Single life after a mastectomy
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Hi, lol my Channin was there on the screen for a few minutes and it was nice to watch but i couldn't finish the entire program. I had a headache all day yesterday.
Bdavis thanks for the positive message
BB, I am so sorry about that lady and you now out of the Job, my poor sister has to wait fir two more exams one on her heart and one on her legs cuz she has blood cloud (no sure of the spelling) Doctors need to be sure of what chemo to use on her. ;( so no actions been taken yet. I managed to sebd some money since i wont be able to be there.
Jazz lol thanks for the new mantra
Sand why are you apologizing?
Anyway i ll watch the detective and shameless tonight. I am not happy about the dirty look of Mathew at the Oscar but it must be dye to the roll of that movie he just finished. I must watch it.
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Ok BB, did you watch true Detectives? I am already sad that the season is almost over lol
I wonder where will it all end up?
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Well i few friends invited me out to dinner, i havent seen them since last season, these are Bikers lol they will go out to dinner and pool, it sounds like i can use the time out. So i will go.
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GM lovely single ladies.
Hope you had a nice night out E. Sounds like fun!
Jazz, I am chanting your mantra, but changed it ever so slightly.
I am worthy of love and kindness ...from myself
This one is for you BB
Hope everyone has a nice day.
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I like that Mantra!!! i also deserve lot of love and kindness from me!!!! lol I did a few exercises the day before yesterday and this morning. I feel pain all over and i only did target my legs and chest, very light so i am not sure how it will be tonight, I got one of the ladies to pick me up, so i may be able to have a beer lol not big on Beer but i can use a cooler or something, i really want to forget my life at least for a few hours. I am posting my Bike for sale so i can make the $ i took from the credit card to send home, yes i am sad i have to let go of the Bike but at the same time i feel i will have one in the future so i will keep my wear
Hope it sales soon. I called and canceled the insurance. One if the reason of meeting these ladies today is to advertise my Bike lol Anyway i cry again today when i saw videos of what is happening in Vzla. Its so sad no one is able to help our student been killed and brutally abuse
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Happy end of Fat Tuesday. I wish I were partying in New Orleans!
Enerva- good idea to sell the bike knowing there will be another in your future and it may help at home right now. So much pain in your family and in your country right now. Hugs.
Piper- your new mantra is right on. So right we need to love and be kind to ourselves first. To be your own best friend first. It's a big job for us to put ourselves first, but cancer teaches us we need to.
BB- I am with you in that I do not care to talk about cancer or let it define me. I find of the community of my friends who do know, most generally inquire how I am doing but don't really want to talk about the cancer thing in detail. They like to talk about other things they know will be uplifting, humorous, interesting, etc.
Beyond work, family, cancer, there are so many things you can talk about, movies you have seen, books you have read or would like to, True Detective, hobbies you have or look forward to resuming (for example, with the spring comes gardening). I don't even talk that much about work with my friends, we all need a break from that too. You are definitely on the road to re-defining yourself right now with yourself as well as those around you. You go girl. And you handled your exodus from that crappy job very gracefully.
Sounds like some of you are going out for some socializing and think that is good. March is birthday month for me, and this Saturday is my first outing to meet a fellow March birthday girl for our annual birthday lunch out.
Got my hair cut and highlighted tonight. Made me feel good inside and out.
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Well i have to be honest i went out and had one drink. I did have fun but i am not sure i want to do it again, I am not sure why but i felt as if even these woman looked at me different. I made the mistake to tell them about my bc and now somehow i feel they talk about me, its hard to say, its like i need to find new friends and never tell them about my bc. Am i making any sense? I came home and i felt sad, i asked myself why did i go out? then i got emails from them saying how great it was to see me and how i made the evening so much fun cuz i was joking around and having fun but they have not clue how i really feel I am sorry girls i can only be honest here. I am just so tire of pretending i am ok and inside i feel like crap..
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Enerva- I totally understand how you feel. The majority of people in my professional and personal circles do not know I had bc, so I understand your wish to meet knew people and not tell them. It is unfortunate, but many do treat you differently once they know. I had that experience with some of the ones I did tell. The women you met sounded like they liked having you there based on the follow up e-mails. That part sounded nice.
Sorry you are not feeling good inside and understandable with all that is going on. This is a safe place to share with out judgement. We care.
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Thanks Jazz i will be ok i just have to keep bc in the past. Hoping that one day it will really be a bad dream.
Those ladies are ok, they never mean to hurt my feelings. Its just me. I am super sensitive these days. I know i can always come here and you guys listen.
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Hi Ladies,
bb, you are right i need to ignore it. I got a call and the appointment with the PS is for July 18,
can you believe it? thats what happen when you live in Canada. I am so sad to wait so long to maybe heard another A hole say its not too bad i suggest you live with it and be greatful you look ok in cloth. I have to just hope life start making some kind of sense cuz right now i am feeling like crap. Tmw i see that doctor fir depression maybe thats what i need some magic pills to feel better. 0 -
BB, you are my rock.
you always make me feel better i know i must look at the bright side of things. Hope you know your son knows you didnt mean to embarrass him. I am the same way i sometimes pick up my nephew from work and drive him home, most times i wait in the car cuz i dont want to go in the mall where he works i feel as if i am never dress good enough. i see life different now i only care not to embarrass him but when i go out alone i see how i dont give a crap about my looks. It scares me i have to put up a show when i go back to work. I hate to even think about all those woman looking at me. Oh well i ll keep playing the lotto lol
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I hope you can see this video, i know u wont understand the lyrics but you can imagine what is says, this is what is happening in my country i think this is why i have been so miserable i have sadness inside for all the innocents that are there trying to change the future and its hard that my family is in the middle of this and dealing with sickness at the same time.
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c8aGCD_UbRM&feature=youtu.be
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E - I hope there is peace there soon.
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Me too.
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Hi single ladies- checking in her tonight to see how everyone is doing. I should go to the gym and get some exercise in but not feeling motivated yet to return, post head cold. I think I am better off packing up my stuff, and going right after work tomorrow. There is a yoga class I will do tomorrow night, better way to ease back into it.
Enerva- sorry your new apt is so far out. When do you go back to work? Hopefully people will respect your privacy and just ask how you are doing and not dig into details. The routine may help you too. And hope the meeting with the doctor goes well. We all can use some help getting through this stuff.
BB- I am like you, like to look nice when I go out. Makes me feel better about everything. I love Free the People clothing. There is a fun little boutique here in town that sells their stuff, and have also found it at Nordstrom Rack. I have a couple tops by them.
Wishing everyone better days. Compassion, love, and hugs to all.
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Thanks Jazz, i ll be ok soon
I hope we all get 100% well soon. Have a great night
soon spring ll arrive and there ll be ice cream
lol
here is a cute picture
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Awww... how adorable! :-)
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Hi BB, glad you are back here, i ended up at the insomniac forum trying to catch up with those wonderful ladies is a job lol
I think that wait till July is what made me more depress lol I am ok just back to reading my book. I may get a coffee with Milkyway2 lol it turned out she lives not too far and may be able to meet tomw for a coffee or juice, will let you know if we do. I will love to sit with all of you and just talk and hand out maybe play pool, i want to learn to play pool lol
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BB - After DX, I had a pain in my shoulder for a year. The scans showed nothing. The pain is gone now. I never knew what it was, but it began after the first biopsy, which might have led to it somehow.
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So... I was so optimistic that mediation would work, but I am not so optimistic anymore. Husband is being mean, name calling, just unfriended me on FB... I said to him, what he doesn't understand is that you attract more bees with honey. Oddly, he thinks I am mean... Very odd to me
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Bdavis- I am sorry to hear about your husband. Unfriending you on FB seems like a strange move on his part. Keep meditating for you.
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Bdavis - After your message about the Valentine, I thought maybe things might change for you. Sorry that didn't happen. Hang in there. Mediation still might work.
BB - I think about it, too, especially now that I've reached the three-year mark. Hopefully one day we won't have to look over our shoulders and worry anymore.
All - Goodnight. :-)
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Awesome MilkyW. Luv it!
Just popping in to say HOLA to my favorite single ladies. I have a little time off from work this week so I am going to try to get some things done around the house that need my attention-even if it is de cluttering the garage and basement. (and perhaps my closet too)
I have a dinner date tonight. Don't get excited LOL! Someone who I have been "friends" with for over 6 or 7 years. I know he would jump at the chance to 'date' me but we tried that and it didn't work. Soooooo occasionally we do dinner. He always pays (how shallow) haha and I can tolerate him once in a great while. I know that sounds kind of rude, but is would take too long to explain.
My coworker just completed her second round of chemo for Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma and is headed home as I write this. I may have mentioned it. Anyhow, I spent the better part of yesterday running errands, shopping and cooking a meal for her family.
I made a pork roast, mashed potatoes, green beans w/mushrooms and no bake peanut butter bars. I am not sure how the dessert turned out as I cannot ruin the pan by taking one out to taste (haha) So I may stop and get vanilla ice cream and root beer for floats as an alternate dessert. I am going to drop that off today and I made an extra roast so I could drop dinner off for my mom too.
Yesterday was beautiful. the temperature finally broke 50 but I had a hard time managing to keep my cool in the terrible traffic and crowds in the market district. I usually go to "The Strip" during the week. Everyone came out yesterday and it was crazy. I wanted to make a day of being down in the city, but will do it next week. I guess I just have to be in the mood.
Hope everyone has a pleasant weekend. Quiet if that works too.
xoxoxoxo
Piper
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Oh BB, I can understand the worry about the shoulder. I have had years of wear, tear and misuse which resulted in a rotator cuff injury (first about 20 years ago). I had PT for it years ago, but the symptoms you are describing sound very similar to how my injury first presented. Considering what kind of work you were doing, this might be a potential problem for you. I am just throwing it out there. The numb hand and inability to move my shoulder above my waist was awful, but with the impingement program the PT gave me, I have been able to manage it over the years without surgery. When I had my surgery it was aggravated and I am still having some residual issues on occasion, but the extensive repair of the DIEP seems to flare up around my side too. It is a lot to bounce back from. And I am fairly active too.
I understand the worry. I am not sure what to say. But I hope that you find a resolution to your insurance woes soon so you do not have to sacrifice surveillance of your health for too much longer
Hugs
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Piper - You have a big heart. :-) That sounds like a wonderful meal and dessert that you cooked up for your coworker and her family. I hope she does well with her treatments.
Have a nice day, all! :-)
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BB - Thanks! And I can relate to what you said about dressing nicely. It always makes me feel better, too, to dress nicely, highlight my hair, try new makeup, etc. I can't afford much, but I find bargains here and there, and those little things keep me happy.
The shoulder pain I had was different. I guess it wasn't so much the shoulder as the shoulder blade. The pain was located at one spot in my back on my shoulder blade (if I remember correctly). Maybe what you described is an injury. I do something, too, that involves moving heavy things around sometimes. Hopefully someone else here has more knowledge and information for you.
It was a beautiful day today. Hope you and everyone here enjoyed it. Goodnight!
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Hi ladies, hope you have a great weekend. I slept like 12 hours i was so tired. I was not able to meet with Mylkyway2, ended up driving to Tor to do a favor for my nephew.
BB, is the shoulder pain consistent or comes and goes.? I have a lot of burning still in my upper chest but, think yours could be muscle or nerves that you hurt somehow? what did the onco said? I have to say i am waiting to feel better from this pills, nothing yet. I had a bad dream this morning and that was the reason to get up but wanted to stay in bed. lol
Piper, thank you for been such a great friend to your girlfriend and her family
i know that people like you are the people who make a difference in this world. i will share another cute baby animal to brighten up our Sunday. lol
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Hi single ladies- hope everyone is doing okay this weekend. Lots of ups and downs. Pains in other places.
BB- sorry to hear about your shoulder. I have some arthritis in my left shoulder. It bothers me during the rainy times.
Lately, I have a lot of neck pain that comes with the rain or snow and think I have arthritis now. Old car accident and was told someday, arthritis might show up. Will talk to my PCP next time I see her. The skies are clear today and the pain is gone which is what makes me think it is arthritis (vs. anything else that may be going on). Massage helps!
I have some good news from my visit with the nutritionist Friday. Last Sept, right after I went through my first six month follow up for bc, I found out my AIC hit the line for diabetes. I was so bummed out, trying to take care of myself so very carefully and then that happened. But I made some immediate changes to my diet including not eating sugary deserts any more. Also been low carbing it. We retested my blood sugar in Jan and it was back to almost normal! Nutritionist said yesterday that I just need to keep working on diet and exercise and getting that number a bit lower. The number went from 6.5 to 5.7. Went from being borderline diabetic to borderline "pre-diabetic". I feel like I am slowly but surely getting some things turned around after everything going in the tank the past few years. It is a long way out of all of this stuff, isn't it? And the interesting thing is, I don't miss the sweets.
Enerva- I hope the long hours of sleep made you feel better. I love when I can sleep for that long.
Hope everyone enjoys the return of evening light for those who change the clocks. Enerva- do they do DSL in Canada? Seems to be more of a US thing.
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good night ladies .i am having joints pain after my Diep recon i think its bcoz of big cut hip to hip or its a side effect of oophractomy i dont want to go on pain medication for rest of my life .i hope quality of life will b better.i dont want any new episode of pains 2 times cancers are enough for me.
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