Single life after a mastectomy
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Try not to over do it, but definitely do something good for your soul! Anywhere nearby you can go dip your feet in the water? Always helps me. Just sitting, feet in water, music maybe?
Whatever you do today, I hope its a wonderful day for you!!!
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Nothing planned. Never is with when dating a chemist lol Back yard work. A friend may be coming to pick up a desk & we'll probly go put our feet in the water if she comes
Tomorrow, a hike hopefully with E. If not with another friend. We were supposed to go last weekend, 3 weeks planned, but, work.
So I just text him Id like to know about tomorrow by late afternoon. Fair request. Gotta plan sometime!
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Last week, after PS appointment, I went driving. Was crossing a bridge over a lake & noticed a boat access area.
No clue where I was except for county. Lol I dud find it & fortunately it was a quiet access. So I parked, walked to the end of the dock & stuckmy feet in the lake
Kicked my feet so hard I made a rainbow!!! I cried. I laughed. I thought. I listened. This particular access, thou close to a major road, was in a cove. Surrounded mostly by beautiful greenery. Was nice.
Im sorry BB. Yes fight to get in. Sucks we have to do that. Almost like they get tired of us. I partially wonder if thats my PS's, or part, of why he wants to close up this hole? I just dont know about that.
Lots on my mind. Lots to consider. More than I should have to, imo
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Hello everyone!!
BB, i hope you'll feel better.....your back really got me worried....i hope you'll get a appointment soon.
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Morning ladies.
*sigh* feeling frustrated. Wish you could wipe away frustrations like you can dust on a table. Wouldn't that be nice and so much easier.....
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Some roadside flowers in Taos to brighten your day
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HI ladies. Sorry I haven't post well we are all waiting for tomorrow cuz my sister doctor will see her and give his report or say what is really going g on with her.. we just need some kind of good news as per treatment. She is in lot of pain and soreness we just don't have a way of helping her. Vzla is a chaos no médicine nothing.
My weekend was OK I just stayed in and did some cleaning laundry etc. I also went riding Saturday for 2 hours
It was a long ride and good enough
I feel bad I have not been able to ride much this season but honestly I was not realy ready
When I got back my a's 's and arms and back were in pain lol not use to it anymore I guess also I felt as if it was all new again.
I am in bed and wishin the lottery comes my way this week
Bb so sorry to read all is so hard for you.
Simplicity I hope things improve soon with regard to e 's kids.
Jazz I wait to see your pictures love your traveling always
G night all
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E- I sent you some photos to your e-mail address and hope you enjoy them!
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Hey June!
BB, how scary. Do you carry any protection? A knife? Pepper spray? I try to remember to if I am going to be out alone. Nothing here. Just trying to decide which way to go. Feeling fairly annoyed.
E, a 2 hr ride sounds lovely. On your bike? O how nice!
Love the pic Jazz
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Good morning friends- nice weekend and time away. Got home early afternoon and settled in. Back to the client site today and much to do in a few days, plus a friend arriving for five days starting on Thursday.
BB- that is amazing about your back feeling better. I have thrown out my back before, and felt things pop back in and feel better again. I hope it lasted and that the time out with your mother went okay.
Also, very scary about being approached by punks who made you feel threatened. Happened enough to me in my life to know exactly how that feels. I hope these guys don't live in your complex. It seems like there are people lurking around there that don't live there, maybe visiting other people but maybe up to no good. Be careful.
Simplicity- it sounds like you have things figured out with E's kids. It is just really hard to be in the middle of a parent and their kids. Have your kids ever met his? I hope you can continue to focus on your recovery and not let these people create too much stress in your life. Wishing you a good short work week and hope your weekend time was restorative.
June- good to hear from you and hope all is well your way!
E- the riding sounds fun. I would be sore too after not having ridden for awhile. Getting out to do that seems to make you happy and hope you can do more of it before the winter sets in.
Will be back again next week after my friend leaves. Wishing you all a good week and more!
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HI , well sister finally got some rest last night taking new meds or at least some Meds. The doctor concluded that the ps must have cut some nerves which are creating her life hell now.
He gave her a new treatment to see if the nerve's go down cuz it is all inflammation all over her side's and arm now at least he said if this does no work he ll hospitalized her in orde to pit something on her vein .
But at least last night she slept and that is good news.
No cancer so we are at least better now
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E- nerve pain is awful, hope she is better soon.
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Morning ladies.
Jazzy, yes, briefly, once. Were his dad's 'other family' (go ahead son, bear your soul). bleh And his court got postponed until end of Oct, but lawyer is saying he is not in a good place. Eh. Maybe time in jail will give him time to reflect, time to find himself, away from other influences. E is so terribly stressed out. Really don't like hearing him like that (stress in his voice, exhaustion). We haven't seen each other in a week. I'm kind of frustrated about that for my own reasons.
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Hate to hear that. I hope they can ease some of her discomfort.How is everyone else?
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Good morning friends- just a quick check in before my friend arrives for a few days. Busy week with work, two doctor visits this week, company coming today, and more. I realize I totally overbooked myself this week, but told myself by tomorrow some things should ease.
Simplicity- sounds like E's kids have some troubles. One would hope sitting in jail would be a wake up call but not always sure it is. Seems like he is juggling a lot and perhaps not able to do anything particularly well at the moment (trust me, I can relate). Does giving him space to get through these issues with the kid make sense? He probably has nothing to give at the moment which is why you are not seeing him. Maybe just make your own plans with your family and friends for social outings for the time being and tell him you can get together when things are more settled. Keep taking care of yourself friend.
BB- how is your back this week? Did the improvements that occurred last weekend stay with you?
I met with an endocrinologist this week and she is helping me to focus on these blood sugar issues and getting some of the excess weight off. We created some realistic goals around that, and going to try to get down 30 pounds to start. Interestingly enough, she said women who have a bit of extra weight on them recover better from major health issues because we are going to loose weight in the process. I lost 40 lbs in 2012 with the ruptured appendix and bc dx and all that went with those two situations. With time, it has crept back on, especially with the AIs. She also said many women gain weight on the AI drugs. Will see her again in late October. She has great bedside manner and think she is going to help me get where I need to be.
Must get going to my day. Wishing you all a good few days until I can surface again next week!
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Simplicity- sounds like E's kids have some troubles.
O yes. They do.
Seems like he is juggling a lot and perhaps not able to do anything particularly well at the moment (trust me, I can relate).
So can I lol Need to message you. Lots going on at work. Trying to press forward.
Does giving him space to get through these issues with the kid make sense?
Perfect sense and exactly what I am doing. Fortunately for me, I am dating a man with impeccable patience. He knows I am frustrated, and understands. Once I let him know how I am feeling, I let it go. But I have never done well at biting my tongue.
So, trying to decide what to do about stage 2. Why not? Not sure I can continue to deal with these wounds, and really would like to be done and move forward. September 31st marks 1.5 years since dx
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jazz you won't believe what happened to me today .
I am been force to take another role at work
I honestly wish my money situation was in a better place so I could quit tmw.I was called in to an office and I was given a letter to sign taking a new role as production support analyst and basically take it or take it.
I am so sad and so tired I am so depressed now I feel like I could just quit and tell them to xxxx themselves but I can't. I said I won't sign till I review it with hr of course HR was useless they told me to sign and be happy .
I am so tired of this . You guys have no idea I feel like I should be taking all the depression pills I never take cuz I just can't think now.
I must put a fake smile tmw and sign and do what ever it is I am ask to do. Just cuz I can't afford to quit
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OK so I got up this morning and I decided to not sign any letter. I sent this email
Hi xxxxxx,
Thank you so much for the offer on the production support analyst position within the xxxxxxO team. However after reviewing what the responsibilities entails for this position, I believe that the role is not one which I currently qualify for nor do I have great interest for.
As we discussed yesterday, the reason why I stopped seeking for other jobs was the fact that Julia Pachinkina and Kevin Ooi asked me if I was willing to participate in the xxx (xxxc FX Project) project. This was ideal for me since I could be doing the project business analyst role which I was originally hired for in 2011. I have been enjoying the responsibilities that come with the project development and integration process. I have arranged meetings with a recruiter this coming week as I will now prioritize to find a position that suits me better. This should allow you to hire some who better fits your needs. I had a conversation with HR and it really helped me understand my options. As soon as I get an offer I will let you know.
Thank you so much for your patience.
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then the kid member of that chaos team quit today and I got this email from hr in which hr is also forcing me to take the so amazing role.
From: hr
Sent: Friday, September 09, 2016 2:46 PM
To: me
Cc: director
Subject: RE: Production support analyst position
Hi xxxxx,
Thank you for copying me in your email. As promised, further to our conversation yesterday, I can confirm that Jobs Online is the service available to employee's in searching for internal positions. Jobs Online, as well as utilizing your own internal network of contacts, can assist you in identifying positions within the Bank that are of interest to you.
In the meantime, your management have also assisted by identifying a suitable position for you and they have provided you with those details. As a suitable position has been identified and is determined to meet your accommodation needs, the expectation is that you will transition to this new assignment.
Should you have any questions, please feel free to contact me at any time.
| Manager, Employee Relations
My response
From: xxx
Sent: Friday, September 09, 2016 2:52 PM
To: hr
Cc: director
Subject: RE: Production support analyst position
Xxxx as I mentioned I will focus on identifying a position both internal and external.
I will let you both know as soon as I get an offer.
Thanks
Can you ladies believe the kind of support I got from hr?
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i spilt tea on my laptop. so now the space key doesn't work. ugh!!
Hi ladies!!
E, i hope you'll hear from the team you want to work with soon. don't be stressed....
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June so good you are here. How are you?
I found my chamin has a show in Vegas llol. Bb I wish we could all go lol
Need to share it .
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E- hoping you find a better place to work soon. They just push people around like chess pieces on a board at that bank.
Go find something you really want to do. Your experience and education efforts will impress many!
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O my my my Enerva. Nice. Love watching men dance.
Hey June!
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lol is too bad chamin is not in shape lol so he says to give us a little dance .love that man ever since I watch Dear John.
Rgearing my job well is a long history jazz is more familiar with it but the point is that I have done that job before I had to do it for a year against my wishes then they hire 3 people to take over the task they created a team and hire a team leader. I was the one who train the 3 kids on the job. Then my manager and director hire a team leader for them instead of giving me the role of team leader, I was pull away but still have to do some of their dayly task. Now hear me out the tea leader turn to be a pretender basically he is useless to the team. The 3 kids usually confined on me cuz they got close to me . So I kept telling them to hang there that maybe he just needs more time etc but the guy is useless then their moral started to fall and one of them told me he could not take it anymore that for the past 6 months he has worked every weekend and that he is tired of the bull 's which I knew it was going to happen cuz my 2 coworkers left for the same reason. So this kid quit yesterday. So now you see they gave me this letter to make me agree to go back to that team and clean the mess plus do the team leader 's job but he will be my supirior so I ll be doing all and no change on my title or salary. This is why I am so upset .they told hr they found the perfect position for me but they are not saying the history is not a new role is the same shit they had me doing since I came back from sick leave .:(
I must be honest not even for more money I have no interest I am exhausted and here I am on a Saturday working .cuz I am such a bad ungrateful employee thus is what they are saying .
But last night I sent my resume and I ll do the same today. This is enough I ll try my best now to find a new job.
is just so sad that I feel ever since I came back from having cancer I have been push around and bully and instead of been supportive they treat me as " oh crap she didn't die now we must see her every day" I have never donde anything to that manager but he just enjoy to make my days harder and harder Thanks guys cuz you always listen to my stupid venting I know is nothing compared to what u ladies are dealing with but is my drama and for more than u try I feel as if they are right . Life seems to be full of it ever since I survive bc as if I should have die. Maybe I was better off that way. Don't worry I am just in one of those weeks were I am down.
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Morning ladies.
Enerva, dont dare worry about venting here about job stress. I have lots going on too just havent had time to post it (where work is concerned). Its our livelihood and has a major affect on us. Sending prayers, good vibes, and good juju your way
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lol I just finished a promotion that was to be done in 1 hour took 3 1/2 hours well I ll bill them for the OT at least.
Yes work no matter what impact us huge
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E- sometimes we need to do things because we have to survive. I know you were looking a year or so ago for what was out there to move to something else, and felt you needed to get some education under your belt. You are doing that now and that shows initiative to improve your skills. I bet there could be something out there.
Go where you are celbrated, not tolerated.
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yes you are all right . I feel better now cuz I realized usually it takes something really bad to push me make drastic destinos so I ll keep searching just this morning I found and internal posting and sent out my application fingers crossed.
Bb I feel terrible too for what is going on in your country even though I don't live there I loved USA and hate what is going on with those clowns .
I really like Marco Rubio lol I was sad to see him lose he seemed to be a smart bright man. But I lost faith on all politicians after seen my own country go so wrong . I hope USA survives this crazy time.
Sending u all love I ll shower and go to bed I woke up at 4am and could not sleep anymore
Then conected to work at 7am till noon and now I feel dead as if someone beet me up. Also went to the dermatologist and got 3 molds removed I went to get one which is in the back of my leg and I tell u why lol
The reason is that I am a sychopath I hurt myself on my sleep
it happens often with acne if I get acne on my back I usually take a big chunk out with my nails asleep.So it started to happen now with a mold on my leg .
Anyway went today they removed it plus 2 on my face .ll find out if any concerns
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OK try to post a picture before and it didn't work here they go.
And just like mom I am alérgic to the tape they use in clinic or hospitals lol but that mold on my let look so small from outside and now I see how big it was lol
Also u can see all the new dark spots on my face like my frecles multiply lol not preaty stuff
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E- I have bounced around some bad work situations too. I don't think in general that women who have gone through bc treatment have been treated particularly well by their employers. I have heard too many stories here on this site about women and their work really changing after treatment. Some have been pushed in to bad jobs, some out the door completely. As we have talked about it, being self employed I kept it very private and still have. I learned a long time ago people are just not that nice when you are going through hard times. Going somewhere where no one knows this would be in your favor because you never need to disclose that to anyone.
The US for sure has a lot of problems and this election is insane. I joined Hillary's campaign a month ago and been doing some phone bank activities a few times a month with another friend.
Tomorrow is the 15 year anniversary of the 911 terrorist attack. I went to Ground Zero 3 months after the planes took the buildings down and it was still a recovery site. Will never forget it. The friend visiting me right now went with me. Going to the memorial and museum when we are in NYC this October. The US really changed forever that day.
Having fun with my friend who came in Thursday night. We went to Old Town later yesterday and did some shopping and then later went to a great dinner. Today she is out visiting her brother who lives here with his family and having dinner with them tonight at their house. This has given me time to get caught up on bills, business stuff, laundry, got to the gym, etc. Having company is nice but also hard when you are working and they are on vacation. She is a considerate friend though. We are going to the state fair tomorrow and then to a great outdoor concert tomorrow in the afternoon. She is doing her own thing while I work on Monday and then she leaves on tuesday to head east on a business trip. Been a fun time so far!
Simplicty, June, BB, Hope, Lily and everyone else here, hope you are having a nice weekend.
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