I WANT MY MOJO BACK!
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OOPS,
Never mind went to the singles site
You're one hellava woman~!~!
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For a full account of the showdown, check out "...another one bites the dust" over on the "Singles" board! I feel quite cleansed and am already corresponding with a new guy (
) on plentyoffish. He's a retired professor....thought I'd pass on the architects and engineers for awhile, ya know 
?~Marin
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Watch it, sister! My man's an engineer!!
No boa used by him, Marin. He was SO seductive, though. It was really amazing. One of those nights that will live on and on in my memory!0 -
Don't you just love those memories? Not to take anything from the actual events, but sometimes the memories can get a little embellished and embroidered and become even sexier than how it really happened. On the other hand, some scenarios need no plumping up....sounds like yours was one of these, Deb!
Oh, nothing against engineers...yours sounds awesome! And i certainly could never have found any fault with J's technique....it was nearly perfect! If only he had remained completely mute!
~Marin
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Marin- LOL- That's where "Shhh honey, just don't talk," comes in.
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LOL-so true about the mute thing!
I have a stupid "memory" to share. I was watching "Wings" yesterday (we dvr it), and there was a scene where Helen and Joe are trying to kiss and make out. Helen just keeps giggling and cracking up because it's so odd since it is their first time doing so.
It totally reminded me of the first time Greg and I "made out," with all the awkwardness, and quite a few giggles coming from my side. I had to laugh.
Ok, here is a good one. We got a huge box in the mail yesterday, addressed to Greg. I was going to open it, but he usually tells me if he orders anything, so I thought perhaps I should call him.
He starts giggling with a bit of a naughty tone in his voice, and keeps saying, "NO! Don't open it!!! It's your anniversary present!!!"
I got curious and checked out the website on the box label, and saw why he was giggling.......
I told him when he got home that I did some detective work, and he admitted what it was.
It's a pillow/wedge set for different positions during lovemaking!
It's from "Liberator," it's huge, and I can't wait to try it and share it with you guys.Umm.....the story and feedback......not the pillow.........
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OMG, Deb, I am soooooooooooooooooooo jealous!!!! I've wanted a "Liberator" for ages! In fact, once after my bf (the golfer guy I was with for 2 years) and I saw it "in person" at a sex store, we got so psyched that we concocted our own version from a backrest and a few pillows. It worked really well, but i still think the "real thing" would be so sexy because of its actual intent!!!! The only thing that could be even better, in my mind, would be one of those swings. Mmmmmmmmmm......
On a slightly different topic, has anyone taken or looked into taking pole dancing lessons? I've heard that they're really expensive. If I can find inexpensive ones, I would sign up in a heartbeat!
Have fun, Deb! When is your anniversary?
~Marin
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I love pole dancing!!! I have not bought one yet,but try it with deck posts. Not nearly as good! Hubby has looked some up online since I love to dance but they are expensive! At least the good ones.
I have a pillow I bought at the health care store for my mastectomy, it looks like the liberator, I will give it a try and let you know. It may be cheaper. It is called a wedge!
Daniella
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Oh my Freaking goodness......
I STRONGLY recommend the Liberator. Holy crap.Good present, dear hubby!!!
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wow........ as my kid would say "tmi"
........ soooo glad i never lost my mojo lol!
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Shel, if that post made you blush then don't go back any pages for my previous posts!
This thread has been a godsend for me, because after 6 mos. of chemo, a bilateral, and rads all at the age of 31, I totally lost my mojo.
With thanks to Marin and the other resident sex therapists here, our mojo is better than ever.0 -
Hi Shel! ::::waving::::
No advice/info on pole dancing lessons but I'm going to take a self-defense course (had one years ago after 9/11 but need a refresher). Ya think those maneuvers would help in MOJO Land???
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hey janis!!!!!!!
......... i didn't blush lol ......... more like cringed ......... just "tmi" for this girl!
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Shel, did you read what it was? It's just a pillow for better positions! Not a "BOB," which is what it can sound like.
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Janis....I'm thinking of "playing Ninjas" or something along those lines. Wear silky pajamas with a few strategically-placed slits and see who can gain the upper hand (chop?) and have the other at her/his mercy. Hmmmmmm....whaddaya think? All it takes is a fertile imagination, my girl!
~Marin
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Allyson,
Thank you so much for all the time and effort you put into writing that post. Now that treatment is over I identify completely with the dark thoughts and the wondering if it wouldn't be easier to just die. Staying busy helps. Getting stronger helps. You are absolutely right. It doesn't get written about too much. But Personally, I think these thoughts are so completey normal given the cicumstances. So long as they don't become intrusive, or create a need to act on them, they are just thoughts in reaction to stressors.
I have a bottle of lexapro waiting for me. But I still have to get my heart checked out completely now that RAD's are over. I want a clear 'go' before I give antidepressants another try. There is still a possible cardiomyopathy diagnosis in my future from A/C chemo. Already diagnosed with supraventricular events with a super high pulse in my sleep per heart monitor. Plus the chemo passed the blood brain barrier, thickened my white matter and cause several TIA's which are just infarctions in the brain rather than the heart.
So .................. I really do have to be cautious. May 2nd, oncologist is referring me to a heart specialist for further evaluation.
I developed thrombocytopenia on prozaac. I was only on it three months. Had I not done my homework, recognized the symptoms and stayed on the drug longer, it may not ever have reversed.
I was also tried on paxil, wellbutrin and tofranil...... none of which I could stay on due to adverse reactions.
I really am a 'yellow canary' with just about everything as my mother was.
One day at a time.
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Okay I could give you guys some stories to make you blush......!
My secret is a cute cop hubby that works tooo many nights!!! LOL!
Dani
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So, you don't get "nooners"? What would those be called? "midnighters"? Always did love a guy in uniform!
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Um, Dani....is he your "hubby" or someone else's? Just kidding, of course, but it's an interesting thought......
~Marin
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Things were going so well in the mojo department during husband's vacation 2 weeks ago, the he got the flu. So much for frequent sex improving immune function. Happily I did not get sick as well. So, we need to get back in the mojo groove. Along with the lack of lubrication I find that I bleed easily even with lube, not a lot but having this happen at all is disconcerting and a bit of a mojo killer. Is this common? Is this just going to be how it is with all the hormone suppression? I am thinking of making a gyn appt (also afraid of that which I never have been- the idea of a speculum is horrifying at this point). Advice? Should I be worried? I am pretty sure this is vaginal bleeding from thinned tissues versus uterine bleeding. 0
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Correction- after checking into it a little further I think it is bleeding from the cervical area- obviously not something that makes me very happy. I did have a polyp removed just prior to my bc dx last May and also had d&c at the same time- no cancer cells. It's still anxiety provoking because lobular bc tends to be "attracted" to the reproductive organs. Hate discovering this sort of thing on a Saturday. Think I will find start a worry oriented conversation elsewhere- doubt this post is going to be good for anyone's mojo- it's certainly not good for mine.
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Marin,
You are too funny! Yes, I am sure he is my hubby! On May 18th he will have been my hubby for 23 years! We got married young i was 20 he was 23, then we had 5 kids! Man what were we thinking! Fun when their young, frowning now that they are all teens. Acutally my oldest is 20 he will be 21 in September! Yikes!
Hubby and I love to hang out together. Sometimes it is us against them!!! Much harder when they are all in their teens.
This cop is mine and I can't not share! LOL!
Daniella
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Oh, Daniella, what a lucky woman you are! And you seem to know it too and that's rare and very special. I think that's one of the truly positive gifts of cancer....we start to realize the wonder of the good things in our lives. Enjoy, hon, and HAPPY MOJO-ING (everyone!)!!!
~Marin
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So Allyson, you're of course smart to get the bleeding checked out. It's probably nothing but another stupid polyp or whatever, but you'll worry until you know, I'm sure.
If you find, though, that at least some of the bleeding is from thinning tissue, I'd suggest that you try taking fish oil, if you don't take it already. Fish oil has helped me keep my skin well-hydrated. Also, it has been suggested here (Jaybird?) that regular application of a natural oil (like your coconut oil or, perhaps, Burt's Bees baby oil) in & around the opening of the vagina helps to keep the tissue healthy and well-conditioned. I should think applying it after each shower or bath, just like you apply body and hand lotion regularly, would be pretty helpful.
Let us know how things go with the gyn, Allyson.
~Marin
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Marin- thanks- seems like a good idea- something new and interesting to add to my beauty/grooming regimen- vaginal moisturizing... Hoping to be able to refocus on how to have hot sex again soon. In the meantime I'll look to you guys for inspiration. 0
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I've been trying the various OTC moisturizer ointments and beads etc. Warning - I just tried the CVS brand moisturizer which comes in individual applicators. Sounded just like the name brand products and cost less. Well this stuff seriously caused a burning sensation and discomfort. Maybe they used anti-freeze as one of the ingredients so now tossed in the garbage! It appear these products all have slightly different ingredients. SO BUYER BEWARE! (The developers should test it on themselves!!)
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I mentioned this in a previous post but will mention it again- found organic coconut oil to be the BEST- nice texture, good smell, and NO BURNING (like with Astroglide). I think maybe it is a good rule not to use anything in/near one's vagina that you wouldn't put in your mouth/use for food- there are some weird products out there.
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Sorry to be a downer girls, but I gotta vent. Went on a romantic vacation with that fantstic guy I desribed in my previous post...we had some "drama" on the last day..he was getting some phone calls from "friends"..one turned out to be a former GF who is still his "masseuse" . This conversation went to me asking him to be honest and his telling me he isn't sure he can commit to me because of my body and the "cancer thing"..it was just devastating. I spent the last day of our precious time together in agony. He has beena free spirit and pretty well confirmed bachelor fo rmany years. Guess I like a challenge. But he wants to be with me..he is having trouble commiting. Will this be the 3rd relationship to bite the dust due to BC??
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I'm sorry, soccermom, but I feel like kicking this guy in his sensitive balls....because that, apparently, is the only sensitive part on him! He has trouble committing because of "your body" and the "cancer thing"??? WTF????!!! I don't get it. He still wants to be with you why? I mean if it's just sex and you were okay with that, then fine, but it doesn't sound like that's the case. I guess the bottom line is....can YOU stay in the relationship, given the liklihood that it's not going anywhere?
I'm sorry that he's like that, soccermom. Sometimes it seems like all men just suck! We really do deserve so much better, but what'r ya gonna do?
~Marin
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I know my post left a lot out-- I'm at work and there is no way to tell this quickly-- with people looking over my shoulder
but thank you Mena..I knew my sisters would be there for me..
one of the 3 relationships that bit the dust was a marriage..
it just seems like most men see you as flawed and less desirable after BC..soo hard
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