Single life after a mastectomy
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ok so I got this email from ps, and see what I reply
---- Dr. wrote ----Thx. I can change to non textured. I will look into it. The radiated side may take less volume than you would like, we have to be prepared to have implants that fit in case things get too tight.
Me:
Ok thank you,
I presently have 630cc implants and there is so much rippling. Even in the radiated side there is space. It makes sense to be prepared but I feel that going smaller will give me the same results I have or worse.
I really appreciate it.
Have a great weekend and see you on the 27th
Sent from my Sony Xperia™ smartphone
Ok so again I am making my point clear lol
Guys things it. I am so stressed how can he say things will getvthe tide when I have so much rippling Bull S S S
Gdi I tell you ladies things crazy. But at least he will change to non textured and that gives me peace of mind.
Let's hope for the best results now. What ever he ends up using
I feel better I asked. It's my body my results 0 -
oh life, I missed your post. I am sorry, I hope you get it deal with. I am always afraid of that. I can imagine how you must feel. That's just what you need now. Wth? Let me find something to cheer u up.
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life last night I slept well cuz i took a pill. Tonight I am starting to the ceiling again. Hope you get some sleep.
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2:04 am and here I am lol
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What would we do without this little spot to cheer each other up? :-) I hope Milky and BB are doing well and that Jazzy is getting some rest.
Piper - I have to agree with that piece of advice on exes.
Enerva - I hope you're getting some much-needed sleep. Of course, I'm awake...
Don't feel bad for me at all over the identity theft. As a matter of fact, it looks like the thieves opened bank accounts in my name. So, I've been thinking... If those accounts are under my name, address, and SSN... isn't that my money now?
lolI'm kidding. My youngest son was the one who came up with that plan. Hmm... I like the way he thinks... Let's hack the hackers. Yeah...
Off to sleep now.
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E - I missed your post above. Thanks for letting us know the correct way to weigh ourselves. I hope you're sleeping peacefully now. Positive thoughts only... Nighty-night! :-)
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lol life I was able to sleep around 3 again, and it's 8 am already making breakfast lol I am hungry this morning. I was so tempted to get up at 2 am have breakfast ha ha ha
Hope Jazz is feeling better
Milky and bb too
Piper have a great day
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Good morning ladies- doing okay this way. I woke up last night with some pain and got up to take some Tylenol. Doing okay this morning although it is a bit achy up top but nothing bad. Thanks for continuing to think about me. I shall live!
Enerva- I think telling your sister and family the doctors are doing tests to be sure nothing greater is going on is the best approach. I know you are very worried about your sis. When is the test and when will they know the results?
Life- I am very sorry about the identity theft worries. I will PM you and share some things that may help you during this time.
To everyone else here, wishing you a good day and hoping BB is back with us soon too.
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This is what my head and bandage look like. Looks like someone was in my brain looking around to see what was there? My derm kept saying "no worries, brains in tact, nothing fell out." Little humor goes a long way when someone is digging around in your scalp.
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jazz that look big, I bet is just the bandage, I also think they didn't shave much hair so it should be good soon.
I don't know when the ct scan will be done
hoping soon. I am not sure what to think anymore.
Hope you feel better soon
fast recovery wishes hoping your way. 
Last night I got a msg from my breast implant expert lol she dare me to tell the Ps the day of my surgery " do not wake me up unless I got implants in the 700cc range " so I will do that too ha ha ha I can seebhis face when I say that.
I am nervous about his choice of volume, I will try to speak up to the last minute before they neck me out lol
I am watching a movie with Robert Redford called All lost. It breaks my heart to see him that old
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Enerva- you are doing a good job to advocate for yourself and your needs. Exactly what I did around this spot on my scalp. Your PS knows you are all over this and my feeling is, he will do the right job for you. I know it is important for this to be right.
You relax and get rested for this surgery. The more rested you are going in, the better it will be on the other side. We will be right here with you.
I love Robert Redford. When I was younger, I dated a guy who looked just like him! I was way too young for him though, I was 18 and he was 33. Anyways, given the age difference, it did not work out but we had some fun for a summer.
My favorite movie of his was the Horse Whisperer. It was on HBO again recently. He is in NM a lot too, tied to the film out west (Sundance Film Festival, etc).
I am doing some laundry this morning and just getting a few things in place for the wood for the hardwood floor to arrive this afternoon. They have to be stored and to adjust to the house climate. He said 48 hours before but having more time is better so I said okay! He is coming this afternoon and all I really need to do is make sure he has a clear path to the dining room to put the stuff.
Oh and I got invited to a wedding next month and looking forward to it. At one of the best hotels in town (been to other weddings there) with a professional colleague of mine. Wedding is 9/27 and was surprised to be invited (I know they were trying to keep it small and to immediate family), but that must have changed. I really like this gal and we are friends and colleagues and was going to give her a card and nice bottle of wine anyways. Now I am going to give her $$$ toward the honeymoon. I used to hate to go to weddings alone, but there are always other single folks and always am open to seeing who I might meet. We know meeting people through common connections is the best!
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hi
I am fine girlz i was so busy had exams .travel .packing .kids as you know they are teen agers came with me my husband didnt want them to come with me so we packed secretly and when he was sleeping and kept our bags in car oh my God .my daughter told his father e are going hahaha.life is very unpridictable and everystep is strange so you guys can imagine how busy and tense i was and he told my son he s gonna file in few week Sick person i dont know why he is dragging kids into this matter.
I am in reddeer its a small town in between edmonton and calgary we will travel to rockymountain in few days
I was reading your msgs its ray of light always makes me smile to see my name here.thanks ladies .
I will post you pictures soon
Love you all
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Omg Jazz are you sure you are not my twin maybe we were separated at birth? Ha ha ha I dated a French man when I was 18 he was 32 lol I loved that man so much that I wrote letters to him daily lol then I came to Canada and he then stop writing then 6 months later after losing contact I receive and invitation to his wedding. It was my first heart broken experience. I then didn't date for 5 years straight till I turn 25 lol Holly that is so funny cuz Robert Redford always reminded me of him lol he is still married and has beautiful kids 3
. I always think that it's cuz of that relationship that i never married or found anyone I was always hoping to find him again lol That movie horse whisper is also my favourite ha ha ha
Too funny. I am sure you will have so much fun at the wedding.
milky wow your ex.... What a pain in the neck
Wonder when he will leave you alone.
Bb, we miss you
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Milky- good to hear you are out of the house and with the kids. The jerky husband sounds unpredictable. I am sorry he is involving your kids. All my female friends who have gotten divorced always said men use kids to try to get back at a spouse. Big loosers they will end up being are as then everyone will end up hating them. Your children will see their father for the man he is, they are smart and can figure this stuff out.
Safe travels and look forward to your pics!
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For my girlfriends here with those crappy ex's out there.
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ha ha ha love the cat Jazz, that man better be careful cuz milky will take care of him.
milky try to enjoy your trip, ignore your ex so your trip goes as planned
So the Ps secretary called me to tell me the time of my surgery changed to 8am and then she gave me the new codes forbimplants and guess what? He gave her the code for my existing implant wth?
She said
20_700
NSRX695
Which are good
Then she said
NSRX610
NSSF630
This last one is what I got and I hate it gdi. I told her to talk to him and tell him that is what I currently have and maybe he means
NSRX630? I am not comfortable now I am more stressed
she said oh i will have to talk to him again. F f f f fLadies I can't take incompetent people when it comes to me having something that will affect my results
I am determined to tell him the day ofbthe surgery that only the two styles mentioned above are what I expect I am not willing to get screw again
Why is he ordering the same f. king implant?
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Enerva- If you cannot get this dude to do things right, please consider postponing this and finding someone more competent. I know you had the awful PS that Milky had the bad experience with before this, right? I just hate for you to go through this again and have it not right again.
I am sorry things are so stressful. Does the hospital where you are having this done have any sort of patient advocacy resources? Some do and they may be able to help.
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its so hard here, this is my only chance to get it right cuz i saw other ps and they won't do it. The only reason this guy agreed to do this revision is cuz my onco sent him an email, asking him to fix me. I ll just make it clear to him at the time of the surgery. I need to survive the stress these coming days. Now I have to be at the hospital at 6am which means $45 taxi. Oh well better early than late. I just think it's very stupid to order the same crap I have, makes no sense. It must be an error on his part.
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Enerva- oh, can your MO help with ensuring you get the right thing? Sounds like he is your advocate.
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ok here is the final emails,
---- Dr.h wrote ----NSRX 630 does not exist. NSRX 695 is the X-version of NSSF 630 (or NSRF630
Me:
Ok then I rather you order the NSRX695, I just didn't know why Mary said you ordered NSSF630. It must be a confusion. It's ok with the 3 you already mentioned.
I am sure the 20700 will fit and you will still have room.
thanks
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I think his secretary is the one confused not me. But I am been extra clear so I will face him on the 27 I will demand the 20700 cuz that is the one I feel will give me the results I want.
And at least I told him nrhis secretary is the one saying she ordered the old style. Honestly it's ridiculous this back and forth. But I need to speak up cuz of what happened to me in December.
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Jazzy - Your bandage reminds me of the one my mother had following a similar head surgery. There probably isn't very much hair shaved at that spot. I'm guessing it's a relief to know that everything was caught and has been addressed quickly by your doctor.
For what it's worth, I've gone to most weddings alone, even when I was married. (One of us had to stay home with the kids.) Once I even went alone when I was very pregnant (lol). On the one hand, it's nice to have a date. OTOH, it's nice to go alone, to be able to connect with friends and family freely. I'm sure you'll have a nice time at the wedding. :-)
Enerva - I might've lost track... Is your surgery this morning? I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best outcome.
Milky - I love how you're just taking the kids and going on an adventure. :-) Looking forward to your photos.
Everyone - I had a nice day and took a photo of the ocean to share here. But I haven't been able to upload the picture yet. As soon as I work it out, though, I hope to post pictures, too.
I'm sure you're all sleeping soundly. Goodnight, and best wishes for a good day tomorrow for all of you.
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Hi ladies- hope everyone is doing well today so far. It's a sunny day here, and I plan to go out later today for an apt and maybe some time at the museum after (open tonight and free). I will see how I feel after my apt.
I took my compression bandage off last night and everything seems like it is healing well so far. It also allowed me to take a shower and wash my hair, which felt oh so good. I now have a gauze on top of my head with a headband type thing over it, and that will be what I wear out and about, if not some sort of other hat or cap. I woke up a bit headachy this morning, but par for the course with an incision in my scalp. Tylenol helps to manage those issues.
I have not heard anything in a week on the new contract opportunity in Santa Fe yet and checked in with my partnering firm this morning to see if there was any word. Sounds like no feedback on my resume, but they will check in with them. Sometimes in my world, there is a lot of hurry up and then wait. When the right thing comes, it will happen quickly. In reality, I still need more time anyways and revised my new available date to mid Sept. I need to be past the flooring, putting the house together and also want to have my stitches out and clearance from the derm all is okay from the surgery. I am embracing having this time off to take care of me.
Will check in later and peace to all my sisters here.
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Been MIA since early July. Can't possibly read all the posts... Here's my update. My summer fling 43 year old called it quits last week. SAD.... but he was not the one. So moving on. Been dating and getting out, but haven't found anyone else I'd like to be intimate with. It will happen.
How is everyone?
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Bdavis- good to hear from you! Sorry your summer thing called it quits, but hope you had some fun along the way.
There are a few of us out here regularly- Enerva, Sandpiper, LifeisWonderful, BB (although she has been off line a few weeks). Others pop in here too from time to time.
I am doing okay, busy with home renovations and had minor surgery this week, but all is well. No dating yet, but I do think about it. I am trying to be open to being in different situations with new people though.
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I've basically resigned myself to being alone. I am so used to it at this point, that if I did meet a guy I wouldn't know what to do...lol.. and a relationship would ruin my schedule. Plus that whole undressing in front of someone has been taken to a whole other level with my reconstructed breasts.
. I'm having a hysterectomy next month. I think being alone benefited me. I didn't have to worry about someone else's needs. I fully concentrated on myself without feeling as if I was being selfish. 0 -
Softness- welcome to our thread. Well, we can all relate to what you say about dating, the our new bodies, etc.
I am sorry to hear about the hysterectomy. I had one the month before my breast surgery (long complicated story). There is a great web site for everything around hysterectomies called Hystersisters.com that I found years ago. I had an open abdominal surgery, which I hope is not the direction you have to go, but if so, PM me and I can share some things to be ready for.
I agree with you about being able to focus on yourself without needing to make others feel okay about what is happening (like a boyfriend, spouse, etc.) Everyone told me when I went through my medical crisis that I had "no one to help me." Not true, I had all the right help at the right time from friends and family near and far. I hope you will also during your upcoming surgery.
We hope you like it here and will join in the conversations.
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hi everybody
I gone through 4 surgeries last i badly needed a break .
Enerva make informed dicision ask question to them bcoz its not the big deal for them but its really imp for you its your right to feel comfortable with your body .you guys can understand how it feel when u dont want to look at the mirror .cancer chemo and reconstruction these are not the only words so many emotional ups n downs and damages are behind it .so ask them questions about the result.
Life is wonder and jazzy girl i dont know when i go back wot kind of shit is ready for me i dont want to think about that i dont know wot tomorow brings .
Its getting cold here
Bye
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sadness welcome. Hope you stay here we love new people to join in.
milky enjoy your trip, do not worry about what ll happen cuz it will spoil your trip.
Jazz so I got a phone call this morning and I picked up cuz i had not idea won't was. Turned out its an old friend from school lol she is one of those who can talk hours and hours Holly crap ha ha ha but we haven't spoken for like 8 years so it was nice and she offered to drop me off at the hospital next week lol so now I have a ride there lol I told her no need I was taking a taxi 🚕 cuz now it's very early and she insisted so I am letting her do it. She is on holidays so she says it's not problem at all. I am glad cuz the taxi ride at 5 am is a be a ch lol to much construction going on and traffic can cost me a lot that Day.
My niece receive the parcel and here is A pic of her with the Top I made for her
she loves it . 
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ladies guess what I just realized?
August 27 2012. Was the day of my bc dx. How Wierd is that? I am having a revision surgery on the day of my 2 years mark anniversary
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Enerva- love that you heard from an old friend show up and that you picked up where you left off. I LOVE friends like that and there are people in life you can just do that with sometimes. I am so glad she is going to take you in on surgery day. Just like I said, put it out there and ask God, the universe or whomever your higher power is to bring you everything you need. I was amazed who showed up, how often, and in all the ways I needed when I needed it. There is a lot to be said for asking for help and having a bit of faith it will come. Sometimes we just have to ask, which is hard for us independent girls.
I am so glad you have everything coming together for the day of. I know there are still concerns about the getting the right implants. Like Milky says, you keep asking until you are sure they know what they are doing.
Milky- enjoy your travels, the cool air, and don't worry about when you get home. Problems will always be there for us. Right now, you are getting a much needed happiness break.
You mentioned you have had four surgeries. Do you have to have any more?
I got out for an apt today and a couple errands. My outing since the little procedure on Tues. I am doing some filing and purging now that is long over due starting today. Feels good. Going to take a little walk tonight. I decided going to yoga and hanging upside down in forward bends and downward dog won't be good for my head. So no gym tonight (maybe tomorrow for some weights though).
Wishing everyone a good evening.
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