Single life after a mastectomy
Comments
-
BB- meditation can help a world of woes. I learned it when I learned to do yoga. It really does help and glad you had this come your way and hope you can go soon.
The only thing loss and suffering has taught me is to live more fully.
0 -
Hi ladies it seems everyone is busy which is good sign i hope you guys are doing well .Joints pains and aches are the gift from Texotere some days are bad some are ok keep moving girlz .kids are busy with studies n midterms.its cold here i hate when it get dark at 4.45.i feel my inner clock is disturbed i get hungry when it dark and eat again at 9pm night sharing that funny post .have a nice weekend
Enerva.bb.lifeis wonder.jazzy keep on writing
0 -
Milky- LOL, that's me for sure! I heard today on Rachel Ray that they recommend you NOT eat 3 hours before bed time, whatever that is. I try not to eat after 6 p.m., as I usually go to bed by 9:30-ish but sometimes violate that rule. If I don't eat enough during the day, I do get hungry before bed......
Went to see my dermatologist today for my 3 month check up on the scalp surgery where the basal cell was removed in August. I went in last in early Sept to have the stitches removed and the healing checked, and this was my next check in. All is well, she thinks everything has healed well and no signs of anything that has returned. I will see her again in six months (May) and then we go to yearly. She asked about my overall health, knowing the cancer history, and told her about the work I am doing with my personal training.
Speaking of that, I went to the personal trainer today and we measured my internal fat again and it is now down in the upper 30s, so we are going down, down, down! The idea amount is in the low 30s. That is the initial focus, more fat to come off other places too. We continue on, but I am motivated to keep it going with the good results.
0 -
I am glad you are doing well with the Yoga BB. I am sorry to hear of your continued issues with neuropathy.
Milky that pic is too funny! Hope your classes are going well.
Jazz, wonderful work on reducing those inches.
I have not done much over the last 2 days.
I just started with a volunteer program at work. N.O.D.A.(no one dies alone) It is a program for individuals to sit with a person who is actively dying and has no family or friends available or living near by.
I am to sit with someone tonight for 2 hours and volunteered for a morning slot tomorrow as well. This is the programs first Vigil. We'll see how it goes. Like anything, it takes time to get used to how the program runs and getting comfortable sitting with the patients.
Taking a road trip Monday. I was going to drive in Monday and stay the night, but a good bit of snow is supposed to be coming to this region and unsure if I should go in Sunday instead. I don't have a lot of money for travel expenses and really need to rethink my agenda.
Hope everyone is well, staying warm (hush Jazz)
and have a wonderful weekend.
I will hopefully return with some road trip pictures!
xoxoxoxo
Piper
0 -
Piper- I am amazed by your volunteer work. What a wonderful concept to help those in transition who need someone there. I do think many people assume everyone has family to help them when they are sick, or even dying, and it is just not true for many of us any number of reasons. And sometimes it is just too hard for family to do anyways. You will be such a comfort to people when they need it most
God bless you! Be safe if you travel in the snow please too.....
0 -
BB- it looks like they are all over the country.
0 -
ladies I am back. So much to say ok first I somehow damaged my phone and had no phone for almost two weeks
Mynpoor sister is having a very hard time with chemo
as we all know that was expected. I have some good news though I found a client last week and showed him 4 properties and today he bought one lol yes ladies I made my first real estate deal. I am so happy yet I am exhausted. I was going and showing properties eafter work and Saturday he saw one he loved lol we put an offer today and after work we signed the offer. He wanted to see it one more time before signing so i took him again. After he saw the condo one more time he signed tthe papers. So I drove him home then drove to my other office and faxed it over to the seller's brokerage. Then came home I am so tired but happy. My first deal
0 -
E - oh I am so happy for you!! Yay.....the beginning of a wonderful journey....
0 -
Congrats on your first real estate sale, Enerva. May there be many more to come as your new career unfolds!
Very sorry to hear about your sister's struggles through treatment. Hugs.
0 -
Congratulations, Enerva, on your first sale. :-)
I'm sorry that your sister is having difficulty, though, and hope she is doing better soon.
My internet service was down for a few days. Glad to be back, and I see that everyone is making some positive moves: E with the new career; BB with putting things together and looking forward to a brighter future; Piper with NODA and preparing for a road trip; Jazzy continuing to heal well post-surgery; June on a trip to visit family.
Milky - I'm terrible - I eat my last meal about five minutes before bedtime. I love comfort food in cold weather.
0 -
Hi ladies- been down with a 48 hour virus the past few days. Woke up with it yesterday morning and went to work, but did not feel well all day and left early. Came home to nap, and then was up working last night for awhile.
I worked from home today and feeling better now. I plan to go out into the world again tomorrow (but not to the client site).
Good to hear from you Life and hope you are doing okay....
0 -
I'm doing well, Jazzy. Sorry about the virus. My teens also have been fighting a virus for a week. I hope you're feeling well again soon.
I had a checkup at the oncologist's office the other day. Lately my bones have been feeling very stiff. In the morning, when I first wake up, my bones feel locked. I figured I'm just out of shape. ;-) But, at the onc's office, I was told that this is a side effect of arimidex (anastrozole). I was told to take Vit D3 separately because it's supposed to help with that SE.
I was taking Vit D3 separately every day, and I didn't have this SE then. So, I think that advice might be right on the mark.
I'm just sharing the advice I was given, in case anyone else here is experiencing the same SE: Vit D3 might help.
0 -
E- Never a doubt that first sale would come sooner than later. Huge Congrats girl!
Life-glad you are back online and hope all is well in your world and with the boys
Jazzy-do wish you well and hope you feel better soon.
BB, I guess if you joined a NODA program, you could determine when you would be able to sit with someone.
Junie have a safe and wonderful trip.
Melp-continued healing thoughts to you.
Milky....study hardy girl.....and continue on a positive path
Hugs and positive thoughts to all who are reading and need them
I, for some reason, have never struggled with death. I do know that is a unique quality about me. Let me just say...I accept it as a part of life. (although, facing the aging process and getting closer to 50-I am struggling with it all). I do not think it is ever easy...I am a very sensitive soul with a somewhat concrete exterior. But my struggle is when no one has a person to be with, hold their hand or just see that individual on to another path. I am not religious and barely spiritual. I am just sensitive to having a presence in the journey.........Whatever that journey is. It stems from not having a presence in many of my struggles or journeys. I do have a hard time getting close to people and it has been magnified in the last 4-5 years.
My trip.......I left a day early because snow and cold weather was being called for in the region. I found a reasonably priced hotel and really needed to have a brief get-a-way. I got to watch my first Walking Dead original and UGH! realized I needed the other episodes in the season for background. Oh well. Excited anyway.
The facility was more than I could have imagined. The community outpouring of donations and the commitment of the staff and volunteers is amazing. The differences in approaches and philosophies were discussed, but that said, we all come from the same place......
I was speechless on several occasions throughout my visit.......Gosh, I hope they understood that
It rained and rained and rained. All of the activities I wanted to do around the area were mostly outdoor related or the indoor activities were closed on the days I was there. After my 3 1/2 hour visit at the facility I decided to travel a little up the highway, have dinner and travel home........
Dinner was at a BBQ place featured on a travel channel. I found it OK. Not bad, not spectacular. My waiter was a little too attentive, young, talkative, but sweet in his own way.
I started my travel home in the early evening/dark.
Stopped for gas at a truck plaza (prices were much better out of state). Ran into a very young man.....my sons age who was looking for a ride to the next town. I read him the riot act and he said he really hesitated to ask me (a female)....I asked for ID, told him I would confiscate it if I decided to give him and his friend a ride...and proceeded to get coffee to think it over.....DON'T say it. My sister already read me her own riot act. (I have been known to give people rides in the past)..........
I took many precautions and decided to drive the boys to the next town which was not far....
I dropped them off and the one young man asked me to never pick up another hitchhiker again....hahahahaha.......
As I made my way north...the real trouble began.....The temperatures fell...the roads had been wet and had no time to dry.......Black Ice........
There were no fewer than 8 accidents before I stopped driving.
After the 2nd I was really frightened....but then I witnessed all of the other accidents.......
I was sooooo scared I could barely drive, my hands were shaking and I was ready to vomit....
I kept my hazards on and hoped for an exit SOON! I noticed another car about 6 car lengths behind me, following with their hazards on too. I was thankful someone else was following my lead. At times I was going 30-40 in a 70mph zone. Many curves and mountains ......
A rest stop was near and for my sanity I had to stop....
The other car followed me......I was again thankful,,,,,,,I waited for the person to stop and we walked into the rest stop together. The woman said she didn't want to scare me....but felt safe following from a distance as no one else seemed to be as cautious.
Several truckers came in and were staying at the stop for the night. Of course...my new friend D and I had a decision to make......She was heading north as well.........and was not prepared to spend the night anywhere, ......2 truck drivers and a state trooper later she was convinced we had to get to the next exit and spend the night. Be that a hotel or a diner...
the plans were made and we made it a few miles more to the next exit.......
Pulled over and asked what she wanted to do...she said if I was willing..we could split the cost of a room....first stop .....they gave us the last room and reduced our rate by20-30 bucks. Billed us separately and marveled at our story....
The woman could not have been nicer or more respectful.....worked on our laptops, talked and had a good old slumber party.......We grabbed a 6-pack...she is not a drinker but shared a glass of beer. .....She is a little bit older than I and said she just had a good sense of me and felt comfy with the decision we made.....
I, having lost quite a bit of faith in the human race...had a renewed sense of goodwill from another.....
We had a restful night, breakfast, showered, exchanged contact info and made our way to our destinations.....I may have a new mentor as well....
Her family was ever so concerned about her decision and my sister was amazed, but mad about the hitchhikers I rode.
I know I should not do some of the things I do....and in the end I said....if breast cancer didn't kill me............then what am I here for......
My life is boring with a few good stories........a few amazing people I get to meet along the way....a spark of inspiration from those I get to meet.....
I will never achieve great things...but maybe......I can make that tiny difference and experience someone making that tiny difference for me......
No pictures to share this time.....Just a world of gracious people every step along the travel.....I will say.....whatever the joke about people in West Virgina.....just the kindest, most giving people anywhere,,,,next to the peeps from Ohio I drove and the woman I bunked with for the night.....
I wish you all a wonderful week and hope you do not think I am too too weird....
I am just a little gal on the fringe.......wanting fro humanity to be more humane.......and I got that in the last 2 days........10 fold.....
It doesn't take much to rock my world...
I am having my niece over for the weekend and was invited to a 40th b-day dinner for a coworker Thurs.....Life is good......cold but good....
stay safe, warm and much love and warm hugs to all
xoxoxoxoxo
Piper
Be well and safe ladies..
0 -
I could not resist posting this. I know I will get grilled at Thanksgiving dinner with my sister in law and her mom about my lack of dating, boyfriend, lover, spouse, whatever.
0 -
LOL. Oh, Jazzy, it's so true, isn't it? lol
Piper, I loved reading your adventure. Traveling was my passion at one time, and traveling alone always involved some risk. But, when you're lucky enough to meet good people along the way, it makes it all worthwhile. Glad you're safe. As for 50, I'll be seeing that number in a few days, but on the inside I still feel like a 22-year-old. lol
Stay warm, everyone.
0 -
Piper- your trip sounded like quite the adventure. I am glad you made it through everything safely.
I can related to your comment too about getting close to people. I have always found that difficult, perhaps more so since the bc. My time out in the work world is usually enough people time for me. I have had some not good experiences the past six months with some of my supposed friends here.
Life- I take goodly amount of Vit D for bone health. I did not know it helped with the bone aches, but find I am doing better with the SEs and the personal training has helped a lot. My feet still bother me a lot though.
I am going to get a bone density test in the near future to see how my bone health is since I began in March 2013. Have you had a bone density test since you began the AIs?
Oh and what day is your birthday too?
0 -
Life, I am glad the Vit D helps. I took a break from all supplements/vitamins as I am always in a state of "what is mucking with my system?"
That said, with winter upon us, I am going to start taking the D and perhaps magnesium again. (we do give Vit D to our babies for bone health too!!!)
I will have to ask my Onc what their desired range for a persons Vit D level is....I know I have read many like it very high, but I do not know if this is actual evidence based practice. I had my levels checked around the time of DX and while in the "normal range" was lower than some of the levels I have seen floating around on the boards
I think it is a shame there are those who continue to "glamorize" Manson. In my opinion, That young woman has very serious mental issues. I guess we just aren't CRAZY ENOUGH
I am working Turkey day...time and a half and usually holidays tend to be a little quiet as people are late getting moving or leave early for some family functions. We shall see what this year is like.
SOOOOOOOO we could celebrate (Life-you and I are November B-day buddies) and have a little friends=giving
We can all meet here and have a glass of wine, a beer, seltzer water or maybe cocoa I call tonight or sunday night as party night...
OK..everyone share a fav thanksgiving recipe....
I like apple pie instead of cake BTW....Life-what kind of cake or treat do you like for your B-day???
Off to unpack and do laundry.....
I have ignored all of the home projects I had planned while off work.......doesn't it figure the time is getting away from me.
Have a great day ladies...
BBL
Piper
0 -
Good morning ladies- getting my day going and still congested but doing better. I feel like my voice is going though, which a friend who had the same thing warned me about. So no talking today!
Piper- yes, agree about that woman having mental illness issues who is marrying Mason. There are people who attach themselves to famous people, good or bad.
Is your birthday coming up or just past? I hope it is or was good.
I am not sure if I have a favorite Thanksgiving recipe to share, but will share something I am really looking forward to making this year. A pear/walnut/gorgonzola salad. I ordered some Harry and David pears for a cousin of mine who has gone through so much with leukemia treatment and recently broke a leg. In the process, I ordered pears for myself too and going to make the salad with some fresh organic greens, walnuts, crumbled gorgonzola and fresh sliced Harry and David pears. Will drizzle with balsamic dressing. Sounds yummy, doesn't it?
0 -
My B-day is coming up (Turkey Day), however, I am thinking Life is before me.
I do not like to celebrate, never have, though I do enjoy my nieces and nephew fussing over me that day
I was always known for my sweet potatoes.
I found a nice little dessert that is light, tasty and lower in calories. My son loved it. That said I would get extra whipped cream for the layering. Didn't seem I had enough. Perhaps I added extra in the pumpkin mixture. none-the-less...something seasonal yet different. I also get the cream cheese that is part yogurt and it is very yummy!
http://www.skinnytaste.com/2012/10/pumpkin-cheesec...
I am going to a 40th B-day dinner for a coworker tomorrow night at a tex mex place.
I spoke to my sister this morning and found my one niece has no activities this weekend and the other 2 do, so I am taking my niece for Fri and Sat. It has been a long time since I have had her to myself. This is not my mini-me, but the oldest girl. From the time she was a baby, she would always reach out...eventually climb in my car (I always had her car seat ready to go) and tell my sister bah bye! I forget what age...when she was @3-4 she got funny about coming with me. Probably had to do with having a set of twins to compete with. Now they are older the activities get in the way of those frequent over nights I used to have with all of them.
I don't know who's more excited? Me or my niece. hahahaha...I could hear her smiling over the phone.....My sister said she was grinning from ear to ear.....She probably packed today after school.....
Yep she is just that way!
I was thinking of taking her into town for light up night, but unsure what the grand jury decision in the Ferguson, Missouri case might be and what fallout may occur........I don't want to be paranoid (though there have been talks of riots and violence if they decide not to charge the officer) and our city Chief of Police thinks it won't be an issue. But who wants to worry about the possibility. I may just drive down to WV to the Festival of Lights at Oglebay Park. It's only a little over an hour away and the temps are supposed to be warmer this weekend.
http://www.oglebay-resort.com/fol.htm
Okies......off to do nothing......waiting for you all to join my party.....
HAHAHa
0 -
Piper- how fun you will take your niece for part of the holiday time. I bet you are both going to enjoy it equally. Good auntie time!
Got home from some errands and apts and will go take a walk. Not up to a full gym work out yet, but need to get my butt moving a bit more today and a walk is a great way to get back into it.
I am not much into birthday stuff anymore either. Maybe it's because we are single gals. Most of my friends here forget it or don't acknowledge it otherwise. I realized not that long ago I am always the one reaching out, showing up, giving gifts for birthdays with friends here. I have stopped doing that too, a card or birthday wish is enough. A few nicely placed cards from old friends elsewhere are what I look forward to around my birthday. It is the old friends that remember these things. A lot of times, I just go have a spa treatment or something on my b-day, and am very contented with that. I don't need anyone to make a fuss over me. I think I am just grateful to have made it to another year these days.
My sister turned 65 today and told me this morning her motto was "65 and glad to be alive." She too had bc, a more aggressive kind than I had, and just had a follow up yesterday and all is well. So here is to being alive and well ladies! The best birthday gift of all!
0 -
Awesome Jazzy. I forgot to mention I want some of the salad you are making....nom nom nom.
Seems you are feeling a little better?!?!
Wow.......quite an age difference between you and sissy. Is this the sister that is the MD?
Is she retired or retiring soon?
Yes....Auntie time is much needed by both my niece and myself. I waited for a window of opportunity and gently told my sister I was feeling alienated from their lives. I know her schedule sucks but I am more flexible with hours. I went for brunch last Sunday before my road trip. My BIL made a lovely Quiche. My nieces and I did the Wii dance party videos.
They are young for such a short amount of time. I just don't want to miss out on too much of it. They really do mean the world to me.........I have been there since day one.,........with all of them......I used to go to my sisters several times a week before the kiddos started school. If I had a day off, I would spend time with those little cherubs......of course my sister stayed home for 3 years after the twins were born......made it easy for me to visit when I wanted.
The woman I met the other night and bunked with is from Ohio, but now lives in NC. Her and her hubby built a log cabin home and love their new digs. She messaged me and said there is a place for $25 per night right down the road from her. I think I can afford that deal and get to see my new friend. You know Jazzy........When I met her I thought... you 2 may be very much alike.;....
A feeling I have.
OK...who else is joining the party.....I start early but cannot make it too late...I feel like I am fading already....
Must be all that take out sushi I devoured.
0 -
hi ladies need an opinion had my nipple recon in aug one nipple shape is ok other one is kind of flat.should i tell her to make it again anybody face the same problem
0 -
Piper- yes, I am feeling better. I actually got an end of the day walk in today and that felt good. With all the personal training I have been doing, I really miss when I cannot move my body. Yesterday I was really in bed a lot, not moving a whole lot, but today I will hit my 10K steps on the new Vivofit and it felt good to be outside in some fresh hair. This was not anything bad, just something that has had me congested for a few days. But I have learned when things come on, to slow down and take lots of Vit C, drink fluids, get a lot of sleep. No more pushing it when I get sick. BC taught me to put me first.
Yes, there is an 11 year difference between sissy and myself. We had a brother between us but he passed away 22 years ago. So it's just us and neither of us have kids. We say we are the end of this line of this branch of the family tree. And yes, she is the MD. She is planning to retire next year at 66 when she gets full Social Security. They have been trying to decide if they will stay in Cali or move somewhere else. She wants to stay near to her medical community for now, so there could be a move once she is past her five years. Southern CA will be too expensive to stay in for retirement long term.
My brother had an adopted son who is 25, and in the Army in Kentucky. I was thinking today as I popped a belated birthday gift to him in the mail, that I really want to see him next year. It has been five years since I saw him, but he has been overseas for the most part, and I was also not able to do much for awhile. I was thinking I might see if he wants to meet me when he can get some leave too meet up in Nashville. I have not been there in years and we could have some fun there. I would like to see my young man, he was 20 the last time I saw him and understand he has grown up a lot since.
Milky- I wish I could help you, but maybe some of the other gals here can or maybe on one of the recon threads?
0 -
oh yes Jazz, I remember a little of your sister now...and mentioning your nephew.
Gosh, I was less than 20 miles from KY just a few days ago.
If you aren't happy with it then checking in with your surgeon would be a good idea. Is this the original surgeon or another (I cannot remember)
There a quite a few threads on nipple recon. Mine was a share from the good side. I never had issues with flattening.
One of my old coworkers had a baby a month ago. She had experienced 2 miscarriages prior to this pregnancy so this little boy is welcomed and loved beyond belief. Her labor and delivery was pretty bad, yet she kept on smiling through it all. I sent a text to little mommy to see if I could visit her and Little A before I pick up my niece (she lives pretty close to my sister). Lucky me!!! I get to see them on Friday afternoon. I just adore this coworker. She is insanely smart, kind, a smarta$, a great nurse and really funny....When I was readmitted with cellulitis after my MX, she came and sat with me for several hours after having worked all night. When she had one of her miscarriages, I was working. She was following me. She came in and I could tell something was wrong. She had just started bleeding. I stayed. while she phoned her doc and went to the ER. There are very few people in this world I have great trust in. Her and I are years apart in age, but she is a good person. She has stood up for me and we have felt each others pain in different ways. Sometimes I wish I were younger. There are several younger coworkers I admire and think I would have been friends with in my other life time. I think of myself as the favorite aunt or even a second mom to some these days........how funny....I was always the one the older ladies looked out for.
Now I am that person. Life ...you said it best..........My mind is still thinking I am 20-something instead of my chronological age.
hahahaha
I am grateful for the young ladies keeping me younger in my mind at least!!!!
0 -
Piper- I was at a conference years ago in Santa Fe and having dinner at a bar there one evening. I was sitting next to these two older gentleman who were enjoying some cocktails and we got to chatting. Both of these men looked like they were somewhere in their early sixties. As we got talking, I learned one of them was actually 80 years old. It was stunned, he looked great and seemed 20 years younger his true age. I had a great conversation with him about what he thought was the secret to aging gracefully and keeping one's youthfulness as best you can?
His response was "always have people in your life who are younger than you. That can be children, nieces and nephews, you friends children, and definitely have friends who are a generation or more behind you. Being around younger people keeps you youthful." I think that is good advice so if you have people around you that are younger and you feel a connection, keep them in your life. I may not be able to do everything with my younger friend (especially the partiers), but I definitely learn a lot from them and they make me laugh!
I also think people who show up for us are really people we need to keep around. This gal sounds like she went through much to get to this point of having a healthy baby. I am sure she will be so happy to share her little bundle of joy with you. And nobody better than you as you love them babies! You two are connected, keep it going!
0 -
Good night friends!
0 -
Oh, no, did I miss a party here? :-( I hope we all can arrange to have a party here another night. :-)
Piper - A pm about birthdays is on its way to you in a few minutes.
Great photo, Jazzy. Very relaxing.
Milky, I opted out of recon nipples, so unfortunately I can't help, either. I'm still hoping for tattoos, though, if I can ever afford them.
0 -
For any of you who have ACA plans through the open market, be sure if you are renewing on your plan that your doctors are all still in network (and as we know, we have a few doctors these days). I checked today on my plan, and found out my primary care doc is not taking my PPO plan next year, although all my other docs are in network. I am going to change my plan to an HMO plan that will work with her and all the others. I will be adding that of my list of to-dos this weekend.
I knew to do this last year when I picked a new plan to verify the doctors are still in network, and was reminded the other day by the news to check the doctors for the renewals on the plans (first time since ACA went into effect), so the bottom line is, they may renew your current plan but you may loose things so look carefully!
0 -
hi ladies here I am again, it's been a few crazy days for me driving a lot just getting all the docs for my deal, lol very happy I got the financial well almost all done everything should work out. I am so tired tonight I am at my friends Julie and jacques and their dog. They invited me for dinner tonight and sleep over.I have to drop off my car tmw to get fix cuz the right engine mount broke. Well my car is like a Pandora box lol full of surprises.
MILKY I am glad you are ok regarding the recon yes get it fix. I have an appointment on Dec 02 with my plastic surgeon to ask for infection or cortisone in one of my breastfeeding scar cuz it's bothering me, it's getting thick and red so i ll beg him to give me injection to help it.
I feel we need to try get what ever it's bothering us fix for once and for all lol
Bb, I am so exhausted but still smiling. Not much fun at my real job butte real estate is going good so far. I have been making hats and gloves for people too since weather is brutal.
Sister is very depressed and upset all the time, she has lots of Se ;(
Piper thanks for sharing your trip with us I think itsblike been there with you.
Jazz, life hope you feel better too cold and flue seam yo be in the air.
Hope you all have a good night
0 -
Enerva- good to hear from you and glad the real estate deal is coming together. Yay! The other job is just there and you can dump that once you are further along in your real estate career. I have done plenty of jobs and contracts in my life for specific reasons, like cash, etc. You sound good, but very tired and hope you can rest today.
And sorry to hear your sister is having a tough time. I know you said she had a bad time before on chemo. Hugs.
0
