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Forum: IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma) — Just diagnosed, in treatment, or finished treatment for IDC.

Posted on: Feb 15, 2015 06:34PM

RaiderGirl wrote:

I will soon go for more surgery on Feb 27th, admitting diagnosis " undefined probable malignancy left breast"

Once again I had to bear stupid comments as in the first time I was diagnosed.

Stupid comment 1 " Oh we all have cancer cells and have concerns "

I wanted to say 'Ok you take my daily cancer concerns and I'll take yours"

Stupid comment #2 " Why don't you just get mastectomies and be done with it? After all they'll replace them with brand new breasts"

Please share yours. I'd like to believe that these types of comments are not just in my world.

BC is an ugly , painful, scary disease and it can't be made better by wearing a cute little pink T-shirt. When I see a sea of pink in a BC walk I get even madder. Look how many have been hurt by BC and still no closer to a cure than a decade ago. Dx 6/26/2014, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Radiation Therapy 8/26/2014 3DCRT: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 12/7/2014 Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 5, 2017 12:36PM EastcoastTS wrote:

Runor:

I think I read the "who you invite to your table" maybe in the Crazy, Sexy Cancer book. I can't quite recall. But as we get older -- there are only so many that we are able to really share life and experiences with. Some people disinvite themselves. But that's ok.

If we walk in grass and cure BC, what is walking in poop going to cure? I think Hercules should ask her mom. Poop is organic after all, right???

Dx@ 49. Oncotype: 14, BRCA 1/2- Dx 1/4/2017, ILC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/26/2017 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 9/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 5, 2017 12:37PM EastcoastTS wrote:

Runor:

I think I read the "who you invite to your table" maybe in the Crazy, Sexy Cancer book. I can't quite recall. But as we get older -- there are only so many that we are able to really share life and experiences with. Some people disinvite themselves. But that's ok.

If we walk in grass and cure BC, what is walking in poop going to cure? I think Hercules should ask her mom. Poop is organic after all, right???

Dx@ 49. Oncotype: 14, BRCA 1/2- Dx 1/4/2017, ILC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/26/2017 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 9/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 5, 2017 07:14PM - edited Oct 5, 2017 08:34PM by Herculesmulligan

I dunno Eastcoast, maybe colon cancer.

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Oct 6, 2017 09:01AM - edited Oct 6, 2017 09:56AM by TWills

I said the stupid comment yesterday, I couldn't believe it as it fell out of my mouth. I started a program through the hospitals wellness center for BC patients to regain strength and such, we work with a personal trainer and I was paired with one other lady. After class we were sharing our recovery stories and she told me she was able to have immediate reconstruction at the time of BMX and I said it! I said "that was lucky"!! I was so surprised when it came out, so mindless. I immediately apologized and said obviously there is nothing lucky about having to go through any type of recovery or reconstruction but sheesh, I'll definetly soften my feelings whenever loved ones and others say similar things to me. I cringe every time I think about it.

Chemotherapy 2/1/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Dx 11/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 1/14 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/12/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Surgery 7/9/2017 Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 7/30/2017 Whole-breast: Breast, Chest wall
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Oct 6, 2017 02:14PM ShetlandPony wrote:

Don't be too hard on yourself, TWills. I don't think that was so bad in the context of two patients discussing their surgeries, and I'm sure she understood what you meant.

2011 Stage I ILC ER+PR+ Her2- 1.5 cm grade 1, ITCs sn. Lumpectomy, radiation, tamoxifen. 2014 Stage IV ILC ER+PR+Her2- grade 2, mets to breast, liver, retroperitoneal nodes. Taxol NEAD. 2015,2016 Ibrance+letrozole. 2017 Faslodex+Afnitor; Xeloda
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Oct 6, 2017 05:20PM LAstar wrote:

TWills, we've all been there one way or another! You caught it and apologized and were very gracious. I think it's good for all of us to remember that most people are just trying to encourage us as we go through a bad time. The rest of them...not so much!

Dx 3/5/2012, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR- Surgery 4/6/2012 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 5/4/2012 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 6/19/2012 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): SGAP flap/hip flap; Reconstruction (right): SGAP flap/hip flap Surgery 10/5/2012 Reconstruction (left): SGAP flap/hip flap; Reconstruction (right): SGAP flap/hip flap Surgery 1/26/2015 Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap
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Oct 6, 2017 05:27PM EastcoastTS wrote:

TWills:

I actually totally get what you meant and I bet she did, too. (Or maybe not if she never had to experience the joy that are tissue expanders.) Don't feel bad. This was not a harsh statement.

Dx@ 49. Oncotype: 14, BRCA 1/2- Dx 1/4/2017, ILC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/26/2017 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 9/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 6, 2017 06:55PM SusieM49 wrote:

I have I have on multiple occasions had people tell me that I'm lucky now, because I don't have to worry about getting breast cancer. Apparently since I had a double mastectomy, people don't realize that it can come back. They think that if the breasts are on, then the risk is gone.

Dx 1/10/2016, IBC, Right, Stage IIIB, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 10/17/2016 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Oct 7, 2017 01:13PM LAstar wrote:

I take that opportunity for a teaching moment. I've learned a lot through my process and was guilty of the same misconceptions before diagnosis. If I can help someone be more vigilant, then it's worth the awkward conversation.

Dx 3/5/2012, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR- Surgery 4/6/2012 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 5/4/2012 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 6/19/2012 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): SGAP flap/hip flap; Reconstruction (right): SGAP flap/hip flap Surgery 10/5/2012 Reconstruction (left): SGAP flap/hip flap; Reconstruction (right): SGAP flap/hip flap Surgery 1/26/2015 Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap
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Oct 7, 2017 02:10PM solfeo wrote:

October is a big month for stupid comments. I call it Stinktober for the large amount of time I spend giving folks the stink eye for their dumb remarks! haha

In hindsight I can think of plenty of stupid things I said myself before my personal experience with BC, especially to my aunt who was diagnosed several years before me. She has turned out to be my biggest support and rarely says anything stupid.

I can also remember one particularly clueless thing I said to a co-worker with a different kind of cancer. She went on to pass away and I cringe every time I think of how I may have caused her even momentary distress with my unintentional insensitivity. Unfortunately I have a tendency to put my foot in my mouth in general, so even knowing what I know now it wouldn't be above me to say something very dumb. I try not to be too hard on others who suffer from the same foot-in-mouth disease, and I do tend to find humor in these situations most of the time, but they will definitely get a sideways glance.
Oncotype 13 Dx 7/31/2015, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 10/7/2015 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right Hormonal Therapy 11/17/2015 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 7, 2017 02:29PM TWills wrote:

I've just stopped wearing my wig and have started back to yoga. I was in a class at a place I have never been to and a lady came m over to introduce herself, she said I might not remember your name but I'll remember your hair!! WTH! I almost said I would remember her missing teeth. I was nice instead.

Chemotherapy 2/1/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Dx 11/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 1/14 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/12/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Surgery 7/9/2017 Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Radiation Therapy 7/30/2017 Whole-breast: Breast, Chest wall
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Oct 7, 2017 06:22PM Kahnartist wrote:

my mom just announced she is 71 and can't help me after surgery and my sister told me she can't help due to her allergy to My cat. Good times.

44 year old cat mom Dx 9/18/2017, IDC, Left, 5mm, Stage 1, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery: BMX 10/19/17 0/4 nodes
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Oct 7, 2017 06:31PM EastcoastTS wrote:

I say this as a cat mom of 2: I'd rather have my cat as family. Allergies my ass! (Although cats aren't terribly helpful after surgery.)

Do you have anyone who can assist? Do you know what surgery you're having yet?

Dx@ 49. Oncotype: 14, BRCA 1/2- Dx 1/4/2017, ILC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/26/2017 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 9/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 7, 2017 10:11PM Meshell5324 wrote:

Oh my Kahnartist I think our mom's would be good friends. Mine is 75 and said she couldn't help me because of her bad knee. (I pointed out that I hadn't asked her for help) .

What about friends? Or and I know this probably isn't ideal but could you stay at your sisters and have someone watch your cat for you?

Dx 9/7/2017, IDC, Right, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 10/19/2017 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Saline implant Hormonal Therapy 12/11/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 8, 2017 04:17PM Kahnartist wrote:

meshell5324 and eastcoastTS, I prefer my cat to everyone. My boyfriend and best friend are going to pick up most slack. I can be by myself for other blocks of time. I would rather it that way. It is just sad to think about how the people in your life can only be counted on until they can't be

44 year old cat mom Dx 9/18/2017, IDC, Left, 5mm, Stage 1, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery: BMX 10/19/17 0/4 nodes
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Oct 8, 2017 08:08PM EastcoastTS wrote:

I know I've said -- maybe on this forum -- that this crisis shows who is in and who is out. It has for me. And not all family have been in. That has been my experience.

Dx@ 49. Oncotype: 14, BRCA 1/2- Dx 1/4/2017, ILC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/26/2017 Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 9/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 9, 2017 08:28AM Herculesmulligan wrote:

ok eastcoast can I ask you to talk about that a bit more?

I'm struggling to redefine my relationship with my sisters who didn't cut and run when I got cancer, but who weren't super involved or supportive either. I can't keep being disappointed and upset when they forget I'm having surgery or don't show up when they say they wil. But what exactly does the redefinition entail? I want to keep somebody relationship with them.

So how have you ladies redefined those relationships with the people saying the hurtful things on this thread? Do you remove them entirely or modify the relationship?

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Oct 9, 2017 09:20AM coachvicky wrote:

HerculesM,

I have "let them go." Had a former boss and I thought we were close after the boss relationship ended and friendship began. I send a Christmas card but that is it.

Same with some family. I will send a birthday and Christmas cards but nothing more. They don't ask and I don't tell.

Funny thing is that I realized how much I was pouring into these relationships.

Now I have time and energy for the relationships that really matter.

I did have someone that didn't show up email me and apologize. I was gracious but I am also weary of allowing her back into my circle.

I wrote about this in this blog: http://leaderlines.net/it-is-over/

The paragraph about showing up is at the end.

Coach Vicky


Dx 6/2016, DCIS/IDC, Both breasts, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Dx 6/7/2016, LCIS/DCIS/IDC, Right, 4cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Surgery 7/11/2016 Mastectomy; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 8/21/2016 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy 8/22/2016 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 1/20/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Surgery 2/22/2017 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 4/4/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 9, 2017 10:05AM Shellsatthebeach wrote:

I love when people comment on my new hair style and how much better my hair looks. Should I tell them "thanks, but it's a wig".

Dx 3/2017, IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, ER+, HER2- Surgery 8/28/2017 Lymph node removal; Mastectomy: Left Dx 9/15/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, 6/10 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Targeted Therapy 9/24/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Radiation Therapy 10/17/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxotere)
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Oct 11, 2017 07:35AM Kahnartist wrote:

Last night my sister texted me and said she has a sore throat and wishes she could just take a month off and rest. K. Yea

44 year old cat mom Dx 9/18/2017, IDC, Left, 5mm, Stage 1, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery: BMX 10/19/17 0/4 nodes
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Oct 12, 2017 08:53AM edwards750 wrote:

I think the mindset of people who make these comments is twofold. One is they are afraid of BC especially when someone they know has it. Of course it's not contagious but it's hit too close to home and two, they think once all the surgeries and treatments are completed we are cured so no need to talk about it anymore. They don't want to hear about a possible recurrence - newsflash neither do we.

There are also people who put the blame on us for getting it in the first place. Right - we asked for it.

I can understand them being in denial because they are really afraid it might happen to them. I had a friend who argued that it was all genetic and since she had no family history she was home free. The fact is for the most part the experts don't really know why some of us drew the unlucky card.

There are also people who avoid us like we have leprosy because it's easier for them to deal with it. What you don't know....

For the most part I had a supportive family and friends. I didn't confide in anyone about my fears except one person who had been through it all.

I guess you really find out who your friends are at a time like this.

Diane

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Oct 12, 2017 10:06AM runor wrote:

I don't know whether to say I HAVE breast cancer or I HAD breast cancer.

Hub likes to say that I HAD breast cancer, they cut it out and now it's gone. But is it? Is that the end of it? Because if it is, then yes, I agree, breast cancer is a past tense event, it is over, gone, tralee, tralaa, I am cured!

But hold on a minute (sound of screeching tires). If I HAD cancer and cutting it out was the absolute, forever end to it, why was I radiated, why am I tamoxifated, why am I lymphedated? There seems to be a whole lot of shit still going on including the use of diagnostic mammograms instead of screening mammograms for someone who (past tense) HAD cancer.

To me the word HAD implies that this is a done deal. Because if I say I HAD it, telling everyone that I feel I have beat this thing once and for all, no Olivia Newton John for me, and then it does come back, what do I say? Well, I got more breast cancer? I had it, I beat it. Then lo and behold I got some more of it! Who knew?!

Well I knew! I DO NOT BELIEVE I AM CURED, merely postponed. I think if I was 70 when diagnosed I might live long enough to die of something else and then wow, I guess they were right, I guess I was cured of cancer (since something else killed me). However, I was diagnosed at 53 and I doubt very much I will live to even see 70.

I HAD breast cancer - and went through several surgeries and still taking treatments.

I HAVE breast cancer - and went through several surgeries and still taking treatments.

What is correct. Have or had? Present tense or past? I seriously do not know how to refer to my situation.

Dx 3/23/2017, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 7/5/2017 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 12, 2017 11:07AM Tappermom383 wrote:

You raise good questions, runor. I just had a friend ask me, "So you've finished all your treatments? You're cured now?" Well, that discussion has already unfolded on this site. There is no cure - there's treatment that makes us NED. Our surgeries and treatments are in the recent past - our hormonal therapy continues so we are still in treatment. If I tell anyone about my BC now, I say I was diagnosed in March.

MJ

Diagnosed at 70 after four excisional biopsies over the course of 47 years. MammaPrint came back Low Risk. DexaScan: osteopenia. Cancer removed was 1.8 cm. Dx 3/23/2017, DCIS/IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/31/2017 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 5/22/2017 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 7/17/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 12, 2017 11:13AM VL22 wrote:

Runor - good question. I say I had cancer, even though I'm still in treatment. It was cut out and all of this is just precautionary. I know all the data and stats, but it helps me mentally.

Dx 5/5/2017, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 6/15/2017 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 6/23/2017, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 8/10/2017 AC + T (Taxol)
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Oct 12, 2017 12:56PM Valstim52 wrote:

good question. I agree. Is it i 'had' it, or am i in some type of holding period. My MO always says I'm in full remission. So is there a partial remission? She did say until I reach 3 years and then 5 she will say remission. I understand with my stats: 3b, inflammatory.

Stupid comment by a good friend: She had to come back for a diagnostic mammogram, and it was clear. She then said she would have just died if she had to go through what i did. Umm, I didn't die.

The glass is half full. Do not live life looking in the rear view mirror. Can't go forward that way Dx 11/24/2015, IDC/IBC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIB, Grade 1, 2/19 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 1/10/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 5/23/2016 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 6/21/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery Mastectomy: Left, Right
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Oct 12, 2017 01:29PM Scared67 wrote:

Valstim52 - OMG - what a thoughtless comment!!!!

I've had people say to me that they've had minor illnesses - but - "wouldn't know" what they "do" if they "got cancer". Amazing.

Like it's Ok for us to get it - but - not them. WTH.

Dx 4/13/2016, DCIS/IDC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 3/23 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/17/2016 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Surgery 5/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary Chemotherapy 7/6/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 11/7/2016 Hormonal Therapy 11/8/2016
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Oct 12, 2017 03:52PM VL22 wrote:

I get annoyed by hair comments. I know "it's only hair " and "it'll grow back", but it's my hair ! Don't call me "silly " or "vain" . I miss my hair mostly because it is really what makes me look sick and I am a very private person. But , yes, I'm guilty of missing itbecause I really liked my hair!

Dx 5/5/2017, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 6/15/2017 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Dx 6/23/2017, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 8/10/2017 AC + T (Taxol)
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Oct 12, 2017 05:04PM coachvicky wrote:

I don't think anyone can understand unless they have walked this path or one very similar. I am grateful my husband is empathetic but he still thinks my new hair is better than what I had. I know it is a better style and condition but it IS NOT MY HAIR!!!

As for people who did not show up ... when I look back I was the one doing the work in the relationship. Glad their colors showed.

I think the only thing I am really happy about this change was getting rid of my breasts. I grew to hate them when the cancers were discovered in both.

There is a line in a country song that goes something like, "God is Great, Beer is Good, People are Crazy."

Yep.

Coach Vicky


Dx 6/2016, DCIS/IDC, Both breasts, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Dx 6/7/2016, LCIS/DCIS/IDC, Right, 4cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Surgery 7/11/2016 Mastectomy; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 8/21/2016 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy 8/22/2016 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 1/20/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Surgery 2/22/2017 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 4/4/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 12, 2017 11:41PM - edited Oct 12, 2017 11:42PM by Meow13

My husband makes comments that irritate that crap out of me. I tell him, you know it is harder for me to do the things I used to do since my DIEP surgery. His comment, "And how many years ago was that". Actually, the discomfort is more noticable now that nerves keep coming back to life.

I want to give a him swift kick in the ass.

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Oct 13, 2017 09:29AM edwards750 wrote:

It's hard to comprehend how some people can be so clueless. I usually respond I am 6 years out. Not cured but made it 6 years.

No offense Meow but I would be irritated if my husband said the same thing. Actually mine thought it was business as usual too. I let him have it. It's k when they are sick and you are at their beckoning call but God forbid we get sick.

It's a shame we have to call them out for being insensitive. I have always been the strong one so I should handle my own illness. Seriously.

Diane

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