STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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Hello and have not been on for a bit since had issues after a bad fall and surgery. Been dealing with this for over a month now. Go to bed and my days go from the bed to my chair mostly. OT and PT are coming to the house. Have to wear a collar in the car if I go to an appointment. Had to put off other doc appointments since can only deal with one thing at a time.
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Oh @bcincolorado that's terrible. We are sending you strength and gentle hugs!
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So sorry, bcincolorado. Take care of yourself and know that we’re all sending hugs and support.
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Apologies, bcincolorado. remember that we're all sending you hugs and support.
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I am still recovering from my fall. I am glad the Prolia shots I had did some good and no bones broke when I fell since I lost a lost of bone with cancer treatments and MO put me on Prolia for a couple of years. Then had double up on calcium after that for about a year while she watched me and scanned me. Now have to keep up on calcium on regular doses again and get scans just in case. Cancer does a number on the body that is for sure.
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Bcincolorado I hope you are feeling stronger. I dont respond often, I get really overwhelmed on all these different threads, but really enjoy keeping up with familiar names.
I am here to rant about yet MORE blaming. "Exercise". "New info" yay!
W e l l..., let's see, I was a pro dancer now dance teacher. That means my whole life has been basically exercise! I am now a potato because of treatments!!!!! Stupid Dr's who don't know me: "it's good to exercise and be a healthy weight." Shut the F up!!!! De novo here! Pre-diagnosis, even middle aged I spent 5-6 hours/day in the studio! That doesn't include my own PT for old injuries I do, or the 1.5 mile each way trip walk...Now cleaning the bathroom winds me. Sigh. I'm good, treatments are fine, scans soon, I'm just grumpy and tired. Yes Bcin, cancer does do a number. Now go run a marathon or take up martial arts, lol.
I get it, exercise helps everything. I personally Do feel better when I have the energy to do a little.
BUT ITS NOT THE REASON OR THE CURE.
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I haven't been on this thread in a while, but glad I popped in and read your post, Dancemom. The number of times exercise has been suggested to me when I talk about my low energy level...argh! Yes, I still walk and I still garden, and I try to shake my booty in my living room when a good 80's tune comes on, but I do NOT have the energy that I used to. ALL my meds list fatigue as a side effect. I don't want to add guilt to the mix, as in, I "should" be doing more physically, yet sometimes I feel it. I'm doing the best I can, which some days means I've showered and done the dishes. Other days, I can walk for a long time, or move plants around in the yard and lug bags of bark around.
The next person who suggests that I get more exercise will be met with, "unless you've been on MBC meds for 2.5 years, shut your trap".
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Sf-cakes. YES.
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Completely agree, sf-cakes! Or commenting, "Lucky you! I wish I could lose weight like you are."
Here's my response - well not really, but it's what I'd like to say. "I'M NOT DIETING!!! I'M DYING!!!"
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Just say you DONT recommend this diet.
Some days I don’t want food. Anything. Except cold, sweet, preferably chocolate. Hello Ensure.
Agree some days a shower and dishes are the accomplishment for the day.
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SF-Cakes - yes! I, too, find that some days are just better than others for energy. Other days, I just want to sit on the couch and be lazy. 🛋🦥
Sunshine - really?! People say that?! Sheesh!
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Been needing to vent since my last visit with my “In-laws from Hades”. The minute my hubby told them I was finally finishing my Bachelors Degree, they lit into me with the tirade of “Stop being lazy and get a job! You don’t need a college degree to work in a store or in fast food”. My hubby gave them a look as I quietly got up, grabbed my purse and walked out of their house and out to the car to bawl my eyes out.
Everyone else I know is so happy for me including my mom (who can be difficult to deal with)and telling me to finish the journey, but not my selfish in-laws. My hubby’s step-monster even said some nasty things about my baby sister who was born with Down Syndrome and was in my wedding as one of my bridesmaids. The witch knew I am very protective of my baby sis and makes comments like “your sister should have been left in an institution when she was born, she’d be better off” and “the way your sister’s eyes are in pictures make her look like a monkey” and her favorite thing is “your sister shouldn’t have been in the wedding, its embarrassing that people had to see such a pretty face ruined by a genetic glitch”. I am resisting the urge to throttle the witch but when she starts in its hard and I chose to walk out as my hubby tells her to be quiet and that he wanted my baby sis in the wedding as much as I did and in no way is he embarrassed by her being born with something that only God controls.
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One one bit of advice; go no contact with this toxic woman until she can behave like a mature adult, period.
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mOmmy, your monster-in-law is SICK! No sane person would EVER say those things. I doubt she'll ever change, and I'd avoid her like the plague! How DARE she make comments about your beautiful little sister? I'm spitting mad right now!
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Okay, my next contact with that witch would be at her funeral and then only to make sure she is dead. Once confirmed she is, I would leave. If your hubby doesn't speak up, then I would let him visit on his own and avoid that aggravation you do not deserve or need.
Congratulations on finishing credits towards your degree. Once you earn it, no one can take it away and you most certainly do not have to limit yourself to the jobs the witch suggested. She is jealous and is not worthy of your presence. As far as her attacking your sister due to her genetic make-up, that is beyond cruel and tolerable. I am sure she was a beautiful bridesmaid and will cherish that moment forever. You are a beautiful person and that should be your mantra.
It took me years to make the break from my MIL but when I finally did, I felt liberated because DH was not capable of putting her in her place. When she died, I skipped the viewing and the burial. She did not deserve nor acknowledge my presence in life and I wasn't about to be a hypocrite at her death. Sometimes you have to honor yourself.
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Oh m0mmy I'm sorry, that's gross. I agree with the others, you can't have her in your life. She is plain wrong and gross.
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I agree it's best to just keep toxic people from being a part of your life.
I have a crazy friend who I just saw last night. She is 1 of 6 of us that have stuck together since high school. Luckily, she took off to FL and lives there now so I don't see or talk to her too often. I do truly care for her and her well being, BUT my goodness, it took me a good hour to decompress from being with her and get some sleep. Pretty sure she has major anxiety, always thinks she's dying. She does have an RA diagnosis, she's currently wearing a heart monitor, and she just lost another job. Someone she worked with. She obviously doesn't play well with others. How unprofessional is that? She has been estranged from her own daughter for years.
Anyway, the 5 of us were up early this morning texting and the word crazy was in there alot. I wonder if one day I will just speak my mind to her, but we do our best to be supportive of her and our life long friendships.
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Congrats Mommy!! Use YOUR degree as you see fit. Go no contact with the monster. I had to go low contact with mine, then when we moved to Florida no more problems.
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Thankfully, I see her very rarely as my hubby dislikes his step-monster as much as I do. His father is no saint either and he doesn't get a pass from either of us. I talked to my mom last night and told her the crap that was going on and she was not to happy to hear what was said about my baby sis. My step-monster in law better pray my mom doesn’t come back this way as it will be a smackdown and my mom would win, she spitting mad! As for step-monster in law and his dad’s funeral, at this point they are a no go for either of us! That was settled back after my cancer diagnosis as they were being very cruel to both me and hubby after they found out and their exact words and attitude was hubby would be better off if I were dead!
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OMG, mommie!
As a MIL I can't think of anything worse to say! You should be VERY proud of your degree! Congratulations!!!! All I ever wanted for my two children was a college education! Both earned their degrees, and I couldn't be prouder of them!
Pity your poor MIL, she has no heart, or brain, or both! I worked with special education students in our local school district for 33 years. They varied in their needs and conditions, but what your MIL said about your sister should never have been said about anyone! Those with disabilities, most have more courage and kindness in their little finger than the rest of us have in our whole bodies! Shame on your MIL!
I think it's awesome that you had your sister in your wedding! Weddings are about love, not only between the couple being married, but by all the people in attendance.
Next time your MIL makes a rude comment, look her straight in her eyes and say "I don't remember anyone asking for your opinion, especially one that comes from such a dark place inside you!"
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Oh believe me, I got a good one boiling just waiting for the right time to use it. When it comes its gonna be like a 2x4 between the eyes! She’s told so many lies about so many things that Karma is going to mow her down and I can’t wait!
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Clueless idiot barely knows me: Duh why do you walk with a cane now?
Me: um... Because breast cancer chewed my spine in half and did nerve damage and I'm full of metal...
Idiot: you know cancer grows on sugar so that be something to think about blah blah
I should say you know I've heard being punched in the face while eating cauliflower gives you perfect bowel movements.
Why do people believe this stuff and talk about that instead of anything else? Why can't people think before speaking or just shut **** up?
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mkestrel,
It’s amazing that so many people around us are cancer experts! Not! Amateur oncology? No, thank you.
I am not by nature a ranter but I got a text this past Friday night from a parent at my former school. Background: She had three children who attended my school but none were in my class. It was well known that I was open and willing to speak to anyone about breast cancer (yup, even let a parent cop a feel of my implant 🤣). About 5-6 years ago this parent came knocking on my classroom door. She’d just been dx’ed. Surgery, chemo but then mets to her spine. Many treatments, progression to liver, etc. Here’s what her text said, “End of the road for me”. She’s in liver failure and out of options and making hospice arrangements. Despite having a very clear eyed view of what stage IV is , I am devastated. Her youngest is still in high school.
It’s interesting that our initial relationship was based on both of us having bc but she is such a lovely person that I consider her a friend. This is hitting me very hard. If I got a stage IV miracle for 12 years why couldn’t she? I know there is no logical answer to that question but I am simply destroyed by the unfairness of it all. Nope, you don’t get used to it, even after 12 years.2 -
Wandered in b/c I was seeking a post to help someone else outside the community. Lots has changed in format. Not as easy as it was to follow your own topics or the all topics.
Glad I wasn't here in the pandemic. Likely would have been censored and or barred.
Lots of misinformation here and absence of scientific discernment re pandemic. The truth is coming out about what the government hid. I'll leave it at that. EXCEPT FOR:
KEYWORDS search: All-Cause Mortality and Morbidity increases (choose country or regions) Comparisons
Masks studies: Denis Rancourt April 2020 analysis of all studies produced post SARS1—-19studies— conclusion except for one study commonly known as the Nurses study proved that masks don't work. It was smeared as Rancourt was smeared. As anyone in the early two years that disagreed with the government narrative.
What is telling about Rancorts study is it was before the controversy about Masks. In a usual time, his study would have been a benchmark study. Which means it would have been greatly valued and cited in journal articles.
Governments, here and worldwide, without evidence, promulgated that masks worked. This resulted in mandates of mask wearing, infringed on individual rights, and disenfranchised people of their inalienable rights.
Initially, I watched four countries.
Italy b/c it has a national databases of it's population. Watched them for 20 years. When they produced data regarding covid info it was meaningful b/c they had everyone's info//quadrant/region/town.
Second, was Taiwan, Taiwan sent the earliest signals that something was happening and activated their emergency response plan in Jan 2020. They had experienced SARS in2003 and had established protocols. They instituted protocols before even China.
Third Sweden, they caught my eye b/c they weren't complying with the worldwide shutdown. So, what was interesting about Taiwan and Sweden is they were opposite ends of the spectrum. Interesting, they both did well.
The fourth country was Israel, they published oodles for a time. Then nothing, it's a blackout of news regarding Israel covid. But when they were publishing it was very helpful. Not sure what caused them to stop publishing.
What we can look at today that may discern what happened is, Total Cause Mortality and Morbidly per country. There are spikes that are VERY unusual. You may try to say no connection. BUT. It will take years to figure this out. If anyone says they have the answer they are full of cow manure0 -
Sas-schatzi-Good to see you back! So frustrating that Covid was politicized and we still can't get answers.
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I was sitting in Urgent Care the other day with vomiting and dehydration. Cancer drugs related. I had my barf bag and was using it. I was wearing my mask when I didn't have to pull it down. I apologized to the woman next to me, letting her know that my gagging was cancer related, not COVID. She started going off on the mask conspiracy. Sheesh, lady. I was just trying to let you know I'm not contagious.
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Sunshine,
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I have been off for a bit since still recovering after my fall and surgery and not even where I can go on a walk yet. DH has to walk our dog now alone. She is happy I guess since he can go faster than I could anyway. I just got caught up reading posts though finally.
I agree it is more difficult sometimes and I kind of have to work at it to find where I want to be in here. I know they did it for a reason but for some of us any change is hard for us as well and we had to deal with so much already.
Have testing for MO coming up later this week for lab work and then will be the dreaded mamo on my non-cancer side that has already had issues they are watching right now. The fear never goes away.
I did see someone mention exercise issues and energy. If anyone has AARP access they have some great videos on there that are about 10 minutes and a lot can be done sitting in a chair even. Free and you can pause if you want to and do it on demand in there. I try to do a little bit every day sitting in my chair now since I can't walk and figure better than nothing at least and does get my heart rate going.
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