Single life after a mastectomy
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Sent a message to BB that everyone here says hello.
Anyhow.......I am off to do more housework. UGH! I cannot wait til the day I can sell and downsize.
Off and running...
Happy sunny Sunday to all
xoxo
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Piper- when is the garage/yard/tag sale? Funny, I grew up back east and they used call them tag sales there. I moved out here and everyone calls them yard or garage sales. If I say tag sale, I get a funny look. Is this another step in the process to be ready to lighten your load before you do sell and move? Is your house on the market or about to be? Will you buy again or rent? Enough questions?
Oh and Piper, I caught the last few minutes of the Sunday Morning show and saw them showing the rock formations up in ABQ. I am sorry I missed that show. Can you see why I love living here?
Also, do we have any friends here up in the Northern CA area affected by the quake?
Working on getting things cleared out to be ready for tomorrow. I am like you Piper, only have so much energy to do things. I work for awhile and then take breaks!
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Taking a break from the chaos of my house. I like this one too!
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hi ladies I had a great time but got burn under the sun, I totally forgot to wear sun screen and now I am like a freaking lobster lol oh well no much I can do. Here a few bikes pictures and cars I took
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Enerva- cool cars and bikes. Sorry about the sunburn. I hope you have some aloe vera or other good lotion around to help that tender skin.
Tired from moving stuff around again to be ready for the flooring. Got a lot done and just a bit to do in the bedroom for the furniture move in the am. I think I am done for today, going to relax, go to bed early and get up to finish in the morning before they arrive at 8 or so.
Will pop in when I can this week, most likely in the evenings when I am at the hotel.
Wishing everyone a good week and keeping you in my meditations for your surgery this week Enerva.
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E-so glad you got out to the show. Cool pics!
BB sent a msg. saying she ordered a computer, but has yet to receive it. Another snafu for her.
She asked about your Sis E. (Any word on how she is going to proceed with Tx?)
Anyhow, I cannot believe this is your week for exchange! YEA!
Yes Jazz, I can see why you like it where you live, They did a nice job showcasing the area. I liked the guy who does the cave carvings. Amazing! Glad your swelling is improving and you are getting way more done than I
My day was not as productive as I had wished. In fact, I broke down at one point-overwhelmed with everything I have to do, want to do and how quickly the time gets away from me. I would like to put my house on the market next year. I just have so many things yet to do to get it ready and not enough time or money to get it all done. I am so over this house and being a homeowner. I need to find a condo or smaller place that I can keep up. I just can't do it in this place anymore.
I got so frustrated and tired, I fell asleep for several hours. As if my sleeping in isn't good enough ...I took a darned nap. I was hoping to treat myself to a little R&R tomorrow. Not sure I can relax with so much hanging over me.
Eh, We'll see what tomorrow brings.
Hope everyone has a relaxing evening
xoxo
Piper
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Piper- I totally understand getting overwhelmed with the house. I had to just do the basics for a long time as I went through all my medical stuff and then recovery. Then I had to work too, and was just too tired to do anything. I am sure you deal with that too. So I started making lists and just plug away at things.
When you get overwhelmed, it is time to stop and just do something another day. I wish I had better energy but I just don't anymore. When I get tired, I just put things aside and take it easy.
I hope we hear from BB this week. Glad she is getting a new computer, I am sure she misses being on line.
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well I put some alovera in my face and shoulders but it looks bad lol the Dr.ll see that on Wed lol oh well I am glad the day is approaching. My relatives arrived home from France today so I am hopping tmw we will have better luck with sis cuz tmw she see another onco. She is not willing to do more chemo so she wants rad and want another onco to say what she thinks. I worry cuz she is not wanting to do the MRI now, she is been religious fanatic and I am not able to reach her, so my sister who got home today will try to influence her. She will go tmw then ll call me with a full report. Its not easy cuz i am non religious and my sister is saying her god will take care of her c. Now so I am worry.
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Enerva- I hope your skin feels better and that you feel ready to go into surgery on Wed.
Also sounds like your sister is hoping for a miracle, or at least a different opinion. It sounds like she is just going to go down her own path with this.
Will pop in later today, have a good one everyone!
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good morning, well today I hope better news from home, hopefully my other sister manage to influence her. Yes she want to believe everything is ok but I need the scans I am more realistic I need prove. She is obsessed with the pain in her arm. She does not believe me I had it for several months. Yet she won't get the scans I am frustrated. I fear, I fear that is all I am left to do for been far and out their life. It's as if I don't really matter. I was hoping once my niece came back she could help but last night I was told that her daughter has no clue of the latest medical results. So she is keeping her daughter in the dark. Anyway my skin is really sore lol well I had fun and thats all I care. If my Dr ask I ll just be honest I ll say I forgot to put on the sunblock lol
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Enerva- where are you sunburned? Around your chest at all? Hopefully by wed it will be settled down.
Lotta drilling and banging going on around here. I just love a man with a good set of power tools though (LOL!)
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ha ha ha jazz that is cute. Yes up my upper pole and my shoulders and face lol burn.
Hey is it possible for me to do my exercise today? I heard about not exercise the day before surgery but can I exercise today?
Pls tell me I am so wanting to go do my routine of weight then my walk lol
I am eating my nails here waiting to hear from sis she is at an appointment with a new onco
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Enerva- I am not sure but I don't see why you cannot exercise. They usually like to to stop taking any blood thinners a day or two before surgery. Things like aspirin, Vitamin E, and other things that can cause excess bleeding. I have never heard to not exercise before surgery, but if you are concerned, call the doctors office and ask to talk to one of the nurses. I would think getting some walks in while you can would be a good thing physically and mentally.
Let us know what you hear about your sisters next doc apt. Your sister arm pain could be lymphadema too?
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yes, I agree I think it's lymphadema I tell her to ask her onco to give her a referral to a specialist but apparently the onco she saw last just said he needs all scans in order to know if there more issues so she is been ask to do the MRI and she doesn't want to and I don't understand why. I think she is afraid 😨 which I understand but avoiding the scan won't make things better.now she is seen another one who I am sure will ask for the same . Ok I will go Exercise bow lol aparently ifbthey day before surgery they don't want you To exercise do to our body producing something .I will look it up and ll post here .
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found this
You want to be well rested, hydrated and comfortable. Showing up tired, dehydrated and sore, will not help the experience. Tiredness decreases your body's endorphins (pain killers), dehydration leads to more post-operative nausea and in the worse case low blood pressure problems, and preoperative muscle pain means more post operative muscle pain.
Well I will rest tomorrow, now I need to do my own thing
Off I go
Ll post later
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Enerva- I think you have a good plan. You definitely don't want to be tired going in to surgery. Are you sleeping okay?
I think I am getting a cold. Ugh.
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just finish 100 squats lol not really sleeping well but tmw I will take sleeping pills so I get the 7 or 8 hours before my surgery lol I will do some other legs exercises then abdominal then off to my lake pole walk I want to rollerblade but I won't, I want to avoid falling and damaging something before surgery. I was invited to go riding tmw night but I won't go. I can't afford to be in dangerous situation before my surgery ha ha ha I think walking with my poles ll give me enough satisfaction
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moraine lake in banff red deer
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i could count 10 mountain top that place must be part of heaven.
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wow milky make sure you take maps and brochures to bring me some I will love to go there next time I get a chance.
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Milky- what beautiful photos. I have heard Banff is gorgeous and this proves it! You are having an excellent road trip!
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painted by almighty
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Beginning of new floor.
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Nice, I just came home I am so hungry already way past 2pm now making food lol I went for my walk then I went to western unión to send $ to a friend in Denver. Her sister from cancun will visit her on Friday so i needed to send some money so when one of my sister arrive to cancun she will give her the $. I think my sister will stay there 3 months and if things go well she may stay in cancun. I am happy she is finally going there. My other sisters will deal with my sister who is having the bc. I am glad there are 5 of us there still somehow it turned out ok to have so many brother and sisters lol
I have been convincing them to move to Mexico and now one of them is going to try
I will shower now then eat a late lunch then relax. Tmw will be cleaning, laundry and all kind of last minute stuff before the surgery.
Love the floor it looks beautiful it will make a big difference once it's all done. Good for you jazz.
Milky wow breath taking views
Hope bb cones back soon too
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At the hotel and relaxing with a nice glass of cabernet. I am staying up the road from my house since I cannot sleep there with all the furniture out of the house rooms getting the flooring and other rooms packed with storage. I have friends who would let me spend the night, but many have animals (I am very allergic) and it feels intrusive into their routines anyways. The whole reno process is unsettling and exhausting and since I have a consulting biz, I can write this off since my home/home office space is unavailable right now. I found a reasonable Hilton Garden Inn and enjoyed some nice room service that included the wine. I feel like I am taking good care of myself through all this. You gals understand doing anything on our own requires much effort.
Enerva- I am glad you got out to walk and do some exercise. Tomorrow you can just take it easy and try to rest. Did you get all your food so you will have things when you feel like eating? I know I never have much appetite after surgery. I am still surprisingly not that hungry since my little procedure last week, but eating more now. My sister says all the anesthesia (even local) does that. Be sure to eat your protein as you need that for healing. I wish I were closer to bring you something to eat or help you in some other way. It will be good to be on the other side of this soon and moving forward with your life.
Rest well ladies. I am happy in my little hotel cocoon. They are super accommodating here! I will give them a good review on Trip Advisor.
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Milky - Those photos are amazing. Thank you for sharing them with us. I'm glad you're enjoying your trip.
Enerva - I had a friend with a very strong sense of faith and belief in prayer. And she took a very active role in her fight against cancer (a different type). She tried everything, beginning with conventional treatment and later, when the doctors told her there was no hope, every alternative treatment she could find. So, religion isn't supposed to hold someone back from treatment.
It sounds more like your sister is very distraught, and maybe it all is just too much for her to handle emotionally. I hope she comes around soon and listens to the advice you and other family members are giving her. Good luck to you with the surgery this week. I will be away from the forum off and on this week, but I'll be thinking of you and checking in whenever I can.
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Thanks life, I agree with you. I actually think my sister is scare and wants to avoid getting bad news yet its so difficult for the rest of us to just wait for her god to act. I am so sad but I can only try. I have been thinking that what ever has to happen will happen and I can't keep pushing for others when I am not even back in my feet yet. As per my other sister she needs to go to cancun so she may have a chance to scape Venezuela s bs and eventually maybe have a life else where. This is a sister who always say she was supposed to go with me when I came to Canada but she was in love and decided to not take the adventure with me. Things didn't work out for her so called perfect man and they never got married they have a son and after that she married another man had another son and got divorced. So now she stills wants to go away. I encourage her to do it so I am trying as much as I can. I paid for her flight to cancun and I gave her some dollars for her stay, hopefully she will manage to figure out what she can do there for work. I have good friends there who will help her and if things go well she will stay there and then her boys will go meet her there. In the mine time the boys are staying with my other sisters.
I am not able to help my other sister regarding her decision with the bc, only she can advocate for herself. I gave her all I can, lots of material and research and my own 2 cents on the bc but yet she is not acting wise. Aparently the onco who saw her today is willing to refer her to rad. Now we face a problem cuz rad is not been offer in our city so she must seek the capital city. Still is good news but I am not sure she will follow through with it. It seams she makes excuses and time keep going and nothing is done. For example the ct scans and bone scan she is not willing to do. So I am not sure what is she really going to do or not do. I am hoping my sister the one that arrived from France will be able to persuade her.
Anyway here it's 11:51 pm I won't take a pill cuz i ll take one tmw. Lol
Jazz it's nice you get to rest in a nice hotel. And have a nice drink
Tmw I will clean some more, and cook soup and pasta with chicken and prepare some snack food. I should be ok the next couple of days till I am able to get out my place lol all good did my exercise and pole walk today so tmw I will just get ready for wed.
Good night
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Life- wish you well with all you are doing and will see you back here when you are able!
Enerva- I think you have done what you can for your sister in VZ and today you will be preparing for your surgery tomorrow. I hope you are feeling well, your sunburn is better, and that have everything you need to be comfortable when you come home to recuperate. I will be sending lots of positive energy and love your way today through tomorrow as you prepare and come through the surgery. Successful surgery with good outcomes!
I relaxed at the hotel and watched the Emmy's last night. I was disappointed to see True Detective and also The Network on HBO, whom were up for awards got nada. It was all about Breaking Bad, the show about the teacher turned meth dealer and set in my city here in NM (filmed here too). Breaking Bad ended and got so many awards the past few years and ended its run earlier this year. It seems like some of the newer shows should have received more awards. You could visibly see the disappointment in some of the faces of some. Well, I still love my HBO shows and their writing the best. I never got into Breaking Bad.
Waking up tired but I was up and down from about 3 a.m. on. I am heading out here in a few minutes to the house and it may rain heavily today so I think I will have to go move my other car out of the garage so they can move the saw in there to work today.
Wishing everyone a good day and will check in again tonight!
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Beautiful pics Milky. Nothing like a little time with Mother Nature to sooth the soul
Jazz-Sounds like you also took some pressure off your self and enjoyed a nice night in a comfy hotel. A quick respite from your reno. I should have done the same with my flooring reno. I felt like I was held hostage in my upstairs, although, I still had use of my bedroom and bathroom.
E-I am so excited for you to finally have your surgery tomorrow. For now, focus on your well-being and healing from your procedure. You cannot control your sister or anyone else for that matter. As frustrating and hurtful as it may feel, let go for now. Everyone is responsible for their own decisions. You've given it your all. I am guessing you always do. It shows how loyal and trusting you are with family and friends. But do not let them suck your energy. Save some for you. Be selfish.........
Life-will miss you. Hoping your in and out means you are up to something special.
The weather has been beautiful in my end of the world. Enjoying it immensely.
I got way more done yesterday and feel a little better.
I am looking forward to dinner tonight with my 2 favorite volunteers and will meet Male BFF after for a quick drink afterward.
I guess he has some family drama going on and I called at the right time.
I have to phone my cousin too. His longtime companion/GF just passed from stomach cancer. They had been together for over 25 yrs.
I feel terrible. I wish I could have been there for them more and wasn't so consumed in my work and mundane life. They do live in Maine, but I could have tried to make the trip or at least call to check in on them.
Cancer sucks.
and apparently....so do I.
Bleh!
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