at work when I got the text ( I am a teacher at a high school) when I found out and I was messed up. I cried so hard and could not stop so was told to go home. My job gave me the day off as a significant other to go to his funeral. When I got there, it was well over 500 people in attendance. He had a beautiful family and the pictures of him in his pastoral robe reminded me that indeed he had been an extremely popular minister. He look so godly in his pastoral robe. I never got to know that side of him but it was like God loan me one of his angels.. Family was sweet with me and let me sit with them. I sometimes feel like he was in my life just long enough to let me know I can be loved. God, I miss him so much! I love being with a man, being touched and loved but it has to be genuine. I feel like I will never have that again. There are not many men looking for 60 year old woman with two breast lessen on one breast. Hence, my ex. leaving me for someone 20 years younger.
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i am sorry dwill....
i really don't know what God have for us in our future...we can only pray we will live life to it's fullest...
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Always happy to share Life. I admit my son shares a lot of my taste in music and will introduce me to bands that he thinks I may like. Thankfully he didn't get into the Bieber or Miley phase.
We share our interest in Blues and I took him to his first Blues Festival at the tender age of 3yo.
I also took him to his first concerts....NSync in 2001, Train and Brandi Carlile back in 2006 and Dave Mathews Band in 2009. He was 5, 12 and 14yo respectively. The Nsync concert was also the first venue at the then newly constructed Heinz Football Field. I loved the look on that little cherubs face when I gave him the tix. He really liked that group at such a young age...and still likes JT to a degree (as do I)
He is now 19. My mother used to laugh and was in awe that he and I had so much fun and I was so spontaneous. The DMB concert was in Ohio and I decided last minute to go after having worked a long string of 12 hour nights. But it was summer, not a far drive, nice venue and my first DMB concert too.
There were times when I wondered if forgoing my own happiness was worth the sacrifices, but I have to say.......I was so happy being a mom and I cherish all of the simple and lovely times I spent with him. He taught me so much about myself and what love truly means. I am not always happy with him these days....he has made me sad and heartbroken at times in recent years. Working on this....hoping he is too
Anywho.....back to our regular programming....................................
Some classic Train
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Dwill - I am so, so sorry. Maybe you were put in this man's life so that both of you would enjoy each other's company and have some happiness, even for that short time. What a wonderful relationship the two of you had. How happy he must've been those last few months! Other women here have shared stories of losing the men in their lives the same way - wonderful, caring men entered their lives and then were gone very quickly.
Piper - I was a concert-goer "back in the day" in my teens and early twenties. My teens love music, too, but I never had the opportunity to take them to a concert. I would've loved to have taken them to see Dave Matthews, for example.
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Life... Bradley Cooper... and Barry Sloane (Revenge)
Love Bradley Cooper.
Dwill.. so sorry. That is so hard.
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this forum being what it is...I missed that last 'key' post from you dwill
I am sitting here with tears dripping from my eyes.......I want to ty for sharing your story.....experience.............love
We should all be so fortunate, even if for such a short time...
xoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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Oh, Deb... lol... now I'm so glad I didn't take my kids to a Dave Matthews concert, after all.
My soon-to-be-ex was a sports fan, too, but he went to the games with his friends and coworkers.
Like you, when I'm reading everyone else's posts on this thread, it's like reading something that I myself would've written. I'm so glad we all have this spot to talk.
Bdavis - Thanks.
Goodnight, all, if there's anyone still awake.
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