Single life after a mastectomy
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ok, I read a few pages, welcome to the new ladies.
First I have to tell life my hair is also getting thin and it worries me, I will start taking iron since I know my iron is low.very low and since I am no taking tamoxifen or any other drug I think it must be iron doing the hair loss.
Ok so work was brutal, it took 3 days to get access setup to the different systems and also I felt the tension from the people staring and a few noisy people asked me a few questions and I just said, yes I was away sick but I am fine now, it's all good and in the past.I left it at that and changed the subject. I did not enjoy been back that is the truth.
My other job is so nice, people are so friendly and easy, even though I am not making money there I feel I wish it was my full time job.
So for now I work 3 days a week then next week it ll be 4 days and in Nov back to full time. I still play the lotto hoping for a way out of the hell job.
With respect to my sis the biopsy confirm cancer in the new tumor so she ll have to do chemo then surgery no idea why are they using chemo again and not taking the tumor out fast.
I also went on a date with the guy I met and had a great time but I made it clear I am too busy know and I rather not start seen someone yet. So not sure I ll see him again. I just feel like I don't really want any man in my life right now.
Well that about all I have been working 3 days downtown and 2 days at my new job.
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hi ladies had busy time socializing .last week end i had religious celebration.I went to cinema with my friends life will gonna be slow n dull in winters .mid term is next week need to study .oh yes i took one painting class it work like therapy for me.
Enerva i m glad you are back to normal eat well and rest you just had surgery .i think its ok to have a man in life atleast something s better than nothing it will help to feel good about your self .
Lifes wonder.jazzygirl.thankx for remembering me.
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I like the second painting Milky! Nice therapeutic work and share.
I forgot....Happy belated Thanksgiving to all of our Canadian Ladies
I have been up since 4am yesterday. Working a 12hr night turn
Realized my proposal was riddled with typos. (I was too tired to proof) It was only the initial draft and I only sent a preliminary copy to my mentor.
I have a brief moment to write as my sweet babies are slumbering (Though nor for long)
I cannot wait for bedtime!!!
E-Now who did you have a date with? Someone different or the dude that you were upset with?
I am lost.
Junie sorry bout the Ex-factor.
So..the guy from HS is someone I really didn't know or remember. He recently moved back to the area after being in the south for years. Prior to moving back, when he would was in town some HS peeps would get together. I did not know many in this crowd, but had 1 HS friend I would tag along with.Of course everyone friends the other on FB and I would get an occasional message from this guy. Last time he was in town we (the small group) went to a local restaurant for drinks ( I met up with everyone after work), He moved back and again we were to all meet up a couple of weeks ago. . I was working and said I would meet up later. I never did. That was my PMS week and I was feeling like crap and desired nothing more than to be a HERMIT!!!! I also skipped on a party at my friends that same weekend. Anyhow.......Got a few messages I was missed at the happy hour and since then we have exchanged numbers. Neither of us had used them til the other night I decided to send a quick text.
Now we have plans for dinner and a movie. I am nervous.
I am sure we will enjoy our time together. I am equally afraid of hurting someone as being hurt. YEP-It isn't just the guys who do the hurting-us ladies do it too and I suppose I am a little sensitive about it. SHHHHHHH
Do not tell anyone.
OK enough rambling
I need to go feed the little cherubs.
Hope everyone is resting well.
Have a wonderful day
xoxoxoxox
Piper
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Hi ladies- just a quick pop in to say hi as I get ready for another busy day at work.
Enerva- I am so sorry to hear they found another bc tumor with your sisters tests. Maybe they need to shrink the tumor first before they remove it? That is the way they treated my sister's cancer.
I am also sorry the people at work are so icky too. I think you handled your response perfectly. I work in a culture at my client site that is very nosy and people are always digging for information about what I am up to? I am keeping more tight lipped than ever these days. I hope the other works blooms into something more full time so you can move away from this one you are doing for the cash. Just remember you are doing the old one for some income as you follow your dream to the new one.
June- how uncomfortable for you sister to be contacted by your ex for info on how you are doing. Do you know what she said to him? I am sure you still think about him too, I bet there were good times even though it may not have ended so well. I really hate being triangulated for info about other people too. If you really want to know how someone is, pick up the phone and call them.
Milky- glad you are doing well and thank you for sharing your lovely pics. Good luck with the exams!
June- you have lots going on! I hope the document you are working on gets finished up well, and that there is good feedback from your efforts. I am also curious to know where you may relocate as you decide you are ready to start a new chapter. Your son sounds like he is being a challenge and maybe he just needs to go out into the world and find out what his behaviors get him there? I am also glad you spent some time with the family that lost 3 of their children. I think you and they both need that connection.
I am pushing hard to get some things done on this new contract before I head up to the bay area for a professional conference next week. Looking forward to that community and going to be networking for some better work opps in 2015.
Wishing everyone a good Tuesday!
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Enerva & Milky - Thanks for checking in. :-)
Enerva - Good for you in being straightforward with your date. He probably appreciated it, too.
And maybe your theory is right. I've always had a problem with low iron levels myself. I've noticed there are over-the-counter vitamins that support healthy hair growth. Maybe they're worth a try.
So sorry to hear your sister is still going through this mess. I hope the chemo works to shrink this new tumor. She's been through so much already.
Milky - Love the paintings. It sounds like you've been having fun getting together with friends. That's great to hear. :-)
Piper - Good luck with the new job prospect and the date. :-)
Jazzy - You enjoy your Tuesday, too. Good luck with everything!
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E-I am glad you have your other job to look forward to and are working hard to make that your regular job.
Sorry to hear about your sissy. Hugs
How ya feeling Lili?
Jazz-hope the job site is ok. Great conference/trip to look forward to!.Woke up early and now staying awake as I am expecting a call from my unit director
xoxoxoxo to all the single ladies
and have a wonderful day
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Hi everyone!! hope everyone is doing well.
jazzy - i don't know what she told him, i just said i don't want to know anything about him.
E - i am so sorry. how is she handling?
BB - how are you doing?
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Hi hermit- rough day at work but I got through it. The honeymoon is over. Some of the people I cannot stand reared their ugly heads today. Fortunately I am off and switching gears and doing some entrepreneurial consulting tomorrow as well as personal training, my class, etc.
June- wise move. I never want to know anything about my ex's even when I run into them and they feel a need to purge themselves of all their goings on, including their women. Save it for someone who cares......
Piper- sent you a PM!
Hope everyone is doing okay.
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hi, well my sister is taking it well, I mean she is calm everyone else is eating their nails and we are all very worry also cuz she has a lot of pain and that scares us. But she is still positive and fighting like a good gal so let hope.
Tmw I go back to the bad job and we'll I am staring at my ceiling now trying to meditate and hoping it ll go fast tmw.
I get this feeling in my stomach every night before going back there.
On the other hand I gave lots of my business cards to my mechanic and a computer store today lol
They offer to given them out for me
I really hope I get some buyer client soon so I do a deal and start making back the over 5 k I spent on this new career so far
I am so broke now. That's the main reason why I can leave the other job. I really need to get a regular pay. When been on long term I was only getting 60% of my salary I have no clue how I survived. It's going to take a wile to pay my debt now. I am trying not to even think about it.Good night ladies I a glad every body is well
Oh Ya the date is with a new man I was introduced to. I was not going to see him cuz i understood he may want kids. And I had the conversation and told him I can't. Now he invited me out again so I guess he is ether not caring about the kids thing or he may just want to get to know me I have no idea. I decided to go out one more time justice find out what is he looking for.
I ll let you all know on the weekend.
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Enerva- sorry the job you are doing gives you angst. I can relate based on some of the things I have to deal with going back to my client site. Just keep telling yourself that you are doing this to make money while you build your dream of doing what you really want to do. You will dig out of the debt stuff too once you get making income again. And that first real estate sale is coming. Can you take a break and do a short walk at work during the day? I did that yesterday and will continue to do so just to be able to shift gears.....
I hope your sister can get through the next round of treatments. I am sorry she is having pain.
Well, good to know up front what the guy is looking for so you can decide if you want to spend your time to meet him or not.
Must get my day going. Not at the client site but many other things to do. Wishing everyone a good hump day....
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ok have any of you heard about chemo pills? Called xeloda 500 mg. Apparently since they know the real chemo does not work on my sis the onco ll give her those pills for 14 days. I never heard that chemo is also in pills. Wth?
I ll now investigate this in the Internet I do not believe it
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How does Xeloda work? What will it do for me?
Capecitabine belongs to the group of cancer-fighting medications known as antineoplastics, and specifically to the group of antineoplastics known as antimetabolites.Capecitabine fights cancer by killing cancer cells and preventing their growth. Capecitabine is usually used alone or in combination with other medications to treat certain types of breast cancer and colorectal cancer.
This medication may be available under multiple brand names and/or in several different forms. Any specific brand name of this medication may not be available in all of the forms or approved for all of the conditions discussed here. As well, some forms of this medication may not be used for all of the conditions discussed here.
Your doctor may have suggested this medication for conditions other than those listed in these drug information articles. If you have not discussed this with your doctor or are not sure why you are taking this medication, speak to your doctor. Do not stop taking this medication without consulting your doctor.
Do not give this medication to anyone else, even if they have the same symptoms as you do. It can be harmful for people to take this medication if their doctor has not prescribed it.
How should I use Xeloda?
The recommended dose of capecitabine varies according to body size. You may need to take a combination of 150 mg and 500 mg tablets. Capecitabine is normally given in 2 equal doses twice a day for 2 weeks followed by a rest period of one week. This cycle is repeated until treatment is complete, as assessed by your doctor.
Capecitabine tablets should be swallowed with water within 30 minutes after the end of a meal.
Many things can affect the dose of a medication that a person needs, such as body weight, other medical conditions, and other medications. If your doctor has recommended a dose different from the ones listed here,do not change the way that you are taking the medication without consulting your doctor.
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As well as interfering with the growth of cancer cells, capecitabine can interfere with some of your normal cells. This can cause a number of side effects such as mouth sores. Keep track of any side effects and report them to your doctor as suggested in the section, "What side effects are possible with this medication?"
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Ok so this is completely news to me.
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well who knows hope it works
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Enerva- I have heard of chemo via pills before and think there are people who do it that way as some are unable to do the infusion type, which I think is always what they prefer. Maybe they are going to try this to see if your sister can better tolerate it. Have you thought about creating a new thread to ask other women on bco if they have done it and the pros and cons?
BB- sorry about you having to go down the Medicaid path. Hugs sister.
Back to the client site today and lots to do as I will be away next week for a conference and won't be back there until Thursday again. My tuesday there was difficult, but planning to have a better day today. I need to not let certain people get under my skin who are just unprofessional on every level.
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I think the goal for the Obama care was the preventative measure....like annual checkup. Once you need it for the tx it's another story. That's just my understanding.
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Enerva - I've heard of Xeloda because there is colon cancer in my family, too. As a matter of fact, I remember pleading with the doctors to let my father try Xeloda. (They refused.) It's a pill that converts to a chemo known as "5-FU" when you take it.
I see that BC.org has more information on its use for breast cancer at this link:
http://www.breastcancer.org/treatment/druglist/xeloda
Maybe the Xeloda will do the job for your sister.
BB - I used to know and talk with a divorced woman here in our state, and she told me that, in her divorce case, the court ordered that the state had to provide her with medical insurance.
BTW, I feel the same way about it - I hate the idea of ever relying on the government for anything. But if the time ever comes... well...
E - Hugs for your sister.
All - Have a good weekend.
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This week has been uber stressful. To the point I want to quit my job and run away. It's a long story, however, this project seemed to have put me in an awkward position with another department and a few volunteers and coworkers. Not many details I want to go into, although, my management team backed me up. I was so stressed I skipped the conference at my facility. I just couldn't take another day of that place. I am so over it. Anywhoooooooooooooooooo
On the bright, I spent the day off running errands, cleaning and cooking dinner.
I am not a big TV person. Do not even have cable, but I bought a 48" Sanyo display model for 40% off. It was 20% off. I waited a long time to decide because They didn't have it hooked up to view and the other model I was looking at was missing it's cables, booklet and remote. So I asked if there was any more wiggle room on the price and they gave me an additional 20% off. I got the 48" for the same price as the 40". I felt pretty good about asking and receiving some comp for my patience and time....
My friend brought a nice selection of craft beer, movies and snacks. He is very thoughtful and funny too!
We had our pre-dinner cocktails, then dinner on my back deck as it was a lovely evening. We went for a walk around my hood and watched Slumdog Millionaire has never seen it.
We talked and talked. He had to work today so he left around midnight, which was good because I was tired after such a long week and day.
I know we will be seeing each other again. He just sent me a text saying he would like to see me again.
Will just take it one day at a time.
But I feel good about our friendship. Relaxed and stress-free.
Nice for once. And he is a good guy.
I go into work at 3am. weird shift I know. I am covering for another gal who wanted the day off.
Have a wonderful weekend ladies
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Piper
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piper - wow, the date seemed so nice and relaxing....
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ok I was watching a stand up to cancer program and learned there is a new treatment which is very effective, called inmunotherapy? Hummm I wish I knew about this before even for myself.
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Piper- sorry about the stressful week at work, I can relate after my experiences at my client site this week. Glad you had your management back you up.
And what a nice date you had. Sounds like a good friday night all the way around. You deserve some nice male companionship.
Enerva- I have not heard about that therap,y but think it sounds very good. The oncologists I have talked to say it is something in our environment that "flips the switch" for cancer treatment. Whether it is stress, environmental factors, etc., I think it an integrative approach is a great evolution.
Keep us posted on your sister too. Hoping the meds they are giving her will help.
Packing for my trip/conference that begins on Monday, and then will be going out later today for errands and exercise.
Hope is having a good start to the weekend.
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ok I was watching a stand up to cancer program and learned there is a new treatment which is very effective, called inmunotherapy? Hummm I wish I knew about this before even for myself.
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on Issels® »Issels® Integrative Oncology, or Immuno-Oncology, is a very comprehensive, holistic, approach. Our highly personalized treatment programs focus with equal importance on both the cancer tumor and the cancer patient's internal environment which promotes the tumor growth.
Issels® experienced cancer specialists integrate advanced immunotherapy protocols with cancer vaccines, cytokines and cell therapies, which activate the cellular immunity, into our comprehensive immunobiologic core treatment in order to enhance all of the body's very complex defense mechanisms and optimize the results. This comprehensive strategy distinguishes the Issels® immunotherapy decisively from the mere administration of a vaccine.
Over 40 video testimonials
Our personalized treatment protocols also integrate novel research-based gene-targeted cancer therapies into the immunobiologic core program based on individual requirements. We offer specialized and personalized treatment protocols of standard cancer therapies if needed and still possible.
The Issels Difference is Our Innovation,
Long-Term Experience and Results in Treating CancerIssels Integrative Oncology, with individualized immunotherapy as its main pillar, was developed at the world's first specialized hospital with 120 beds solely dedicated to holistic cancer treatment including effective alternative therapies. This unique facility researched and employed immunotherapy, which is now considered the most advanced cancer treatment.
Issels Doctors Provide Extensive Follow-Up Even After Tumor Remission
We invite you to find out more about our individualized intensive cancer protocols , use of proven alternative cancer treatments, and our extensive history in helping cancer patients
achieve complete long-term remission over years, and even decades.We encourage you to watch Video Testimonials or watch videos from patients and cancer survivors at YouTube .
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Adenocarcinoma , Bone Cancer , Breast Cancer , Cervical Cancer , Colon Cancer , Embryonal Teratoma , Kidney Cancer , Liver Cancer , Lung Cancer , Lymphoma , Mediastinal Cancer , Melanoma , Optic Nerve Cancer , Ovarian Cancer , Osteosarcoma , Pancreatic Cancer , Prostate Cancer , Rhabdomyosarcoma , Sarcoma , Squamous Cell Cancer , Stomach Cancer , Teratoma , Testicular Cancer , Thyroid Cancer , Uterine Cancer , and many other early and late stage cancers.
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Piper:
After all the battles and wars in a personal basis that we have endured, work is work. I do not mean to imply that our work is not meaningful, and many people depend on us, but sometimes it just sucks!
On a positive note, your evening and connection with your friend sounds wonderful!
Enjoy and simmer in the thoughts of new possibilities.
Lisa
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Lili-RI- boy I can relate to that. When I deal with the difficult ones at this one client site I do a lot of work for, I often think to myself how much self created drama and misery people make over nothing. Work is work, and most of the time, I just see it as an income stream, nothing more.
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ok so, I did another open house today and it was seven slower only one couple showed up. Well it's OK I guess it's now cold so people are not going to open houses. Any way I just took a sleeping pill hoping to rest I don't get good sleep the night before my bad job. The reason I feel bandits cuz I have no direction no training no guidance and it feels so terrible to sit at a desk all day teaching myself all kind of task I used to work at before are not longer what I am supposed to do now I am in a new team of coap estydents and I am lost. Well I have been there before so k am trying to get by for now.
I get there and pray the hours to go by fast and the day goes so slow.
My sister is starting her new pills this week, unreal they still did not start.
I am worry but keep thinking it will be OK
My lady from Miami never received the package
I hope it returns to me. One day Hoping everybody is well.
The guy and I had a chat and it's clear he does wants kids and it is a deal breaker he said he want to see me this weekend N I said no. I told him I honestly don't want to invest time with someone whom I won't see long term. To forgive me but I have been there done that and that he should go and meet the young lady whom maybe be able to give him a family. So be it that's that.
I am to honest now.and the bs where they wanted spend time but u are nonetheless one, sorry I can't do it.
Good night ladies
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Enerva- I am glad you told the guy who wants kids you won't see him again. I agree if that is a deal breaker for him, everyone should be free to move on. This is something I really cannot stand about men- trying to keeping you on the hook while they look for something else. It took me years to figure out that game, but once I know we are not on the same page, I like to wrap it up and move on myself.
Glad you got another open house under your belt, but sorry the new work/old company is so stressful. Just remember you are rebuilding your life now and that is not easy. Your org sound as bad as the place I am working again (I just deal with nasty women at mine).
Let us know how your sister does on the new meds. I hope they will help her to beat this second tumor.
I am up early and leaving in another 90 min for the airport. I did not sleep well myself, very typical the night before I fly and with a morning flight. I will have some time to relax at the hotel this afternoon though before the reception tonight.
Have a good week everyone.
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jazz good luck on your presentation, thanks for the picture I bet milky loves it lol
I am on the go train now thinking about what will i say on this morning meeting its so stupid they have a big meeting every Monday morning in which everybody must say what have the accomplished the past week and what is their plan for the next. I feel like telling them I have accomplished nothing and k will no accomplish anything this week if I have no clue as per what I am supposed to be doing. But I can't I have to stand up there look nice and say I have been reviewing all documents related to the issues and also going over the learning presentation documents hoping that all my access and set up will be up and running today so I can start integrating some issues solutions. Black black bla I am stressed even by talking in front of all those a s h o l e s. Honestly I am in hell there useless place for any new crew member. Plus I am not doing my old desk so now I am learning by myself looking through papers I can't stand it
My sister is still waiting she did not start her pills yet. Apparently her cardiology must figure out what can she take for blood pressure will on those chemotherapy pills
Any how my other sis arrives to Cancun tmw. I am worry and exciting for her.
Have a great week, I did not get a seat a the train so I feel so sick now ;(
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