Single life after a mastectomy
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Enerva- I gave up sugar seven months ago due to blood sugar issues and heading into diabetes. I turned that around and now stay away from the stuff. I have found all kinds of good sugar free stuff for the times I need something sweet. Happy to share that with you so maybe you can find some of those things where you live? Now that I am off sugar for so long, I really don't crave sweets anymore.
I have heard several on the threads say to stay away from sugar. Is there any kind of nutritional link between cancer and sugar that anyone has heard about?
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jazz - cancer cells survive on glucose and glucose is sugar. that's why some ppl advocate ketogenic diet which is no carb diet to starve cancer cells. but not everyone buy into this idea...i think we had a thread about keto diet.
here is a link explains better than i did.
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June thanks for the link, I gave up the sugar but i still have some honey
now i will try raw honey but i was told that even that is bad the cake thing is just cuz i love dark chocolate cake but haven't had a piece in at least 2 years and i wont get it so not to worry lolI took a cake decorating course 5 years ago and after i learn how cake are made i stop eating them lol
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enerva - raw honey is good for us. Even it's sugar but it has other benefits in it. Like fruits, there's sugar in it and other fiber and good stuff in it.
I just think if I eat things the way God intended and it is the right thing to eat. And those processes sugar cakes are bad, bc they offer no nutrient value.
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Yes they are made with a lot of fat, i was horrify when i did the course and i still make them if anybody ask me to but i wont taste it lol my family knows it and they think its funny how i am so good at it and yet i cant enjoy it. Look at this one i made once
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You are very talented E,
I have been working too many long hours, varied shifts and extra too. Crazy busy at the baby factory.
Popping in to say HI.
and give hugs.
Ill try to stop back later.
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that's a lovely cake
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Look at this one for engagement party lol
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Hi Txkari, My experience is that I had a mastectomy (right side) and immediate diep. By the time the nipple was complete (6 mos. later) I felt good about my appearance and put an ad on a dating site. Went out with a couple men before I met one who became my boyfriend. After a few weeks I told him about the surgery and he has been fine with it. Before I met him I had a few years of not going out with anyone (after my divorce) but I felt like I wanted to meet someone to do things with, not especially get serious but it ended up we hit it off. If you find a very good PS to do the reconstruction you will feel good about the outcome. Some men may be "shallow" and uptight about it, but they are not "keepers" anyway! You will be able to date and have a busy social life if that's what you want. It's hard to see it now, but when this is all behind you, you will have a lot of good times to look forward to. Keep the faith.
Snowflower
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Enerva
I am a singly too and have been lurking on this thread. I had to drop in to say your cakes are a-m-a-z-i-n-g.
As are all you single ladies too, you make me feel better.
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Bb, Thanks i will pm you more cake pictures, I greet i never did any business with that lol i am good at it
but i see it as one more hobby of mine. Wintersock welcome, i am always here even if i dont post for days i feel this tread is really the one i relate to with my bc survivor sisters. Even if we are down or up we try to support each other.
Girls my throat is hurting me again
can this be possible i took antibiotics for a week and got well and now just 3 days off the antibiotic i feel as if its coming again? what is this? ;( 0 -
enerva - try put some lemon juice in hot water with some honey. i drink this every morning empty stomach. lemon has a lot of vit C and turn our body into alkaline ph value.
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Thanks i just did it i am crazy about limes i am surprised as per why it happening thought it must be my immune system
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E, why were you taking antibiotics?? sorry if i missed the post...
i took it once for my acne and it gave me yeast infection...ugh...
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I got a throat infection 10 days ago and i was given 7 days of antibiotics which took it away but i finish it two days ago and now its feeling sore again exactly how it all started , i was given amoxiline 500 mg. Tmw if its bad i will ask at the walking clinic since i will pick up the ultrasound i did on my knee too. It crazy how we now get sick so fast.
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enerva - oh sorry to hear that. drink lots of fluid and see how you feel tomorrow.
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I feel very guilty right now because I've been consuming too much sugar. :-( I behave myself for long periods of time, eating mostly salads and veggies. But then I end up going on sugar binges, as if I'm some kind of sugar addict. I have no idea how much sugar I've consumed in the past few days.
I hope the research is wrong. I had a relative who was a BC survivor who ate sugar every day, all day long. Her BC never returned, even though she refused any kind of treatment after surgery. But, I have a feeling that sugar could work against me somehow.
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Life its normal to treat yourself once in a wile. I lost interest in Cakes once i did the baking course but again i was never a sweet lover. My only love is toward dark chocolate lol just talking about it makes me want it lol i really miss it. Once in a wile I have a piece. The icing on cakes is made from sugar and fat called Krisco or Crisco cant remember the exact spelling its pure fat. I was horrify when i learn all the recipes lol here my final cake which gave me my certificate
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BB-meditation is great. It helps to clear the mind of things, and I usually have a better day if I do some first thing. I started doing a morning yoga practice on my patio now that it is warmer and need to add the meditation to that too. Give it a try and know you may have the chatter or "monkey mind" for awhile but then when the thoughts stop, you will be amazed how good you feel.
Enerva- your cakes are fabulous. I am sorry to hear about your sore throat. Do you have allergies? I get a sore throat with those in the spring.
Wintersocks- welcome! We talk about all kinds of things here about being single, having had bc, and life in general. Glad you found us.
Piper- you sound like you have been busy and working a lot. I can relate. I am trying to get more sleep this week.
June- thanks for the link on sugar. I gave up the processed stuff, but do still eat fruit. I am very addicted to sugar too and now that it is out of my diet, realize how much I craved it when I ate it.
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Bb, i am happy for you.
i did enjoy going to yoga last year but the place i did it at is far and i dont want to drive, i am happy that the weather is improving here in the north pole so i can go for walks and do my routine of stretch exercise 0 -
BB- that is awesome! Yoga is so good for the body. I do it all the time and it helps my SEs from the arimidex too. I am glad to hear things are shifting. I have found everything has improved as time goes on. It just takes a long time to dig out from all this on every level. Let us know how the class goes for you? You will make new friends too!
I am thinking about going to the gym tonight. I have been good with walking and yoga lately but just have not been into swimming for some reason. And normally I love to swim. I may just wait and go this weekend.
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hi.do you guys have any idea how much a divorce cost.i am in canada separated for almost 2 yrs now my soon to b ex want to get married again so he need paper work .its a trauma for me n my kids god give us strength to handle that sitauation.i have to deal 3 teenager alone.he cant cope with my cancers he separated his bed room after my mestactomy.now he s searching for a model at the age of 50 he happened to me my 3rd cancer i cant remember my cancer when i wake up everyday but i remember how selfish person he is .hard to trust any man .any Dos n donts for separation agreement.
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Milkyway dont mind BB, Her lawyer is too much lol
Here is Canada there are lawyers services provide if you can not afford it. I thinks its call legal aid but you much search cuz i have never use it. They will help you fill in the forms and if it it a mutual agreement you should be ok with the process.
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I saw this on FB and thought of this link today. We single gals trying to help one another.
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BosumBlues, I have the same issue. Even more so, maybe. I have an ex from over 12yrs or so that I dream about a lot. He's the one that got away. He's married now, has a child, and forever gone as far as that goes. It's heartbreaking. And get this! I'm at the Cancer Center for a yoga class and in walks his mother! I was like "that looks a lot like Matt's mother. Nah, can't be". Then the instructor greeted her by name and it WAS her. I don't think she recognized me because it's been a long time and I was still wearing a cap. I couldn't believe it.
Anyway, it's all my fault as far as our relationship ending. It's a very long story, but totally my fault. And yes, Karma bit my ass with the next boyfriend who I was engaged to when we broke up.
I had two different, incredibly romantic, princess love stories with both of them. And both of them are over with for reasons. But I dream about them. I'm glad I didn't marry my last boyfriend because he turned out to be a cheating scumbag, but Matt, he was my prince. I have never seen a man look at me the way he did. And I will never forget it. I can't. After 12 yrs I still pine for him. I kick myself in the ass all the time.
Okay, so here I am now dating someone I knew back in my early 20's. We hung in the same crowd. We didn't know each other that well back then, but ran into each other because we live in the same town. He was always a good guy. And strangely, the only guy in our group that didn't hit on me back them. We've been dating 3yrs now. He is not romantic, passionate, or comes close to making me feel as special as Matt did. I had to initiate sex because he just has no mojo and he's always tired. Sex is rare and boring. And yes, I understand with the reconstruction TE thing I'm going through that sex is not completely top of the list these days, for either of us. He is a good man though. I trust him, he is honest, and he cares about me. But there are no sparks! I feel terrible writing this...like I'm cheating. But it feels good to get it out! So i'm just going to spill my guts here because I know this is a good place to do it. He jokes that he has no romance. Well it isn't funny to me.
I'm thankful that he is so supportive of me. He has been there from day 1 through this cancer and helps me financially when he can, and so on. He has never made me feel bad or given me the impression that he cares about my body. He really DOES want me to be healthy and does not care about the fake breasts. Then again, he never cared before, mainly because he's not affectionate. Bad kisser too.
I may sound mean, but it feels good to get this off my chest. I do respect, love, and care for him. But my needs are just not met in the romance department. Never were, so cancer isn't making it worse, at least.
I just want to feel that way again. I understand no one is perfect, but somethings gotta give....
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I must add this: My boyfriend is not financially supporting me or giving me lots of cash. I just realized that what I wrote may have come off wrong. He is not rich, neither am I. We are struggling, individually with finances.
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Thanks for the welcome girls. 3:22 here in Britain, like many of us I am awake at silly o clock, thinking of my long list of problems. kids, rent, pain in my shoulder and weight, pain in the arse (ex)
I too seem to have a sugar thing going on, I have tried really hard and stayed off it for a week and relapsed tonight with chocolate and a glass of wine.
Enerva, I hope your throat is less sore.
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Bosum, I know what you mean about writing letters never to be sent. I did that a couple of years ago. Honestly, I think its just a loud clock ticking in my head because I'm 38 and never married. I came close and thank goodness it fell apart. I couldn't imagine going through breast cancer with that asswipe. I am dating a good man, like you said. But it pisses me off that he never takes me out, never tells me i'm beautiful, never is passionate and sex is boring. Oh well, we'll see what happens when some of the stress has lifted. Thanks!
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Eh, this computer.....continue..
He's the strong silent type and I gotta lighten up. I apologize but for some reason
my emotions are out of whack, like pms, even though I never got that way before.
Period finally coming back? Maybe. Normal emotions because the exchange is coming? Probably.
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Welcome Bud-Tamoxifen made me someone other than myself. Just throwing it out there. I have never been married. I am not really broken up about that fact as I see so many unhappy couples or bitter divorces. Called me jaded......
At the end of the day we do what fits for us. sometimes it is temporary and sometimes longer.
I do not and will not let the expectations of what society deems "the normal progression" of a relationship dictate what is right for me.
Marriage to me is not the goal. Being happy and content is. I found that once. I seek it again. I may never find it.....but if I am lucky or persistent I may find that amazing feeling with someone. A man to meet me half way. Someone who I can sit in a room with and not say a word. Someone who folding laundry with is fun. A relationship that is like breathing.
I believe we have all written letters, texts and emails that never get delivered. They are cathartic. Give us room to explore our feelings and continue the process of letting go. We mourn those relationships that were better than the rest. When we are alone or otherwise not involved with someone, we mourn them more
With that said........My college friend and I have agreed to reconnect this coming Sunday.
I have many reservations and yet I am a little excited too. I am not the same gal from several years ago, yet he may not be the same man.
Time will tell. But I cannot move this forward if we do not spend time together.
OK..enough intensity for me.
BB.......I am so excited for you and proud of you fro finding the energy to get back into the swing of things. You GO girl.
E, how are you feeling??????? Hugs...
Jazzy-love the pic. You are so encouraging and so often have the right words for many of us here.
Winter, I love red wine and so like a cold frosty mug of beer on a hot summer day. Those have been a pleasure and yet, I know sometimes I should cut back, but there are so few pleasures in this life.
That said.....
Have an awesome day ladies and here's to US
Piper
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