Im bitchy, I moan, I groan.....anyway.
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Miss S - that SUCKS! Nimbus IV-techs just frost me!
I hope your (fortuitous) pre-treatment with the steroids helped. It may get you through the worst of it. But Miss S. - I think you deserve mondo credit for the "I held my piece". I am not so kind.
Will be looking for your report tomorrow. Think good thoughts!
Lisa
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Hey everybody, ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))
First, I haven't heard from Alaska Deb's husband John in several days. I talked to him on Sunday; left a couple of messages since then but no update yet. I'm not gonna let myself get worried. The last time I talked to him, he sounded good and said Deb was doing better so, I'm going to just think about that.
Lisa, can you feel the love coming your way girl? I'm with Diane in saying thank goodness it's only one. How bitter sweet is that? I hate this freaking disease.
Deb, your husband saying "need me to make those" cracked me up!!! Some of the things I read on this site make me laugh so hard; that was one of them!!!!!!!!!!!
Otter, I'm so sorry about your dad. It's a terrible thing watching you dad be sick. My dad was huge. A great big, strong, military guy. Not when he died though and that was tough to see.
LuAnn, I am so glad you didn't wait in the chemo room for ins approval. It really sucks how we come to know better about things like that. HUGS.
Wish, you made me think about how my nephews started to threaten my brother with "go ahead, I'll call the police" every time he tried to discipline them. I used to get spanked with a wooden paddle in school. Can you imagine that now??? H*ll no!!
KAK, "tired of being tired" yea, I think most of us can relate to that. Hugs, girl......
Dream, I'm so sorry about your spine mets. That's all I know to say. I'm so sorry.....
Saint, I'm glad your walking your dogs in the woods but, where in the woods? My sister recently lost her cat Boo Boo to Coyotes in her woods! So, be careful!!!!
Pam, I think you said your were starting Tamoxifen but I can't read my own handwriting.....and now, I can't go back. If you are, hopefully, you will have zero se like most girls I read about....
Bonnie, I hear you on the steroid buzz.......hopefully, that won't happen. I think I have continued weight gain from the steroids I took. At least, that is what I'm blaming it on currently!
Miss S, That sucks about the IV being in wrong!!!! Gawd, that makes me mad. It reminds me of one nurse that tried to IV me in the arm when I told him it had to be in the foot and he talked to me like I was stupid. Jerk. Hugs girl.
Wish, Sheila, Harley, Rock, Diane, Jane, Sue, Pinky, Hanna, Felicia, Flash, Nikki, Patti, Patrice, Sharon, Shari, Helen, EGal, Colleen.......love you guys.....
Anybody else I didn't think of ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Has anybody heard from Maria?? jerseymaria????
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I'm so happy to have all of y'all in my life. I don't like what brought us together but, I feel blessed to know you.
Traci
ps Can y'all tell I took some notes?!!!!
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Very impressed, Traci!
Lisa
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Wow~ Note now? And I was so hoping there wasn't a test at the end of this thread! Traci? Do you sell crib notes?
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Traci,
I am with you - I hate the reason we found each other, but I love each and every one of you, too!
bc SUCKS, but my SOI is that I can come here and bitch whenever I need to... because you all really, truly, DO understand!!
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Traci, you are a class act. If you talk to John, send him & Deb all our love. Kathi
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Bonnie are you just still feeling steriods from chemo? I know you don't need them just to take herceptin.
Miss S. What a day! I had a MRI tech blow a vien once in my hand. Talk about pain! My hand looked like it had a baseball inside of it. I don't know why these people don't listen to us when we tell them.
No IOS today other than I have been too busy to even get online all day. Maybe that is a good thing though.....LOL
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This evening my husband found out I opened a bank account. It is for friends to put money in for me to spend on craft projects, movies etc. He found out because the bank called me today. He asked why the bank called and I told him, I needed help putting the new account online. So he says "Well I would hate to find out that we were starving while you were sitting on $900." As IF!
I was busing getting ready to go out to my volunteer job (Girl Guides). He made a reference to my secret account. I ignored and left.
1) I do not need his permission to open a bank account.
2) The money I get does not disrupt the household expenditures
3) My friends have trust issues with him
4) If he continues to nag at me or doesnt give me the usual monetary handouts - I will arrange to have both of my incomes to be deposited into my secret account. Then hand him money for the bills.
SO THERE.
The other thing is that he seems to think it is a bad thing that I overdo on manual tasks (pinning my quilt, laundry, dishes) but he leaves these chores to me. I left the kitchen clean when I went to Guides and returned to a pigsty. The table needed wiping (3 yr olds are messy), the dishes werent done and I had yet to sit down and eat my dinner. So I cleaned it all up. I refuse to live in a hovel. My daughter cannot do dishes because she has a wart on her finger..... I left brand new PINK rubber gloves out for her. They were thrown under the sink but the dishes were still there. He didnt say anything to her or to me. So it took me 45 minutes to clean and do dishes. Then I sat down and ate my dinner. I used one fork and ate out of the ice cream container the dinner was in. My husband will do dishes ONCE and point it out "Look honey the dish fairy came!". Then they get stacked for me.
So I want to know how much does a housekeeper cost - she must do 4-5 loads of laundry weekly (all at the same time - there is a laundry room), dishes daily, sweep, vaccuum a little (There is very little rug showing in any room), No bedroom work except removing the sheets off my bed on laundry day and remaking the same bed afterwards. Once I settle on this figue then I will charge hubby for MY services. He seems to think that I am on Disability to stay home and clean house. He THINKS wrong. And its gonna cost him - BIG TIME.
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Hi y'all,
This is a quicki fly by. {{{MissShapen}}} the same thing happened to me in a contrast dye ct. Although I am not allergic to the dye, my IV blew and filled my forearm with the dye. It hurt from the swelling and caused some bruising, but it did absorb into the body. It took over a week to do so though.
I need to get caught up on this thread. I ended up not having chemo last week because of another infection - this one upper respiratory. This one kept me in bed shivering under the covers from the fever and chills, but I stayed out of the hospital - yay. I should be having chemo tomorrow. Taxol Tango.
A big THAT SUCKS to all who need it.
Love to all,
~Bliss
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Well, dreamw
So sorry you are dealing with this, but... If I were you. I'd call one of those companies that do the merry maids and such and have them come and give you an itemized sheet of what it would cost you for you to have them come and do those chores. Just say You'll choose which you can afford from the list and get back with them 
As for your 'secret' account, make sure you password protect that well on your puter!
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Traci - Holy Memory Bank Batman - you totally rock!
And to Traci, and everyone else on this thread. I know I don't have to explain how weird it sounds to say you love people you've never met in person, but I really do love you guys too. There are a select few of my real world friends who get to hear about you, and about how funny and smart and brave you are.
Let's see, my IOS for today is that my company announced the first round of layoffs, and while I didn't get cut, a good friend of mine did, and that truly sucks.
My SOI is that at the fun end of the season football game tonight, not part of the regular season so it doesn't count, they finally let some of the other kids have an opportunity to touch the ball. My son got thrown a pass. He didn't catch it of course (God bless him, he's terrible at sports that involve a ball!), but the mere fact that they even ran a play which involved throwing the ball to him had him walking on cloud nine.
Harley - it's good to see you!
Lisa - While I'm happy that someone who could actually read the damn films gave a better answer (1 is definitely better than 2!), the whole thing just sucks. And I'm so sorry that I had you confused with the other Lisa (re the exercise book thing.)
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PS. Traci - I just said this on another thread, but as my son would say, "times like a thousand"
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Hi all:
Trying to catch up with everyone is impossible - so here it is THAT SUCKS !!!!! Since I have no one to blame dirty dishes or laundry on except me, can I still moan that it doesn't get done? There is one load in the dryer waiting for me to fold and put away, but at least it is clean. Paper plates work good for lots of things, but no one has taken the trash out lately.
I had the rad onco visit today and she is absolutely wonderful. Took LOTS of time explaining to me and drew a picture and gave me a huge stack of reading material. Overall not a bad day, although at 2:30 am i am up and wide awake.
Another THAT SUCKS as needed. Nancy
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Dream - I am going to have to get a passport to kick your hubbies a$$!!!!! You don't need that! Any a wart is no excuse to not do dishes. Although I do know i have to push my two boys to do some work here to. An allowance helps with that. If the work isn't done to my satisfaction they don't get their money. My youngest gets very motivated by money and he works hard for it. The 18 year old can give a crap because he has a job and figues he doesn't have to do anything......teenagers!!!!! UGH!!!!! Why do they ever have to pass that cute infant stage???? But Dream you need to slap hubby into shape. Another thought is opening a paypal account for that money. It is online and does not send monthly statements. They do not normally call you, you call them and they answer questions. Then you can tell him there is no money, end of story. Online is very easy for your friends to help you out then. If you need help with paypal I have free long distance to canada and would be happy to call and help out. You just send me a PM and let me know! See why I won't remarry, can't but up with the bad parts of me. Love the nice parts but then I hear this stuff......MEN.....just as bad as teenage boys....YUK!!!!
Also, Dream, in the US I don't think you would find anyone cheaper than $150 to do the work you want done per week and that is cutting your work cheap. So get some estimates and tell him you are hiring someone or leave you alone!
cmb - I have a child who is not a sports kid and I know what you mean about them getting a chance when they are on the team. I sure wish sports could be more fair to all kids that play instead of only playing the good kids for the win. I understand the need to win for status but how many self esteems do they knock down in the process.
My SOI I am frightened about my son. An Iragi soldier got into a fight with an American today where he is and shot the American soldier in the head and another in the stomach before the American soldiers sprayed him with bullets. Needless to say I watch every car coming up the street until they announce the unit or names......I HATE THIS DAMN WAR!!!! Not very fair to mothers!!!! Let alone these young men fighting, bad enough you have to fight the enemy. but when the people you are working with shoot you what are you to do?????
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LuAnn, I pray that your son is okay. Are you able to e-mail with him at all? Your worry over him, I'm sure, trumps all worries about bc and that's saying something. May God bring him home safely to you.
Miss S: Your experience with the CT scan is horrifying and maddening. WHY DON'T THEY LISTEN TO US?!!!! Also, I don't think the radiologists and doctors in general track the fact that those of us who have had a cancer diagnosis forevermore will spin every one of their off-handed remarks, or looks, into a negative, until told otherwise. They really do need to be more aware. Please keep us posted on your results.
A huge that sucks to everybody else.
MY IOS is pretty tame. In spite of getting a flu shot last month, I have had the flu for a week now...hopefully all that is remaining today is the cough. Also, I discovered that I have Stage IV cellulite a few moments ago. If I sit in a certain position I can see some on my calves. Didn't even know it was humanly possible for cellulite to "metastasize" that far. Gross.
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That SUX everyone!
Won't even get time to comment, except to say, Amen to GSG's prayer of safe return to LuAnn's son! The rest of you!Have a Terrific Thursday if possible!
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Ditto on Happy Thursday for all. I had a call from the surgeon's office to tell me what pre op they will do: wire into the tumor, needle into the nipple to inject dye for the sentinel node biopsy, then an hour or so wait for the cutting to begin. AAAACCCKKKKKK. All night long I had twinges in my boob. Surgery is not until Dec 5, so I have 3 weeks to work myself into a tizzy or more of a tizzy than I am in already. and this is the "simple" surgery - lumpectomy. how did you all survive mast surgeries? God Bless.
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I guess it was fortunate I didn't have that time to think about it
or . My lump was scheduled, and then a pre-op MRI followed by another MRI for a bx cancelled the original surgery date and put it back one week. That was when I the surgery for mast. SO all in all from first appt on the 3rd of oct to the 25th for mast. Included the US BX, MRI, MRI again for Bx and then the surgery. Whew, it was fast It thought. But, I didn't have all the chemo time to think about it as you have either. 0 -
gsg - my son has an email but rarely checks it so that is worthless. Also, when stuff like this they are in blackout until names are released and all family notified. I figure no one has come to my door yet so he should be ok. - what the heck is stage IV cellulite? I have never heard of that!
Lefty - the didn't do this procedure back in 1999 when I had bc. My one lonely nipple is twinging just reading this description. I really hope it is not as bad as it sounds!
Well a big That SUX to all and hope you all have sux free day today!
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LuAnn,
I'm praying for you son, and all the men & women who are overseas, fighting for our freedom, and for our right to say, "that sucks", about any unfair decision that is made by our political leaders. What I mean is, so that we have the freedom of speech...
Love all ya'll!!
cmb35
Thanks... Glad that your son got to participate in the game!
My IOS is that I can't find a job, either p/t or f/t. No one seems to be hiring. The NEW Harley Davidson store that is about to open, in early January, just decided to hire from within. It just ISN'T FAIR!! PLUS, my dh and I are constantly arguing, because I told him that part of the reason I can't find work is that since I've always done clerical work, now whenever I send out resumes for a receptionist position, I don't EVEN get called for an interview, because I haven't been employed for 2 years, except for that stupid dress shoppe, and I really can't put it on my resume.Harley
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LuAnn, I know you'll be happy when your son is safely home. My DIL was in Iraq and it was a very nerve racking time.
GSG, Stage IV cellulite... what a riot. My friend started singing to me the other day, "Hey! Did you happen to see the most laziest girl in the world? Was she snooooring?" LOL
Harley, so sorry you're having such a hard time getting a job. Jobs still seem to be plentiful here in southwestern Va somehow.
Thanks for all your compassion about the contrast issue. My arm does feel much better today. PLUS, I got the most fantabulous news ever! My scan was normal. NORMAL. Whew.... made it through one more time!
Love you all,
Miss S
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Miss S.
I am ecstatic about your news!! So glad that your scan was NORMAL!! YIPPEE!!
HugsHarley
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Patrice,
I thought you were SERIOUS about the STAGE IV cellulite... I was thinking WOW! I never heard of such a terrible disease! I'm stage 3 1/2!!
Harley
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Good Evening and I'm sending a big that sucks to everyone! My IOS is so minor in comparison. Our census is down where I work, Corporate is going bonkers, and as a result I have been putting in 12 hour days!. Way too much, way too much. Talk about withdrawal, I haven't even had time to read. I'm so behind so I'm just gonna go with this page.
This is my second IOS. I have to evaluate a 92 y/o who had a bilateral mastectomy. Of course my first thought was why at that age. When I met with her I was amazed and how young she looked. Shared my story with her and she had some great questions about recovery. What upset me is that she wasn't in the hospital 24 hours after surgery and they were discharging her to where I work. What in the world is happening, I thought we got rid of drive through mastectomy..
MissS: That was an incredible story. She could have easily checked to see if it was in the vein. Draw back with the syringe you see blood. You don't see blood your not it. I hope you report her. Seems to me like people working in health care are getting less caring everyday. Whats up with that? Anyways, I saw your second post and of course got a great big smile that the test came back normal. And so glad you didn't have a reaction! That would have scared the crap out of me. This is for the IV girl!
Wish: Good point about making sure the insurance isn't charged for the contrast.
Lisa: Hi to you?
Traci: I haven't had much computer time, but I did check in everyday and you don't know how much I appreciated reading your updates on DebC. This whole cancer sucks, it sucks, it sucks.
Harley: Trying to find a job with that way things area really sucks.
LuAnn: It's the story of my life right now. Not being able to get online cause I have been so busy...that's a good thing. Feeling totally insane cause I don't having computer time...that's a bad thing.
Bliss: Taxol Tango? Been there and I'm sending you a big that sucks. Hope the treatment went well.
Colleen: Hi to you. I actually thought of you today because I had to go to Zion and drove along the shores of Lake Michigan. Of course - too cold to walk along the shore. Your story about your son made me laugh and cry at the same time. I'm so glad he got to throw the ball!
Dreamer: What a wonderful idea, having a secret account. I might just do that myself tomorrow! What sucks is that he even had to find out about it!
gsg: OMG, I'm laughing so hard I have tears. Seems I have come across that same stage 4 cellulite. I lost 5 pounds this week, not cause I was trying, just cause I was working and walking so much. Now I need to go over to that lazy thread.
Nancy: So glad to hear you were having a good day.
OK - time to run.
Nicki
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Thanks for that post Nikki! I ditto everything she just said y'all!!!
Nancy....your made me cringe from the memory of that dye shot for the sentinal nobe thing. OMG that stung me so bad. I hated that. I don't know if they are sticking you with the same thing but if they are, get ready for a sting. It only lasted a couple of seconds but, I was unprepared for it and I instantly started to cry. It was the first thing that made it all too real.
Hugs everybody!
Traci
ps I've been checking my email all day for a note from Deb's DH. I called his cel again last night with no reply to my message so far.....
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ok ya'll (can't believe Traci has me saying that!!! Northern'ers just don't use that phrase...) but here goes...
Miss S ~ Mmmm, Mmmm, Mmmm. Kudo's to you for not b*tchslapping that tech. You get a "turn the other cheek" award!
Traci ~ very impressive indeed on the note taking...I tried to catch up and got about 3 posts in before I realized I should be doing it too! When you hear from Deb's hubby ~ send love from all of us...BTW, I'll wish you good luck now on Sunday's game - but once I'm on the couch it will be all about the Redskins kicking butt!
Dream ~ I don't normally spout off about how lucky I am go be gay, mostly cuz I don't want to offend my friends who might disagree with it, but seriously - men SUCK and I am so glad I don't have to deal. I can't imagine what my life would have been like these past 7 months if I didn't have someone doing the cooking/cleaning/shopping/pet duty etc...I find it hard to believe there aren't more women jumping the fence w/the way men behave sometimes! And on top of that he's gonna whine about you having your own private bank account? Puh-Leeeze!
Bliss ~ I hope by the time you read this your infection has cleared up and you are better!
LuAnn ~ Yes, the steroids are still an issue! They are winding down (thankfully) it seems but I was still getting the red face, buzz, and rage. So not fun. Also, I too am saying my prayers you get word from your son and he is safe and sound!
CMB ~ Layoffs suk! I went through them too and it's no more fun telling someone you have to let them go than it is to be the one getting let go. Fingers crossed you only have one round and that was it!
Nancy ~ I'll come clean and take out the trash for you! You could also do like the little old lady next door to my house in New Haven did. She lived in the "in-law" apartment on the top floor of the house next door. Whenever she needed to take out the trash she just went out onto the balcony and tossed it towards the trash cans. Unfortunately, the trash cans were next to the fence adjacent to my yard. Guess how many times she missed?
Patrice ~ maybe because I am stage IV also, I got it right away and bust my belly laughing! That is classic gsg!!
Harley ~ I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I wish I had some sage advice for you but alas...all I can offer is a (((hug))).
I must stopy playing on the computer now and get some ice. Yeah, speaking of which, my IOS for today is: My ankle hurt so bad today I had to use my cane when I went to the onc/herceptin tx. Half way from the clinic to the infusion ward~my cane broke! Fortunately there is an SOI wrapped up in it because my buddy Barb was with me and she was able to go get me a wheelchair to get around in for the day! (Thanks Barb!)
Have a good night all...Thanks for the updates and the laughs...
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Well hubby came home from his walk... felt sorry for his friend having to hear him bitch on about how I dont trust him blah blah blah. Lucky she didnt b*tchslap him.
He apologized for his reaction but I could tell he felt it showed that I do not trust him. Most of my friends dont trust him. Not my fault - well yeah it is - I told him how he used my friends money for household expense and then did not give it back to me. So. I have an account.... I will not let my family die of starvation while I am eating petit fours. Give me a break.
As for the household duties, I am just leaving them to find out how long it takes for them to realize I am not doing them. Laundry costs in spine pain. And if they are too lazy or whatever to clean house, well I can adapt.
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Sure, Traci,,,,take notes. Make us all look bad.
What she said. Dream - send the guy my way and my husband will bitch slap him for you. There's letting life be normal and then there's being a pain in the butt nincompoop. Doing the laundry is my husband's specialty - his mother is surprised beyond belief that he does it. Equal shares, here. No, the family won't die of starvation, so have a few bon bons. Good ones.
It sucks to hear of pain, job hunts, layoffs, bad IVs/contrast and everything else , even cellulite. Stage IV. lord.
Miss S - great news about the scan.
Sending a prayer tonight to LuAnn's son - bless him and his fellow soldiers. What they live through, I cannot imagine. And to Deb and family. Hope she's ok and no news is good news.
IOS for the day. Came out of the locker room at the gym and my husband was across the lobby. Wave hello...then it hits me - he works 7 miles away. WTH?? Turns out #1 daughter left school at lunch to go to a friend's house. She was going around a traffic circle and a woman didn't see her & entered while she was still in it. They collided. The other woman was sent to the hospital as a precaution, Daughter's friends were ok, daughter sprained her wrist (spent time at the doctor) and the car is sitting in the collision yard. Poor thing, she's all upset. Sure, it sucks, but that's why we have insurance. Things can be replaced, people can't.
Keep suckage to a minimum. Take care all.
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I haven't read every page. I got stuck on "Lisa" and had to find out updates on her MRI. Yes, I'm talking about you, Lisa. I am so sorry for your new dx. You sound like you're in good spirits. Good for you! My ex-pastor's wife had brain mets..was triple negative..and she's doing fine. I think she had surgery. It's been a few years ago and I don't know the specifics. I just wanted to let you know that there are women living with brain mets or who had brain mets. I know telling you this doesn't make it any easier with what you have to deal with. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Shirley
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I just want to add...THAT SUX for everybody who's having issue.
I can only remember a few posts I DID read...a couple of pages. You ladies are really chatty..LOL
Diane, was it you who had the popcorn stuck in a tooth? Anyway, glad you did SOMETHING with it IF it was you. I had this thing stuck in one of my crowns. I couldn't get it out..first I thought..popcorn! I couldn't get it to budge...Went to the dentist for cleaning and would you believe it was plague!? Strangest thing cuz I usually do not have a big build up of plague. Reminds me...I go Monday for a filling. I have horrible dry mouth and problems, problems!
Harley, I talked to you not long ago. I suppose the job hunting isn't paying off yet. That Sux!
Wish, I read some of your stuff..I'm trying to remember..oh, yeah, you stopped taking some kind of estrogen and you're hotflashes returned and your hip/femur is hurting badly. Darn, we estrogen deprived women!
LuAnn, luv ya gal! I've cheated and haven't read all the pages.
I swear, if I don't visit this thread once or twice a day I get waaayyy behind.
Oh, Otter, so sorry to hear about your dad. Since I haven't caught up and don't know I hope he's doing okay.
Hi Nicki!
I'll just say....sorry for anyone who has SUCKINESS in their lives.
Shirley
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