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  • Tomboy
    Tomboy Member Posts: 2,700
    edited August 2015

    Enjoy Bep! I think you got everyone, so I will just second your emotion! Love to all!

    But what does EFT mean? Is it a text-speak that I don't know yet? ; 0 )

  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited August 2015

    Sula,

    I had a period of time with a lot of similar issues "Life event"ithey call them.

    I felt like I was just going along fine until my employer sent me to some self awareness/ health seminar and we did this self assessment and you gave your self point for certain life events. After getting the class high score, I realized I should be suicidal!

    So the gist of my story, is I did not know, as it sounds you did not know, what a trying period it was. you are just going through each day and managing. Like a long run,, if you contemplated the last step, you wouldn't even take the first one.

    Best to live life like a dog - only in the moment,

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited August 2015

    rleepac.. Hoping all goes well with your scans.. Thinking of you..

    Slow.. Enjoy your time with yoir family.. How are the nephews? I bet they've grown ! Everything I see my grandkids I can't believe the changes in them.. Even though it's probably only been a couple of weeks since being with them.

    Tang.. Sounds like a pulled muscle.. stretched ligament... happens to me often.. But I always head to Crazy Town when it does 😞

    Octo.. Thinking of you.. Waiting to know the plan is the worst.. We are all here for you. (Hugs)

    Take Care everyone!



  • iamnancy
    iamnancy Member Posts: 641
    edited August 2015

    Slow -- EFT...

    I loved the greeting - Good Morning Crazies... that made me laugh so much..

    Hello everyone!

  • suladog
    suladog Member Posts: 837
    edited August 2015

    hey all my fellow Crazies!

    Really enjoyed reading everything here. I just got back from getting my hair colored, my stylist still is wary of using ammonia but I'm so glad to have fresh color.

    Thanks everybody for all the nice comments. All the losses in a row was getting a bit ridiculous. I was at a wedding last June and someone who knew me back when asked after my sister. I told her my sister was dead, then they asked about my mom....and so on and so forth, it was like a bad SNL sketch. I'm only glad the wedding wasn't in Oct or I'd have to say and yeah.... I have cancer.....again!

    Thank you very much folks, I'll be here through Tuesday. Don't forget to tip your server.

    Drops the mic and leaves

  • suladog
    suladog Member Posts: 837
    edited August 2015

    rlee,

    Hope all your scans go well

    Kathy,

    I love the dog comment. It's exactly how I like to think of it. I just look at Patsy and say.... Just do what she does ( within limits or I'd be sleeping under my own bed)

    Octo,

    Thinking of you. The planning stage is the worst time. Once you're on the track and confident in your choices it goes a lot easier. It's just the getting there.

    Now off to read back a few pages and off to all the other stuff you guys are up t

  • rainnyc
    rainnyc Member Posts: 801
    edited August 2015

    Sula, just wanted to chime in with support and, well, awe for what you've been through. When I lost my dad, it took months to work through it. You've had so much more than that. I hope you get pockets of time to think and process and remember all of the family members whom you keep in your heart.

  • suladog
    suladog Member Posts: 837
    edited August 2015

    rainnyc,

    Thanks, sometimes I can't even believe it happened, and it doesn't even seem real that they're all gone. I do wish I had a sibling my in laws are great but not family. I also am sooooo done with the cancer thing after taking my mom to all her chemos at the same place now I'm sitting in the same room. There's one male oncology nurse, he's very nice but I've requested that he not attend me because he took care of my mom, I felt bad asking them to keep him off my case but my usual nurse totally got it. They also go out of their way to see that I pdon't sit in the chair my mom did. We were also working during all of this family stuff ( my husband and I work together) which was not easy. We took my 12 wks of Taxol off and of course the period between surgery and chemo and now with herceptin every 3 wks it really feels good to be back working again which since we write comedy so work goes a long way toward keeping me out of Crazy Town full time

  • octogirl
    octogirl Member Posts: 2,434
    edited August 2015

    Sula, I bet it really does feel good to be working again!

    I am taking a few days off to drive away from Crazy Town and up to Reno and Tahoe. My nephew is getting married this weekend and all the family, including my kids and grandkids, will be there. Spending some time with the kids after the wedding....the distraction will definitely help!

    xox

    Octogirl

  • rainnyc
    rainnyc Member Posts: 801
    edited August 2015

    Work is a wonderful distraction from cancer and Crazy Town both. Just being able to shift gears feels great. But wow--to have the same nursing staff as your mom.

    That's a lot of gear-shifting that you and your husband have had to do. Hope you also get downtime to focus on one another.

    I know that mine has had his own adjustment issues after my diagnosis. His mother died of BC many years ago in a whole other era of treatment. But it's all the more difficult for him to see me going through this. So he has to swallow hard and not assume that my course will be the same as his mother's.

    Anyway, thanks for your constant support and presence on this thread.

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited August 2015

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  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited August 2015

    Hi Crazies!!

    Just a quick check in. On my way out to a birthday party at my nephews. We are celebrating 5 birthdays in my family. Three nephews, a niece and my DD.

    Lucy, the boys have grown so much in a year. The oldest has two adult teeth now and he his face looks different. The younger one looks the same, but is much taller. I thought it would be weird for them not seeing us in over a year, but it was like no time had been lost. The oldest is still very affectionate and the youngest is still a bit grumpy like he has always been!! hahaha

    Tang, how are you feeling today?? Any better??

    Nancy, EFT = Edited for typos. At times I will type something and look back and wonder how the heck I spelled things so wrong. I think my keyboard has a mind of it's own.

    Sula, Must have felt good to have your hair colored. I get mine done every 8-10 weeks. This last time I just had her cut my bangs and let the rest grow. I think I will start getting a haircut every other time.

    I lost my parents when I was pretty young - 30 when my mom passed away (Lou Gehrig's Disease) and 33 when my dad passed (heart failure). I had two small children at the time and it was very difficult. My dad came to live with me after my mom passed. He was out walking one day, and I got a knock on the door. They found him passed out just around the corner from my house. He never woke up again. That was pretty traumatic, and I had a very difficult time with his loss. It's a big adjustment when both of your parent's are gone. But it has gotten better with time. Now I enjoy sharing my funny memories about both of them. Especially my mom....she was such a character!!

    It's got to be so difficult for you having treatment in the same place as your mom. You've just had so much to deal with within such a short period of time. I hope time helps you as well.

    Octogirl, Have a great time in Reno/Tahoe. It's so pretty up there. We've always talked about renting a houseboat on Lake Shasta, but we've never done it. I guess that should be on my bucket list. Whenever I see your name it makes me think of Octomom....anyone remember her??? The lady with all of the kids.

    Rain, that must be very hard for your husband after losing his mom to BC. It sounds like he is working hard not to compare her diagnosis to yours. I'm glad you enjoy the thread. I hope everyone always feels safe and comfortable here.

    Hope you're all having a Crazy Town free weekend so far!! Much love to all!!
  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited August 2015

    Slow.. It would of been such a shock loosing your Dad like that... My Mum died in a similar way.. She had been out shopping, enjoying herself, came home and had a brain aneurysm... and never woke up., only few days after my 21st birthday.. My dad came to live with us as well after my Mum died.. I'm so glad we did that.. My children have such wonderful memories of growing up with him because of it.. I don't think we ever get over the loss of our parents.. But I try and push away sad thoughts, and remember happy times with them. Kids really look different when the adult teeth start coming in.. HaHa.. A big tooth here, a baby tooth there! I can rember being so happy to loose a tooth , so the tooth fairy would come :-) .... Gosh.. You do have lots of birthdays ( cake) to celebrate. !! Enjoy. 😃

    Ducky... Amen to that.. I cling to that thought often.!!

    I have a busy weekend.. My son and his family, and one of my daughters and her family are coming for lunch today .. So we will have 6 little ones here :-) Then tomorrow my hubby's parents and his sister who lives interstate will be coming for the day..So hoping that should keep me focused and out of Crazy Town.!!

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  • rainnyc
    rainnyc Member Posts: 801
    edited August 2015

    I think my DH is indeed working hard to separate his mother's experience from mine. He also lost a dear work colleague to the disease a couple of years ago, a woman who was diagnosed Stage IV out the gate and just never really improved. She left a husband and young son. She was a lovely person; we both miss her.

    My father died about 5 years ago in a way that was similar to some of your parents: had a massive stroke in the middle of the night. It was a shock for all of us and very difficult, but one can't help feeling it might have been the kindest way for him to go. You're right, SlowDeepBreaths; we all eventually get to the point of happy memories, though it takes a while. Recently, I've been eating my dad's lunch of greens and cottage cheese. Kind of a shock to look down and see what I've put together without thinking!

    Busy weekends do keep us out of crazy town--to some extent. Says she who has a PET scan next Wednesday!

    A happy and not too hot/humid weekend to all!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited August 2015
    Headed to the shore tonight.....continuing with the prep for the sale.........I can't believe all this is really going to happen.........

    The situation has soured some of the kids........those who never went really don't care much....one who went all the time can't help now because of the dog with the seizures who can't ride in a car for 2 hours....then the one who still comes, but feels she is stuck with the whole ugly job of getting it ready, and no one other then her is doing it........I can understand that, but it makes me feel bad, and guilty when the attitudes surface and I have to hear it..........I appreciate everything her and my SIL are doing I truly do, but it hurts to hear the complaints..........especially when I am not able to do it all myself........between the back, knees, neuropathy, even after stopping the lousy AI..........I push myself, and then by nightime can barely move.........thank God for better mornings..............

    I am certain they will go to the beach, and even then I feel guilty if I don't make an attempt, but trust me.........our beach is long, and the walk is brutal.

    In 2007 I had a heart attack......(and I'm not whining), but one of my branch arteries is completely clogged.....to small for a stent.....and not one they do surgery on......so it was on to meds.......another artery took over for the one that is completely clogged, but it is doing double work, so it takes its toll.....had the new branch artery not taken over I would be dead....but I got lucky.........main arteries are pretty good........sooooooooooo........walking fast, or long distances is not real easy.....and the beach walk is tough.....long and in the sand.......soft sand at that.....LOL.......I have the bottom to the umbrella that I use to trudge on and on...........I look like Jesus, Moses, or one of the Apostles walking toward the water....................

    I think the aches and pains can be bad.....come and go......but the damn dizziness, and the poor balance drive me nuts......I walk into things.....and look like I have 1/2 a load on, and have not had a drink..........nothing worse then being off balance..................

    Ok, are you sick of hearing me whine...........by now you probably all need WINE, from reading this.................I want my "youth back"..................LOL............actually I'll even take 60 years old.................LOL.........this 80 crap is for the birds..........but I guess it sure beats the "alternative"..............love you gals..........

    I'll be on my way by 10p;m tonight............wish me luck..............
  • rainnyc
    rainnyc Member Posts: 801
    edited August 2015

    Ducky, you are not whining. And my need for WINE has nothing to do with your post, though I enjoyed reading it and am in awe of what you are putting up with. It's just that the sun is over the yardarm, and the taxol is hours in the past, and someone gave me some seriously strong camembert, and and and...

    Have a good weekend!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited August 2015

    Rain...................enjoy, enjoy, enjo, enj, en, e, ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ.................LO

  • suladog
    suladog Member Posts: 837
    edited August 2015

    Slow,

    That is such a sudden shocking way to lose your dad. My dad died from a fall and inept medical treatment... We were fighting with the hospital to keep him in as he was not ready to be released it noooooo, we had taken him marketing asked if there ever any heavy items he needed. He said "I'm not a cripple" and said he had everything. After we left him alive he went out again and bought a 1/2 gallon of milk and 1/2 gallon of shower cleaner. He fell trying to juggle them while opening his front door! He would not come live with us, we looked at houses with guest cottages....no way! We even looked into getting him a Condo in an assisted and independent living place in his neighborhood NEVER ever said the house would be sold. We told him we'd just leave it as it was and he could always go back there if he wanted.... Which we would have done ..,But no to that also.

    He was s very stubborn man to the end. .. But boy it was a shock when he went so fast.

    Ducky,

    Safe trip to the shore, don't get too frisky with the lifeguards. I used to live in Malibu so I know how that stuff can get!!!

    I'm sitting in a chemo chair right now hooked up to herceptin, tomorrow night we're having dinner with my herceptin buddy and her husband.. She was diagnosed stage IV ER+ HER2+ mets 10 YEARS ago!!!!!still working still enjoying watching her kids grow up... They're now in college, she was one of the early herceptin patients.. Really a lot of fun do we've got s double date for dinner tomorrow night then dessert back at our place.!i'm making this:

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    Currently I'm sitting getting herceptin looking at this:

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  • kathy7
    kathy7 Member Posts: 211
    edited August 2015

    Ducky,

    You are my inspiration for better things.

    You are dismayed with the aches and pains that come with age - but in my mind

    You are shabby-chic! You have character, wit and gusto.


  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited August 2015
    Thanks Kathy.......I wish I could live up to that..................I love my family........I love life...........and......it been a rough road sometimes..................but somehow I managed to make it.............and I have to say......when this is all over I am going to try to make the best of the memories I have............................

    Life does go on.......and I believe that everything happens for a reason........so maybe I hae to accept what God hands me with a smile......and I will.........thanks again Kath......
  • proudtospin
    proudtospin Member Posts: 4,671
    edited August 2015

    Ducky, sorry it is so hard for your family but well, guess they will adjust to life with no beach house. Hopefully they will enjoy the good times and memories

    back from short gym visit, had my first chiro visit yesterday and sort of think it was not a good idea to do gym today. Guess he sort of pushed the aches around to dif places so now, resting for the afternoon. If doing 3 loads of wash is resting

    messed up my computer screen and need to find the dang toolbars again, how do I do this stuff?

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 9,646
    edited August 2015

    Proud........just wish it was over........

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited August 2015

    PTS.. I know what you mean about the aches being pushed around.. That happens to me when I go to the physio.. It's the next day I can feel it though !!!

    Ducky.. ... Change is always hard.. and I know it feels like you're selling a part of you , and your past. (Hugs).. But you have a wonderful big family., ( that's still growing.. Your new little grand-daughter is gorgeous 😃).,,and you and your hubby are a part of everyone of them, and hold a special place in all their hearts .





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  • proudtospin
    proudtospin Member Posts: 4,671
    edited August 2015

    Lucy, well my visit was yesterday and next time is Monday. Gonna ask him if I should have taken it easy today? I am a rookie at the chiro thing, I just want a pain free back and manno it has been a long time with back pain!

  • Lucy55
    Lucy55 Member Posts: 2,703
    edited August 2015

    Sula.. I bet your yummy tart tasted much better than the food in that awful fridge that "must be named and dated " 😞 You should of taken in a few wine and cracker magnets to brighten it up a bit.!! Hope you had a fun night with your friends!

  • suladog
    suladog Member Posts: 837
    edited August 2015

    Lucy,

    it's tonight..just finished baking and filling the tart, making the glaze for the berries and I canned some peaches...now I am hot and stinky and am going to take a cooling relaxing bath before I make a detour to crazy town. I don't even want to look into that fridge!!!

  • rainnyc
    rainnyc Member Posts: 801
    edited August 2015

    Got nicely away from Crazy Town today with an expedition to a Hong Kong Dragon Boat festival in Queens, NY, on the site of the 1964 World's Fair. I'd heard about it for years but never been. It was great: races every 15 minutes or so, 4 boats per race, 12 rowers per boat as well as two extra crew, one to beat a huge drum--you can see it at the front of the boats--that keeps the rowers in stroke and the other in the back to steer and call out directions. Teams were largely Asian but some participants from around the world; meanwhile, the announcer spoke with an impeccable upper-class British accent. The boats were sleek and narrow, painted in bright colors with a dragon's head at the bow.

    We snacked on sticky rice, dumplings, ginger beer, watermelon. A stage with traditional Asian music, a drum performance, dance. Ducks on the waterfront and pigeons everywhere. Very hot, so we stayed a few hours and called it a day!

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  • proudtospin
    proudtospin Member Posts: 4,671
    edited August 2015

    rainy, that looks like such a great day! I remember the worlds fair and have seen the site of all but never gone to this event, should be on my list of stuff to do!

  • Jackbirdie
    Jackbirdie Member Posts: 1,617
    edited August 2015

    Rainny- your day sounded wonderful! Glad you found the exit ramp that took you in the opposite direction from CTown!

    Loved the pics

  • SlowDeepBreaths
    SlowDeepBreaths Member Posts: 6,702
    edited August 2015

    https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/84/topic/834092

    Hi Crazies!!!

    I will try to catch up tomorrow.

    For anyone that knows our dear Blondie and wants to wish her a happy bday, I started a special thread for her!!

    See above.



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