Single life after a mastectomy
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Enerva - LOL. That was a clever way to find out more from him. I should try that. Now and then, I still receive calls from a friend, and I've been thinking - he must be dating women in between and then calling me when he has nothing else to do. LOL. He used to say he wanted to be my friend, to be there for me, etc. But then he'd forget if I were having a surgery, for example. You're so right - men are unreal sometimes. The world is all about them and their needs. ;-)
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The tattoo artist told me that the insurance won't cover them. He said the insurance companies even laugh at him whenever he asks. But he did say he only charges around $300 (if I remember correctly) and that he'll write up something I can use to try to collect from insurance afterward.
Yeah, I'll be saving... at some point. :-)
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Welcome LiLi. Glad you joined in the conversation. This is a great thread for women who are single (divorced, never married, etc.) We talk about the things we single gals face living in the BC world.
BB- I think Enerva has made a great suggestion. I know you are not feeling well with the arimidex, etc. but if you can set a goal to exercise and do something for yourself, it will help and help you feel like you are working your way back from all this. Even 30 minutes a day of something will make a difference and then you can build from there.
Enerva- you are a clever girl and figured out this guy's game. I think you were smart to just tell him you won't be around for awhile too. He can go play his games elsewhere. You are taking good care of you right now.
Life- did your son start college this week?
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now that my girl bb, I love you. Lol you are going to be gorgeous and that man us going to be sorry for losing you lol
Hey I want to do something crazy 😜
I have been thinking about getting tiny tattoos on my drains scars lol
I don't know what but I am thinking aboutbit
I will get something meaningful
let's look for great wiket designs lol LIFE get the 3d tattoos I saw it looks beautiful like real nipples .
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E - I'm planning to get the 3-D tattoos, but also with something else, too - an injection that makes very tiny nips. I can't remember what the substance is called, but it's very expensive - around $700 to $1,000. LOL. So maybe the closest I'll ever get to having that done is in my dreams. lol
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lol bb, do it. It could be a.lot of fun and it will kill your arms at the beginning then u will get use to it. I am broke but as soon as I can I will join a gym. I want to build muscles again, in my 20th I had nice tone legs now it's all gone lol I want that back too lol
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more on the non rad side, they are small round scars I hate them lol I am now cleaning all my incisions and watching close so fingers crossed I don't get ugly scars. This time I also requested removable stitching due to me not healing well when having disolvable ones. It seams my body rejected the disolvable tread before. Now If I don't get ugly scars I won't do a tattoo but the two small drains scars are permanent so I need to do something. Yes I have a tat on my lower back its a sun I love the sun it's my everything and inside there is a hook with my heart as if my heart is been fish lol it also looks like a J and the heart so also means J' aime le soleil (i love the sun) lol one of those crazy things you do when you are 20 lol but I love it. I never regret getting it.
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bb, I sent u a pic of the small scars lol
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BB- I never heard that about women not being able to build muscle after menopause. I am meeting with a personal trainer tomorrow and will see if she knows if that is true or not. I was able to get some of my muscle tone back after my surgeries. But I am not the buff thing I once was.
I am starting a new focus here in Sept around exercise and will share more after I meet with the trainer tomorrow. I have set some new goals for myself around getting daily exercise, getting back to lifting weights, weight loss, etc.
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jazz good for you that is my next goal. Also get my bike back lol
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Enerva- I also plan to get back to bike riding, this week as a matter of fact. It has been two years since I rode, and I tuned the bike up this spring but have yet to ride it. Not sure why it has taken me this long, but the weather was hot, then rainy for months. Now it is perfect for riding. Maybe even tomorrow morning.
There is a great little app for your computers and phones if you don't know about it called MapMyWalk.com. You can create routes and have it calculate distance, calories burned, etc. for running, walking, biking. Also good for logging other types of work outs that you may do at the gym like weights, aerobics classes, swimming, etc. I used it one before and started back to it this week.
Good night everyone. Sweet dreams!
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regarding my reconstruction result after my mystactomy in 2012 nov i felt in complete during my chemo i spend most of the time thinking about reconstruction and how i gain my selfesteem and feel good about myself .i was not happy with my appearence at all specially dressing up low neck with prosthesis was nightmare .i used to cry from insight when i used to visit victori a secret or any undergarment shop i knew that those stuff was not for me .i must admit i felt jealous when i used to see big posters of girls in shops
i used to takeout prosthesis at night and used to cover my self i really didnt wanted to see my kids without prosthesis its a big relieve now i feel confident one of my friend had double mastactomy n she s not eligible for recon its sad.my husband was against my recon he told my best friend who advised her for recon my mom forced me to take that dicision i knew she s happy to see me with breast i went wid my friend for 8 hour surgery bcoz i didnt want any negativity around me.
i am happy i have breast yes its not normal i have big scars but i feel confident dressing up and m no more jealous to see half naked posters.
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Welcome Lisa! Glad to have you join us!
wishing everyone a restful night and a very happy thursday
xoxo
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jazz I didn't know you ride. Holly crap that's so good
I have to admit I can not afford the bike but I miss it too much. I will keep searching for a good deal. I am think of getting a Suzuki katana 2005 or newer but that bike is very cheap on insurance. Compared to Honda car 600 which is what I want. The katana is a 750cc. What is your bike jazz? Is it sports or cruiser? Milky are you awake? Lol it's 1:29 am I am still awake
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I saw this event for this past weekend. Seriously...good news and good people in this crazy world
http://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/groom-turns-cancell...
OI! I cannot believe it is 130am
Good night
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sandpiper1 thanx for encouraging words .i was wondering is it ok to post our pics here if u guys have no issues coz its been a while we know each other i really want to see you guys .
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my family
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Hi, Milky.
Nice photo!It's after 3:00 a.m. here. I shouldn't be awake still. Time for some sleep...
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Milky, good morning.
Maybe piper and life, jazz and bb can pm their picture? I know bb lol we exchange picture many months ago. Also I wanted to ask you if you feel like going to Barrie for a BBQ with crazy bikers lol something fun and I want to go it's Sept 11 at 6:30 pm which means we must leave here around say 5pm and we can be back late lol I am not sure if you would like the environment but I feel like going let me know I can send you the info. Lol
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Good morning ladies! I have been sleeping so well the past week and am grateful for it. Getting to bed at a good time, sleeping through the night (I often wake up and am awake for hours) and it feels to wake up feeling rested.
Piper- I hope you are getting some rest too. You gave BB some very good advice. We do tend to think of the good times when we look back to a relationship, and forget all the reasons things do not work out. I did that myself a few years back with an old boyfriend in TX I think I told you about. During the course of our e-mails, he reminded why I did not try to make it work with him. I don't have bad feelings about him at all, but just came to realize it was meant to be at that time.
So BB, it is okay to have the feelings and to miss the person and want to reach out. I like Piper's idea for you to write the e-mail and not send it. Hold it for now, and it may help you to process some of your feelings about this. And maybe some day, when you are feeling better and stronger, you can always reach out to him to just say "hey, I am okay" if you think you want him to know that.
Milky- your husband did not want you to have recon? Why the heck not? Any woman should have the right to do that!!!!
Enerva- I hope you have less pain today.
Life- I am wishing you a good day too!
Got some things to do today including the personal trainer apt and a new hairstyle I feel ready for and in preparation for a presentation I am doing next week at a local technical conference.
Wishing you all a good day and will check in later!
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jazzy girl after my mestactomy he told me im not women anymore do u you think everything will b fine after recon your dr will make something like pinochio and so many shitty things he s physician so he knows everything
basically he wanted to prove recon doesnt change anything or make difference.
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Wow Milky. That is terrible. Of course you are still a woman. We are more than our boobs and other girl parts. I hope the universe gives him everything he deserves. Hugs sister.
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By the way, I know first hand that doctors can be really mean people. My sister is a doctor and although I love her and try to have a decent relationship with her, I keep her at a good distance. I had problems with her when I got sick a few years back (she was also in BC treatment). Bottom line is I am always wrong. She has very poor relationships with people too and seems surprised by that.
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hi ladies I am so crazy I saw a bike and I am so tempted to get it lol a Suzuki SV650 old one year 2000 high km but I love it and it's cheap on insurance.
Milky I agree with Jazz I also believe doctor are mean, I think they deal within hard reality at their jobs and they become very hard inside and maybe they don't believe they are mean but they are. I am surprised when I meet a doctor who is caring or at least pretend to be.
Sending you hugs you are beautiful no matter whatvthe says. He can only wish he meets someone half of what you are. I also think you deserve way better than him.
So I will have a look at the bike and if it feels good I will grab it. The guy will drop it off so I don't need to ride it, lol but I ll drive to meet him and see it. I text my instructor and he approves the bike lol
I keep thinking life is too short so if that will make me happy then I need to get it lol well I am just been stupid, impulsive ha ha ha not a done deal yet.
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BB, how nice.
And maybe wrong choice of words regarding tats......Medical grade iron oxide (I believe) tat ink isn't like the commercial grade. Seems to fade quicker and needs more than one application. And Now I have found it has totally faded with exception of a tiny bit of pink hue. It's just so expensive to get any ink done.
And so glad you went to yoga and could do something good for you. I believe I have to come and duct tape you so you quit smoking and no more looking at Broody Brody. On another thought, I hope I wasn't harsh. I have days......I wish things had gone differently. They didn't. Live and learn eh? It is sometimes good for me to put in writing what I also need to keep in mind. Therapy goes both ways.
I have gained an enormous amount of weight. I am trying to overhaul my diet and exercise program to where I was able to maintain a healtheir weight. I am having a hard time with the cut in calories and little to no movement on the scale.I should have lost a bit more than I have. And while I know not to totally focus on numbers, I am not gaining any ground in reducing my size either. I do have very muscular legs. Lost my core with the surgery and it has been a bitch to get back. My arms are getting big and jiggly too BB. Everyone used to say I had Michelle Obama arms. LOL
I have been keeping with my walking regimen and doing a mod to brisk pace 3.5-4.0mph. Walking used to keep me slim and fit. Of course I used to push my son in a stroller then my nieces and nephew. I also used to run around at work and now I am contained to a nursery.
Once this weight is on, boy is it difficult to get off.
I made both the salad dressings. While the cilantro avocado is good it is a little too sweet for me and I forgot to get jalapenos. I did add some pepper, extra garlic and salt to spruce it up.
The other recipe I posted is just so good. the dressing is so addictive. I have some packed for my lunch tomorrow.
I tried to upload a photo from today but it isn't taking. Sometimes happens when converting phone photos to computer. Have had the same issue with photos I was going to post on the outside thread for recon
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Thank you lovely ladies for the warm welcomes!
BB - Ds are the size of my new breasts, which is only one size lower than original! LOL!
Is anyone interested in a photo review of my healing? I am worried about my non-grafted left one. It does not look right. If yes, I will PM the photos (if I can figure out how).
Thanks,
Lisa
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Good afternoon- okay ladies, I am now ready to tell you about what I have been in the process of doing around my new exercise plan.
I decided last weekend I am going to work with a personal trainer at my gym. I thought about it last weekend after I got through my home reno projects and with the realization I don't have any new work yet here in Sept (which was my goal). In reality, I need a bit more time off and the fall is a better time to find work. A couple things I have had in the works have not come to fruition (one things we lost an award on, another that is moving slow and not sure anything is going to happen). So I realized I am being given the gift of some more time for me. Financially, I am fine so I am not worried yet and have started doing some more active networking to find new work. My experience is the right work always will come when it is right for me (and not necessarily when I think it should happen).
Last weekend I talked to the front desk at the gym about doing some personal training, and they suggested I go on line to look at the trainers and choose one to do an assessment with. I found someone who is experienced with working with people after major life events (like strokes, car accidents, etc.) or those working to come back after a major illness or have quality of life with one (for example, MS or in my case, BC). I felt she was the right person for me given all I have come through and that she is used to working with people who may have some level of contradictions.
We had a good conversation today and I told her my story, and then we did some measurements and tests, etc. She did a test today that measure the fat around your organs by passing a beam back and forth from an instrument. Ladies, I learned today I have almost DOUBLE the amount of fat around my organs than I should. That scared me, but also confirmed I am doing the right thing but getting myself working more seriously on some weight loss.
So I signed up for 24 sessions today which will be 6 weeks with 3 times a week of personal training. After meeting with the trainer, it just confirmed she is the right person and we are going to work on my fitness, diet, and help me to get some weight off. It is not inexpensive, but I felt I needed to do this to commit to getting myself in a better place health wise. Six weeks will be a good time frame to really get going and I may do more with her, and we are also hoping that I am working with her still when I go back to work so I can have her support with helping to ensure I keep up with my routines.
I am very excited about this and it makes me feel like I am making myself numero uno for a change.
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So super excited for you too Jazz.
You can PM me LIsa. I don't mind taking a look see if you are comfy with that. A few of us have shared pics of our recons in PM.
I have 2 potting plants on my deck which I did not plant anything in this year. They sit with the dirt in them. So earlier in the summer I decided to be a dork and stick an avocado seed in one of the smaller planters. I'll be darned if that thing isn't now taking off and growing. I even pulled it up to check it was the seed sprouting.
Now what the heck do I do with the dang thing? I'll have to research this.
I have not a green thumb on me, but my Grandma used to do stuff like this all of the time. She had a grapefruit tree (albeit small) growing in her apartment.
me-hot mess after my 4mile walk. WOW. I cannot believe how my chest has grown. 1 size larger than I used to be. Maybe even 1 and 1/2 larger. But I am wearing a sports bra. hahahaha. There ya go BB. I have a wrinkled up smile and flabby arms.
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Piper- you look good. You are a hot mess. You go girl!
My sister has avocado trees in her yard but also lives in CA. I think if you bring it in for the winter and give it a sunny spot, it will continue. I am not sure it would come back if you plant it outside, the winter there may be too hard on it. Check on line or with a local nursery?
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