Stop Smoking Support Thread
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LisaMarie, my heart is also hurting for you. This is just the most unbelievable thing I've heard in a long time. You will survive this and by the grace of God, you will get through this without a smoke or drink. Good God, how much shit can one take? I'm here if you need to talk, cry, scream or get the hell out of dodge!
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LisaMarie, thinking of you right now. Hoping you are managing. My condolences to you and your family. Lots of hugs!
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LisaMarie - I'm also thinking of you. I hope your daughters are taking care of you and that tomorrow is meaningful for your family.
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So sorry LisaMarie
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Bosum - you're right. I hope LisaMarie can feel our hugs.
A couple of days ago I splurged & bought a ticket to see the Gilbert & Sullivan Society's production of Pirates of Penzance this afternoon. Then last night I get an email warning about coming early due to road construction. A portion of the entire freeway is closed the way I usually go. This is freeway # 2 since freeway choice #1 is totally unusable due to continuing construction. I figure by the time i get downtown, find parking, try to find my car afterwards in a 5 story underground car park, figure out a new way to get home, etc. - I will really be ready for a smoke. But ... Just for today, I will not smoke.
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Thinking of you Lisamarie. xoxo
Minus, hope you enjoyed Pirates of Penzance! Love that show and have seen it several times. In my senior year of HS, the drama club did a production of that and it was my intro to it and have loved it ever since.
Judi! Great to see you!! xo
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Hi , I am here . I did have my 2 daughters and my other son .. its still so hard for me to believe I keep thinking we will go to lunch or fish soon ,,, but I know that is not reality ... I cant believe he is gone .. I am still smoke and drink free .. How Is another answer maybe a gift from the Good Lord above I still do not know ... I just want to thank all of you for everything .. xoxoxo
Lisamarie
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My kids ... Me on left then my youngest Tonia and my son DJ and my daughter Angela and My son Anthony on far right that just passed ... xoxoxoxo 0 -
LisaMarie, I am so sorry. May you find comfort from your friends and family during this difficult time.0
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You have a gorgeous family lisamarie. I know you are hurting right now and that is totally normal. Please take your time in resuming your normal life and nurture yourself and your other children. You have all been through a huge trauma and it will take some time. We are here if you need us. xo
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LisaMarie - what a great picture, all of you together. I'm so glad you're getting some comfort from your daughters & DJ. It's absolutely fantastic that you've been able to avoid the impulse to smoke &/or drink. You are SO strong. I stand in awe of your strength. And I'll keep you close in my thoughts.
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Maybe that is why I didn't really notice a change in my emotions or behavior. I was so busy with chemo and sleeping, I sailed past those feelings. I really am so grateful that I quit when I did. The timing was perfect for me. November will be 2 years for me and I still have no desire to pick up another cigarette. Honestly, I never thought I would say that ever.
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You ladies are so strong. I'm at the end of chemo, just about 1/4 thru my road & I'm still working on quitting
Bleh.
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jajjaaj - So you actually quit smoking while you were in active treatment? That's quite an accomplishment. Congratulations on the 2 years.
Simplicity - don't beat yourself up. Trying is the most important things to start. Are you trying to do it on your own or using any meds? VJ should be along soon with some "stop smoking" tips and an offer for her book.
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MT-The Dr has me on prozac & thought that would be enough since I have never really taken medications before. The first 2 weeks, I felt great, did great. Not so much anymore.
I can't quit if I quit trying I suppose. ~thats kinda funny. But hey, it's 2:46 am the morning of my last chemo & Im awake and in pain (right sciatic nerve), so....lol
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Simplicity - LOL. good luck w/the last chemo.
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Hello ladies. Good to see you and see some newcomers. Welcome Simplicity .... you'll get there when you get there. First, concentrate on getting through your chemo, all other emotions and then you'll think about the quitting part. LisaMarie, what a beautiful family pic that you posted. The toughest part is over; now comes the healing. It will be hard and long but every day will get a bit easier. Don't be too tough on yourself .... sit back and take your time getting to a good place. April, yes it is good to be back .... been awhile but a lot going on. My dumb ass sister has separated from your dh and is thinking of going back .... it's a money thing. Not thinking about what an asshole he has been for 45 years of the 47 years they have been married. And you know what pisses me off more, is that I get sucked in all the time to hear all of the woes. Asshole didn't even come to his daughter's wedding but now faced with the possibility of only having 1/2 his pension and no one who gives a shit, he wants back. I tell you if she goes back to him, I'm done. Sorry ladies for the language but I just don't get it. I get not wanting to be alone and wanting money but at what cost. She is living with her daughter who pays her $300 a week - that's more than I get after I pay my expenses. She pays nothing and has that money to herself but now that he comes running and saying "I'm sorry" she rethinking everything. Really, I don't get it. Anways, hope you ladies are having a better day then me!
MT, hope you enjoyed your evening out .... pain to get there and back but hope the middle was enjoyable!
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Hi, my offer for a free PDF copy of my book, "How to Win at Quitting Smoking" is available, just send me a PM with an email address. VJ
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LisaMarie - thinking of you and sending hugs. Are you staying w/one of your daughters for awhile?
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Just checking in. Congratulations on 8 years MinusTwo. Someone mentioned blood work and alcohol drink 3 days before. I'm getting my labs done for onc appt at end of month. How long should I be drink free do you think not to set off any alarms? Wondering because I am going to California tomorrow and have cruise in there. ;-). Lisamarie, i hope you are feeling better. Hugs.
I miss you all and wish you lots of success with the quit. Til next time....xoxoxo.
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Beckers - interesting premise. I didn't hear you should be drink free before tests so I continued to have my habitual glass of wine every night (once I recovered enough from chemo to be interested again). Even for the fasting blood sugar tests for cholesterol, I didn't change my diet except to not eat after midnight. The three day "rule" sounds interesting.
Where are you cruising? My son took one from San Francisco South past Baja to a couple of Mexican ports. I was going to take one from San Francisco up to Alaska before BC got in the way. Hope you have a wonderful time. You deserve every minute!!!
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Lisamarie, I am so, so sorry for you to hear that. That is heart rending,truly, I am not a mom, but I saw what my brothers' death did to my mom. I really think that is the hardest thing ANYONE on the planet is called to do: bury a child. I came here to visit minus, I am still a smoker, so I will have a smoke FOR you, and smoke it like a meditative prayer, each inhalation I will wish your grief to not be overwhelming, each exhalation, I will wish you gentle gentle gentle peace with whatever source of spirituality you may hold. Oh my
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Tomboy - thanks for popping over. We have quite a few who haven't quite quit yet, but they do lurk and jump in from time to time. Feel free. I'm liking your the new Crazy thread.
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Bosum - thanks for the 3 day drink info. Maybe I'll try it next time I have blood tests. But I drink so little since chemo - well, compared to my previous life anyway tho I'm sure many people wouldn't consider a drink every night a small thing. Maybe that's age? I really can't tell if some of my aches & pains are due to cancer treatments or due to the fact that I'm getting older. Annoying. But I can tell in the morning if I drink two big glasses of red wine w/no food. Just saw a card that said - celebrate on your B-day. Have a glass of wine and stay up until 10pm.
Of course we don't judge. We've all been through trying & trying & trying & trying & trying to quit. And that's after all the years we took to make up our minds we were going to quit when we really didn't want to quit, even though we did. or not...or maybe tomorrow... or not... So - Just for Today I Will Not Smoke.
LisaMarie - hope you're hanging on. Such a shock and a loss. You're in our thoughts.
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Bosum, trust me, we NEVER judge for sure. It took me quite a while before I quit. When I first started on this thread I was puffing away for sure...eventually, I did it though and I know if I can...well, you know the next part.
Simplicity, welcome! Tomboy, stick around! Ok at work as usual and gotta run.
Lisamarie, just sending a hug today hon...hope you are ok!
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April - hi ho. We were cross posting. On another thread that's menage-a-post rather than menage-a-deux.
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a good one Minus...lol
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Hi Ladies , Welcome to all the new Ladies and as always if you are still smoking you are always welcome here . The ladies are the most Amazing . I wish I could give each and everyone of you a big hug . As for me I am getting by day by day . Thank you for all the prayers for me and my Anthony ...I sat at his grave yesterday and talked . I am not sure how I am dealing with it all unless I am about to go nuts and dont realize it . I have been going to meetings so I have not drank or smoked .. everyone in my family keep saying they are so proud of me for how strong I am .. I am just numb .. anyway I love you all so much
xoxoxoxo
Lisamarie
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LisaMarie - thanks for taking the time to check in. We are all holding you close in our thoughts. I like the idea of you sitting at Anthony's grave and talking to him. No - you're not nuts at all. I'm so glad to hear your family is around. And they are absolutely correct - it's a MAJOR accomplishment that you haven't taken to drinking & smoking. I think it was Beckers, but maybe April, who had to face the death of her Mother shortly after she quit smoking. She made it, and so will you. Be good to yourself my dear. I know it's not easy.
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Thinking of you LisaMarie .... nothing you do is weird/insane/nuts .... whatever people call it. You do it because you are you and you want to do it. Good for you! Glad to hear you are coping and yes, you are remarkable. Hello to all the other ladies!
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