Single life after a mastectomy
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June, I know state laws can differ, but some have spelled out instances where a landlord would have to let you out of a lease. They are pretty strict though. ;( What do you live too far from or is it the matter of finances? Callous people really stink and to have people unwilling to compromise. I had no legal standing when I wanted out of a lease, however, I was allowed to advertise the place at my cost, show people around and direct them to the office for credit checks. I lucked out and got a girl to take my place. Management treated it like a new lease instead of a sublet So I had no responsibilities after moving. They weren't nice to deal with but at least I found an out. Maybe a suggestion?
Wishing you more comfort to day E. AND many warm thoughts and hugs as you and your family wait on Sissys results.
Hugs LIfe, Deb Bd and T
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girls,
thank you for your comfort words. i feel better today.
piper - i live far from the city, and this bldg is nice but too far for me. i wanted to take the leave time to find an apt so i won't have to stress to find a place to live once start working and all. this bldg is very strict. i don't blame her for not giving me a waiver to end the lease early but gosh, she's a nasty b.
it's chinese new year today. happy year of horse everyone!!
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dwill,
I am so sorry. Just beginning the dating scene is so difficult and to have someone you feel comfortable with and then this , gentle hugs and be kind to yourself. I will be 60 this year, have recently begun putting my big toe into the dating water. I am not prepared for anyone to see my surgery site, UMX, so many high fives for having the courage. Take time to heal and then think about next steps.
Be well
Nel
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(((dwill and Nel))) too.
E
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OOPS! I forgot the coffee and a cowboy!!!!!
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oh...i love Derrik Morgan..
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Deb... I worry that the one doctor is saying you were too thin because she doesn't do DIEP. You need to be careful about that. Please do remember, that there are other flaps out there for thing women (GAP for one and tdap for another). I would do a search for someone reputable who does GAP flaps and see if they can help you. The fat grafting will only work if you have good viable grab- able fat to harvest. And if it doesn't work, then you have damaged a future flap site.
So I had my mediation on Tuesday. It was horrible. My husband was really cold and mean. I offered to give up alimony to get the house and initially he seemed interested, but then later was talking about why should he have to pay alimony anyway. Saying I could get a full-time job (which I have tried to get and he knows it)... I thought my offer was extremely generous, and I made the offer as he was concerned about losing his job etc etc. I am very upset with him right now. He says he is determined to get through this with mediation, but if he continues with what he thinks he is entitled to, then we may need to go to court.
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OMG i am so upset, the Lab said the doctor on call went home at noon and didnt sign the report, so they cant release the results until Monday. I am so piss, now we have to keep on waiting till Monday, Ohhhhhh how much more can one take???? sorry girls i just needed to vent i am so tired and the thought of my sister going through bc is driving me nuts. I am the youngest of us and it hit me hard, my sister has high blood pleasure along with other conditions and i just fear, i just wish we knew today, its terrible the wait. ;(((((
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enerva - oh that really sucks. hope time will fly by and you'll hear something positive Monday.
how's your study? when is your exam?
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bdavis - can you ask around to get a good lawyer? at this point, make sure you'll be financially covered. did you work thru your marriage? if you stayed home, i think you deserve the alimony. sorry i don't know much but that's what i've heard so far.
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Juneping... I was a stay at home mom til about 3 years ago... so I am definitely entitled to alimony. My husband makes more than twice what I make. And I do have a lawyer, but we are trying to do mediation. The lawyer will come in later when its time for review.
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Hi all, well i have to be honest i am trying very hard to remember all that i read but i am scared, one guy that took the exam last Sat failed and i am a bit worry cuz i keep forgetting things. the math does not scare me as much as the theory there is so much and things like structures, types of roof materials , electric systems, plans not forgetting a lots of Acts. like Family law act. Survey Act, surveyors Act The registry Act, Planning Act............. all kind of regulations and trust me i keep wondering why the H do i need to know about this? when all i want to do is to look and show houses lol when i got my place the real estate guy did never talk about any of this things to me lol Anyway my exam is next Sat Feb 08. I have one more week and i feel its not enough specially when i ask myself a question and i cant seam to know the answer lol good luck to me. I am pushing myself i am good at that, its what keeps me from going lala lol
I was hopping that today i had my sister results from the biopsy but i guess its just 2 more days so we have to wait.
look at this crap
lol
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oh enerva, that is a lot. but those ___ Acts were probably for the filing process. so the property will be legal or after some kind of inspections for sale?? sounds interesting to me, i am an architect so these seem familiar to me, except those Acts.
GL!!
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June i have to tell you i love all that has to do with structures but i am more like hands on, i dont seam to be into it on a book. I mean i wish i was in a construction zone and learning about all this but when i read it then is like i find my mind wondering around lol i cant seam to focus enough to memorize it lol anyway yes off course there must be an inspection but they want the real state to be able to answer the clients if they ask any question regarding the structure of the house which i do understand is just that my brain is now kind of Fry lol ha ha ha i have to be honest i need this license and i do know i have to learn all there is in order to become a good sale person but i just wish it could be more like math instead of all this memorizing lol i think chemo did a number on my brain and i am not sure i can memorize 16 chapters any more lol Pls wish me luck or send me some of your knowledge i bet you could pass this exam very easy lol
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lol enerva, i doubt it. some are very different aspects in terms of what to know about the building. i will keep my fingers crossed for you.
btw, i think just the anesthesia alone is enough to affect our brains. i could be going to the coffee table to check the weather on my phone but the moment i got to the coffee table i was lost. i couldn't remember what i was there for.
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June - Happy New Year to you. :-)
Piper - LOL at the photo telling Enerva to study... lol.
Bdavis - Welcome to my world. In mediation, my husband has been very mean, too. We're scheduled for yet another meeting soon.
Deb - If you want to know about another PS, I can give you the information for mine. He has a very good reputation.
Enerva - Good luck with that test. I'm sorry you have to wait for your sister's results over the weekend.
Goodnight, everyone.
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Tessa w.....things WILL get better! I've been having my ovaries "ablated " by zolodex since last summer, taking femara with it. It's a combo fairly freq used to shrink estrogen /proges + tumors. It was a part of my pre mastectomy treatment, along with chemo. I was having regulator prds prior to beginning that, and have had little to no side effects from it whatsoever!! Now, we are going to have to test my bones and possibly take med to prevent osteo, but that's another kettle of fish...
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tessa w.... I was freaked out to be on them simultaneously, too, until I read more. That combo is freq used in Europe and is sometimes MORE effective than chemo!! I believe it may have been the zolodex and femara that shrunk my cancer from 3 cm to 2cm, and away from the chest wall, rather than the chemo! It was not the horror I feared it would be!!
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Wow i wish i had that instead of chemo. 46andS thanks for the information. Tessa it will all be ok
I love how in this site we can always find people who know something due to their experiences. How is everybody s weekend?
My Orchid has finally some flowers
it makes me very happy!!!
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Life... today was much better. We walked through the house and divvied up the contents. I am keeping the house and he is moving to an apt, so he gave me most of the furniture (although most of it was given to me by my family)... and basically all kitchenware, lawn gear etc.
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Bdavis - At least he's cooperating in that way. Maybe your next mediation meeting will go better.
46andsingle - Thanks for sharing that info. That's helpful for all of us to know.
E - Busy weekend here. Hope the weekend goes well for you and your family.
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June I agree, Anesthesia fogged my brain for a very long time.
Sorry several of you ladies are having a difficult time with mediation....I hope the soon to be ex's come around to meet you half way.
How's that studying coming along E? Hang in there girl. Sounds like we will be having a very good reason to be jumping in some pockets soon for meetings and exams.
Debs? how ya doing???
Hi 46 and the rest of the growing gang.
Another early day tomorrow with my sweet little babies.
I leave you with a wish for the Chinese New Year.
Save a Horse.............................................
RIDE A COWBOY!!!!
YEEEHAWW and good night
xoxoxoxo Piper
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life - thanks..
enerva - wow the flowers are beautiful.
piper - thanks for the yummies...
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Omg that is a great picture of that horse. lol
i love it. well i just finished doing some math exercises its 12:36 i am so tired
have a cute picture for you ladies.
lol i miss having a dog, isn't this adorable?
night
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enerva- wow that's a huge snail....poor doggie...
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HOLY................ escargot.
Sooooooo I have had an extremely rough day and I could complain and vent.............
But Karma bitch slapped me in the face (I so deserve it)
And I have no room to even complain about that or any other stupid thing in my life.
So I came here to hug all of you and wish you wonderful ladies a great week.
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June i actually think its a regular snail but the cute dog is one of those miniature toy ones.
Sandp whats wrong? Vent girl, vent
I was doing math problems all day and i am trying not to expect the worth tmw. its 2am and i just took a pill to sleep. I am worry about the exam, the girl i study with failed it. She called me today and i was trying to shear her, she is so young and was saying how depress failing the exam made her, i kept telling her not to let this put her down. She was saying how she wants to quit at getting the course done. In my mind i was thinking MG i had bc you must be kidding me this bs exam is nothing to be depress about, but i couldnt say it. I see life so different, I have to take a pain killer at least a few times a day. I hate it, i have to be honest i hate my new life i also hate that my sister may walk this road, i am sorry girls i also feel like crap today. Will let you know how it goes later today.
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enerva - good luck with the exam. i have a gut feeling you'll pass. sending good vibes your way. pls let us know about your sis, i kept thinking about her. hoping for a B9.
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piper - cyber hugs...feel better.
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