Singles with breast cancer who want to connect.
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Apr 29, 2011 11:32PM
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txkari
wrote:
Hello --
I'm a 47 year old single, who was diagnosed with DCIS grade 3 in early March. The affected area is quite large ... 15 cm in one direction. I have had two partial mastectomies and they still don't have clear margins, so I will be getting a full mastectomy on the left side in a few weeks.
I guess I took the Dr's assurances that I would be OK, a little too much to heart. I was ready for a little surgery and radiation. I wasn't ready to be told I needed a full mastectomy. The reality of it hit me a couple of nights ago.
I haven't met with the plastic surgeon yet, so I'm not sure what my reconstruction plan is yet. My questions are ... how did you prepare yourself to see your body after the surgery? I'm rather large breasted (DD) so the difference is going to be pretty dramatic. Have you found that men can look past the changes in your body? Do they understand? I just want to know if I need to resign myself to being alone. Is there love after a mastectomy/reconstruction?
Thanks
Dx
3/4/2011, DCIS, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes
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Jazzygirl
New Mexico
Joined: Nov 2012
Posts: 10,397
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Jun 2, 2018 08:36AM
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Jun 2, 2018 05:27PM
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Jazzygirl
Toughcookie- congrats on being done with chemo. Give yourself some time to rest and heal up. I have a fellow BCO sister I know from another thread doing Zometa and it sounds very do-able compared to many things we go through with this stuff. Thanks for checking in and letting us know you are doing.
My backyard is an explosion of blooms right now. Front yard is holding it's own too! The gardens give me a bit of sanity in an otherwise insane world!
Dx
9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Dx
9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel
Radiation Therapy
1/6/2013 Breast
Radiation Therapy
2/24/2013 Breast
Hormonal Therapy
3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Jun 2, 2018 04:11PM
ToughCookie101
wrote:
Jazzygirl - Glad to know the other BCO sister is handling Zometa well. It is interesting that it is now being used for early stage breast cancer too. I can’t keep ending up febrile neutropenic and throwing up water after every chemo. My MO says it is dangerous.
I live in Canada, So no flowers like that. That and I can’t keep plants alive, hah.
Diagnosed at 33 after finding my lump myself. Had to stop chemo after round 3 due to repeatedly ending up febrile neutropenic and developing neuropathy. Now on to ABCSG12 treatment (hormone therapy and Zometa).
Dx
11/15/2017, IDC, Left, 2cm, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
2/1/2018 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement
Chemotherapy
4/4/2018 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel)
Hormonal Therapy
Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone), Zoladex (goserelin)
Surgery
9/1/2018 Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement
Jazzygirl
New Mexico
Joined: Nov 2012
Posts: 10,397
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Jun 2, 2018 05:29PM
Jazzygirl
wrote:
Our sister Enerva here is also from Canada. She has flowers on a deck I believe. My front yard burned last summer with the heat (I have rocks, otherwise known xeriscape) but the plants got fried. I relandscaped with more desert friendly things and a neighbor told me last night things are looking good. June is the hottest month here, so here we go.
Today I bought some poppies!
Dx
9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Dx
9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel
Radiation Therapy
1/6/2013 Breast
Radiation Therapy
2/24/2013 Breast
Hormonal Therapy
3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
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Jun 3, 2018 09:49AM
NotBrokenJustBent
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ToughCookie, I developed mild neuropathy after my first treatment but my old fart MO assured me it would be temporary. I asked about icing and was told it is a myth and to stay off the internet. Needless to say my neuropathy progressed with every treatment and today it has significantly affected my QOL. That bald headed freak with his medical degree from the 1930s caused me much harm and I won't even go into the dangers I was exposed to once I began the blockers. Thankfully with an insurance change I was forced to find a new MO and she immediately changed my meds. Sounds like you have a proactive doctor and be thankful for that. You are getting thru this on onward to the other side. Take good care of yourself. Are you working these days?
Jazzygirl
New Mexico
Joined: Nov 2012
Posts: 10,397
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Jun 5, 2018 09:01PM
Jazzygirl
wrote:
How is everybody doing this week ?
Dx
9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Dx
9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel
Surgery
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel
Radiation Therapy
1/6/2013 Breast
Radiation Therapy
2/24/2013 Breast
Hormonal Therapy
3/21/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)
Enerva
Toronto , Ontario
Joined: Oct 2013
Posts: 3,072
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Jun 10, 2018 02:53PM
Enerva
wrote:
hi sorry I haven't been here lately
Yes I am well now
I am now at the public laundry doing some laundry after weeks of none lol
It sucks cuz it is such a beautiful day out and I am stuck doing laundry but 4 more days I will move to the cottage and all will be worth it
The rest I did will pay off lol
Hoping you all have a wonderful weekend
Surgery
3/24/2013 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement
Surgery
12/23/2013 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
Surgery
8/26/2014 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right)
Dx
12/13/2017, LCIS, 6cm+, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Hormonal Therapy
12/21/2017 Zoladex (goserelin)