Single life after a mastectomy
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sandpiper1 wow we have lots of sexy ladies in our group.i have puton 7 kg i know its very bad for me i have to do something .i still feel discomfort if i go for brisk walk some kind of lower abdominal pain under my abdominal incision do i have to live with that pain rest of my life .i can feel sutures plastic surgeon told me i have 2 right side n left side .everything is man made including breast nipple belly button and areola m i a miracle of science hahah its strange feeling .before 20 year nobody would imagine these procedures.
Jazzygirl yes he is stupid and inhuman .he is my 3rd and worst untreatable cancer.he gave me scar in my heart which bleed but nobody can see .
Bossumb i am 40 yrs old lady i got married when i was 20 my son is 18 .i think more than half of my life is over .most of the people at my age usually settle down but there is some fault n my start haha its name of movie
I have to start my life at 40 its crazy and unfair now i have to think about 100s of other things collecting my pieces and start over again .
Enerva these day my son takes car to university as soon i find the car i will visit you and celebrate its a mile stone .
Is anybody still feel lower abdominal pain after DIEP?
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Milky way- think of your life at 40 as a fresh start. I firmly believe we are given second, third and more chances in life,,because it has happened to me, not because of a man necessarily, but a result of things that went on in my family of origin, career changes, etc.
Life has chapters, and you have a new one starting. Make your script for this next part the best one yet.
By the way, I am 54.
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I am changing my name to Mercedes.
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ha ha ha ladies I did it again lol I went crazy 😜 today and I Am the proud owner of a Suzuki sv650 .yes I have it sitting in my underground ha ha ha I feel like I did a big boo boo but I am so happy I Don't give a dame ha ha ha I learn life is too short and if this gives me happiness then I will have it ha ha ha
Thanks for all these post you All rock .
We are Starting our second chance and we better enjoy wile we can .
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Enerva congratulations tons
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thanks milky I am so excited I won't be able to sleep lol not sure how I will manage knowing she is downstairs every day just waiting for me to go on the road lol
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bring it upstairs close to you hahah
Atleast it will be in front of you 24.7
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Enerva- congrats on the new bike. Something to look forward to enjoying as you recover.
Piper- I like Mercedes more than Bentley! And that picture says it all. It took me years to learn some of that too. We don't have to be the ones earning people's attention. We are good enough just as we are. I have come to realize who likes me for me and move towards those people now.
I am sorry about your abdominal feelings. I hope they get better.
Hoping all my friends here rest well tonight.
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Enerva - Congratulations on the new bike!
You're so right - we have to enjoy life.Milky - Your husband sounds cruel. I don't know how these men can be so mean. But, you're still young. I know you don't think 40 is young, but wait until you reach 49 (where I am now). Then you'll look back and think of these days as your younger days. lol
Jazzy, Piper, BB, LiLi, and anyone else who's reading - Hope you sleep well tonight and have a good day tomorrow.
At some point, I hope to get the nerve to post my own photo... while still keeping some anonymity here! A bathroom mirror shot like the one Piper posted might be a good idea. Talk to you all later.
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well it's 1:14 am lol
Milky you are so right it's going to be good to have it here in my building and to know she is all mine ha ha ha the funny thing is that this bike is old and has been own by 5 people before me, yet she looks so good lol so I will keep her for a very long time. I know I will take good care of her. It cost way less than my old one and it has so much more power. I am happy and I think this is one thing I won't regret
I also sent a msg to my rider friends and every one got back saying how they miss me on the rides they said I was the one to make them laugh ( kind of creepy cuz now I think about what that article said about robin Williams lol) but I feel those riders are great friends cuz even though we are not close, the group is so great to just meet and ride then stop at restaurants eat and laugh. So I do need that back. I am ready to go out there and be free. The riding gave me some freedom I can really explain.
Well I am going to stay in bed for most of the day tmw. I need to go get a few things but I did too much today I know I ll feel it tmw. The good news is that I am now taking Tylenol and no mayor pain so I know in a few days I will be free of pain. It's so unbelievable how the burning dessapeared after the surgery. Now I only have pain where the incisions are and mostly toward the area where the sticht was tide so I feel once the internal skin heals the pain will be less. At one point I thought I was suffering from PMPS but now I am not sure. I feel it will be gone in a few more days or weeks and that makes me so happy. I am too tire of dealing with pain.
I will buy those ingredients piper gave us. I want to try it so badly lol I am not good at making dressing I am so boring I only add lime juice and salt to my salad lol most times not salt just lime juice.
Hope you are all asleep now.
G night
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Enerva- I think it is so great that you reached out to your biking community. You are letting them know about the new bike and that you hope to see them soon. I have several communities here like that (the one who comes mind is my music community) and folks like this area always glad to see you when you return. You have to move towards the things that make you happy and bring you joy. You go girl!
And so glad to hear you are moving past the bigger pain killers and on to the Tylenol. Take it easy today, sounds like you may have overdone it yesterday, which is easy for us single types to do.
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good morning, jazz I only went to sleep past 2:40 am and this morning at 6 am my phone ring lol gdi I did not pick up but I was not able to go back to sleep. I need to shot the phone off every night but since my sister is sick I always worry if someone reach out to me lol
Woke up in pain lol took my Tylenol got up shower and clean the incisions. There is a small area that still red under the fold of the non rad breast and there is where Ethernet pain is mayor. Does not look infected just red and not heal like the rest but maybe is the way the fold is hopping it heals soon.
I am good to crochet a black top today.
Here's the green one
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Enerva- sorry to hear about darned wake up call. I keep the phone in my bedroom off for ringing just for that reason, but also hear you on needing to have the phone nearby given things going on back in VZ. Have you heard anything yet about her test results? I think she just had them earlier this week so maybe too soon yet?
Sounds like one area is just really inflamed. I have had incisions in the past where one area just looked much worse than other areas. In general, it sounds like you sound like you are healing well.
Also, I think my incision on my head is really looking good. The scabbing is gone and very thin line there plus some general red inflammation where the healing is still happening. I got my hair cut short and restyled yesterday for a presentation next week and to also better cover the spot. I love it!
Will pop in later ladies. Wishing you all a good friday.
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Piper- this one is for you!
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ha ha ha love it that is too funny
Here another one
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BB- I am glad you never had to tell your ex about your cancer. I am someone who believes it is best to keep things like this as private as you can. You already know he is not nice, he would just use it against you further.
Everyone is different about it, but as a self employed person, I knew if people knew, it would give people a reason NOT to give me work. Too many people still think cancer is a death sentence, despite the fact bc is highly treatable. I told a handful of trusted friends as well as family and everyone was told to keep their mouths shut. And they have.
Around the same time I got diagnosed, I got an opportunity to work for my biggest client but told her I could not come until the end of the year. They surprisingly agreed to it, and I went to work for them PT for awhile and also was able to step away and work remote when I had to go out of town for rad treatments. One of my good friends kept telling me I should "tell my client" about what was going on so they would not push to hard on me. I said no way, the place was very gossipy and it would work against me. As a freelancer, I was not obligated to tell them anything, I just let them know what I could do and when I needed to be away. I just kept my boundaries around my work. They knew something was going on, but knew they could not ask. Once I was done with rads, I moved to working FT for them and finished that project.
BTW, I love Free People stuff too! Never been to a store but have bought some of there things at Nordstrom Rack. I love the Rack.
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bb, lol I was busy just came on line. First my Japan girlfriend exam is tmw she was supposed to come at 2 for me to help her then she cancel. Sense has been bbm me all day asking? ? Lol I hope she pass. Then mybfriend from Denver sent me two legal doc in French to translate for her cuz, she is one of those who puts crap in her resume like she is intermediate in French lol but she can even translate lol so I did that and sent it off. Then I am sore from my running around yesterday withvthe bike stuff. So I am now in my bed thinking I didn't eat lunch so I may get up and warm up some soup.
Bb i never seen any free people stuff lol I will look in the Internet for it.
You could never scare us away u are too funny.
Jazz I agree with you, I also kept bc away from work people. Infact when I go back I won't put up with any? I will say, I am sorry I rather not talk about my personal life. I am not going to share any details.
Lol I am in love. That bike makes me so happy I can't wait to ride it lol and no I can't afford her but I don't care I will cut down on something to manage lol
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hi girls...long time. BB thanks for the PM. that's very sweet of you.
work has been pretty crazy since i got back (end of april..) and we had a deadline almost every 5 weeks. the final deadline (hopefully it'll be the final final) will be october 3rd. then i'll move on to another project. my boss promised me something interesting and i just hope it'll still be available after the deadline.
back in june i moved. it's crazy to find an apt in NYC. God finally looked out for me and gave me an apt that i could afford (it's a special program that i qualified for below market rent), it's a full service apt building, and about 35min commute door to door. it's clean with some sun light and laundry. honestly i've seen some pretty nasty apts during the apt hunting, they were small, dark, walk up, no laundry and expensive. i seriously think a lot of new yorkers live in shit holes and pay high price for it.
i got pretty close with my ex and he played the MIA card again. so i blocked and deleted him from my phone. can't bloody stand anybody upset me anymore.
that's pretty much my life from the past 5 months......
E - congrats on your re-con. i think i read it somewhere that it went really well. i am so happy for you.
BB - i need to go back to read your posts....sounds like your life has made a good turn.
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Holly June is back lol
Bb yes I got her yesterday lol I love her I won't ride for another 10 or even 15 days but I am so glad she is all mine lol
So something just happened, you guys won't believe it.
I got a text from an old coworker from a previous job. And they want me back lol she wants my resume and I will meet her for a coffee Tuesday. This lady knows about my bc and she is the only one, work related friend who I told what happened. Mainly cuz i don't work for that company any more. So I left them and move to another company in 2011 then I got sick in 2012 wile been only a little over a year with the new company and I was miserable. I always regretted that i left the other place. Now today she told me she needs an assistant and that they will love for me to go back. Lol now I don't know what I will do.I will give her my resume but I am afraid to make such a move now. On the other hand I don't want to be where I was withvthe a s s holes so I may consider it. Ha ha ha life seams to be changing for me. I can't believe it.
So here is my baby bb. I will delete this post soon so have a look at her and I ll delete in a bit.
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E - NICE!!! congrats!!
BB - thanks!! i need to stay strong...
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Enerva- worth exploring the job opp. Sometimes good to get something to get back in the game with something familiar. Just easier to work in places you know and with people you know coming out of this. That is what I did with project I took as I was coming through the end of my treatment.
And food for thought, you can still keep working on your exams and following your dream while getting some cash in the door. Can you do the real estate thing part-time? A lot of people do on top of another job.
The bike is cute and you look great.
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yes, ladies I will try to get the real state part time for sure. This job thing got me excited yet nervous but I know life is short so maybe I will take the risk lol
I must say, I realized today that people come in our tread justice read our conversation yet they don't say hi, or stay here humm I am not sure I am ok with that. I never go in other tread just to read other people's conversation unless I am part of that tread.
How Dobyou guys feel about it? Is thistle reason you guys have been deleting post. Humm I have not patients for that but now not liking the way others come here and never say anything.
Well I welcome any of you out there, at least say hi, it's just not cool lol
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Enerva- there is a lot of lurking on all the threads here. People may come here to read what other share, but may not want to share themselves. It does not really bother me.
I deleted a few things I wrote because I went back and read them and sometimes feel like I share irrelevant things that are probably not helpful to others.
I may be here a bit less this next week as I am going to be putting myself out there a bit more next week on the professional front. I have a professional org breakfast and networking luncheon, plus a presentation I am doing for a technical conference that is going on this next week. As the session I am speaking includes a panel of folks hat was my idea, I got asked today to go on local TV next wed too to do a short promo for the event with one of the other speakers. Now I have more to do!, but excited for the opportunity to further promote myself and my business!
I will pop in as I can but will be full throttle this next week and going to take advantage of all this exposure for new work opps. Wish me luck!
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yes jazz we will be proud of you, I am sure you will smoke them lol 😁
I guess you are right omg how many silly things I posted lol could take me for ever to Delete but I am not sure about the feeling I got about this. I must say when I get busy I tend not to log in but I use my phone to log in here and so it's very easy to check if you ladies are chatting or when I have my insomnia lol
Next Tuesday is the Dsyvto take my stichts off and I ll give my resume too.
I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend too. Maybe I will go for a drive to the garden north .I just wish the incisions pain could go away now. Maybe once the stichts are out I ll feel better.
There is mayor thunder storm happening . MILKY are you enjoying this rain ?
Lol
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Go Jazz........Go E.......Yea June-nice to "see ya"
Milky and LIfe and BB..........Lisa toooooooooooo
Had a long day and ran some errands after work.
Was a good day with my babies. We will see how the weather holds up tomorrow. Calling for rain, which isn't so good for a garage sale (never heard it called a tag sale Jazz :0 )
Hugs and hugs and more hugs
xoxo
Piper (aka Mercedes)
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I totally agree BB. I have said it before, I'll say it again. WE are uniquely independent, single women navigating our way through our highs and lows.. BC brought us here. Friendship, support and looking out for each other keep us here. TY for stopping in Nellie. Pull up a chair, stay a while. Maybe we are the thread you have been looking for.
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Hi Nellie, well I agree with you, a few weeks back I reconected with a friend and got all excited thinking maybe it's time to go out there and meet someone then realized nop, I am not and honestly I am not over my ex. Lol I mean I don't want my ex back I am just not over the hurt it left on me the emptiness bothers me but I am more leaning to been alone. Going on rides with people I don't really have a close relationship but that are great to hang out. I plan to find a job and I am sure once I start working I ll be back at been a workaholic lol which I miss. You are so right me too I feel relationships are out of the pictures for me too.
Bb, you are a romantic one, once you get the brava u will find you love one
I can also see milky having a great man in her life. And who ever stays single well we can live our life without worries no one to tell us dinner is not good enough lol 😊
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E=I love your pic. I love your go get-um attitude. You are giving me much inspiration
We should create a bucket list. Nothing is too small or too big. Include pics or links or wish list or what have you.
Since I am suggesting this...I guess I will go first...
I am afraid of heights..........
That said, I would like to get the courage to go skydiving
(I have been in a Cesna-over 20 yrs ago)
Baby steps....
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You have no IDEA!!! LMAO! I was a senior in HS before I went on my first REAL Roller Coaster. Probably another 8-9 before I went on the Cesna.
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Piper- I am in on the bucket list. I have been wanting to go to Portland, Ore for a visit for a long time. Got a couple friends there I would like to see and want to ride on the street cars!
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