Single life after a mastectomy
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omg I am watching sex in the city and Samantha Colored the hair in her..... Ha ha ha cuz she found a grey hair down there ha ha ha she panic she said no body will f a grand mom s.... Ha ha ha Holly I just love that show. I can watch it over and over again. Lol
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i totally forgot that Samantha got bc in the show
Wow I guess I never watch her go through it.
Anyway good night all, I will watch this all night lol
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jazzy girl i had june 2013 prophylectic oophractomy nov DIEP reconstruction 2014 may plastic surgeon took out scissors and nipple reconstruction n nipple tatoo i hope i am done with surgeries.
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Milky-whew. I remember hearing about the scissors being left in your abdomen. I hope you can get some compensation for such a mistake. I trust doctors less and less as time goes on.
No more surgery for you for a long time. Better days are coming.
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Softness - Welcome! Hope you stay awhile. This is the right thread for single and/or divorced sisters to talk.
Bdavis - Sorry the last relationship is over, but I'm glad to hear you're staying positive. It's good to see you back here again.
Enerva - About the date of your surgery being your DX anniversary - maybe that's a good sign. That's so nice of your friend to offer you a ride, too. It's funny how things work out sometimes. BTW, that top is so cute, and your niece is beautiful. You're so good with the crocheting.
Jazzy - It sounds like this little break (while you wait to hear more about the job) is coming at the right time, just when you need it.
Milky - I had six surgeries. I'm with you - I grew so tired of surgeries. I hope you're going to be OK when you return home. I still think it's great that you took your kids on a trip. I always liked traveling, but I never was able to do it with my own kids.
We do take day trips sometimes. Here was my view of the Atlantic yesterday:
It was very relaxing.
Piper & BB - Hope you're both doing well.
Goodnight, all!
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Good morning,
Life thanks forbade picture, so nice! Is the water cold or good to go in it.? Wish I was close to the ocean.
I have a friend that went to Hawaii and the pictures are breath taking.
Watched TV till late, had a good laugh with Samantha s character. Lol
Hope every body have a wonderful Friday
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This is my niece in France, she is my sister s daughter the one that has bc
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Enerva- your neice in France looks like a younger version of a cousin I have that lives in France!
Life- what a lovely photo of the beach. I grew up back east as I think most of you know an so miss the beach there in the summer.
I woke up this morning to a lot of swelling around my nose and eyes and called the derm office right away and left a message. After two hours of no call back, I called back and talked to a real person and said I have something post surgery I am concerned about and need to talk to someone about it NOW!
Got a nurse on the line and apparently swelling in the face is common for a week or so post surgery. No one told me to expect that, so SURPRISE. I sort of thought of it might be some drainage/swelling from the surgery, and the nurse says it travels the path of least resistance and I may see this each morning after I get up until it has an opportunity to drain. I was glad to hear she did not think anything else was wrong. I sort of look like elephant woman today, but it should improve as the day goes on. Now I know not to make apts to see anyone important in the mornings in the next few weeks (well, next week is filled with contractors here so that takes care of that anyways!) Sunglasses will work to keep my eyes covered in the mornings I think.
Rainy day here and have a few apts this afternoon (someone coming to look at the roof), another apt for a massage later in the day. Working on purging, filing and the like that is long overdue. Good day to do this!
Hope every has a good friday and maybe at least one nice thing planned on the weekend.
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Whew. You ladies are busy here. My schedule of course was nothing short of exhausting and now I have a nice long weekend off to look forward to.
Oh Jazz.....crazy how swelling can creep up on you in the strangest ways. Hoping that resolves quickly and otherwise you are doing well?
E- the top is so cute on your niece. You have such talent with the threads. Keep on advocating for those implants girl.
Life -beautiful pic of the ocean. I need to find a way to take a short get-a-way to the beach. Haven't been in a few years and I refuse to count Erie. Even though it can be pretty there. Maybe I will drive there this weekend just for the day. Better than nothing.
Haven't heard from BB since the wkd. Suggested she go to the library to get online if she would like to touch base. She's probably busy with other things.
Milky hoping you are finding some peace and enjoyment on this trip
BD-good to get out there and transition back into single life.
Softie-I like to think that I am a thriving strong single woman instead of merely a woman who is alone. It doesn't mean I hate men or relationships. Quite the contrary. For me it means continually learning to have strength and self-love. Being single does not necessarily mean we are alone or lonely in this world. That said we can share if we are forming new relationships or getting over old ones. I have done both in my short time here. LOLOLOL
Oh Jazz......I push myself to walk these days. Last year it actually seemed easier on my feet to run at times. When I was on Tamoxifen, My feet/right hip and knee hurt so badly I could barely get out of bed in the morning.
I may get back into the jogging, for now I am working on my pace and distance. That said I have walked 12 out of the last 14 days (7 in a row). Averaging 3 miles per walk give or take. Today I did 4.5 in 63 min. I am trying. Hoping the weight will start sliding off (LOL) soon. I have been very good tracking all of my food and calories and getting better with balancing out my carbs/protein/fat ratios. I have walked after work all week. No easy task, but feel it helps me from sitting around contemplating a binge of some sort.
I miss how easy all of this used to be for me. Now it really is hard work.
Looking forward to this evening with my former coworkers. Hope the weather cooperates.
TGIF....
What does everyone have planned?
Or not planned or just one thing you will do for yourself this weekend????
Hope everyone has a nice weekend.
hugs and more hugs
xoxo
Piper
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Piper- glad you have a nice long weekend to enjoy and time to get together with friends this evening. I hope you have a great time! I love what you said about strong single womanhood oo. I also can relate to how hard everything is now. But we keep moving forward in the end.
Yes, I do feel okay otherwise. I had a bit of pain in the incision site yesterday, but nothing bad. A bit of bleeding still, but that might come if I roll around on my head the wrong way too (incision is right on top which does make sleeping easier, it would be worse if it were on the side or back and then rolled over-OUCH!) Everything up top seems to be healing well, and I am keeping things clean and vaseline on it per the dermatologist. I will say I have not had much appetite this week but am making sure to eat every day and get lots of protein in for healing.
No big plans this weekend, as I just getting things ready for the flooring job next week. But with the facial swelling, just as well as I am not going to want to be out in the world as much until this swelling improves some. Body needs more time to rest and heal.
However, I did make some fun plans for Labor Day weekend, well at least one day. I am going with one of my fav girlfriends here to some hot springs up in Jemez Springs, that I have yet to check out. We are going to go up to do a couple hour soak there, have lunch, do a bit of shopping and then head home. We both love this location here and have not been up there for a couple years.
As a matter of fact, it sort of touches upon what Enerva was talking about- the 2 year anniversary. Mine is 9/14 and my friend and her mom took me for a ride up there after I found out about the BC and a few other things going on. I told my friend "do you remember when we rode up there late that Sept with your mom to get out of town for a day and before I headed into my surgeries?" She remembers it well and my friend told me once that everyone was so scared for me, but never said a word about it. Here is to the friends that show up despite how scary things can get. Anyways, this time we will be going back for something more fun.
Here is the link to the hot springs. You gotta love the name, Giggling Springs!
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Jazz thanks for sharing, I want to go too lol Milky let's goooo lol
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i feel that after my surgery if I heal well in 3 weeks I will drive to a place not sure where but far from this s h ttt lol I am so due to go away from here to a unknown place maybe Alberta were there are horses lol crap won't be able to ride a horse for a long time lol maybe a cottage or I don't know but I want to go somewhere
is as if my place is sucking my life dry lol need out out out lol 0 -
oh Ya got a msg from my friend saying they may have a bon fire by the beach tonight. I told him to let me know if they do for sure I may stop by for a bit. Now not feeling up to it. I will let you guys know if I end up going.
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A bonfire sounds like a good idea, Enerva.
And, Jazzy, the hot springs photos look inviting. Hope you're comfortable while dealing with the swelling.
Piper - I hope you're enjoying the evening with your coworkers. Please tell BB we're still asking about her.
Enerva - How's your sister doing? Any news? What a cute photo of her daughter.
Tomorrow, if it doesn't rain, I might take another day trip.
May you all enjoy peace of mind this weekend. :-)
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Enerva- I think it is a good idea to have a trip or something to look forward to when you feel recovered. You will need that. Just be sure you give yourself enough time to heal before you try to do a road trip. I know surgery always makes me more tired than I could have ever imagined!
Went to massage and my therapist worked on my facial swelling/facial massage and it is better tonight. I also got my appetite back today (not hungry since before the surgery and not eating that much) and went and got a yummy Italian grinder for tonight, and a big salad for the next few days. Grinder was yummy.
I heard from my partnering firm about that job up north and they are requesting some more information around the position requirements and my experience to offer this role. There are some things in the requirement that suggest this may not be what I really want to do, but will respond and going to get more serious about talking to people about the kind of work I am looking for.
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sandpiper.jazzygirl.lifeis wonder and Enerva yes we all need a change after so much stress and drs visits we did a really good job to came out of cancer and reconstruction without partners support Do wot ever makes you happy i dont know wot tomorow brings so if you feel like doing silly stuff its fine
Have a nice weekend
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good morning!!!
Had a good time at the bon fire, got to meet my friend s cousins and exchanged # with one of them, he is married but he said he has a few single friends ha ha ha it was really nice here is a picture off the fire
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Enerva- glad you went out. The bonfire sounded like a nice thing to do, a fun end of the summer activity to enjoy. I am glad you felt good about going last night. Good to hear you are letting folks know you would like to meet some new men too! Meeting people through other people is still the best way to meet people (less surprises!)
Milky- my mother always used to say it is important to have things to look forward to. Including getting out of dodge when you need to!
Piper- how was your night out with your friends?
I woke up to less puffiness today and went out to meditate. Getting ready to go do a bit of yoga on the patio and then get to my day. Or will seize my Saturday, as Enerva says.
Hope everyone has a good weekend!
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E! I am soooooooooooo glad you made it out.......YEA YOU!!
Love the pics and Sat motto
Glad the swelling is decreasing Jazz. Seems like the massage may have helped with moving some of that in the right direction.
I had a nice time last night. The coworkers home is so nice. They have a pool, tiki bar and huge deck areas. Unfortunately, the closer to Fri we got the more people bailed on us. Some just didn't even show. I felt bad because the woman had put so much time and effort into making drinks and food. None-the-less it was relaxing and great to catch up. I actually slept in this morning and didn't get up til @ 9am. Very unlike me.
Good to get some sleep though. Did my 4 mile walk and sat on my deck for a bit listening to tunes and chilling.
I am very much a morning person and hate doing anything in the afternoon. I am going to have to push myself now, because I have put off cleaning and getting ready for a community garage sale coming up in early Sept. I have to clean out my garage and basement and get my sale items ready. As many of you know It can be a lot of work. The last time I did it, I also baked cookies and had cold bottled water for sale, I sold almost all of the cookies and water.
I made a few hundred dollars at that sale.
I have nothing planned for the rest of the weekend. I am bargaining with myself to get some things done so I can take a day trip to relax before going back to the grind. I do have dinner plans Tues evening with some volunteers from the hospital. The restaurant is right down the street from my Male BFF. Hopefully I can stop in and see him while I am down that part of town.
OKIES.......off to procrastinate....er......get busy....
What E said about seizing the Sat!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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jazzy girl you are right its good toalways look forward to something .but as a bc surviver i dont plan anything i take one day at a time .this is now my key to survive i dont feel disappointed when things are not i my favour
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well I have to be honest I got a bit disappointed 😞 last night cuz i felt I Was invited cuz of a Second reason .Lol I am glad I got To meet other members of my Friend s family and it Turn out they said they have plenty of single friends lol so that was nice. Now let me tell you what happened when I got there I was introduced to a Spanish girl (31years old) who was there with my friend s cousin .I then found out they just met the day before on face book . That was still ok with me but then toward the end of the night I was ask if I could drive that girl home? I agree it was not big deal. But what bothered me is the way the guy was all over the girl and the comments back and forth. I was stuck driving her home which made my going home way later than everybody else. So when I was driving home I then felt as if maybe I was invited to serve that purpose ? It's like oh well a man gets a girl full around all night and I get stuck driving her home? Wth? Lol well I am glad I went but at the same time I didn't like the situation with the fact that the girl was Spanish and I was been compared or judge by her behaviour . So here is what I decided .I am staying away from them for now . Then I went to the lake to ride my bicycle and what do I find in my car pasanger seat? That girl s driving license .Wth? Now I have to see her again lol. What do you guys think?
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I'd wait a few days . Let her figure out she lost it. She will contact someone at the bone fire. Make them work for it. Is that too much!
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Piper- glad you got out to your friends gathering, but what a drag that there were so many no shows. I feel we live in a world of poor social graces and that would be an such an example. I have had challenges around parties through the years and rarely have them anymore.
But that being said, I am going to do a little gathering here later this year to show my friends my new home renovations. It will only be the people whom are part of my inner circle. The ones who really are interested to see them anyways, and not just coming for some free booze! I am thinking to do it in Oct around the balloon fiesta or later in the year around the holidays. Got a lot to get done around here before I can think to do that though!
Oh and Piper, I have been putting things together to do a yard sale too during this reno. As I have turned the house upside down and ask myself "do I really want this anymore?" I have some things stockpiled already, but want to go through the stuff in my spare bedroom as put the house back together after the floors get done. And yes, a lot of work to put things together, price them, and deal with the people. Good idea to sell water and cookies, keeps the kids busy too!
Enerva- wow, that is really lousy that you think they invited you to be someones driver. So remind me who asked you to this? That guy that texts you all the time like he is interested but does not always follow through, or someone else? It would be one thing if you were leaving and someone said "hey can I get a lift home" but to wait around for someone to be ready to leave. That is just NOT COOL!
Maybe you need to tell that friend next time you get invited to anything that you may stop by but you are not interested in Driving Miss Daisy. I have gotten much clearer with people when they pull that kind of stuff on me with a simple "don't ask me to do that again." I am sorry that you came away feeling not good when that should have just been a fun outing. Don't bother with those people for awhile.
I am feeling much better today four days post procedure. Just a bit of swelling around the eyes, but nothing terrible. I got out to do some errands and stop at a big sale at one of the local dept stores. I bought a NEW DRESS for that wedding I am going to in Sept. I had a dress picked out I have worn to weddings in the past, but that dress is very summery, and as this is late Sept and an also an evening event, I thought I would look to see what I could find on sale that was a bit dressier. I bought the most beautiful Calvin Klein gold-ish wrap around that fits beautifully, and have the perfect shoes to wear with it. It was on sale from like $200-ish down to $68. I found a cute wedding card today too in my travels too and now feel ready for that event next month. They have been living together for awhile and have a new home they just renovated so they have some limited places they are registered. I am going to give them cash towards the honeymoon.
Milky- you are right, no too far planning into the future. I am only thinking out as far as the end of 2014 right now. I tend to live a few weeks at a time and now am focused on the next 10 days.
How is everyone else out there doing today?
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Sailingwind welcome, and thanks but I am an idiot lol I text the girl and agreed to meet her tmw to return her license. Oh well I just felt bad to have someone license. I felt like if it was me what could I like the other person to do? I wish I read your suggestion before.
Jazz yes you are right it was my friend who asked me and the way it happened kind of obvious I was been used. So I will follow your advise I won't be so nice the next time around in fact I will stay away from those people for a wile
Hope the couple I met that were nice will keep in touch though, so maybe the night had a good outcome after all.
On the other hand, it gave me the satisfaction of been outdoors at a bon fire byvthe lake so I guess it's all ok
I should not have regrets lol it is what it is and it's easy for men to be bullies when they have money. I feel sorry for them cuz one day reality will heat them. Lol even though I felt used I did the right thing to getvthe young girl home safe, after she was been full all night. At least I was not ha ha ha
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Enerva- I missed the part about the drivers license. You were a good sport to get it back to her. Now let that guy twist in the wind and if he contacts you in the future. He is not being nice to you. And don't worry about him, karma has a way of finding it's way back to people.
On a brighter note, that other couple would be good friends down the road! They seemed sincere!
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Yes, jazz I totally agree lol
Hope you all have a great night, I am crocheting away since I am not very sleepy 😴 came up with a new disign check it out . Not finish yet but it will look great.
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Milky - I agree... One day at a time seems to be what works best.
Jazzy - Glad to hear the swelling has subsided somewhat.
Piper - I've always been a night person. (I'm sure that's not a surprise.)
I've been busy packing things to sell, too, but I don't expect to make very much money. I do it because I don't want to see anything go to waste.
SailingWind - Welcome!
Enerva - I can understand being angry about being asked to drive someone you don't know home from the get-together. Why didn't the guy drive her home (especially considering he was all over her)?
P.S. (I hope BB is doing well.)
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Enerva- you are so talented. Who is this new one for?
Hope everyone had a good day and sleeps well!
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lol life aparently the guy had some issue and the police took his licence away, not sure what happened but I don't even want to know.
Jazz I am making the tops for selling them in cancun. One of my sisters will go for 3 months to cancun. I am planning on sending a dozen of tops but only made 5 so far and with the surgery not sure I ll be able to cuz my arms usually get sore so I ll see.
Good night 🌃 I ll watch some TV I have been staring at ceiling now for an hour
I ll go to a motorcycle show tmw then to the farmers market to grab some vegetables and fruits to have foe The week ahead
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Good morning everyone. I hope you have a lovely sunday!
Enerva- oh yes, I forgot you mentioned you were making them to be sold in Cancun. I bet they will just go like that! I can see gals wearing those with cute little shorts or even a long flowing skirt.
I hope you have a good outing to the motorcycle show and farmers market. I know those are things you enjoy.
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