My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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Divine , sending good thoughts to you both. Hard to watch a loved one being ill, a lot of hand holding and hugs, she will know you are there for her.
Illimae, isn't it wonderful when you can look up to clear skies at night, the beauty of the stars can be breathtaking. Makes me think of Star Trek lol!
Have a lovely Sunday folks, DH and I going for lunch with our good friends, so no cooking today. Heart FEV1 Tuesday, then results of scan Wednesday, keeping everything crossed for no changes, and also to ask about the numbness in my right leg and the prickly pain (same side as the hip cancer).
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Micmel, illimae and Minnie, thank you all so much for your kind words. They've brought tears to my eyes that you would reach out to me like this. It is very appreciated. I am reminded of the expression, "one kind word warms three winter months". Kind words have their own way of healing what ails the soul.
Micmel, dealing with family splits-it is something many of us grapple with in one form or another. I'm sorry to learn about your sister and her devious ways. It is good that you knew to create your own life, find those who truly love and support you. Also good that you know to stay away from the toxic relationships. Dh has a sister who seems to go out of her way to try and drum up drama. We simply cannot respond to her in any way because she can take the most innocent of words and twist them into us somehow conspiring against her. We don't engage with her. Some things in life cannot be fixed.
I hope your dh can find some relief with antianxiety or antidepressant meds. It's definitely something to try because so many people are helped with the right meds, can function better and move forward. It is certainly the case for me. Even tho mbc is life changing for those of us diagnosed with it as well as our family and loved ones, we should take the steps we are able so that it doesn't rob us of everything.
Your comment: strong people usually stay strong even if they are sometimes knocked down" is a very powerful statement! It is good insight. Thank you for your words of encouragement.
Minnie, hope you have a good day out with friends.
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Minnie~ Hi sweetheart! Please have a great time with your friends and enjoy some good food and some good making of memories time. Those are the most special, you just remove yourself from the moment and take it in. I do that a lot I find. My family will be in one room and I will just sit and watch everything about them. Their smiles and laughter. Each line of their faces. Family and friends make the world go around! Spain is so lovely. I wanted to Tavel there for so long... my grandmother was born there.. and I had seen many lovely pictures of her childhood and her area was not as populated as it is now. Naples. I believe?. Have a great day. Be safe. ~M~
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Divine~It makes my heart warm to think that anything we can say or do to support you, makes me happy because that is why I created this thread... families.....love... relationships. I hope that you keep with us and allow us to show you what kind of sisterhood we have here together. When One isn't doing so good the others, are coming up right behind you to catch you. I sincerely care, I know how hard it is. I am sending thoughts of strength to you and your sister. Much love is coming your way... ~M~
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Mae~ hope today's pics are as awesome as yesterday's. I love star gazing as well. It's such hugeness compared to our little selves. Makes you think how tiny the earth is even to look at such vast forever space that never seems to stop. Makes us seem so small. Wish our problems were small. You're an inspiration, the way you just go and travel and nothing slows you down. I am amazed! Have a great time.
I am officially concerned about (50's) Lynne. I haven't seen her in a while. 🤧😞. Sending her thoughts.
Nan~. 💜💜
Chelle ~ hello my girl !
Keetmom~ everything ok darling ?
Much love ~M~
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Divine, thinking of you today! Praying for both you and your sister. It’s hard to think that she might not be able to be as strong as she once was. I wa primary caregiver for my big brother for about two years, he had head and neck cancer, stage four and lost half of his lower jaw. This was just a week after my husband Tom died, and ten months after my Mom died. So I was left with no rock, no support. Then I got MBC. It’s hard to do this disease with the best of circumstances, let alone circumstances which are so unstable. My prayers are with you and your sister as you walk these roads together. God bless!!
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Hi everyone, just to say we had a very nice traditional Sunday lunch today, not quite what you expect in Spain. Just DH and our very good friends. One little glass of wine too!! Our weather has improved, right up to 65 degrees mid afternoon. Could really feel the sun, and it was lovely.
Love to everyone. I feel good to be part of this group. It is so good to share our worries and our good news. Hugs Divine, Gracie, Micmel, Illimae, x
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Things are OK here, not a Winter person, so starting g to struggle... Glad Feb is half over this week, I am struggling with neuropathy in my lower jaw, most likely from Taxol, and my sinuses feel plugged although I'm not stuffy, every ache and pain gets in my head,. We did get my foundation one testing back this week and it said what we expected, opened up a new drug to me so that is good..
Emma is doing better this weekend.,
Thinking of all of you, hope it was an OK weekend.
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Minnie ~ I agree!! It is wonderful to belong to such a good group of ladies. But.... Some days just plain suck. Some days people just plain suck, and need a swift kick in the arse. I am pleased you had a good time with your friends. It's always nice to be with good people. It's like soup here today. It's raining and wet. And foggy and misty. Pretty grey and yucky outside.
Somedays lateIy I don't know how we even open our eyes with the emotional and physical tolls we face as MBC ladies. (Or anyone that experiences the fact of statistics not being in your favor...male or female. ) sometimes I honestly worry about how things will be, when I am gone. My precious DH. I adore him so much. He doesn't deserve this happening to him. He's so good. He deserves to be happy. Not suffering. Anger doesn't even begin to express some of the feelings I juggle daily.
Hope everyone gets a great night sleep. I really could use one. I always end up, up reading way too late, then I pay for it the next day. I just enjoy reading.... getting out of my head. My own life even , distraction. Something other than sadness. I still don't understand how this has even happened. Somewhere deep inside myself for a year before diagnosis, I knew something bad was going to happen. I just didn't know with Who. I sure found out. Now I'm stuck, in a body I don't recognize, a face that has aged over night. My family still looks the same... but things have changed..... my precious DH is still my beating heart and soul. I still go to the same house everyday after my errands.... I still see the same walls around me everyday. But being here seems different, my things are all around me, what will happen to them? My very most favorite things. My fluffy blanket? My favorite coat? . my beautiful wedding band set? That was my life .... my things. Why don't I need them anymore ? Then it hits me... because some day sooner than later you won't be hereanymore. Then the darkness begins. I have to everyday consciously not fall into that place. Because the Hole is pretty big now. I'm afraid I might fall into it and never get out. But my DH always pulls me back. Every time. Every. Time. Hold on tight to those you love. Especially the one person that really means the world to you. Your one person. Rest well ladies. ~M~
If you don't have that one person... hold onto the family that loves you. That you trust, that doesn't play games. That loves unconditionally!
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Gracie....I hope you're feeling a tiny bit better. I agree with Micmel on the value of keeping a journal to see the pattern of your thoughts and feelings throughout the Ibrance cycle. I find that when my blood levels go down, my spirits go down as well and things can look very bleak. Now, because I see the pattern, I know that's the reason. It doesn't stop me from feeling dispirited but it does explain why. I also live alone. I've had to move out of our family home and into a tiny studio apartment so basically, I live, sleep, cook and do everything in one room the size of a good hotel room. The reason I moved out is because my family home is very large and has dangerous stairs and I'm an invalid if I live there, needing help with meals and almost everything. My son is 29 and my husband works full time but they do visit me as often as they can. Because they have to travel for business, I have to manage alone although to tell the truth I really am not well enough. Sometimes at night I ask myself why I'm living like this when I have a lovely home and garden overlooking the sea, with a large, beautiful bedroom with sea views and I cry and feel homesick. I ask myself whether I'll ever be able to live at home again and I know the answer is no. The only solution to living in a cramped space like this is to find the money some day to buy me a small one or two bedroom apartment so that all my belongings are not on display. Still, I feel happy a lot of the time because this cancer is not going to demoralise me and break my spirit. I have my balcony garden to look at, lots of books and Netflix so that I can enjoy some movies and I just have to accept that this is my life, that I will never be the physically active person I used to be and I also have to accept help - something I've found difficult to do but I tell myself that I've given help to many people throughout my life and, although I might not like it, it's time to allow people to help me in return.
Sorry, I got a bit carried away and I'm not complaining. It's just that, like Micmel, I'm making sacrifices for my family because of my family and I'm absolutely certain we're not the only ones living in less than ideal conditions. It doesn't seem fair; it isn't but that's how it goes. I am very very fortunate though that my son is my soul mate and on the days he can't visit because he's working, we "talk" on Messenger on Facebook and that my husband will come to see me after a long day at work if I need him. I'm so grateful I have that. Although I'm not a great fan of Facebook, I find it invaluable for keeping in touch with friends - either using Messenger or just having fun.
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Leapfrog~I have never been a fan of Facebook. I like the idea of keeping in touch with good people. I also like the extended family idea as well. But honestly for me, anyone that I care enough about I speak to daily or at least weekly. I have found that from high school I kept two people in my life. One moved far away and we still talk on occasion and my childhood friend, who is like my sister, I see every month. Every month we make plans to see each other. She's a good person and I adore her so very much. She has always been supportive of me,even maybe when she knew I was struggling with my divorce long long ago. But it seems in some circumstances, people dislike happiness and seeing other people either be successful, or happy in a great marriage living the dream life persay. People willl sometimes try to get in between that. Because of their own issues of non happiness. I am in no way going to let anyone come in between my DH and I. No way ever. People are always on the look out. My DH is not available! So I choose to not do anything Facebook or anything related. This BCO is because of my diagnosis and the need for understanding and support ! I hope that you see your apartment as quite an accomplishment! You're doing it on your own, you are! So be proud of yourself! Much love ~M~
Goodnight ladies ! It's late again....as always. Ugh. I'm such a night owl.
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Thanks agan, everyone, for your kind and gentle and supportive thoughts to me regarding my sister.
Gracie, I cannot even imagine the difficulties you have experienced with your brother, mother, and husband and then getting a diagnosis of mbc as well. How do you deal with it all emotionally? And yet, here you are, offering support, extending yourself to me, to those of us on this thread; what a caring person you are, through and through!
I visited my sister yesterday morning and she was doing somewhat better. The anesthesia had worked its way out, so she was more herself. It did me good to see her. I've let family and a couple of her closest friends know how she's doing and tho she's not up to having visitors aside from just a few of us, everyone's sent her texts to let her know they're thinking of her. She needs that, as she is always taking care of others and she tends to deflect the kindness of others, almost as tho she does not place value on herself, minimizes her importance and what she means to us. I only want her to receive the good thoughts and vibes her loved ones send to her.
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Divine~My DH is that way also with attention. He shys away from being too open with his life and who he is. He is very careful who he allows in his inter circle. Seems maybe your sister may be the same way. Guarding who really gains his trust or earned it more like it. Your sister is lucky To have you. Having you be that filter ishow you're helping her gain her strength back to even want To accept visitors. You're her support system even if you don't realize it. Just you being you and being there for her is a wonderful gift only a sister can bring. Please give her a little squeeze for us and tell her where are in her corner fighting with her. We are also here for you as well sweet woman. Sending you thoughts of love and strength! You're doing exactly what you should be doing for her. You're amazing! Much love ~M~
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Keetmom~Hello darling. I am so not a winter person either. This winter has been pretty darn cold, I can imagine what WI deals with in the form of cold & snow and weather. I have never been there. But I still hate it. I am sorry you're having issues with your jaw. Neuropathy is a terrible thing. I experienced it with the ending of abraxane. It started to get really bad with my toes and finger tips. How many will you have to receive?I wish nothing more for your jaw to level off and you can manage the pain better. It's just a plain struggle every single day. I am glad to hear Emma is doing good this week. We missed you here. Much love always ~M~
Say hello to the girls!!! 🤗🤗
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got up feeling pretty good today. I slept well but again today is shot and XGeva day. Which I hate. I have this lingering cough courtesy of the flu which gives me a sexy (NOT) raspy appeal. It was actually 50 degrees outside yesterday. I almost fell over. I was warm. I would love it, if the usual snow storm would not happen this year on Presidents' Day weekend. For some reason it snows every year, this huge snow storm. Last year we got like 19 inches. Uh ack! Been feeling pretty good in the mornings. Then I feel like I loose steam through out the day as I go. Today my DD and I are heading down to choose the linens for her reception we knownalready what we want, just the good old deposit again. After my shot of course yucky! It is about 25 mins way so we will have time to talk and plan together. Every second counts ladies!! Much love and have a great day! ~M~
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Good evening all,
Divine I'm sorry to hear about your sister's surgery and hospitalization. It's amazing that with our own MBC we still are there for our loved ones. I'm happy you were able to contact her close friends and they reached out. I know that makes you feel good and of course she too.
Micmel - Ugh with the DH emotional breakdown. I swear my DH needs to talk to someone going through this mess too. He always acts strong but I know this MBC is getting to him. He's officially resigning March 9th. We're going on a trip for ten days and God willing when we get back we'll try to plan some easy daily outings. My DH is 67 and has been working his entire life. Sometimes he worked 2 or 3 jobs with a side hustle to care for our family.
Leapfrog can you go home and visit your house? Are there no bedrooms on the bottom floor? Can you do a renovation and make one? Your home seems peaceful and beautiful. You post such beautiful pictures of your balcony I think you see beauty in everything. Keep that.
Minnie the weather in Spain sounds delightful.
Keetmom I'm happy Emma is improving! Taxol is a strong chemo. I took it 13 years ago. I hope it's improved since then. I pray that your jaw improves.
Mae I'm happy you're enjoying your vacation. I love stargazing.
Sleep is a precious commodity. I stay up too late. By the time I realize I need a sleeping pill if I take it I'll be groggy the next day.
100 mg Ibrance so far seems not as strong and I'm not as exhausted as the past few months; swooning like Scarlet in Gone with the Wind.
Take care all
Tanya
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wow~ linens are expensive. Like really expensive. How can anyone afford anything half decent anymore, it's like half of a mortgage payment for the linens we will need for this wedding and that's with only 65 people 😲🤪🤪🤪. I am just shocked, the entire rental is for one freaking night. Four hours even and it will be $500.00. I just can't believe it. It's not even the fancy organzas and etc materials. I was shocked. They even want 50% down. I was like wow. I'm in the wrong business here. Holy crapola! Okay I had to vent! Arghhh!
Hope everyone is doing well today. Slow day today. Hope that means everyone was out living their lives happily ! Today was XGeva shot and blood work. Blood work is posted but only one test. The tumor markers aren't there yet. Not sure if they just did one test and was like oh... it's 4:00 pm knock off time... I'll finish the rest tomorrow!!! What? Seriously. Ugh! More waiting. All my liver levels were within good range. Calcium same thing... no flags. Or warnings which Is good, but I'm wondering where the markers lie. And my port was persnickety again. Had to have the heprin and wait it out. Now I am monitoring my fridge. Doesn't seem to be that cold. Not the time to have a major appliance go! Not with this wedding planning going on. Geeze. Much love~M~
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Tanya~ Hello lovely lady~ One day when my DH was at work, One of his co workers looked over at him and just blurted out “My wife has breast cancer and it's bad". Out of no where. After my DH closed his dropped jaw, he replied “My wife has breast cancer too and we don't know how bad it is yet". They each had no idea about the others issues going on. It was very strange. They talked and still do when they see each other and occasionally he will get a text from him. Apparently, their belief is to not accept the Chemotherapy and treatments associated with it. They don't even know what kind of cancer she has. They didn't treat it correctly and I think I even remember they were speaking of a trip to Mexico for a very expensive body cleanse and some holistic treatment to rid the body of the cancerous toxin cells. Recently, my DH had to go fix this man schools computers. (He's a computer engineer for 325 different schools) he took one look at him and he knew something wasn't good. He didn't go into to much specifics, but the impression was that the expensive cleanse and the Mexico visit didn't work and the cancer had spread widely and she was in tremendous pain and discomfort. I know when my breast tumor was at its angriest... it was excruciating pain. I feel so heartbroken. I chose the treatment. Even though it's rough. I chose to try to live. I know she did too, just in a different way. But she's the same age as I am and it's not fair that people who are young are dealing with this. No less anyone in 2018? Like seriously people let's get a move on a cure! Too much cancer in this world.
I would love to lower my doseage, but I don't think he would ever agree. He's a very aggressive oncologist, he has always been seriously aggressive with me. He said I am his tank. I am physically strong. Or at least I was. To have a liver resection and mastectomy and 32 nodesremoved under my arm in one surgery. I'll never forget any of it as long as I Iive. None of us will ever forget what we've been through. I am so glad that 100 mg is being kinder to you. Those walks you take, you might need to sprint with those alligators looking so near!!! 😱😉🤪. Hugs my friend! Much love to everyone. ~M~
Mae~ you back and ok ? Missing your reporting skills!
Hoping for a Chicagoan appearance. She's had a rough few months and needs our love and support. We know we are all very good at that. Wrapping her in a big hug! Much love ~M~
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updated picture of My grandpuppy. He’s a beast seriously. I’m shocked he is only 7 months old. Still growing. But gorgeous as ever. I love his cheeks! 💜😉
Miss my puppy though!
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I am here, Micmel. Reading. Speechless.
I have composed at least 4 paragraphs of flowery bullshit and deleted them all. I want so badly to say something helpful but in the face of such tragic, bitter sadness, I am stupidly mute. I know that blank, far away stare in someone's eyes. I know what your Hub is feeling. He is feeling like no matter what he does, how hard he tries, how much he wants to ride in on a white horse and rescue you, there will be no white horse and no fairy tale ending. This ain't Disney you're dealing with! He is feeling utterly, absolutely useless and violated. He has been a good person and life has handed you both a shit sandwich. Where is the justice in that? Where is the god who counts when we're good? Why has any of it mattered if this is how it ends? Anger. Betrayal. Futility. These feelings break down a mind and soul. They crush a man.
If he needs to see someone, I hope to god he does! If he needs some help, in whatever way he can get it, I hope he does. Falling into a mental and emotional sinkhole is not what anyone needs right now. Although it is a perfectly reasonable reaction to the realities of your life. I am so sad for all of you.
You are also scaring me! I have a 25 year old daughter of marrying age. So far she mostly brings home large 80s model trucks on huge tires, wild horses and the odd stray cat. Maybe I should quit complaining as these are cheaper than a wedding!
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Runor~Oddly for the first time during this..... I was the one that was ok during the talk. I became the strong one...if only for a day... he got it out and he does have weekly sessions to talk to someone about this grief that has washed over him, like a ton of bricks! That has all of a sudden become unavoidable. It just hit him. Wham! those chemicals aren't for him in the form of anti depressants/anxiety medicine. Only makes it worse for him. I lifted him like he lifts me every single day I have been given to love him. When i woke up the next morning and be had sent me a link link to a Kenny Chesney song. “You save me". I listened and cried uncontrollably for a good solid thirty minutes that I was so touched and I understood again how solid and loving of man I have been loving with all that I am now for 15 years and I wouldn't change a thing. Some people go their entire lives not knowing the love i feel, the un spoken bond that cannot be penetrated and grows every year and every experience stronger. I just always need to get out my feelings. I dream of him. I dream about walking with him holding his hand, I dream of his smiles, his electric blue eyes. His wickedly funny sense of humor that really only I always get no matter what... I found the definition of a husband, partner, and friend and anything else wonderful wrapped up in this man. There is nothing i wouldn't do for him or this family we have made together. I wouldn't change a thing..... although clearly, i WOULD change the cancer and the pain I have seen on My precious family and their faces.
Don't be scared about the wedding when it happens. It's has been a huge joy and help for me, giving me something to do other than being in my own head, she's not delusional, finally (my princess without a country has stepped down from her throne, just in time for a reality check!) she's helping as well and so is her husband to be. They are working hard and we see that. Her real father is useless and will offer nada as he always has done for them. I carry extreme guilt over my poor choice of a husband the first time around. But I can promise you one thing. I made the right choice the second time. My love, my husband, my beautiful man and best friend was who I finally found. I finally found my home. When your daughter gets married, just tackle one thing at a time... don't be scared... be joyful. It's wonderful bonding time with your daughter, even though sometimes you want to choke them, when they don't listen. Lol but I have learned to pick my battles. She is also finally seeing the world with her rose color glasses removed these days..... cancer does that to a family huh??
Thanks for being here. Much. Love ladies
Much love Runor! ~M~
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runor I hope you won't be disappointed but I could not find a 70's Caddy in all of Dallas county! I really wanted that 23" beauty with the sculpted fins.😢 But, I did buy a Caddy! After I drove that Caddy, it was hard to get me into a Nissan. Finally, after four days and a long story, I have my 2007 Cadillac CTS in MY garage.👏. It's a smaller version of the big caddy. It has soft leather interior that feels so good to my achy self and I feel nothing when it goes over the many potholes we have here. To me, it's a dream. To others it's in the cheap car category. It fit perfectly in my small budget I set for myself ( no more car loans and payments for this lady).
I'll post a pic. My son has decided I look like Gangsta Granna in my new car! Ha He said if you buy that big black car, you have to "own it"! Whatever that means. Ha Do you suppose he means I have to wear a derby hat and smoke a cigar?!?! But, I might wear big sunglasses and a hot pink boa!
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My new Caddy, sorry runorno fins!
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Sorry runor no fins
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Grannax~very very nice caddy. Well done!! I had to lol again at runors post.before as you reminded me of it!! She is a trip! my most favorite ladies all here. Could not ask for more! Pet the Caddy for me!! Did you name it? A lot of people do. I know my entire family and my sons friends! We laugh and try to find names. It's almost like a person!! But I love it!!! Just glad you're safe!!! Much love ~M~
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Made some Valentines with my grandchildren using Gelli printmaking. Happy Valentines' Day! Hope it's a lovely and gentle day for everyone! MJH0 -
Sharp looking car, Grannax!
Beautiful Valentine, MJH!
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Snowman my grandson made with last weekends' "snowman snow"! We also made it to our favorite sledding hill. Am anxious for spring, but here in Maine, it's at least 8-10 weeks away.0 -
Micmel-I'm in tears after reading your post of your DH. So sad that his coworker is going through the same thing. At least, he has someone he can talk too, as we do here. Mine does not talk about "IT" at all. I see the way he looks at me, and it's not the way he used to look at me. It looks like pity to me. I called him on it last week. I told him to stop looking at me like that, and look at me the way he used to. I asked if it was because of my bald head, should I cover it up in my own home as well as I do in public too? He said he wasn't looking at me any differently, but yes he was. It broke my heart. He too keeps everything inside. It makes me crazy! Crazy prices to rent linens! Maybe it would be cheaper if you bought some?
Divine-I'm so sorry your sister is going through all that. She is lucky to have you. I have 3 younger sisters. The youngest one lives a block away, the only one who bothers with me at all, and even then, not too often. The next one up lives across town. I used to go out to lunch with her at least once a week, she never calls.. I haven't seen her since Christmas. The one closest in age to me (we are actually the same age for 4 days, seh was my first birthday present), lives a 1/2 hour away. She calls, once in a blue moon, and again, I haven't seen her since Christmas. It's sad when you think that family would be right by your side (my Mom calls, as I do her, but she's 80, we go to lunch and shop once a week, she also lives in the neighborhood), just abandon you.
Leapfrog-I was wondering the same thing as Tanya. Can't you make a bedroom (or put a bed in a room) on the first floor of your home? I know when the time comes for me to move downstairs (all our bedrooms are upstairs), I will put a bed in either the family room, in the back of the house, or the living room in the front. Only problem is there is no shower on the first floor. My husband is a master plumber, so he will have to figure that out. I really don't want to have to sponge bathe every day.
Tanya-Glad the lower dose of Ibrance is making you feel a little better.
Keetmom-This winter has been a rough one. Not too much snow, but the cold and ice have been awful. It just brings you down when we are already pretty down. This weekend though, it rained and melted a lot of the snow and the ice in our driveway. It warmed up too (40's yesterday), and is suppose to be 50 on Thursday. I will definitely be outside on Thursday. I need the sunshine on my face (and I burn easily, but I don't care, LOL). I may even go without anything on my bald head (Taxotere, since last May), so I don't end up with a white head and a tan face, as I did last summer. I'm glad they found a new drug for you.
Gracie-Big hugs! I hope things are getting better for you!
Bighome-Thinking of you and your hubby. Big hugs.
Lynne-Are you looking forward to the warmer weather this week?
My scans, from last Mon, came back good. I'll be staying on Taxotere. She is going to lower the dose though because of the neuropathy in my hands and feet hurting at the end of the day. I've had it for a couple of months (I've been on Taxotere since last May) and in the morning, it's not too bad, by the end of the day it's awful. She also said I could take a break from it for a few weeks, since I've been stable for so long. I never got a break from Faslodex, which I was on for 1 1/2 years, nor Xeloda, which I was on for 2 1/2 years, of course these weren't I've chemos, but the Faslodex shots were awful, I could have used a break from them!. I'm saving my break for April, when we go to Disney with our kids and grandkids. If my schedule stays the same, I would be getting chemo the day before I leave, so I will postpone for two weeks, the Fri after I get back. Maybe with a long break, I won't feel like a walking zombie. My blood work showed my white cells were low (what else is new?). I asked her about the vertebra T4, that is 60% collapsed (it was 30% on the last scan). I asked if it could be repaired somehow. I knew that the radiologist could not do a kyphoplasty on that one (I've had 4 done), because it was too high up. I asked do they put a rod in or something. She said that no they just leave it. I asked what happens when it starts hurting me. She said she give me pain killers. I already have oxycodone which I don't like. It just spaces me out and doesn't help with the pain and also constipates me. I rarely take it. I do have medical cannabis (which is legal here). It's an oil I put under my tongue. I had never had marijuana before and it took me a couple of weeks to not be totally spaced out. I asked for something that does not give you a high, he said this one only gives a little. I'm glad I said something, I can't imagine more of a high. It does help with the pain, but there is still a little there. If I'm going to drive though, I don't take it. I usually, just have tylenol, which helps even less for the pain. When I go back this week for some more oil, I'm going to say less high more pain killer and try another.
That night I had planned to go to the movies with my 2 daughters. We saw "Fifty Shades Free". We read all the books and saw the 2 previous movies. It was ok (movies are never as good as the books). I love the theater we go too (there are 4 different ones in our area). They have power recliners for seats. The first 2 movies I saw there, I fell asleep, LOL! I did stay awake for this one and the last one we saw together, "Pitch Perfect 3". We went to get pizza before the movie. The place was busy (It was a Fri), but we were seated right away. We got there an hour before the movie, plenty of time, right? Wrong! The waitress took our drink order, brought our drinks, and we ordered the pizza by 6pm. At 6:15, we asked her for a box, because we had to leave by 6:30 (the movie started at 6:45 and was 5 min down the road). She told us we should have said we were in a rush. Ok, a pizza takes max, 15 min to make and cook. Apparently, she never put our order in until then. She had run to the kitchen before we could say forget it! She left the check with us before she took off. My daughter used her debit card and paid for the bill, unfortunately. She came back saying it would be 10 min. We told her to box it up in the kitchen. I walked out at that point and waited in the car. 5 min later my older daughter came out. I asked where her sister was, she said at the counter waiting. I went in, and said grab our waitress and tell her to void your slip and just pay for the drinks. She asked, and they said they couldn't do it because they were too busy, and to come back after the movie and how they wanted us to keep coming there (NEVER again!), and then miracles of miracles the pizza came out. She grabbed it and threw it in the back. We got to the movie at 7, and the previews were still going, and there was a girl in one of our seats (you can pick your seats there), she moved. When we got home, they ate the pizza at 9, as we watched the opening for the Olympics. We've been DVRing and watching them every day! They've been great!
I hope everyone is having a better day! Hugs!
Lynne
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