The Hermit Club
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I can't remember if I've posted on this one or not! Ha! That's pretty bad .. I read a lot but don't always sign in. Just wanted to stop by and say hello. Frey, I feel a lot like you do. ;-)
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Thanks Teka!
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Hi All. It's been a while since I've checked in here. I've actually been making a concerted effort to get out more or have people over and 3 week-ends in a row I engaged in social activities! Last weekend we brought our daughter to check out Alfred University in New York and it's a 7-hour drive each way so it was a looooong weekend. But it was kind of fun just being around lots of families and meeting some of the kids who were either current students or prospective ones.
I'm back in hermit mode now and that's ok. I'm proud that I made an effort.
Lily, I know exactly how you're feeling (well probably not EXACTLY) as I was right there a few weeks ago. It was the one year "anniversary" of my diagnosis. Lots of tears and "what ifs" and self-doubt and a little "woe is me." I wrote a lengthy Caring Bridge post about how I was feeling and how I don't have the patience for anyone's BS, that I feel disfigured and lied to. It took a few days but I got through it. I suspect that will happen from time to time. I just keep reminding myself that I'm still here...HUGS
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Maybe it isn't such a bad thing to stay in a hermit mode as long as we feel we need to .. so long as we don't stay there. But believe me,, during the last few months, I've had my share of pity parties. I can get so down, I can't see up! I think it's all part of it .. I would love to join Live Strong or something, but then I think .. I don't have the energy, am way too slow moving, too heavy, I might fall, or pull something, am I too old, would I feel intimidated, what would I wear, etc! Believe me, I can think up every excuse there is! So I still haven't asked about it at the local Y, but hope to eventually. By the time I decide to check into it, I probably WILL be too old.
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Welcome Kitty!
Teka- lovely photo of the pear tree. My read oak is beginning to deepen and will post it soon!
Kbella- hugs sister on your anniversary or "cancerversary" as one sister I know from here calls it. I have all the dates firmly ingrained in my mind from cancer dx, to surgery dates, to radiation dates, to when I started the AIs. It is like someone branded those dates into my brain forever. Hermiting is what we need to do to protect ourselves during all this. Three years out, I still do it a lot even though I have to be out and about a lot with my work/consulting biz.
Your outing to the city for the college visit sounded so nice too. I love the city in the fall (originally from the east coast.....)
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Sue- welcome to our Hermit thread! Whether people are out and about (I have to be with my consulting work), or at home more, we all value our quiet time. I have always balanced my social time with solo time, but became more of a hermit during treatment and recovery.
Pets are always nice company, no judgement or unsolicited advice like with people, right?
We too try to be a judgement free zone and hope you like it here!
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Teka- I like the green bulb idea. My front lights are not easy to do that with unfortunately.
For anyone here who served or is serving current in our military, I humbly thank you.
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Hi suersis, welcome .. I'm not really a social butterfly either .. never have been! It's been a big adjustment for me since hubby's retirement. So happens it was right at my being dx'd for BC too, so it's been a double whammy .. as far as adjusting to some kind of new normal. I really do value some time alone to think, reflect back, pray and just be me. My cat actually understands me better than anybody, I think! Glad you are happy with your situation and fur babies! They are the best!
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Leaving the green light bulbs up is a great idea. Ours are hard to replace too, though.
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Welcome Sue.......I currently live with 7 animals and lots of hair!
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Teka- funny you should mention Italian. I am trying to lure some friends who are originally from the east coast, but have lived in CT for 30 years (now here in my city) to a place I just love that has a family out of NYC who opened this fab restaurant. I was by there the other day and said "why am I not going there more?" Hopefully friday the 20th!
I want a full report on dinner and if you are a foodie geek like me, take pictures!
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Teka- I LOVE that dish. When I went to the wedding in upstate NY last month, we had that dish at our hotel the first night, and it was incredibly good. I am trying to learn how to make pork oso buocco now, and want to make it for the family for Xmas.
I hope it was as good as your taste buds were looking forward to!
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I enjoy my own company too.
I live out of town and even before my diagnosis I usually only went out 1 day a week.
Volunteering for a local charity one morning a week, then shopping in the afternoon.
Hubby is not a social butterfly either. Works for us.
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Smurfette- welcome to our thread!
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Thanks so much Jazzygirl
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Fall trees in my yard doing there thing. Top one is the ash tree and bottom is the chinese pistache tree.
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Gorgeous colours Jazzygirl. We are 2 weeks out from Summer here in Aus.
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Smuf- ah, summer down under! What part of Australia do you live in, if you want to share? I have yet to get there, but do want to pay a visit to your beautiful country some day!
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Jazzygirl I live approx 30klms outside a small town in North West New South Wales.
Population 7,500.
It's an agricultural region. Wheat, Cotton, Chick Peas
Haven't always lived here. Just 6 years this time and less than a year in the 1980's. Hubby's job took us around the state.
The climate is very hot. In fact heatwave conditions are forecast for later in the week.
Supposed to be 41 deg C on Thurs, that's 105.8 F and hotter on Friday with temps reaching 43 C (109.4 F)
It's not even summer yet. February is our hottest month.
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Smuf- you have weather like Phoenix AZ and Palm Springs, CA from the sounds of it. I know a lot of Australia is hot!
Teka- too bad about them not having the pork dish.
New Mexico got lots of snow yesterday!
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Here in the desert, the snow does not last long in the valley. It evaporates. We never get the piled snow on the side of the road like back east. The mountain roads do though, they are the ones that need the plows.
Mountains in town got 11 inches! We need moisture always. Going to be a snowy one this year. Excited to snow shoe!
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Teka- I had to give up downhill skiing in my 40s as my knees were "talking to me." Andrew Weill who is the holistic doc says when your body tells you a sport is hurting, find another one. So I started snow shoeing. I also cross country ski too!
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Feeling proud to be english tonight as we stood tall in the face of terrorists with dignity and grace......we had lots of experience with the IRA in the past......
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After the storm
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Haunted by that beautiful dog blown to pieces today by the female terrorist in Paris, may she suffer without limit forever. She chose to blow herself up, that dog (a female) was helping to keep humans safe .............................it probably seems miles away for you all over there but its all too close here especially as ISIS have vowed to re-capture Andalucia in Spain.........and boats arrive on the shores daily.........
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Lilly- we are all very worried here in the US. We know how bad things are in France and all over Europe. They are worried about attacks in NYC.
I have a cousin who lives in Paris with her husband and they were okay as of last Friday evening, but believe they have left the country. They go somewhere else for the winter.
Hugs to everyone around the world. This is happening to all of us.
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what I mean is they have Andalusia on their map of countries / zones they will take for their caliphate, not just an attack, and boats arrive almost dail
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Teka- that all sounds very yummy! I like that you do it early! And always fun to do something non traditional for Thanksgiving.
Back in 1988, I was on a trip to Venezuela with some friends over Thanksgiving week. We ended up having dinner at a wonderful vegetarian restaurant. Memorable to this day!
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Teka- having a holiday in another country is a very cool experience. I always wanted to do Xmas somewhere like Europe, South America, etc. It could still happen. That being said, I am very happy to be home this holiday weekend given all the terror alerts, etc. I am watching right now on the evening news. Hoping everyone here who may be traveling is safe along their journey.
Turkey was procured today and in the fridge.
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