STFU (Shut the F*** UP)
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After several disasters in the early 80's , it was found that strenuous physical activity after an event within twenty four hours, that it had a major impact on how someone recovered physically and psychologically. This was with EMS personnel, but I've found that it works well in this situation too. The effects were measureable up to a year later.. Sorry that sounds so clinical, but a bit of exercise today will clear the mind and help begin the healing process. Another thing that was found is that people wanted to pull away from their usually activities. and that it was important to allow time for grieving , but to keep involved too. Here the natural tendency is to want to take a break or leave entirely. Real thoughts and feelings, Veggy would be the first to say hold on to each other.
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Chickie love that pix how beautiful is that....
congrats on the end of rads...
Can't believe about Veggy, my thoughts and prayers go out to her family and her family here...she was a wonderful woman....worried about Granny tho....hope she checks in soon.....
welcome newbies....Ok the surgeon said that they are doing an open lung biopsy which means they.are taking a biopsy of the like from the surface in...that will tell them hopefully what the deal is but they think it is the chemo who knows what then, changing chemo I guess...it is supposed to happen next week and I will be in the hospital for a couple of days..you all will lbe in my pocket...
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Grieving is part of the Circle of Life.........everyone does it in their own way, and in their own time......I found that out the hard way.........however you handle it is an individual thing, and no study or clinical finding matters when you lose someone you love........what matters is they are gone from your life......and you miss and grieve for that loss.........
We love you Veggy, and will miss you dearly......in time we will heal......and go on.....0 -
Its awesome how we can bond not in person....you ladies are so special to me and you all make it possible for me to keep moving forward.
I love all of you!
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I shall rake many leaves today because I want to heal and do it quickly. So sad to say it, but there will be others to grieve for and even someday, hopefully someone will grieve for me. I do think it is so.......I think it is something like forcing a little expansion as we and our bodies and spirits want to close ranks so to speak when something painful or very hard to comprehend jumbles us around a bit --- easier to find the way when we get out of ourselves for a bit......then we can be still terribly sad but more EVEN about it.
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I did some of that too Teka! She and I were most recently discussing our too silly sons! It was nice to go to the Big Girl Panties thread and put a face to a name, but so sad.....
Blondie in your pocket for sure! Hope all goes smoothly and they get you feeling better quickliest!
Shells, how is DH since his fall?0 -
I am locking the door to the basement. Nobody is allowed down there again.....0 -
Teka.....did the same thing......
I use to tell Veggy when things got really tough I would wear suspenders on my "Big Girl Panties"......she loved that.......
I feel so bad for Granny.....this has hit her hard.....keep her in your prayers too......they were so close....we were planning to get together, now that we were all in Pa.......it was easier for me.....just drive, not a lot of walking......or trains.....so sad
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I chatted with Granny - She has the comfort of her grands that all knew Veggy. She is very sad but ok.
Figured a bit of good news
would be good with all the crying going on (including me
) I really miss chatting with Veggy.. Anyway the good news: My trans-vaginal US came back normal. Labs are good. My MO told me to work with my PCP for the dizzy and nausea issue and he will see me in a year.0 -
Gma.........great news ......negative tests "rock"
Yes, have spoken to Granny several times through this whole thing.....she is heart broken, but holding up......she is a tough broad, my Firecracker, but a marshmallow when she loves you and your hurting...
.My Grayson is an example .......her prayers helped my little angel take her first steps yesterday assisted by a Gait Walker from CHOP...........it was only 4 steps, but her first 4 of many more, we hope...(some know her story from when she was born.....
4........lock that door
Chickie......we are unique...love from a distance0 -
Teka, I saw that pic, it was great!
Great news Gma!0 -
Ducky - great news about Grayson taking her 1st steps and yes the first of many.
Gma - well progress is very good news. How has the ear crystal exercises gone?
Spookie - how's the sinkhole coming? Sad for those people.0 -
Thanks Luv.....we are joyful.....she is a fighter......my grandaughter said when she goes in her Gait Walker she looks around so lovingly, like she is seeing everything for the first time and not from a reclining position, or laying on her back completely...."It's 2 1/12 years watching her twin sister being the one who is mobile.....now they can stand side by side.0 -
Not very well - they seem to make me so nauseous that it makes me throw up. And then I'm still dizzy and nauseous.
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Gma, maybe you should try drinking! It makes me dizzy sometimes. Maybe it will make you undizzy
Seriously though not trying to make light of your troubles. Hope they get you on the mend soon!
Ducky, that's awesome news about Grayson. I don't know the background but think I get the gist of it. We had a big scare when our third was born and part of his brain is missing. Told he might never walk or talk. "take him home and enjoy him. Oh, and make sure he keeps breathing!". It is awesome to see any progress.
Hi Lilgoats, baking anything lately? I have to run for buttermilk. Making a white choc cake with raspberry curd filling and flamingos on top for a 40th birthday this weekend.0 -
4......briefly.."she is an identical twin, and so is her Mom......when she was born, she was the 2nd baby, or BabyB.....first one ....normal delivery.........her, feet first presentation......he should have done a C-section....he pulled her, and her head was still inside.......he continued to pull, cause now she could not get air, and he tore her spine.......she was rushed to CHOP, cause they knew he did something wrong....spent 2 weeks there, and was diagnosed by specialists......she is just now sitting, can't walk alone, or stand.....crawls on he floor by pullin with her arms.....
He is being sued.....a c-section, and none of this would have happened to her........ I want to kill the bastard every time I look at her.......oh he will pay big time, no matter how much she improves......it is 2 1/2 years..........he will never do this to another family, or child.........pure neglect, and malpractice...0 -
HI, Lovey's --did my walk, Maybe Val's legacy for me is she got me walking. Cami got me swimming, but both shoulders are injure from dog falls. Thanks Val, sassy
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Had Jordan for awhile today, he always makes me laugh, no matter how bad Im feeling..Been walking around in a daze all day....0 -
I am so sad to hear about our beautiful veggy.
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just got back from my mani/pedi....stayed with my daughter and grands for a visit, and s cup of tea...we always go together..stayed about 2 hours.....home .now sitting in my recliner.relaxing....checking in on you ladies.......0 -
I'm glad u had a nice visit Ducky, sleep well as O hope everyone does.0 -
thanks Cam.....have a good night0 -
Happy Weekend! All the Hoolies layin' low???0 -
Just thinking of you all today.
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Hi 44444 and Jackie! Just messing around..... cleaning out cupboards..... xoxoxoxo0 -
Hi Ladies oh and Chevy
Lilli that was beautiful, really like that one and I never said that either.
I cleaned out 3 of my jewelry boxes and I took tthem out--they were put away now I have only a couple left, I wish I had real stuff Wow. So I did something today and it's raining here which I like on a day to watch scary movies.0 -
Cam......I have plenty of real stuff.....trust me it doesn't change your life.....you just sparkle a little more in the crowd...
I would trade everything I own in the "real stuff" category for a pain free existence......today is awful.....the only thing not aching is my head.......better shut-up before I jinx myself.......f/n cancer....f/n arthritis......f/n Letrozole......I hate my life.....and the "real stuff" cause who feels good enough to go anywhere, that you can wear it.......oh well enough bitching..........just saying......sorry you all don't need to hear this crap......hugs0 -
Teka and Cammi! Watching horror movies! I love that!
Cammi, I AM a lady..... aren't I? I THOUGHT I was anyway.... I've given a lot of my jewelry away, to my Daughter's....
Flashy/trashy jewelry is more fun anyway, than the real stuff! I use it sparingly.0 -
Ducky....I am really sorry for your discomfort....Sending you l-o-n-g distance hugs!
Some days I hurt all over, too many surgeries....the only drug right now that I take is a RX iron capsule twice a day, besides a ton of vitamins, but always hurt in my left hip....when it wakes me in the night I curse my damn doctor for not giving me a cortisone injection....
I have a little "real" jewelry but I never wear it and want to sell it....Wanted to sell it last year this time when I was first DX but so many doctors and test and then the price of gold dropped...and dropped.....and dropped.....so will wait to see if it goes up a little....I don't wear it as I always feel uncomfortable and vulnerable when out and about with the real stuff, and believe me I don't have really BLING BLING stuff....When in different countries I wear NO RINGS or jewelry, or carry a purse.0 -
I just don't wear jewelry that much anymore. I have a few good pieces that were my moms and grandmas, dds ex-boyfriend who was a drug addict (and we didn't know it) stole my 2 best pieces. Never found out what he did with them,pawned them Im sure..They were my moms.It broke my heart. Could never prove he did it though.0
