Worst Thing Someone Said To You?
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GOBSMACK... love this word!!!!!!!!!!
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Today, after a side-track discussion that went on for about 30 minutes during a phone conference at work, someone says, 'well Louise, are you ready to die now' (I think he meant of boredom...)
I was speechless!
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you are right and these conspiracy theory's would be funny if they were not believed by grown men and women..there is no cure yet because of the complexity of the disease .we got to the moon because we knew how to get there and money was the only problem, not so with all these diseases..we don't know how to cure them no matter how much money we throw at ..although i think a cure will be found for every major disease out there its when thats the big question.. we need more research
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you are right and these conspiracy theory's would be funny if they were not believed by grown men and women..there is no cure yet because of the complexity of the disease .we got to the moon because we knew how to get there and money for the project was the only problem, not so with all these diseases..we don't know how to cure them no matter how much money we throw at ..although i think a cure will be found for every major disease out there its when thats the big question.. we need more research
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you are right and these conspiracy theory's would be funny if they were not believed by grown men and women..there is no cure yet because of the complexity of the disease .we got to the moon because we knew how to get there and money was the only problem, not so with all these diseases..we don't know how to cure them no matter how much money we throw at ..although i think a cure will be found for every major disease out there its when thats the big question.. we need more research
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Today- after telling my best friend I was feeling really down because of all the money this is costing, how I have always dreamed of a trip around the world, and could have paid for 2 or 3 trips around the world with what I have spent on cancer...she replies "well my husband has sleep apnea and our insurance won't pay on his treatment". Yeah- that's just about the same kind of thing......here's your sign. Tami
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She could get a load of groceries for what a C-PAP costs.....
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I hate small town living!!!! A person my husband and I know that I could never refer to as a friend thought he was being very funny when he asked my husband "who found the lump?" Ha! Ha! He really thought he was being funny in that creepy guy way. My husband walked away and said he will never speak to that idiot again. Stupid people don't know they're stupid!!!
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And, as my husband always says, "you can't fix stupid."
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barbe1958, you must warn me before I choke up with a giggle laugh on your one liners. (Just kidding. You go, girlfriend!)
Hey, I might have obtained a used Prius for that PT/Bone Scan combo. I didn't order fries.
Thank you for being you, barbe1958.
Sessna1
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Barbe, I second what Sessna said. I just got done choking on your one liner regarding the picture of the group hug on another thread. I told my husband, wish I could get the time off work to go to Vegas, I would love to have a drink by the pool with Barbe.
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Imays: Know what you mean about the cure for cancer... my 26 yr old son claims a cure for cancer (don't know what kind) was discovered by German doctor in 1936. Must've read that from somewhere but not sure where.... interesting. Can you imagine how much money would be lost on all the chemo drugs, treatments, tests, etc etc??
shelly
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What I really hate is when you get cards and phone calls from neighbors who say "Call me if you need anything, I'm there for you!" When you do call they act like you're trying to go out of your way to incovenience them. It's even worse when it's your own family. My son was supposed to take and pick me up from today's chemo trt, called last week to say he had a final (law school) and could only pick up. When they neighbor bailed on me I decided to drive myself figuring son will be at my house by 4 or 5 this afternoon. I called him when I got back and he announced he wouldn't be here until LATE (10 or 11 PM). After getting totally upset I called him back and told him I just couldn't deal with company tonight so stay home.
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Oh, Barbe- I do love you!!!! Tami
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Hugs to you Shannon. I hope your feeling better.
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{{{{{{{{{{{ Shannon }}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You did the right thing by not letting him come by so late. You'll be exhausted! He'll think he deserves a medal for even showing up...
Where was that group hug thing, which thread?
Do you guys know what a C-PAP is? It's for people with sleep apnea....really.
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barbe1958
First you are truly inspirational. On the C-PAP thing I think it's the machine they have to use at night to they don't die. For some sleep apnea sufferers if they don't have the machine running when they sleep it's very likely they won't wake up again. So in some ways it is worse than BC because it never goes away and you can only treat the symptoms. Of the 4 or 5 people I know with it they had throat and nose surgery to try to correct the problem but it didn't work for them and they all have to sleep with these machines running.
We and they will never know what it is really like to be in the other's shoes unless we have the misfortune to have both.
BTW my youngest son's bestfriend in grade school was from Barie! He went there every summer for 2 weeks for grades 5 - 8.
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Don't they though? People who MAKE the time to help you are the ones who care truly for you and love you - on your time of the need (within reason), not their convenience or leftover time. If all they have is their convenience time, it probably won't work - even if you have a bunch of them. Sometimes, they are offering, but they really aren't able to follow through.
Let's not forget, some people are not good at timing requests for assistance... Some people wait until the last moment. Some people have to have it 100% their way, no negotiations at any time. Pushy people don't get less pushier once they are in discomfort. Sometimes a chore request is a trap to get you there for enough cups of tea to listen as their captive audience. [See why Meals on Wheels makes sure they are serving the correct person, drops off that food, and wheels outta there?] Sheltered is one thing. Lonely is another. Depressed yet another. Awaiting people to treat you as the King or Queen of the realm is not fair.
There are two sides to this story and a sequel. Some people will ask for favors and never offer to pay for their goods, which is another story, and leaves a sour taste in a do-gooders mouth.
People don't stop having their own lives. I am a single person, and I've learned to make concessions, allowances, kindnesses for my single mom friends on the phone. The child takes preference over me, okay. I agree.
Last night, my neighbor had her two 100% house cats in her backyard "airing" them out when she called me. She had to interrupt our conversation to keep them from going over the wall, and to spank one for misbehaving. [I am not making this up.] I wanted to tell her to buy two cat leashes, two small dog tethers, and let em' have at it instead of calling me during their play time.
Do you spank a cat for misbehaving? Do they get it?
I'll take second status to your children, your husband, your urgent and emergency phone calls - don't ask me to take second status to your pets unless they are in medical crisis. I'll give you call waiting for your children, but the operator has never lost the capacity to break into a phone line during an emergency - okay? Better yet, take the 25 seconds to come back into my line, tell me that I'm second banana, and that I can go on with my day instead of waiting upon your day. I am good with that! Tell me that you respect me enough not to put me on 5 minute plus hold - and that I am not stupid enough to let you do it. (sigh)
Yes, here's your sign. Thanks for thinking you were doing me a "favor" by giving me the time you had to share with your cats. At least I know where I stand.
Sessna1
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Sessna, when you "spank" a cat, it lets them know what will be the most fun when you aren't looking!
Shannon, I know what a C-PAP is, my brother uses one. I just wondered why everyone thought my comment was funny!
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Ok, I'm going to 'fess-up. I have a friend who's been batteling BC for 5 years. When she came home from hospital, I cooked dinner for her family 2 nights a week and organised others to cover the other nights of the week for 2 mos. I went and cleaned for her 2 days a week too. I drove her to all her appts. (her DH would have NOTHING to do with this.)
I stood by her when she was sick and when she got on tax. I finally had to give up. I did find someone who took my place.
When I was DX'd in March, feeling as if I was now a member of an inside gang, I called her and said "Hey there! Guess what? I cought BC from you!"
I meant it as a joke but she said "No! It's not contaigiouse!" and then started crying. Boy! Did I feel like a jerk!
Lursa
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Lursa, your comment wasn't so bad, the point was did she come and help you? Maybe that's why she was crying, it was payback time!
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Bombus, I could SO relate to your sister's comment: my younger sister never calls unless she needs something. When I was diagnosed last year, she was hysterical--crying all the time. Then, three weeks later, it was my daughter's wedding and she came to it, and refused to talk to me, and after the wedding, because it was across the country from my family--my older sister stayed with me and supported me and my younger sister immediately took off and hung out with friends and told my older sister that she couldn't handle being around me.
Recently she sent an email to me, and both my daughters (not to DH) and said she'd be in area, and "Hoped we could arrange a meeting." None of us responded.
My older sister asked what I wanted to do: I said I'd like it if my younger sister could care and respect me, but since that wasn't going to happen, I don't see the need to meet with her to keep up appearances.
I always thought that in a crisis, she'd come through, despite over 40 years of no evidence of empathy. I was wrong, and it does hurt.
Kira
My older sister's girlfriend told her mother about her brain cancer, and her mother's response was "What does this mean for me?"
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Well, I haven't had anyone ask about me once they sent out the token floral delivery. I have 2 brothers and a sister. One bro and sis on west coast, one bro 1 hour away! Maybe it didn't really happen, did it?
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Barbe,
I would say unbelievable,except it's WAY too believable.
I did get a book from my younger sister before she decided that she couldn't handle being around me--too upsetting.
I guess the good news is no more phone calls looking for me to solve her problems.
Kira
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barbe1958, I think most of us knew what a C-PAP is, but even those who didn't glommed on to the fact that it was a medical related expense/procedure and that groceries are so expensive that the trade off between the two is negligible.
That was the funny part, dear lady.
USA Health Plan = "Don't get sick. Thank you."
Also, I think the group hug comment was about when your co-workers approached you "in a group" and the one guy stuck out his hand as if it was much more appropriate than getting closer to you - and a hug was outta the question. He couldn't even give you a "guy hug," i.e., the grip-grab-pull in and release of human males currently very popular.
Your fellow observer of people,
Sessna1
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Nah Sessna, the group hug thing was a picture of a bunch of puppies all "asleep" in a row, spooning each other. There were about 9 of them. They looked dead, so I asked...
And see, Idaho said she could have paid for 2 or 3 trips around the world with what her cancer has cost her and then her neighbour said "oh I know, my husband has sleep apnea" so my comment was to say that her husband's disease is worth a load of groceries...
Does any of that make me less funny or more funny?
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When did someone try and hug me? I wouldn't have let him just shake my hand. ehhehehee
Once in a group at my other job we were all bitching. The store manager was there and very snidely said "oh do you need a hug Barbe" so I said sure and before he knew what I was doing I grabbed him in a bear hug right in front of MY peers. He was so RED! heheheheheh
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Barbe: more
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Not at all, dear barbe1958, not at all!
Sessna1
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YES BARBE-I still think it is hilarious! I totally understood what you were saying. I did not in any way mean to trivialize sleep apnea, I was comparing the cost of the two. By the way, he has had sleep apnea for 46 years, and the cost to fix it WILL probably only cost what a cart load a groceries would. I have had breast cancer for 3 months and my expenses are up to about what a brand spankin new car costs, and I am not done with expensive things yet. If all I had to do was wear a breathing machine at night to cure my disease- sign me up! Tami
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