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I finished rads the end of October and still put regular Jergens lotion (well the all-natural one) on my rads side every night. Not sure why. Habit? It just feels right to do something.
SherryC sorry about your DH's truck. I think it is a good sign that I'm complaining about something other than BC. I guess we all have those mundane issues to deal with on top of everything else. We did find out after having DS's car towed that the timing belt broke. Is that why the check engine light was on for a month he asked??? Duh. $330 is not too bad I guess. They will repair it and then see if there is any more damage to the engine. I hope not.
We decided to tap our line of credit at the bank for the tuition bill and roof repairs. They both need to get paid. I suppose it could be worse. I should count my blessings that we both have jobs and great kids. I'm feeling great these days and have lost 12 lbs. Exercising is really making a difference. Maybe I will pray for hail storms all around though and get in on that new roof action!
HUGS to all!!
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Yikes! Gone a week and so much to catch up on....welcome welcome welcome to all the newcomers, as all have said...sorry you had to join us but glad you found us. It really really really (got that?) helps to have so many that are there. We laugh we cry we act whacky sometimes. Findout life goes on even after we get BC. Who knew there were so many wonderful women scattered across the globe?:)
I missed you all. Glad to be home. Things still suck but not as bad;) ha (only one ha- not deserving of several ha ha's)
next up- nipple surgery and fat grafting -on Thursday...for heaven's sake..who woulda thought I would even write such a thing in my life>?!?:)
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Good comment annettek! There are a lot of things we now discuss, a whole new vocabulary in fact! I never thought I'd post a foob picture...never even KNEW the word FOOB! OR FIPPLES for that matter! I'm having 3-D nipple tattooing started in about two weeks, which I never knew existed, either
HAVE A SAFE AND HAPPY FOURTH EVERYONE!
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suzanne- i can't wait to see the 3d tattooing....i am going to get tattoos once the nips have healed- I just posted a slew of prenip pics for where I am now....the good the bad and the ICKY:)
have a great day all:)
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spent yesterday with 3 of my girlfriends. We all have birthdays in June. One of the friends threw togethere a last minute get together and we hung around her pool and she had a cabana girl (no sure why no cabana boy except her DH was in the house) to serve us fruit, then nachos, then cake. Then we all went and had pedi's done and out to eat dinner. it was a really nice day with the girlfriends. One of the girls is going through a really tough time with her DH and will probably end in divorce so she really needed some girl time yesterday. It was nice not to think about bc too much.
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Hello, ladies ...Have a happy 4th...I laughed when I read about those of you with house and car problems , yes I have too... to my foot breaking two weeks ago to my car having air conditioning an coolant leeks to my toilet I bought a year ago now on the flux...well if bad things happen in threes I guess I am overly covered...my husband works 12 hour days at our business so I had to fix car and everything myself, so took the car and walked on a broken foot 3 miles home because I knew a couple hours was going to be more than that...talked them down to 550.00 less 1100.00, and I felt good about that as normally I am a complete pushover...but I said look I have cancer bills up too my eyeballs just fix the problem and get my car running and no extras ...my toilet still is not working but I will go after Home depot next week...have finally found my warrior strenght after all I have been thru...my DH is so proud ...HUGS to ALL on this 4th, Cath
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Cath - glad you found your warrior strength. After everything we go through with bc nothing else can stop us. I used to be shy and very quiet, boy has that changed! Just ask the ladies that know me now.
sherry - sound like you had a really fun day with your girlfriends.
shelley - glad you figured out what to do about everything.
annettek and suzanne - yes we have developed a whole new vocabulary and I think by the time we get through the first year or two we should qualify for a medical degree! At least we know more about our bodies and how we react to all the different medications and treatments.
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Hello everyone, it has been a busy week for me. I need to catch up on reading posts here, but I am feeling overwhelmed right now. So, I'm just keeping it simple and saying howdy! Hope you all are doing good. Wishing you all a happy July 4!
I'm being deconstructed July 5. It should all be just fine and I'll be glad to be free of these implants. I may need time to adjust to the new me, and I guess I have to go flat for a month until things are healed. I asked the PS assistant about wearing a loose fitting cami, with puffs, but, she said he usually doesn't want his patients to wear anything over the bandages, as they need to stay cool and dry to heal well. So off to the office I will go-- flat--*gulp* I hope I can find shirts to wear for this next month.0 -
Sounds like everyone is doing well. I think it is a good sign that we are all royally pi$$ed off about things other than BC. So bad things come in threes?? I think I am way beyond that count. Oh well, maybe I will get extra credit and not have anything bad happen for a loooooooong time!
faith- Best of luck with your surgery. I was told to hydrate a lot before the surgery and then again after. I think it helped get all the anesthesia out of my body. About not being able to wear padding or anything for a while, that must be tough. A friend of mine had implants taken out long ago and is very thin and flat chested. She hates bras and padding so she has a whole wardrobe of blouses with pleating at the chest. She also likes to wear tailored vests with pockets at the breast area. It never occurred to me why she was wearing these clothes, I just thought it was her own unique style.
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BIg hug to you Faith....of course you are overwhelmed... you have had too much on your plate and too many hard decisions to make that only could be made by you...damn decisions nobody should have to make. I hate that you are overwhelmed and I want you to know I will be right there with you in spirit on the 5th....
As for clothes afterwards I am thinking nobody really notices much about us as much as we do...I went to the office christmas party 8 days out from my BMX with four drains and not much else up front...not a damn person realized it until I screamed when they HUGGED ME...hahaha...if you could find some loose gauzy overshirts with a loose fitting cami underneath I think nobody will notice
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dm and annette - Thank you!
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faith good luck with your deconstruction. Hope the next month goes good for you and you are able to find clothing you feel comfortable in.
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Faith will be thanking of you on the 5th. My PS nurse said ok for me on the cammi and puffs. Back to work for me on the 5th. Have my wardrobe lined up, new skirt (haven't wore one in a while) and top with cammi. Looking forward to the new improved me.
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Faith prayers going up for you.
Happy 4th from Miami Beach! Will try to get some good fireworks pix for us.0 -
Thanks everyone for the encouragement and prayers. You are very kind.
mj - maybe I should ask again about the cami and puffs. It would make the transition easier.
Enjoy the holiday everyone!
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Faith will be thinking of you tomorrow.
MJBmiller glad you will be able to go back to work tomorrow and feel good.
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Faith,
After my uni-mx I wore my husband's button up casual shirts with prints (like Hawiian shirts). They were roomy and loose, perfect since I couldn't pull a shirt over my head for a couple of weeks. He liked that I was wearing them and I didn't need to buy a whole new wardrobe for recovery. There was plenty of breathing room for bandages and drains, I pinned the drains to the inside of the shirt. I guess you might already know how to handle this, but thought I'd let you know I'm thinking about you. I have one flat side so wear a microbead form. It is very comfortable. At home I go without it. At least you won't have balance issues. Good luck tomorrow.
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Happy 4th Sistas!
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Thank you sherry and shelley,
I've done drains before a couple times. I haven't been flat before since I did immediate recon. maybe I'll have to look for a few new clothing items until I can wear the cami and puffs. I have a lot of sleevless t-shirts that I wear under jackets, sweaters, etc. But I do have to put them on over my head. I'm hoping I can do that in some clever, creative way!! Lol. Hey, Shelley can borrow a few of your husbands shirts!!!!!
I really have peace that even though this isn't going to be "pretty"....it is the right decision for me. I'm so thankful to be able to have the implants removed.0 -
wow--this thread is really quiet....hope everyone is doing well !!!!!!!!!!
just checkin in.......huggggggggggggs K
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HI everyone...yep, it is quiet....and here I am wondering what to do tomorrow...the hubby wants to take me but he has not moved back home and I am torn....I don't know whether to say ok or forget it...friends have offered to be there....I dunno....everything is in limbo with us...but i am a little tired of it all....it is moronic when i think of it and if someone else told me about it I would blow my top off...sigh....I should be resting tonight -not wondering about this crap. It is a crock. But it is 35 years-I don't need him, but I admit I want him. Or I think I do. I can't get my head straight. I could be a real bitch and pull the plug on his "discovery time to take care of his own poor self" simply by cancelling entirely too many things that affect his ability to do this...but I cannot bring myself to do it yet....it is amazing how self-centered and spoiled he is courtesy of me. I cannot believe I let it get to this point. Part of this is my fault. ENABLER. MAMMA you get it. I am ashamed to admit it. I just know if I slam my heart shut...truly...it will be shut and no going back. It would somehow be easier if there was another woman-I know that sounds dumb but it would make more sense than a grown man acting like he is all grown up on his own...ahem...with me paying for just about everything except his truck payment...ach...I gotta ponder this...my inner core is recoiling from him being with me tomorrow...he got really angry when I mentioned perhaps he should not be there...very weird...sorry for going on but I gotta get this out
i hope everyone is doing good and healing
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glad ya got all that shit out sista.....good luck with your decision....ill be prayin for you...If God brings you to it He will bring you through it!!!!!!!.stay strong my sista.
Gentle huggggggggggggs K
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ANNETTE!! Get it out and do what you need to. We are here and will support you in any and all ways.
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thanks BarbA...you guys all rock..i gotta feeling I am gonna be on and off of here all night...damn...I am a 54 year old teenager.I would truly go nuts without you folks...so hard for me to open up about how I REALLY feel....most "know" me as a smartie pants confident woman ......instead of scared out of my wits at any given moment. I'm a big subscriber of the fake it til you make it school....but sometimes, I just cannot. So, for tonight, I think I won't:)
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annette - Don't be sorry about getting it out, that is why we are here. To listen and sopport you in whatever you decide to do. I wish there was a magic ball that would tell you what the best thing was, but only your heart can do that. We will be here for whatever happens, just as we will be there in spirit for you surgery. Take care of you and let everything else take care of itself for the time being. {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}
I had my Aredia treatment yesterday and I have slept just about all day and I am feeling better this evening. I will probably have another day of sleeping and then I should be back to just tired. At least with me sleeping so much I don't notice the joint and bone pain so much.
Hope everyone is having a good evening.
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Annette---this is the place to get the shit out.we are all scared babies when it comes to the trauma.....and we need all the help and support that we can get at a time like this.
when I went through my divorce I drove everyone crazy.I didnt have the sistas I have now....keep comin back as often as you need to...writing is very helpful...the words just spit out.you will feel a lot betta when its all out...take your time...we are here...know it.
gentle huggggggs with healing blessings....K
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Annette we are here for you sista. this is a good place to let it out. I'll be praying for you and know that you will make the right decision for you.
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Soooo Sorry you are going thru all this Annette
... Just follow your gut and take care of YOU!!!!Much Hugs Cath 0 -
MAN YOU GUYS ROCK:) I love you all.
hubby took me and then brought me home and got me settled...he took our son back to the other house for a couple of days so i can rest...which is a good thing...one day at a time and all that
i copied below from what i just wrote in exchange city thread about today
today went well....although ps did not do fat grafting - only the nipples- decided he did not want to take any chances on compromising the blood supply to nipples while healing and said we will have better results when he goes in after a month or two= by then the nipples will have shrunk or whatever they do after they are made and the grafting then will address the ripples, the nipple areas and any flat spots that may result from creating the nipples. he was adamant about not doing both at same time and I must admit I questioned him on it and he said judgement call- had some kind of meeting yesterday with other PS and basically- he is not doing the two together any longer- said would also avoid having to do more fat grafting to address the nipple results. so i was not thrilled but not in opposition either as he has yet to steer me wrong-of course i wanted everything done now yesterday a month ago,,,,you know how it is...but i am looking for the best end results...i see him tomorrow until then I can't touch these huge bandages on my boobs...I swear we were working in nipple placement as long in preop as the actual surgery lasted...it was funny...draw them on...measure...look...look again....wipe off do it all again...look full front on and then look down....it was like goldilocks and the three bears...finally one location was just right......i am hopped up right now on my half a vicodin....recovery was simple as anesthesiologist went very light in light (punny here) of my having to have another surgery in a month or two...was supposed to be twilight but i went completely out perhaps from nerves and exhaustion...then i woke up like the energizer bunny again ready to leave hahahaha....will let ya know what it all looks like tomorrow when he looks at em
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annettek - I know what it is like when things do not go as expected, I pray you heal quickly and not in a lot of pain, Hugs to you
Real tired after 1st week back at work post surgery but doing OK. Every time I get home DS wants to go out for a drive, drive to the pool, drive to the store, drive anywhere. Well I am not the driver so why not. He is doing great, not anywhere like Fast and Furious or Driving Miss Daisy just somewhere in the middle, closer to Miss Daisy thank goodness.
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