Single life after a mastectomy
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bb, I was talking to my brother he told me there is a new thing for face lift done with laser. Lol I will find out more about. I am just afraid of the mayor face lift stuff but laser humm even me I can be down for that lol the lines in my eyes bother me too lol enlarge the picture I ll send you and see what I mean. Lol
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bb where are u?
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hi happy friday night ladies.....
i've been feeling bit lonely lately. guess i crave for some kind of interactions.....anyhoo...just want to check in.
btw, anybody doing rebounding exercise?? i started it this week...it's quite easy and straight forward.....supposed to be very good for our health....
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June- have you ever tried Meet Up groups? I joined some in 2011 and found some folks with common interests and was enjoying it. But I stopped when my mother went into a declined, passed away and then the rest of the $&*@% hit that same year. I find many of my girlfriends have new men in their lives or are busy with other things, so I don't see them as much. I am thinking more about finding ways to meet some new people in my community in the new year.
I try to have at least one social thing on the weekend. This weekend it is a 60th birthday party celebration for a friend at a local winery bistro.
What is rebound exercise?
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jazzy - rebound exercise is jumping on a rebounder or mini trampoline.
i joined meetup few years back, geeze, most of them were couples.. very discouraging.
i had a falling out with a girlfriend. we're 10 years apart. it's always fun to hang out with her but sometimes i just felt we don't really live in the same world, sharing something in common in terms of core value. when i think about connecting with another human being, i truly miss my ex.
i want to make some new friends too....but gosh it's so hard when ppl just started making families/babies.....
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June- it is tough to find people to have connection with on a regular basis. It seems to be feast or famine for me sometimes. I find my best connections through my music community. I do find I spend a lot more time alone that I used to.
That is too bad about the Meet Ups, there were a lot of single people in mine when I did them. I would think in NYC there should be opportunity, but perhaps the question is how to find the right people to connect with? Do you have the time or energy to take a class or pursue a hobby?
I know what you are saying about long time girlfriends. Things have changed with some of mine here in the past few years. Part of it relates to me and not wanting to be social for awhile after everything that happened. But I also feel some of them are moving into new chapters with their lives and also less available or interested to connect. I had to get honest with myself recently about one friend I have known about 9 years whom says she wants to do things, but then I follow up with plans and never hear back. She works full time and fills her weekends up with volunteer work, so I just don't think she has any free time anymore. I decided I need to just let it be since it feels too one sided. My best girlfriends are still back on the east coast.
Here is to hoping we all find some new and cool people to hang with!
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hi ladies, well I came home tired I did laundry then crocheted a few flowers to release my stress lol I have become a bit close with a young girl who went to real estate courses with me and I helped her with the math. She is 33 N has become very dependent on me. She is now working at the same office and it's nice to have another new person whom is just like me hungry to learn and get experience. Other than that I understand you June and jazz I pulled away from people when I got sick and the connection is just not there any more. I guess it's just me I am not the same person. Here are the flowers I made just now. Going to bed now. My rad side is bothering me.
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E - wow those flowers are so beautiful. You are so talented.
I dozed off after sushi and some white wine. It's made from red grapes....interesting.
Re my girlfriend - we had a big fight right before I got sick. It really showed me her true color. Tho we moved passed that but the friendship is not the same anymore. That part I couldn't move past is she would want to seem cordial and whatever to the guy who played her and dumped her but she didn't hesitate to attack me - the one went out of the way to check on her to make sure she was okay after being dumped. And she didn't bother to visit me when I had my surgery.
Well after I typed all that I don't know why I bothered with this person. She actually reached out to my ex to ask him for help about keeping friendship with me but I just don't get her after all.
Thanks for letting me vent.....
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hi ladies
It's three days since I came home from hospital since my reconstruction. The time spent in hospital I had the highest pain levels but the nurses were good at helping me with that. Actually got a bigger expander than what I thought its a 500ml expander and it's filled to 300 or so. First day home was the most painful I vomited on the way home!! All the shock just hit me at once.
Since then have kept up the meds religiously and am pretty much back to my normal diet. The tightness of wearing the bra 24/7 is the worst thing about this. Sleeping is still an issue as I'm side sleeper usually.
Haven't had the first fill yet so the breast is still swollen but it will look more boob shaped after a fill or two.
Have had lots of support from other survivors and friends
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Enerva- I am glad you found a compatriot to hang with. Sounds like you are doing some mentoring too. Your crocheted flowers are beautiful. Will you have that area where the pain is looked at soon?
Melp- it is good to hear from you and I am glad to hear you are through the first part of the recon, although it sounds like you had a rough time. I am glad to hear you are eating okay now, don't forget lots of protein for healing. I hope you can find some ways to rest with the discomfort.
June- my friend and yours have some similar behaviors.
Life, BB, Milky, and everyone else here, I hope you have a good day.
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hi melp27, I tell you reading your post made me live back all that it was exactly like that for me in 2013 March 25, I had my surgery and 400c expander filled to 300 at the surgery. It is the hardest Time and I am sending you hugs just know it ll get better eventually. Be strong drink lots of water and rest as much as you can, I know it's impossible to rest but when ever u can sleep do it. Take your pain killers on time do not stop them even if u feel ok. Take laxative if the pain killer have oxicodine. Wish you good luck girlfriend we are here if you need to vent or ask any questions.
June I tell you, I had a friend in the past that I discovered she was not the person I trusted and those experiences hurts so much, after that I haven't let any woman friend be my best friend I mean I do not trust. It added up to my trust issues lol we just have to grow stronger and be aware that everybody out there is different and most people I find are fake. Like the pretend to be that what they are not. I hate that, now I am having a hard time finding a man cuz my trust issues are present at all times lol
Anyway hope u have a great weekend
My sister is fighting she did not only get chemo in pills but in her vein too. So now she is sick vomiting and also losing her mind, my siblings tell me she sometimes says thing that make no sense
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Enerva- I am so sorry to hear about your sisters struggles. I know it breaks your heart. Hugs sister.
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jazzy - always love your quotes!!
E - I will be praying for your sister.
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Hi friends- after a busy week away at the conference, then home and right back to the client site, I took today to get grounded back to my life and home as I really needed to do. Weather here is beautiful, and I did a bit of yard work while the weather is still good. I got started on the rosemary bushes and will finish them tomorrow.
June- I have been thinking a lot about the whole friendship thing lately. Perhaps because the holidays are coming up, I think about who is going to get a Xmas card or not, etc. I am going to try to move toward the people that keep in touch and not going to worry about the rest. Life is to short to chase people.
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hi all, well it's Sunday and I am so lazy this morning I got up made breakfast then came back to my bed I am just listening toothed strong wind out side and I see the roads are all clear. Hope everyone is doing ok
Sister is having the hard se we all had with chemo the first 48 hours are brutal. I hope by tmw she ll feel better.
I rode my bike yesterday, it was cold but nice it's the end for the season and maybe that was my last ride.
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Good morning- I hope everyone is doing okay on this Sunday morning. I am heading out to do a bit of morning yard work (before the bees come out) and going to go for a walk down by the river to take some pics of the golden cottonwoods with my camera. I have a party to go to later today too.
Enerva- looks like late fall has settled in to your area. Our weather here is still mild but about to change as it does around late Oct/early Nov. Glad you got out on the bike to enjoy your day yesterday. Prayers for your sister to feel better. Pill or liquid, chemo is so hard on women.
I am back to paying attention to the no carbs after 2 p.m. rule and it's working Enerva. Despite the personal training, I am still not loosing fast enough so my trainer said up the cardio work which I am but realized I had to change when I am eating. Thank you for this tip. I just move my meals to earlier in the day and sticking to lighter foods in the evening.
I hope everyone has peaceful Sunday.
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Stopping in quickly to say hi and give hugs to all.
Melp-wishing you a smooth recovery.
E-Thoughts for your sissy. And proud of you for staying true to you on the dating front.
Jazz-Your trip sounds like it was wonderful on many fronts.
June-I also looked into the Meetup in my area. Seems like they do a ton of stuff. My reason for not going............ there is a guy from HS who seems to be everywhere...including that group/site. I noticed early on he would comment on everything and committed to going to many outings. He is annoying and one wonders when he has time for his own wife and family....hmmmmmmm.........I am sure there are some nice people on there, but I also knew another man on there and both seem to be going to these meet-ups for another reason.......(Unhappy at home). Knowing that, I never got involved....
I hate that I have these kind of experiences to make me so jaded. BLAH!Life-hope all is well with you and the boys
Work has been nothing short of crazy. High Census. I worked OT and as a result spent my whole Saturday laying around watching movies.
I am supposed to go out with the guy again today. I like hanging with him and he is so attentive and thoughtful
....BUT...........I am not sure I am into anything right now.........We shall see......
My mother and her friend are taking me out for dinner on Tues. LOL
This friend of my moms is from when they were in their 20s. They reconnected and want me to hang with them. The friend is the mother of my very first HS boyfriend........hahahahahah..........the world is small.
My cousin wants to reconnect too, but has been hitting me up for potential dates......He has been divorced for several years and is ready to date.....I am not sure why he thinks I would know anyone to introduce him to???????
I guess he thinks I may know someone "sane".....hahahahaha
Ok ladies...I need to run......shower, get groceries.......and see what the man date wants to do today.......
Have an awesome day...
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Piper- wow, married men hanging at meet ups to avoid being home. Like the men who go to the bars after work. I am not interested to listen to people's martial woes. Yuck! Too bad those guys are messing it up for you.
My worst meet up story is from a hike I did a few years back with one of the groups. I met this man about my age who was a pilot with one of the big airlines and had just moved here. Seemed cool at first, but then I had to hear all about his wife leaving him and how terrible she was. As he was new to town, I told him this city was a good place to start over and meet new people. Then I quickly moved to hike with some others. People like that can wreck those events for us.
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ok June I did the homework lol look what I bought today. Its something they mentioned in your video.
I have to admit I don't fry food at all but I am intrigued by how they say to take up to 4 spoon of these oil lol humm I bout it not sure I can take it but I will try at least one tea spoon lol
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ladies - thank you for your kindness....i feel better already
E - i bought a jar of coconut oil for cooking....i didn't like it. it's just smell so sweet and when i sauteed it with meat and it's just WEIRD...haha. some ppl use it as a creamer for coffee. i don't know how that work though.
but i found some points the doctors made were fascinating...even though they claimed it's still in theory. that cancer cells feed on right spin sugar but fruits are left spin sugar which doesn't feed cancer cells.
and the reason why plant based diet works.
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hum yaaa very interesting in deed. I never fry stuff but I ll keep it for cooking if I need to fry something. Also a friend told me to mix it with something lol I tell u one small tea spoon N I almost vomit lol
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lol....be sure to put it at a cool place. Or else it will turn to liquid form. I think it's easier to swallow when it's in a solid form. Pls keep me posted how you like it.
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Hi ladies- nice long walk down by the river today followed by a party later in the day for my friend. Really nice wine and cheese party (had 1 glass of wine, some cheese and fruit, no desert). Felt like I took good care of my body today.
I am watching an interesting segment on 60 Minutes about genetic screening. Women are now screening their embryos for the BRACA genes and other genetic diseases that run in their families. I have been through a bunch of testing with my BC, and also with another deadly disease that runs in my family. Everything negative to date. Seems like genetics testing is moving into new territory.
I have been cooking with olive oil since my 20s. Never tried coconut oil but heard it has many benefits. I know sugar feeds cancer and gave it up last year for blood sugar reasons, but now that I understand the relationship better around that, I am grateful my body made it so that I would have to let it go.
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BB - oh hell yeah, you do feel the loneliness when millions of ppl around you. feeling lonely doesn't matter where you are...it's a state of mind. i think we just crave for that human connection.
and i think a change (to the city life) can do you some good. i think it's a good idea to pursue your dream...=^_^=
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hi bb im still having pain but its being still controlled by the meds. Still tight on the expander side and not much ROM on that side. Am eating well.
looking
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