Single life after a mastectomy
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good morning!! I sent out my resume and I will wait to hear about the position
Hopebyou all have a great week I am excited to have my stichts out tmw
bb, hope you feel better soon. Try not to worry too much about what others think of this site. I think once we get a job and become busy we may pull away but I won't just leave you. With what those man did, you may think everybody is going to leave and that's not the case, good frieds are the one that listen and not judge, the one that stays in touch yet does not interfere in your life. So even if we are far away I feel we have become good friends and one day when I get myself to Usa in a road trip I will meet you to grab a coffee so you will see how I am not a ghost 👻 ha ha ha
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Good morning ladies,
Rainy morning here, trying to get some work done. Need to go get groceries. No junk food !! Kids are all onboard. My older 2the boys love veggies and salads. My baby girl is still so picky, chicken nuggets, mac n cheese, french fries and breakfast, she loves eggs and grits w sausage (any time of the day). My first goal is to lose 30 pounds and then reevaluate. I start pt tomorrow and am going to ask about a trainer with bc surgeries exp. I'll keep you guys posted. I gotta get in shape for all that RV traveling we shall be doing.
A little advice if you will.....if single and looking...Look for a "single" best friend/partner in crime. Stay in that mode for awhile (few months). Give yourselves a chance to get to know the person (Hunter's mask off) before you commit your heart.
Take care, No more Coke Zero (maybe one little can as a reward)
Vivian
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lol hi vivian I agree with you I have decided to get to know people before jumping into any serious stage lol
I am happy you are here we welcome any one who is positive and can give us lots of advises lol
I am cooking some pasta al pesto, lol haven't have any pasta in a year or so and somehow today I feel like having some lol
I will take a picture to share here.
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lol
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E - looks yum....
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Hi ladies- just a quick hi. I started my personal training today and am already learning a lot about my body, and the ways I compensate for old injuries and traumas. She totally gets my journey and is going to help me get stronger, fitter, loose some weight and come back to whole. That was what I heard myself say to her today "I want to feel whole again."
Today's work out kicked my butt a bit, but I liked it and feel good I am doing this!
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thanks it's good
Jazz congrats can you share some of your routine with us? What did she make you do? How many set and reps.
Lol tomorrow you ll feel it lol
Good luck, inhale my appointment tmw at 11:30am to take my stichts off n that makes me happy 😊
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Enerva- she did a lot of assessment today to check my core strength, fatigue factor (oh yeah it is there), and any issues with my posture or compensating we naturally do if we have been injured or go through any type of trauma. She knows my whole ugly story and told me I tend lean forward, rotate my left hip as compensating measures. Some may be a result of recent things or even older things (for example, an injury from an old car accident).
Hard to really describe the routines, but today was a lot of bench stepping with 15 pounds weights (ugh, I used to hate this in track and field in highschool) and walking up and down stairs with the 15 pound weights. Some other upper body stuff and also work with the exercise ball. She leverages a lot of things from yoga I do like squats, plank etc. which is more familiar to me.
We meet again on Wed and then again Friday this week. I also noticed I lost a couple pounds last week and think it results with exercising every day as I am right now which results in a good 5 hours a week. I just have to keep it going......
I will be out and about the next three days pretty heavily with the conference and other networking meetings. Will pop in again when I can!
I hope everybody survived their Monday!
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I missed a lot.....BB has gone and pipered half her post.
Here's another for the books. I had a good time at the game.....for the most part. Just too long to explain. My cousin and I went out for a bite to eat after. I ran into a guy I went to HS with and met a gal when I was getting coffee later on. She is an addiction counselor. We had a lot in common and many ideas to share. So we did the FB friend thing. LOL. Better than having business cards printed up J/K. You all are going to drop you mouths at what I did next.
Came home. Knew I wouldn't sleep well. Sooooooo
I played hooky from work. I never call off. I haven't called off in years and years.
Packed the car and I am currently listening to the waves of the Atlantic crashing against the sand as I write this.
Told you I was really having a bad case of PMS. I walked 4 miles along the boardwalk and now just soaking in some salt air.
It was raining so bad all day, I almost ended up driving back home once I got here.
Good thing I actually turned the car back around. I knew I would not make it back again for a long while. Not in this car at least.
I slept a few hours in my car at a rest stop. I am so nuts I left in the middle of the night.
Drove to Virginia Beach then up to Ocean City MD
E=the stitches come out tomorrow?
That will feel so much better once they are out. Awesome you sent out that resume, very excited for you
Jazz-equally excited about the personal trainer. Of course we want all of the secrets that work
BB-not sure what's going on.....but hope today was better for you
Viv-getting the family on board is the hardest. But if everyone eats the same it is much easier. And yes.....that RV trip is sounding better every day. See what happened. I up and left the state. I needed to give the travel thing a little test drive as it has been so long.
Hi Junie. milky and Life.
OK ladies. Seems they have a limit on using the net. And I am very tired......ahhhhh the salty ocean air is working it's magic
Will try to take some photos. I am a stinky photographer......
sweetest of dreams to all
xoxo
Piper
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piper I am happy for you
Tell us more when you can,
Jazz congratulations, I ask cuz that is my next step, I ll join a gym where there are trainers and ll start as soon as my upper body allow me.
Good night
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Piper- I am glad you took an adventure. It sounds like you needed to just get away and by the water. I know I have said it before, a good road trip does a person good. I hope you enjoyed your time away.
Enerva- that is cool you are going to do the gym and personal training too. My trainer is really focused on getting my core strong and putting together routines to help me loose weight. I know you are really at a healthy weight from the pictures you have shared, and know you will get stronger with your work outs too.
BB- I hope you are doing okay.
Happy to share any tips I get through this that may help you all!
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Jazz thanks, I actually used to do weith lifting work out in my young age. But it's no cheap here in Canada it's very expensive to join a gym and pay the trainers but I need to do it. I started to do my own routine and I saw improvement right away.now due to the surgery I feel as if I lost all I did but today I ll ask when it's ok to start any resistance training. I am on the bus going to the go train station to take the train and go to the hospital. My stichts come off today.
I ll post as soon as I am done.
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Enerva- let us know how the stitch removal goes and how the doctor thinks you are doing? Glad you made it to today, another step in the process of your healing.
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Jazzy: I noticed on one of the threads that you spent some time in Rhode Island this summer. I live in RI, and so wish we could have met in person. One of the hardest part of this journey is that I have not spoken in person to one person who has gone through this procedure. I hope you enjoyed our beautiful ocean state...and if you return let me know! Lisa
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BB- I am sorry you are struggling. I think the person you met sounds like she may be able to help you to process some of the past and get yourself into the present. Trust me, it happens to all of us and if you feel stuck, there is nothing wrong with asking for help. It is a sign of strength, not weakness. I hope she is helpful to you.
My blood sugar went high last year too. I keep my meals to lean proteins, and vegetables. I try to do low glycemic fruits like strawberries, apples, pears. Are you familiar with the glycemic index for fruits? Here is a chart that my be helpful. Things with high glycemic index like pineapple,bananas, etc. should be eliminated or at least a once and awhile thing. Avoid all kinds of processed sugar.
http://www.lowglycemicdiet.com/fruitsgi.html
The other thing you have to be careful about is carbs. I was told by my PCP and a dietician I worked with to get my blood sugar issues around. 45 carbs per meal, 15 per snack. I brought my A1C down from 6.5 to 5.7 by doing all this stuff. It still hovers up from there, but is not nearly as high.
These AI meds we take drive up both our blood sugar and our cholesterol. Rather than take more meds, just try to control your diet.
How high was your cholesterol? Are they trying to put you on more meds?
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ok long day but here I am lol
So I went and saw my genius ps lol so he took my stichts out and said he see everything ok. I asked him if he encountered many problems when he opened me up since the change in sensors are mayor now. He then said nop nothing irregular, he said he realesed the internal contraction and just replaced the implants with the better fit and that was it. So now I am not sure I feel like it all had to do with the wrong implants? I am just glad he fix it.
I then passed by my old company and left my resume. Saw old coworkers and then on my way out of there I saw my present job s manager lol he was at the lobby and saw me so I just stopped and had a talk with him. He knows I am ready to come back October first.
Now I just want to heal and get back to work, I will see what my old job will offer and I will decide if I take it or just go back to hell lol
Good night ladies I ll post again tmw I ll take a pill tonight I feel I need to sleep tonight
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I need to get my walk in and do some housework. I have yet to clean up from the garage sale.
Have a good one and I shall return with some rainy beach photos
xoxo
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piper I love your pictures
Well to be honest it's just curiosity also wheeptmom wants to know more cuz of the changes I feel it may help others when talking to ps regarding the improvement they are trying to achieve. I will get my records and hopefully we can get more specifics.
I am feeling great less pain everyday. The only thing is that there is a tiny piece of the nylon (so called disolvable sticht which is sticking out and I feel it but I can't manage to cut it very annoying lol I will ask milky next time I see her to do it lol I don't have any body else that can have the guts lol
Other than that all good.
Last night I thought aboutvit and I decided to sign up for
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On my way home yesterday I saw a sign for the Flight 93, 9/11 memorial.
The flight path of Flight 93. They were headed to CA. The assailants pushed everyone back to the rear of the plane. They shared cell phones and by radio contacted family and friends. The passengers learned of the other attacks and decided as a group to take charge and fight back.....
The boulder, in the distance, marks the point of impact
Driving in.....gives you an idea of the countryside of the final resting place of flight 93s heroes
This is part of the long wall, marking the crash site....no one can go behind this area, however, there are some gated access areas. Guessing that is so family members can get closer to their loved ones.
Near the site of impact is a wall with the names of all the crew and passengers ....many have trinkets and flowers. This floral arrangement is from the mother and sister....
And this is the point I totally lost my composure. I had tears welling, however, when I saw the cards on the flowers and saw this, I began to cry.........I didn't know one member had been pregnant.
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I have also been thinking about 911 today. My story about that day is that I had just returned from a week plus vacation to Hawaii for the very first time with a group of friends. I was just one or two days home from my trip and was up that morning making coffee and came back to my room to see the first tower on TV on fire. My first reaction was "this must be a new movie coming out this fall" because as I walked in, there was no sound for a bit, no one talking and then someone came on and were talking about the response by the police and firefighters in NYC. Then I realized what I was seeing was not a movie but something very bad happening. Then I watched in horror as plane #2 came in and then the towers fell down.
A couple weeks later, I had to go back to CT to help my mother with some health issues she was having at the time. I had to get on a plane and fly back to CT and was so afraid to go. That plane was very empty, with about maybe 10 people on it total. No one was flying for awhile after that. I remember sitting in coach section, and the pilot was going over the new security door to the cockpit with the stews. I was watching them and then they stopped and were watching me. I realized that day that we were all going to be looked like as terrorists from now on when we went through an airport.
A few months later, I was back in CT to check in on my mother again and to attend a wedding. During that week back there (Xmas to New Years), I met my friend from NJ in the city and we went down to Ground Zero. I will never forget things I saw, the feeling I had there, and the smell.
Piper- I am glad that you went to the memorial out in PA during your trip recently. Those people on that flight were so brave. They saved a lot of people on the ground while being aware they would not live through that.
So in summary, I just want to say each day is a gift. Everyone who got on those planes, went to work in the twin towers, or Pentagon, etc. did not expect to die that day. They just thought they were showing up at a job, or getting on a plane for work or vacation or some other purpose. Lets honor everyone that day by living well because we do get to live on.
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hi ladies, wow yes 911 is something no body was prepared. I remember here in Canada I worked for the trading area in downtown and when the towers went down we watched on a TV then people in the streets started to run, run to the train to get out of downtown every body fear that a treat could be on the way here, I didn't run I was one of those who stay behind like a moron on her desk doing my job. It was all so sad and unreal I still cry when I see it represented in movies. It all comes right back
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Good morning. I just wrote you a new and interesting guy thing happening, but the post went no where and I lost connection to the site. Danged. So here we go again but shorter.
2012 I went to a music fest in Austin and spent time with friends there. A guy friend of theirs was also part of that and the four of us did everything together and had such a great time. He and I kept in touch for awhile, but that was the year everything went south with my mother passing and the healthcare crises. I never really told him or the mutual friends about any of it, except my mother's passing they knew about, as I was with them around the time she passed.
Fast forward to last fall, he sent me this message while at another music festival (where he must have been thinking about me) and said "you are so awesome, we had so much fun together in Austin and have so much in common, including our music." Then he disappeared. From FB, e-mail, etc. I had seen some things on his FB page that suggested he might have a new relationship starting. A friend joked with me "your awesome must be the new goodbye!"
So yesterday he sent me a note on Linked In to "reconnect". Interesting, and I accepted. Something must be changing. Or maybe he is coming to balloon fiesta this year which is said he always wanted to do.
I won't make any other moves, will see what else follows here. If he is here and without a lady friend, I would meet him. I have no hard feelings as we were just spent time together as friends through our mutual friends. But I won't jump either for someone who disappears and resurfaces. We will see!
Got my presentation today and will talk to you later!
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jazz I am happy for you.
I also was asked out on a date this weekend ha ha ha well my friend who picked me up from the hospital and her husband are trying to find me a partner lol I have told them not till now. She send me a msg asking me if she could give my # to a friend and that he saw my picture from when we met at the bike show a few weeks back. I just thought about it for a few seconds and said sure why no. The guy have been texting since yesterday and we have losing common so I will meet him and see if it can be a new friend or something more I will keep you in the loop
Lol
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xoxo
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Enerva- I think now that you are past this final surgery, you are moving on with your life. Going back to work to get some income coming in, going out on a date. All things that are good for you. Be sure to keep taking good care of yourself and getting healed up from the surgery. You go girl!
BB- well, I did like this guy when I met him and found he was easy to be around. When we were doing the music stuff together, he bought all my drinks every night we went out and did things. Felt very nice and date-ish. There was an attraction there too on both sides and knew it was mutual. But timing was never good and got a sense he may have been starting a relationship with someone that year. But who knows if it was that or something else going on. I did my own disappearing act with a few people during all my troubles too.
Presentation today went well and some things to follow up on as a result of my efforts there today. My visibility is increasing and I am tracking towards getting closer to some types of work I think I really want. I am excited!
How is everyone else doing today?
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Glad your presentation went well today. I had no doubt it would ;0
I was thinking about you today and hoped you felt my presence in your pocket....
I needed to replenish the fridge and do laundry. I had too many days off and now realize I accomplished nothing here at home.
I need a longer respite from work and home. It will come-with better planning.
I just made a batch of pickled turnips. I had them at a Lebanese restaurant I went to several weeks ago and could not get enough of them.
Hope mine turn out just as good.
I got more local corn. Again, couldn't help myself......it will be gone before too long.
Finishing up the last of my laundry and going for a walk. Big Thursday Night football game. I will probably fall asleep mid way through as I have to work tomorrow.
I have been quite melancholy today-Kind of the whole hormone storm
, missing my nieces and nephew. Realizing I need to have more boundaries with a few more people in my life. Makes me feel lonely and fearful. Anyhow..College boy has been texting sporadically. He sent me a joke about my home team. Same he sent weeks ago. I don't totally get the humor. But I do find it in poor taste and unsure why he thinks I would find humor in it. (This coming from the girl who luvs a good joke and laugh)
I am no prude-nor am I conservative-However my reaction was the same both times. Obviously I am finding something bothersome about it.
Maybe I also find it bothersome he would communicate with me in this manner. Or perhaps I should just chalk it up as another guy who thinks I am one of the 'guy'. Anyhow-you would be proud of me...I sent a text indicating I would not like to receive the joke anymore and for some reason it was bothering me.
I got a sorry.
Then a text that said he feels like he crossed a line and it won't happen again.
LOL. I am not responding. I feel good I stood my ground. Even if it means I won't hear from him for a very long time.
Anyhow. My rant for the day. Since I was out n about at the local markets today. I had chance to converse with a great many Retirees........I found great pleasure in someone who wanted to smile as much as I did.
Milky, Viv, BB, Life, Lisa and E-what adventures did you get into today.
Jazz, are you done with this pro gig for the week or are there a few more days/activities?
OK you know I am losing focus when the post gets random
walk time
BBL
xoxo
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Piper- thank you for being in my pocket today. And yes, I am done for the week. I put a lot of effort in pulling that panel together, doing the promo and getting us organized for today. The event continues on through the next few days and tomorrow there is an all day event, but a lot of it is going to be around some of the economic development issues here the city is working on and not really my focus. I feel very good about this week too and all that happened today.
Sorry you are a bit sad today though. Missing people, boundaries with people who don't get it and more.
College boy sounds like he is just being stupid with you. I am glad you told him to stop it, and it sounds like he heard you. You created a nice boundary for yourself today my dear. Be proud of that.
I am feeling tired and going to relax for a bit.
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BB- I am sorry you are having a hard day. I am glad you asked the yoga teacher/therapist for help. And the aestetician is going to do something nice for you too. I am also glad you are going for some therapy tomorrow and see your BS too. Let us know how it all goes and how you are doing too after those apts.
Hugs sister. Better days are coming.
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BB - sorry that you had a rough day. hope you'll feel much better tomorrow.
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