Single life after a mastectomy
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routine she need all scans brain, chest belly lung but she only didbthe brain one now we are trying to convince her to do the others.
not easy when dealing withbpeople who believe God is going to cure them without any test. very frustrating 0 -
Yes bb, I wish she could be like you. I think she is depressed and does not know how to deal with it. The good news is that she saw a psychologists and now at least someone is going to work with her. It gives me some hope. She needs professional help for sure.
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Getting used to my "new" breasts after mastectomy took a while, but my scars always remind me how strong I am.
Of course there is love after breast cancer! The most important though, is the love you have for yourself
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hi kritter welcome,
Well I started to look for a broker s job today. Here is what happened I went to the police to pick up my criminal record letter, then I started to fill in the forms to pay for my license and then I saw that in the forms they ask for a registration # so I decided to call reco and ask what is that about? Well it turn out they don't allow you to pay for your license unless you are working for a broker.Lol oh well I thought I could just do my last course before that. Now I have to find a job for weekend and only then I can pay for the license and then be able to take the course lol I thinking sucks the way it is but I have not other choice right now. I sent my resume to one. I will search for others tmw.
I agree to go to dinner with my new friend on Friday so hopefully it will go well too.
How is every body?
Hope all ok it's 1:36 and I am here. I was watching orange the new black
Has any of you watched the show?
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So sorry BB....there must be another facility. What City do you live in? Or close too? Please don't give up hope. We are all here for you. Maybe you should ask your PCP for a script for Xanax? It will ease your anxiety.
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BB,
can you check out your local church and ask if there's any help that can be offered?
I am so sorry.....it's not right for her to treat you like that.
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Good morning ladies- I am getting very busy with some new work opps and won't be here as much as I work secure my next consulting gig. But wanted to share this pic with all whom are struggling on this thread with what ever you got going on. This actually comes from a breast cancer page on FB.
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Pretty photo Jazz
I have been Very busy working. I am finally Going to see my favorite peeps in the whole world...my 2 nieces and nephew. I have missed them so much. Since they were born I had spent at least 1 day a week with them. Now they are older, schedules more complicated and wow..... how do we get here???? Tomorrow will be a most happy day!!! I am recovering today from my 3 12 hour shifts in a row. Need to get my butt moving......I have to study for and renew a certification and have 2 classes for next week. One is for the recert and the other is NODA. "No One Dies Alone"
The NODA program will be an introductory session designed to provide support to those in the end stage of life-when they have little or no family or friends available to be with them. I also have a couple of conferences coming up in the following weeks. Good way to reconnect with old coworkers, make new contacts, learn new info and gain contact hours necessary for ,license and certification renewals. I have also been asked to construct the volunteer orientation for our nursery and need to get researching and developing that ASAP. A friend was just DX with DCIS......I believe she is going to be just fine (small area-lump, rads and tami tx expected)........It sicks that yet another 'younger person' in my group has to go through this. BLAH!..and the sweetheart also clued me in on a few job opportunities for the company she works for. Therefore, I need to update my resume immediately. I am getting tired of the shifts and long hours. I may not make the move now, but like knowing someone is throwing some ideas and positions my way, that I may not have researched or had the chance to look for.
E-too bad you did not have the info on what is required to move forward with becoming a broker. But I like your "move with the groove" attitude.
How was your date???
BB-really not sure what to say or what is going on as some posts are gone. I believe you are focused on this one specific recovery program when in fact you may need to see if there is something comparable that is accepted by your insurance. Either way-hugs and hoping you can find direction and coping skills to move you forward. What ever happened to the part time positions you were looking at. Perhaps volunteer work may also be a nice diversion during this time. ?
How is the rest of the gang here???? Hopefully heading into a pleasant weekend. Even a restful weekend
Busy is good, however, I see I have much on my plate over the next month, I may be here less frequently.
I am thinking of you all and sending many warm thoughts and gentle hugs........
xoxo
Piper
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Milkyway - love those!!!
BB - I m glad you felt better now
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wow, here I am 3:33 am lol
Date went great and yes nothing happened I told you I am taking thus very slow but we held hands lol it felt Wierd considering my ex never did that lol we had dinner then watched a movie called the drop then went back to the same restaurant to play pool lol had fun, really enjoy this guy s company. So I will see him again soon I hope.
Ok so my other news I am now officially working for a broker part time lol yes I am now employed by a broker. I told them I only can do it on weekends and they didn't mind so I started training already that's why i haven't been here lately I have been busy. Still having pain so I am watching not to over do it. I went riding today ha ha ha well it was sunny and season is almost over so there I went. Here a few pictures lol
Trying to sleep now
Love you all
Milky and bb sending you big hugs
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bb remember when I sent you the hat? How long did it take? I remember it took a long time right? Well the parcel I sent my bc sister in Miami is not there yet
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well I am ok, but so far the man is just a friend lol we helded hands and that's it. I will try to keep it tha WA till I am sure
I am now having lunch in a beautiful place bymysef just enjoying the nice weather
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milky you ok?
Life, jazz where is everybody? Lol
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Enerva- out of town right now and busy with work opps, but will pop back in soon!
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ha ha ha bb I like the guy, but I am not longer excited like before. I mean I am happy when I am around him and yes I am attracted to him but I am not crazy about been all over him yet somehow it's not me anymore. I am not that girl anymore I did enjoy when he held my hand and it felt kind of strange but I can not saying my heart stops for him or for any man right now. I hope it works out cuz we get along and enjoy each other s company and maybe if we get close then my heart will start acting that way again not sure. Hard to describe it maybe I am been reserved now due to bc scars an all. Even internal scars are still there. So babybstep for me now.
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Enerva I am so happy for you how old is he tell me how he looks hahhaha .Enjoy and have fun
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Nice Saturday with my son, sissy and her kiddos. Good food, relaxing on the deck and playing games.....I just love them so.
My nieces and nephew breath life into me each and every time I am with them. My son.....as many issues as we may have..... is just so loved by my little creatures and he is so funny. He and I are funny together and he and my sister are funny together too.
It just felt so good.....I am up to lesson 2 in my recert.......much more to go before Wed. I really need to study tomorrow before I go in for the NODA training/intro session.
My home football team is currently winning, but I am not sure they will be contenders for the playoffs this year. We shall see. I am loosely following
I watched Silver Lining Playlist-never read the reviews......not what I expected, but had it's moments. E-I really like the Orange is the New Black-awesome writing and acting-IMHO
E-slow and steady is so good right now. You are on the right track for moving forward no matter the outcome of this current new relationship.
One of my BFFs has met a new man. She is separated and told me to remind her never to fall again. Just have fun. This new man took a while to grow on her. Yet, he is everything she never imagined and has never experienced. He seems to be just who she needs in her life at this time. I am so very happy for her. Sight un-seen, I like him already. I get to meet him in the next couple of weeks. yea!
BB-perhaps you could find the book you are seeking at the library or the local bookstore. I would often visit both to explore literature without the expenditure.
There is a guy from HS. He moved back to my end of the world from the south. I am not sure he is interested, but he has messaged me on FB after we had seen each other twice in the last year at HS get togethers. I took a chance and just messaged him my cell #
We seem to have many of the same thoughts and likes.....a stab in the dark for sure.. ....we shall see
OK ladies. I am in the process of meeting obligations and projects for my position at work, certification requirements and license requirements. On top of that, I really need to take some time away from some aspects of social media. I need to focus on shoring up some paths I want to take to better my career, health etc
I want to find a new job at some point and would like to ready my home for possible sale next spring.
I will pop in from time to time, but need to spend more energy on some of my longer term goals.
xoxo
will return in a couple of weeks to check in
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lol thanks piper I am getting ready to go to my training at my new part time job. Just wanted to wish you all a great week
As per the new man, milky he is white, his great grandmother is from England but few generation from here. He is a bit taller than me I say 5,10 and he has a great personality. He do wants kids and that kind of bothers me lol but he says he can live without so imagine we only had 2 dates and already mentioned kids ha ha ha when he told me that I told him right away I may not be the person he is looking for no kids coming my way then he said oh well it's ok let's see maybe we get a dog ha ha ha so yes I do like his attitude so far no negative at all. I asked him to be himself at all times, that I am an open book and I hate lyis and fake people. So milky I have not idea maybe he is the person I need in my life
taking it very slow and enjoying the friendship for now.I will post later at my break time.
Sending you hugs
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Hi ladies- just wanted to check in and say hello. I have been very busy with some professional networking and new work opps that came up. One is short term with the folks I just worked for recently and they want me to come back (although I don't really want to but could use some cash flow for my biz). I may do it on a PT interim basis as I have some other better longer term work pending I really want to do. We are meeting on Thursday and been preparing for that conversation/negotiation. The longer term opp submitted my quals for over the weekend, and hope to hear for a meeting sometime in October. They said they want to begin that project in Nov.
I took a little break this weekend and went up to northern NM for a few days for what will probably be a final break for awhile. Spent two days in Taos, and went to my favorite hot springs today on the way back. Two days of gorgeous weather over the weekend and saw some of the aspens changing in the mountains (pics to follow soon). Today it was rainy up north and also on the way down to where I live. I spent six hours at the springs and the soaking did me good. My body gets achy from the arimidex, so it helps to do the soaking in hot tubs or springs, whatever I can get.
BB- I have not heard about that book you mentioned. But think checking the library is a great idea. Another book that may be helpful to you right now is by Pema Choedren, whom is a Buddist nun (I know you are not particularly fond of the Buddhist subject right now, but bear with with). She has several good books, but one called When Things Fall Apart, which I have read and re-read during difficult times in my life the past 10 years since I learned about her. It is hard to make sense of so much loss sometimes and she has a good way of talking about it.
Have you explored any other programs beyond the one you found that is not do-able to see if they can help? Does the cancer society in your area offer any low cost or free counseling sessions?
Enerva- congrats on the new work and the new man. You know, there are many ways to have a family these days. So if this is the right man and if a family is something you want together as you talk and if you get more serious, you will find the way to create that family. I am happy for you that things are coming together now. You go girl!
Piper- good luck with your busy work schedule and getting that house ready to sell. I bet by next spring, you will be in a new place you will love and will be calling home.
Life, Milky, June, Lili-RI, and everyone else, hope you are doing okay at the beginning of the week.
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BB- maybe you need to call back and just say you are looking to speak to someone about their programs and say you have insurance and wanted to see if their program in network. Best to not say you have no money, as they probably do tune out those messages. You would rather be able to say "I may need to payment program for co-pays and deductibles, do you have such an option?"
Would the Brava funds cover the out of pocket for that inpatient program? Is the BRAVA something you could also do later once you are back on your feet? If yes, I would think maybe doing the intensive OP program might be something you really consider if you think you can do the other later. Maybe talk to whomever is doing the BRAVA for your (BS?)
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hi, I am just at training. Bb pls do not expend your brava found pretend you do not have it. I am sorry but In my case my body image problem was holding me back in a great deal. You can read very good books and or attend group uplifting events but do not go waiting $ which are allocated to your recon. I know that if my recon was not covered by my insurance then I could have been a very unhappy person for years. The stress and weak mental issues can be deal with but the recon will make a positive impact and I feel once you get the recon done and get better results you will be happy overall.
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i need to share something with you guys.
The lady who picked me up from the hospital asked me if I can babysit her dog this weekend, now I couldn't say no but Its messing up my weekend cuz i am to sleep over at their house. Staring on Friday night till Sunday.Saturday I already have plans and I told her that and she said it's ok just leave him alone all day. So I am stuck. I now have to sleep at her house Friday night so go there Friday during the day sleepover then go do my training which is all day then go back to her house sleep over again then stay all day till they come home. So my question to u is, why, why people do this? I mean why why why lol I am doing it cuz i feel obligated cuz i feel like I owe her one. Also cuz i feel bad for the dog but still I am piss I don't want to sleep at their home. And the problem is that last time her dog stay at my place he barked a lot and I got complaints from my German neibourgh who is very angry all the time. Anyway see that's my dilema this weekend.
Also got bad news from home. My sister has a new tumor now right in the upper quadrant. Yes right above the implant how did this happen? I am so stress I don't know what to think anymore
Good night ladies sorry I needed to vent.
Bb, sorry I didn't mean to freak out I just know how much happier I feel havino the recon dóne. Oh i want to say my rad breast is already contracted
yes I already feel and see big difference in size again. Anyway I don't care anymore I can not afford massage therapy so be it. I will just forget about it. I wish the pain goes away. It is still painful the non rad breast in the incisions is a lot of pain. Anyway sorry I needed to vent a little. See bb we are still dealing with crap, never think everybody else is living a pink life cuz is not like that at all I am still dealing with all kind of crap I just try to keep the venting to a minimum these days
Good night
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Enerva- I am sorry you have to dog sit this weekend. I think there is a big difference between giving a ride to someone and asking them to spend their weekend taking care of a pet. I have been caught up in these situations before too, you appreciate their help but find yourself paying back in a bigger way than you can easily do.
If you cannot get out of it, make it the last time you say yes, and find someone else to give you rides in the future, should you need them again. Just say you are going back to work and will be very busy, and just can't do it anymore. You will need your weekend time at home to get things done you once had time to do during the week. I am surprised she is asking you for this given you just had surgery not that long ago. She can ask another friend or better yet, hire a pet sitter.
And I am sorry about your sister. I know they have been running more tests to find out if anything else is going on. Keep us posted on things there. Hugs to you, I know you are upset. Cancer sucks.
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thanks Jazz, I agree I feel people just have no consideration. I tell you I never impose anything like that on others. When I had my dogs I took them with me everywhere or I did not go. I mean it's just like a child you don't damp them to who ever. Anyway I am thinking that I will take him with me Friday. So I will have him in my place then Saturday I will drive him to his house for the time I am in training, then I will pick him up again that way I sleep in my bed. The more I think about the more annoyed I am to have to sleep at their home. Cuz i feel not only I am supposed to sit the dog but it's like I am sitting their house. Forget it. That's my plan I will take the dog and drop him off at their place for the day Saturday then pick him up again. Oh i tell you. From now on I will not be caught off guard
Yes my sister situation is now in my mind too.
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E - pls say no to the lady. It's wed tomorrow so she will have time to find someone else or hire someone. It's a lot of work to sleep over to dog sit. I'd say no so don't feel bad.
And sorry about your sis.....is she having a biopsy soon?
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Thanks June, well yes they took a biopsy yesterday. Also more scan are now been scheduled.
Tmw I will try to say no. I remember my friend has a sister who also has a dog and usually they babysit each others dogs. I have a feeling it's the entire house they want someone there so the place is not empty for the weekend but I am not well enough to do all the driving back and forth. Crap I hate to be put in this position ;( see now it's mid night I am still awake and training again tmw. I am so freaking stress now reviewing my sisters test and thinking of the options.
Thanks June
Hope you all have a good night
I ll let you guys know what happens
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