Single life after a mastectomy
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BB, sorry about your job, i am afraid i will lose mine as soon as i get back too. I have the feeling on my stomach, anyway how or why did they decide to let you go? sending u hugs, o have been so worry about home, i dont think i can go, the country os just in chaos now and o need to fond a way to help my family a different way. ;(
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BB - What happened? Are you all right?
Piper - It's ironic that two of us have been having plumbing problems at the same time. I have only one working sink in this house, and it's in the basement. The other sinks have me extracting water all day and dumping it into the toilet. I was friends with someone who could've fixed everything for me, but I said I didn't want to be friends anymore. Right afterward, wouldn't you know it - everything started breaking down.
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Life, I dated an architect, who had designed and built his own home. I really should have held onto him long enough to get the flooring and windows done. But I threw him over for an English teacher-seriously what!?!
My long time friend who can actually do all things around the house is so busy building his business he doesn't have time to get my stuff done. Ha Ha. So he offered to loan me money instead. I won't go there, but it was a nice gesture cause he knows how stressed I am.
I will be happy to share my plumber with you.
LOL Jazz,writing the check was slightly painful. Batted my eyelashes a few times. LOL Seriously I feel fortunate, I had myself believing I need all new pipes, fixtures etc etc. I had my bill worked up to thousands of dollars. A couple hundred felt much better.
M1970-I haven't suffered any residual issues with being frisky. I cannot imagine what happens to a womans sex drive when you have your ovaries taken. And you cannot use any hormonal agents due to BC. Bleh. Of course you have been through a lot this last year and it does take some time to feel yourself again. It took me close to a year to feel those sexual stirrings again and I did not go through chemo or have to be forced into menopause.
The common theme here seems to be a real knock to the old self confidence. Not just our physical selves but I know I have moments of feeling emotionally crippled.
E-I have been trying to follow what is going on in your home country. I am saddened by the turmoil that prevents you from being with your sister and family during this time. Shes knows you are with her in all other aspects. I know it doesn't make you feel better. Hugs and more hugs.
Blues-get back here and tell us what's going on. You have us all worried. Did you get let go or was there something that happened to make you question your days are numbered?
Ladies..For the first time in many weeks I see some sun and the temps are warming up. I may be able to get outside and walk. Maybe it will make me feel better. I am tired of not getting my fresh air!
I bid you all a happy day.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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BB - It should've been obvious to everyone that your note was a joke. Maybe they're just following policy by taking the badge and will return it to you soon.
Piper - The architect for the English teacher... I hear ya'. (lol) We all should be dating handymen.
About removing the ovaries: It does not have the effect that most people expect it to have.
Enerva - Once your sister has surgery and/or starts treatment, maybe she and you and the family will feel much better. Because then you'll know that something is being done for her - I know I always felt that, once surgery or treatment starts, it's a huge relief. In the meantime, I hope the situation in Venezuela stabilizes.
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BB- I work in consulting for healthcare and they are one of the types of organizations that takes any safety risks very seriously, perceived or real. However, investigating may not mean fired.
The hospital HR department may be a resource for the status of your employment. A labor attorney may also be of help in this situation.
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How does he expect you to live on that little bit of money? The courts aren't going to let him get away with that, are they? Is he claiming that you earn enough now at your job to decrease the alimony to that little amount? If so, then if you're unemployed, wouldn't his argument be moot now?
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For all my single friends doing the best they can
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Hi ladies, oh i has been following Venezuela on Twiter so did not sign in at all till now.
BB, i am so sorry about your job, hope u get it back.
My sister situation worries me the new doctor wants to start Chemo but the country is in chaos even doctors are protesting.
and every day worse. Not date for the surgery or the Chemo also CNN out of my country so not way to be inform other than twiter and the odd news here and there
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I knew a woman who told me that her ex-husband couldn't cover her insurance, so the courts ordered that the state had to cover it for her. She moved, though, and I wouldn't know how to reach her now to ask more questions. Maybe the court will consider your current situation and that you really need health insurance.
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Oh, Enerva, I'm so sorry about the situation there. I was forced to wait two months for surgery, and that was the most brutal two months ever. So, I know how desperate your sister must be to get started. Hopefully the doctor will give her a start date very soon.
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Envera- prayers for your country. I know things are very serious there. I hope your family can remain safe and your sister can get her treatment soon. It is hard to be so far away and so worried. Hugs.
Lots of struggle in the world and for each of our lives right now. Hoping everyone can have a more peaceful weekend.
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Hi BosomBlues,
Why do you "think" you got fired? Don't you know for sure. I'm just asking.
Regarding health insurance, you should look into the following options.
(in no particular order)
1. Medicaid - your eligibility will depend upon the State in which you live and what their rules are (good luck, hopefully you are not in a State that didn't expand Medicaid as recommended in the Affordable Care Act).
2. COBRA - your eligibility will depend upon your employer and the number of employees (if it is over 50, then they must offer COBRA). They will send a letter with relevant info. If your employer had a "good" group plan then your premium will be expensive $500-$700/month.
3. ObamaCare - You have until March 31, 2014 to sign up. If you are not eligible for Medicaid, then this is probably gonna be your best bet (at least cost wise)
Because you have a history of breast cancer, an individual policy will likely be prohibitively expensive....upwards of $1200 per month.
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Hi BosomBlues,
I read down further where you explained everything about work. So sorry.
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BB- Here is some info on the Affordable Care Act. You can sign up for plans through that by the end of March of this year for any coverage you need through 2014. This will include many new plans where you cannot be turned away for any pre-existing conditions including BC. Very important for anyone to know who needs to get new insurance.
I am one of those people too, as the program I am in through my state will have my plan expiring by end of April. So I have been out and about looking at plans. If you don't sign up by March, you can re-enroll again end of the year. Anything you do in between those times will not guarantee that you will get a plan that will meets your best interests. I think if you loose coverage during the enrollment periods, you may be able to get something through ACA but have to provide proof you lost the coverage.
Something VERY important to note here. You need to ask whatever plan you are thinking of going with two things: 1) confirm it is not an older/grandfathered plan as if it is, they won't pay for any pre-existing conditions and 2) be sure to ask if your doctors are in the plan(s) you are most interested in. I am staying with BSBC as I know I will have a better chance of keeping all my current docs, plus they are national and have better programs for out of state care (already did this once for rad treatment). I did review a couple of plans with them on the phone with these questions, which helped me to choose the right plan. I am getting ready to apply for it this coming week to be sure I have everything in place before the end of March and for insurance continuation come May. There are different levels of plans that afford more coverage/less out of pocket to those with higher coverages (and of course) premiums.
Another thing to watch for, most all the new plans have pretty high deductibles so be sure to look at that carefully too.
If you got through your local health exchange, most of them can navigate you through these questions. Don't hesitate to pick up the phone vs. trying to do it all on line. It is not that clear for most people as the whole thing is brand new, which is why they set up the exchanges to help people figure out what they need.
That is what I have learned to date, hope it helps you and anyone else here shopping for new insurance out there!
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I detest the Elf, but this is so funny.
Have a wonderful day and keep smiling
piper
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enerva - congrats!! i knew you would.
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awesome Blues!
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BB- that is great you found something with Medicaid. It will be easier than navigating that than the subsidies through ACA (that part I know less about because I won't qualify with my income). That should help ease some of the stress you are going through to know you will have insurance covered through the government.
Good luck with getting enrolled and on your way.
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BB - I'm glad to hear that you found a solution.
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Ladies i am so sad, i saw a PS today and he said he cant help me, he said its unfortunately that my PS didnt use the correct size implant but that i should just leave it and live with it the way it is WTF? it felt as if he knew her and he just was told to say that. which i feel that is the case. That fk i ng Lady i am sure she will talk to all the plastic surgeons and i wont find one that can help me. I am sad and depress i am siting in my car crying
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Enerva - If the size of the implants is wrong, then why wouldn't a PS be able to replace the implants with the correct size?
P.S. Please don't be upset. This other PS probably just isn't a very good one. This is another roadblock, but you will find a way around it.
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E- I personally find that answer unacceptable as I am sure you do too. I am sorry you feel like you hit a dead end. Are there threads with women who live in your general area that could perhaps give you some suggestions or recommendations?
Hugs dear E. I am sorry you were treated that way. You deserve to have options, compassion and respect.
Hugs to all. Off to nap before work tonight.
BTW E.....the sleep sacks with matching hats...PM me how much you would charge for a set.
to all xoxoxoxo
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Hi, I feel better now thanks to BB . I am sad but i will keep searching until i find a PS who can help. The doctor today told me that the goal of recon is for me to look good when wearing cloth but that it is good enough what i have now and i should be happy. i will take new pictures now so i will PM all of you so you see why i am down, my results are not good. I am not wiling to be happy until someone switch to the right size. ;(
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It actually looks worse in person i cant described but also the feeling is bad if you touch my breast it feels like a big bag half full of water so you can feel the plastic its baddd ;((
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Thanks BB, trust me i will also cheer you on we must keep on fighting and never give up. I am awake cuz apparently rumors are that something really bad ll happen in Vzla tonight. ;(
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Oh No E.
I am distressed to hear that. Keep us updated as you are able
Big hugs
xoxoxo
Piper1
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Enerva- no one gets to tell us that we should be happy in any circumstances or when things are "good enough". Maybe good enough for them, but clearly not for you. You don't have the outcome you need to feel okay.
To me, surgeons are the worst with bed side manner. I am reminded of that every time I deal with onel. I have good BS who I still see every six months, and she is an excellent surgeon, but not good on the interpersonal front. The last visit I had with her, I came away pissed off with some of the things she said. Because of questions I had about my radiation treatment recommendations and she said I "fought her tooth and nail". She clearly does not like anyone questioning her recommendations or asking questions. Screw that, I know the healthcare system, the way doctor think, and made sure I got the info I needed via second opinion. All the other providers I see are not this way, we have more of a partnering relationship in my health care. I decided I don't need to like her, just have her as part of my ongoing medical team as she is good at the whole breast thing.
You have so much going on with the turmoil in your country of origin, sister's bc and also your own reconstruction needs. I just wanted to say I feel for you sister. We are here for you and will listen and try to help you however we can.
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Thanks ladies last night was hard i did not sleep at all, i was listening on line to all that is going on and its is so sad. i hope they get a solution soon. its the students we have in the streets
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Hi, i am sure the fight will end soon for my country so many students dead, and tortured
but hopefully it ll end soon. Sister ll start chemo this week
no surgery till two chemos to see if the tumor respond Doctors are just terrible, we cant do much i cant prevent anything just be here for her to guide her but i cant help much been this far.
Anyway i am glad you had a better day BB.
good night
Ah tmw i have an appointment with a new family doctor and i ll ask for a refferal for another PS.
ll keep u posted
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wow Blues... you are pulling it together girl! GO!
E......no words, just hugs.....
Hugs all around.
Have had a morning from ......
anyhow......almost 24 hours since I last slept. Guess we can share each others habits
(BB)Hope to get a little 1 or2 hour nap before the garage phones with an update on my car. (piece of shhhhhhh....crap)
xoxoxo
Happy Tuesday!
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