Less than a week before my surgery and my new favorite words are STFU (Shut the F*** Up). Yes, clearly I'm completely in the throws of the anger stage. So far I only say it in my head, but I can't promise it's not going to slip out soon.
I don't want to hear:
"Oh, well you don't have it as bad as a friend of mine who had Chemo" STFU
"Well, that's not as bad as it could be. At least you get a bunch of time of work." STFU
or my new favorite which everyone keeps saying
"You'll get nice, perky boobs at the end of all this....I'm jealous". STFU
Yes, I realize that many women go through a lot more difficulties with their own journey with BC, and Yes I'm thankful that it's not "as bad as it could be".
But what is there to be jealous of? I'd gladly keep my tiny boobs in a heartbeat you insensitive moron! I'm not having a breast lift or an elective breast augmentation. I didn't volunteer for this.
I don't need to hear the worst BC story you know.
I don't need to hear that you wish you could have time off work and be pampered.
I don't need to hear that chemo is really the hardest part of BC (from people that haven't had it).
Can't you just say "I'm sorry" or "I'm here if you need me"???? How hard is that?
Otherwise, people really should just STFU.
Sorry, needed to vent. Sorry to upset anyone. This is the only place I can say this.
When I'm not crying I'm snapping at everyone. I know it's probably normal.
12/5/2012, DCIS, Left, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+
12/16/2012 Lymph node removal: Left; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement
4/24/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
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