Single life after a mastectomy
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well today I am off, I have the appointment with my doctor the one that gives me depression pills. I will go talk to her tell her how things are now that I am back and that is all. Then I am 4 days straight in the office and next week 5 so back to full hour
in a place I don't want to be. Bb regarding my sister the plan did not change what she is receiving is both chemo so she is getting chemo pills and on top of that chemo in her veins. She was lying to me before saying only pills. Well she is now in big trouble dealing with more se than before and it's very sad. Hoping the tumor reduce zise but not sure what will happen next.
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yes bb, if it doesn't improve they ll stop chemo then surgery again
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BB- god that sucks. One thing I realize about the healthcare industry is that they always act like everyone has a bunch of people to help them and we single gals are not always in that place. I don't have much family left and the ones I do have don't live where I do. I had a friend take me to my last colonoscopy apt, but who knows who will be able to do it next time (one coming up in 2 more years).
Well, you have tried and the medical system has made it IMPOSSIBLE to do this, so ask the MO about the new test that is coming out on the market that is supposed to be able to help determine if there are any issues via a stool sample. I have been hearing about it a lot on the news and supposedly it can tell if you have any tumors as well as polyps. Tell your doctor you are willing to do that instead. It is not like we are going to be able to change our family circumstances, we may be better off for asking for this non-invasive test next time. I am going to.
Glad you liked the post. We all need some encouragement.
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BB - That's a big problem I noticed we face when we're alone - no one to pick us up if we need a ride, or if the car breaks down, or if something else happens - especially if other relatives live far away, or if we just don't have friends that we feel close enough to that we can ask for favors. My docs have been urging me to have a colonoscopy, too, due to family history, and I'd be in the same boat that you're in with rides. Months ago, the paramedics came here and offered to take me to the ER (luckily, as it turned out, nothing serious!), and I had to say "no" because who would I call for a ride home afterward? The situation really stinks, doesn't it?
E - I hope your sister is doing better soon!
Hi, Piper, Jazzy, June, everyone... :-)
Coconut oil tastes good when used for baked goods - for example, greasing muffin tins with it. Yeah, I know... You're all far more disciplined than I am in watching your health. I do eat plenty of salad and veggies all day, but I should cut out the sugar altogether.
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Bb, I wish I was there to take you home. It does sucks that they don't allow us to take a taxi, taxi drivers can also make sure we get in our building if we ask. Next time I will just say it's my nephew he is a taxi driver hahahhaha
Life I can't cut honey I managed to cut white sugar that's about it I still put some honeymoon my coffee and raw honey is ok too when I get it cuz no many store sell it.
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i am on the train now going where I wish I didn't have to be.
Have a great day all of you.
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BB - did you apply for those jobs? Sounds like a good idea to help you branch out. its not good to stay home all day and not talking to a person.
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hello everyone.....hope everyone had a good day.
i had a long day at work, have a supposedly final deadline on 12/12 but i am going home (HK) for two weeks around turkey day. i hope things will work out the best for me. feeling nervous as the vacation approaches...
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BB- I think working would really help you, but also understand you are also not feeling well. I went back to work when I was between surgery and radiation and felt like crap, but also worked PT for awhile so I could recover. As hard as that was, I will tell you it stabilized my life in more ways than I can say.
I wonder if something part time and that would not have you on your feet too much would be a good way to ease into it? If you are needing to wait until Nov to find out about your surgery, is there any place you could pick up some work for the holiday season? That might just take you through December and not be too much of a commitment. Easing into things is a good way to go after all this junk we go through.....
It would get you out with other people, give you something to focus on every day, some money in the door, and more. Now is a good time to look for those holiday season jobs.
Let us know how we can help? Maybe share some job opps with us and we can help you as you go forth with applications, interviews, etc.
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Just because we need a little laugh every once in awhile in this hard journey we go through called life.....
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hi it's 10:43 pm I am in bed just took a pill to sleep cuz i need it. My alarm is set for 5:30 am well I agree it's not good to be home all day but I wish I was
I feel so tired every day from the 8:30 to 5 at a job I can't even stand. I will keep buying the lottery hoping we get lucky bb. Hope you get a part time job so you can deal with people and improve the loneliness just remember you can do what ever it is you dream off. Be patient cuz the se take a lot from us.Milky hope you are ok
Good night all
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Milky- that is very nice. Are you doing better? Bad headache gone? How are your classes going?
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BB- maybe a part time job 2-3 days a week would work better for you. With predictable hours (where you know what days you are working). It allows for apts on the other days. Perhaps not something you can do now if you have apts at various times, but when you are past those. I am doing that structure right now with my consulting work and it works well. My two days that I am not on site for the client are very full (today being one of them). There are part time jobs around that are not retail either.
Enjoy your birthday celebrations with your boys. Those sound very nice.
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Hello, everyone - Milky, Piper, Jazzy, June. Hope your day is going well!
Enerva - I was using honey for a long time, too. It's better than processed sugar. I just wish healthy foods weren't so expensive. I used to splurge on things like pure maple syrup (expensive - but a great sweetener). It wasn't until my early 40's that I began to "snack" on unhealthy foods, and then soon afterward I was DX with BC.
BB - I never heard of Groupon. Checking into that now...
As to finding work, yeah, I can understand BB's dilemma. That's my problem, too - arranging a job around all of my other responsibilities and commitments, in my case surrounding my sons. I looked into freelance work for a while and even tried it out. Total earnings: $20. LOL. But at least it was better than nothing. Oh, and here's my current bank account balance for the last few days: $.01. Yes, that's one cent. LOL. It'll be interesting finding out how the divorce and everything plays out in the end.
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Hi jazzygirl.bb.lifeis wonder.Enerva.piper .june
how are you doing .i had one massage session for neck it was good and expensive 60 Dollars.but i had no choice tried every medicine
Pain was on left side ear pain was giving me dizziness
i have a midterm n research paper due on friday .i have 2 breast cancer group added on my face book they have updates about members death oh my God its scary easpacially when i check my facebook at night.hahaha
i sleep at 3 am i dont know what happened i think main cause is menopause or chemo.i love eating these days thats the only entertaintment these days no partner no sex hahaha.
God night ladies
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hi ladies just got pathology results today from my masectomy and its good news!!! the DCIS was
about 2.5cm and there was an IDC tumor as well but it was all removed
during the masectomy and the best part no positive lymph nodes out of
the three they took!!! Going to have my first fill in about a month. im really relieved!!!! yay
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Here's to better days for all and a lovely weekend ahead too.
TC ladies and gentle hugs
Happy Halloween
xoxoxoxo
Piper
http://www.ellentube.com/media/Andy+and+Amy%27s+Ha...
Enjoy the vid. Cannot wait for the newest one with her producer in it. Funny stuff
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Hi folks- crazy busy week but glad to report I have my strategic planning cert done! We finished last night, and enjoyed the course but thought it should have been a bit longer (6 weeks) but also sort of relieved we are done. Onward and upward.
Melp- that is great news on the margins. That may result in less treatment, which will help you to recover faster. Glad you got some good news from your surgery. Keep us posted on what comes next so we can support you!
Milky- glad you got a massage. It helps what ails you. I wish you luck on your midterm!
And there are groups who post about members who have passed and it is sobering. Despite it all being much more treatable, there are sisters on these threads who are stage IV and not doing well. I know of at least one on another friend on another thread who stopped chemo and seems to be in a decline.
Life- Groupons are great to access more expensive things at discount. Discounts on all kinds of stuff. A friend invited me to a rafting/float trip last summer with one of those. BB has found some discounts on plastics procedures. It can save you a lot of money on things to get you to try something out.
Piper- glad to hear you are putting some goals together. I have work to do on that for myself and biz this weekend. Sometimes just a few goals so you are not overwhelmed helps us to move forward. I ready something the other day that writing things down and visualizing them gives them a sort of power that does not exist when they are in your head.....
I was thinking about something today for the folks here looking for some kind of work/income. Have you talked to any temp agencies in the area? They can help do a skills assessment and see if there is a good fit for things you have done in the past or could do now. For example, there are always data entry jobs and if you know how to use a computer and can plug numbers into a spreadsheet, you can do this work. It will be better paying than retail and also maybe easier on your body. You may need to do some research for temp agencies in your area and then start calling them to set up some meetings/skills assessments.
Here is a link to one in our area just to give you a sense of the kinds of things they look for. I am not sure if this firm is in your area but try googling temporary work in X location to see what comes up.
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hi, well today I had a good day, they asked me to take charge of the carving of the pnk for our dept, they know I live craft and also I not very busy cuz they basically haven't give me any specific projects so last night I thought about it and I say I ll make them drop lol their theme is the walking dead so I carve and painted two pnks. And want to share with you all lol this is for a competition so I hope my dept win, that way they will appreciate my efforts lol they were very pleased, I am trying very hard to fit in but still feel not welcome maybe now it ll be better
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bb, just got home, no the package never arrived
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melp - great news. i am so happy for you.
ladies.....i've been drinking wine these few days in a roll....i just needed to relax....
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i made a joke and going to share it with you. t
my PM said he’s going to be the invisible man for tomorrow halloween’s custom (he's stressed out and didn't want to be bothered). then i said he should wear the emperor’s new cloth. ahahhaa....our team had a good chuck about it.
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Hi ladies- I had a good meeting today with the city planning dept. about a cool project they are doing. I think it went really well, they said "great interview with you today" as I left, but know the timing is off. They want someone to start now, and I agreed to the work I am doing for my big hospital client through December. Timing is everything.
Enerva- what a creative gal you are with those pumpkins, they are awesome! Sorry they are still being awful to you. I remember during the worst of my last big project that we all dressed up last year for Halloween and had a fun party. It was the best day I had there in 18 months. They are doing it tomorrow but I am not going in for it on my scheduled day away, which is already full anyways. I am hiding from the trick or treaters too.
BB- sorry to hear the temp agencies turned you away. Fork lift, jeeze. I think one of these cancer non-profits should invest some money in helping women to get back to work after treatment.
And it is very sad about the women with late stage bc who are still raising kids. I have witnessed the losses in families many times when a parent dies and leaves a family behind. Those women must be so scared with what they are going through, and their families are too.
June- a gal on another thread said the same thing about needing some wine this week. Sometimes a bit of vino helps to calm the nerves. I love wine.
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oh bb, i am sad she never got it
Yes I trust her
Good night
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Melp - Great news! :-) I'm sure that's a relief. Time to get on with your life again.
Milky - I hope the massage session worked and you're feeling better now. I hear ya' about the food - I've been enjoying eating food - comfort food - maybe a little too much these days. lol
Piper - Yeah, a part-time evening job might work, and I've been looking around. We'll see. Funny video, btw. "Stop it! Stop it now!" lol Let's face it: Do men ever try to protect us? Or does that only happen in the movies? lol
Hi, Jazzy, Enerva, June, BB.
So, ladies, every year Halloween is big in our neighborhood. The houses here are hit hard. Our family always handed out a lot of candy. But this year, my sons and I are broke. LOL. Plus, our house has become a horror house without even trying, if you get my drift. (It's falling apart.) So my sons and I are hiding in the house with the lights off, ignoring the knocks. LOL. Oh, this is shameful.
I hope the rest of you are enjoying the evening.
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life, lol I am in a building and kids go to the lobby, so I don't see any, we are ask to donate candy if we can. This year I didn't, today I checked and I did not get pay so forget it. Lol funny about your lights off. Don't feel bad other neiourgh ll give them candy.
so it turn out I worked the wrong hours this past month lol I was supposed to work half days and I didn't read the paper so my manager never said anything figures. So next week I will work only afternoon. Lol
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E - So now you'll only have to spend half the time on the job that you don't like? That's good news. :-)
I do have a job to do, that's not paid, but that involves me working with others (long story). And today I kinda flipped out on a "coworker." lol In hindsight, I should've handled the situation differently. ;-)
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Happy Halloween friends (or not)- I am opting out of the trick or treat thing too. I am tired from the week, and also not into handing out candy this year. I think it's an optional thing anyways and it is expensive. I know when I have done it, my house gets a lot of kids, and I usually get wiped out of my supplies early anyways. On a weekend night, they will be out late. Did I mention I am not into it?
Life- I am sorry about your house. Maybe once your other son is off to college, it will be time to sell the place and downsize. You might get some $$$ in the process to help you too? I hope you and your sons can just enjoy some time together tonight minus the pressures that go with today.
Enerva- wow, so the good news is part time will give you more space to work on your real estate career but worried you may not get paid for the other half of those days? The boss sounds like a dolt.
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Happy Halloween to you, too, Jazzy. The trick-or-treaters seem to be gone now. Whew! That was a close one. LOL. ;-) I guess you still have a couple of hours left there.
Yeah, selling the house might be unavoidable. I'm not expecting much money from the sale, though.
I wasn't thinking with my last post - I hope Enerva is being paid for those extra hours!
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