Worst Thing Someone Said To You?
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Lydia, don't let that "Caregiver" hurt you. If you are really stressing about the situation, you might want to consider taking a break from the Tamoxifen, and then starting again. Some women have been successful in reducing their side effects after a break. It is at least worth considering. The bottom line is that you are taking this medication to have a life in the future, not merely an existence.
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But we are all individuals. For some people, antidepressants aren't helpful.
But for other people, its a risk vs benefit situation. There are some people who would be dead and gone from suicide if they didn't take antidepressants. Other people simply could not function without them. And other people find other ways (such as non-prescription methods) ways to handle their issues. There is no one right way.
It also depends on how critical tamoxifen is to your care, and how your body metabolizes tamoxifen. Its a decision that must be tailored for YOU, not for anyone else.
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Dianna- I read the post about tamox and anti depressants before I posted. I realize that SOME interfere with tamox but they said in the article that not ALL anti depressants interfere. I still think she should talk to her onc about at least trying them....Tami
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My onc and I agreed to go with Femara. I take an anti-depressant "cocktail" and since it works, I won't consider changing it. Luckily, it was a moot point anyway, because Femara was a better choice to begin with.
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I agree, alot of people can say alot of mean, cruel things without giving a thought to other peoples feelings.
I find myself getting annoyed at alot of people about this lately but I have to share a story with you.
My grand-daughter that is 5 yrs old was getting ready for her dance recital and her mother was running late so I took over the task of starting to curl her hair for a "up-do". She says to me " you are doing it wrong" and I replied " you should never trust a Bald Chick to do your hair"! which made us both giggle.
Her mother shows up and my grand-daughter starts laughing and says" Mom, never trust a bald chicken?"
My daughter just looked at me with a questioning look!!!
If adults could get away with the same things kids say to us , we would be so much happier
Bonnie
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My sister told me she would have had a mastectomy instead of a lumpectomy just to be rid of them because she's not as vain as me. Oh sorry for my choice, I'm soooo vain, my mutant boob will be featured in playboy. Geesh!
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Two weeks after my dx, I was in rehab recovering from surgery for an IM rodding to my right femur. An LRN came into my room and said," I probably shouldn't say this but I've seen your chart and if I were you I'd make a will soon." I was too dumbfounded to say anything.
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bygracealone -- OMG! If I ever hear someone say "I probably shouldn't say this..." I hope your story will inspire me to interrupt them right there and say, "Then, DON'T !!!!" OMG, that is the WORST !!!
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That takes the cake! I hope to heck you reported her!!!!!!!! If not, do so now. That kind of comment would destroy the normal human being! Good thing you're not normal, hehehehehe
(which is a good thing in my book, do you know me yet?) 0 -
brygrace, you've got to be kidding me. Report her. Unbelieveable!
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I honestly think that in order to endure this, we are given some sort of strange sense of humor or funny bone. We'd have to in order to take the unbelievably ridiculous things people say to us.
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I had a minor conflict with someone at work on Thursday and the team leader told me that I 'come across rather strong for a woman.' HEHEHEHEHE I asked him if he would have ever said that to a man! (I am the only female in sales in my department!) Am I supposed to be meek and mild and let this other guy walk all over me? When all was said and done, it was discovered that I was right and the other guy was wrong! Woo hoo!
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Yes, report her bygrace!
barbe - do they even let you vote and own property in your own name? Or maybe undergo trial by ordeal? What a sexist thing to say!
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Leaf, it was a HIM, not a HER!
I can't report things like this or I sound like a baby....
Just felt good posting it here, though. 0 -
Sorry, barbe - my first comment was for bygracealone...my bad.
He is a dunkhead though- what a comment!
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I'm hoping bygrace has reported that idiot as well! Or at least that she knows she was right to be offended! Unbelievable....
Dunkhead, I like that! 
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I participated in a local Relay for Life this past Friday/Saturday. I have an adopted daughter (Kelly) who is 34. She has an older biological half-sister (Ginny)who is 40. Ginny just went for her first mammogram. They found a cyst so they did a biopsy. The biopsy came back completely normal. We all know how stressful those experiences are, but....
Ginny went to the Relay for Life where she lives in CT and walked the SURVIVOR Lap. When Kelly confronted her about it she said, "Well, it could have been cancer." Maybe it's just me, but I don't know why someone would want what we have.
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JaneM: I'm going to put my nice hat on and say that maybe Ginny is still traumatized, didn't get the emotional support she needed going through the biopsy and waiting for results, and needed somehow to feel validated about that traumatic experience and supported and that worked for her. Because without that nice hat on it does make some of us feel like she's minimizing what we went through and you're right why would you want to be in this camp if you didn't have to be. But, I'll keep the nice hat on because some people think peace and a good attitude towards life can decrease recurrences.
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I walked the Survivor Lap 3 weeks ago and cried the whole way. It was very emotional for me.... I wonder how Ginny held up
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Barbe, as usual you crack me up. That is funny
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One of the worst things someone has said to me was said by a breast cancer nurse. She attended a seminar where doctors said it "was becoming fashionable to have breast cancer".
I'm sorry but that was so insensitive that I was dumbfounded and couldn't reply. I cry every time I think about it. They obviously don't really know how much hell we go through.
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sassa, that's hilarious!
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Oh here is one! A couple of weeks ago I was at the Race for the Cure. I was wearing my pink survivor t-shirt and was carrying a green tote bag that I got at the survivor tent. They gave us these cute bags filled with goodies. It was really nice. So anyway, my boyfriend and I were walking around looking at the different booths and some woman (a stranger) came up to me and asked me where I got the green bag because she couldn't find them anywhere. I told her that I got it in the survivor tent. Her response to me was "Oh you guys get all the good stuff!". What the??? lol I had to crack up about it with my boyfriend and later with my friends at work. I didn't have a chance to tell her that I'd gladly give her "all my good stuff" if she'd take all my SE's from chemo and rads.
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Lainey -- sure you wish you'd had the chance to tell her about all the "good stuff" you've been through since your dx! But then, you'd probably feel terrible afterwards.....
....and she probably did too.The only insensitive thing that happened to me was my sister-in-law bursting into tears the first time she saw me after my surgery. She's not my favourite SIL
Made me feel like I was at death's door. I think someone said something to her because she later apologized.0 -
I HATE when other people make our "drama" their "drama"....sheesh! Get your own crap!
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Nurse in the BS office after a biopsy of my other non cancer breast due to MRI showing something and my decision to have both breast remove...
"So your going to cut off a perfectly good breast!"
My reply was it's not perfect, it's already had one biopsy!
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You should have said, "Yah, it's like firing a "perfectly good" nurse!"
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Going with barbe on that one
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I work for a local county and we all had to go to a meeting about how our health care benefits were going to cost us an additional $40 per pay period because "some people" were "stressing the system with life-threatening diseases." I could feel eyes turning on me, but didn't move. Where are my powers of teleportation when I need them?
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