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  • Kate33
    Kate33 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited September 2012

    Good news!  My BS's office called and they don't feel it's mets!  They said when they looked at the abnormalities they are in the joints of the sternum so believe it is costochondritis.  (Just like you said it might be, barbe!)  They want me to do a PET bone scan in 3 months to be sure but she really wasn't worried.  She said it can be caused by all the trauma to the chest from the recon surgeries that I've had or even my fibro.  I've decided to keep my appointment at the new cancer center, too, just to make sure they agree and they will be able to order the scan up here so I don't have to go to Tucson.  They just called me to schedule it so that is on the 27th.  So YIPPEE!!!!! 

  • didel
    didel Member Posts: 733
    edited September 2012

    OMG Kate so happy for you and I love love love that pic. It made me laugh so hard! Enjoy your day..

    Thank you to those that wished me a happy birthday...today I feel so loved by so many. Claire love the puppy cupcakes so cute!! Had a manicure today ...then off to dinner with friends! Pass the wine...When I raise my glass tonight I will toast to the courage and strength of all of us BCO ladies and hope for many many more birthdays for all of us.

    3Jays...I feel like Donald Trump trying to cover up the thin spots on the crown of my head...thanks also to taxotere.

    Hugs to all

    Diane

  • hopefulhealing
    hopefulhealing Member Posts: 581
    edited September 2012

    diane I am sorry I missed your birthday.  I saw an area on the right areola where they had to debride last Thursday that is new and seems dark.  I am scared and weary and sad.

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited September 2012
    mac, so glad you made it okay.. anxious to hear what he has to say......3jays
  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 2,604
    edited September 2012
    thanx for the congrats on the new "accessories" i almost feel human, with foobs, and a wig, but with the heat, it has to be imp for me to do the wig..hahaha
  • hopefulhealing
    hopefulhealing Member Posts: 581
    edited September 2012

    Kate so happy for your good news!

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited September 2012

    kate, glad for the good news.

  • justagirl
    justagirl Member Posts: 633
    edited September 2012

    Sooooo much going on compared to my life here.

    3jays; great you got some new 'bumps' to wear...bumps is what I call my silicone implants as they aren't really breasts anymore and I do mean it in a joking way. I would love to have someone come in and clean my house and do my garden work but like my privacy too and then there always is the $$$.  Cleaners make $30 an hour, more than I would as a RN with 20 years experience....and gardners want more! So I'll continue to do what I can when I physically can as mentally both help me.

    PT: I wish you a smooth 'outing' for your pins.  Barbe - they don't leave pins in anymore if not required for stability as they are considered a foreign object by the body.

    Mac, your idea of going to the hotel was excellent and I'm sure using the shuttle made the whole thing a lot easier.  Bet you will be glad to get back on your island.

    Barbe: yes, flats, ballet flats are in and cool.  If I'm not wearing haviananas (brand of rubber thongs) I only wear ballet flats as I would fall off heels with my lack of balance due to my deafness.  As I'm 5' 3" heels would be nice but life-threatening.  Pink sounds lively to me.

    Diane: Happy Birthday Virgo - if you were here I would bake you a cake. Amazing how the timing is that it's right after you finish work for the year.  Have a great day with Sadie and Charlie

  • Golden01
    Golden01 Member Posts: 527
    edited September 2012

    Kate - Hooray!!!!

  • didel
    didel Member Posts: 733
    edited September 2012

    Thank you Hopeful and Debbie for the well wishes, I truly appreciate it.

    I just got home from the most amazing yummy dinner with friends. We did family style italian dinner more food (and wine) than I can list at the moment but it was great. My Gf toasted that we had not celebrated my birthday in a few years and it was time..very nice. I had exactly the people I wanted to be there tonight were there. I have 12 friends join me for dinner and I truly know they are the ones left...still standing after all the shit. I love them all and couldnt have ask for a better night... well there were a few more ladies I wish could have been there tonight..my BCO gals.

    Love you all,,and I cant believe I am 35!?!?!? Gosh 40 is right around the corner Wink

    Did I mention I have left overs and a bottle of proseco to which I committed to lunch tomorrow.

    Diane 

  • justagirl
    justagirl Member Posts: 633
    edited September 2012

    Diane - ah you are just a baby at 35, yet you have your life so together with  your career, home, Sadie and Charlie and good friends.  Very happy to be considered a friend of yours.............but I'm old enough to be your Mother, and then some!  Yikes.................

  • Kate33
    Kate33 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited September 2012

    Thanks everyone!  I feel like this huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.  When my BS called me yesterday she asked how I was.  I said, "I don't know- you tell me!"  lol!   

    Claire- Wanted to say so nice of you to send our sweet 3jays those wonderful surprises!  Very kind!

    3jays- I hope Claire's goodies make you feel even more girly than you already are and hope the weather cools off soon so you can rock that red wig!

    Mac- Hope all went well with everything and you made it home safe and sound.

    Diane- So glad you had such a great birthday!  Sounds like the circle of friends are wonderful!  Wish we could have all been there, too!  But then there wouldn't be any Prosecco left......

    Hopeful- So sorry you are still dealing with complications.  I don't blame you being weary.  Sometimes you just want to scream "ENOUGH!" to whoever is listening.  It's just too much.  I really hope that things turn around soon.  Wish we could all gather up our prayers, healing thoughts, positive vibes, good ju-ju, leftover kharma and anything else we have lying around, stuff it in a big box and send it to you.  I picture you going to your door and finding this amazing package and when you opened it up you would be flooded with it and all would be well and you could move forward.

    3jays (again)- You get the same package on your doorstep!

    Debbie- Well, you sure don't act or look or sound like you are 60- that's for sure!  

    Aging is such a strange thing as you always feel younger on the inside than what you face in the mirror on the outside.  I think BC has made this worse because many of us were facing disease for the first time in our lives.  It was that sudden realization that our bodies would not last forever and we weren't invincible as we once thought and felt.  I think the whole process has aged my body and my mind and even my spirit in a way.  Now that I can put this scare behind me my goal is to try to get some of that back though I know it will never be the same as it once was.  But my quest is to find as much as I can and reapply it to my persona.  Anyone want to join me?  The goal is to find things that make you feel young and joyeous again and then share them here.  It can be as simple as getting a gumball out of a machine and savoring that surgary sweet taste from childhood or scratching something major off your bucket list.  Anything that makes you feel young, happy or fearless once again!!! 

  • didel
    didel Member Posts: 733
    edited September 2012

    Debbie God bless you ...I may have fibbed a bit on my age..I turned 46 but I swore last night was my 44th birthday since I haven't celebrated since my 43rd due to my diagnosis a few weeks later..plus I knew the damn lump was there so I really haven't had like a party or anything in years. I have friends of every age..one of my besties is 27 year old guy who is 2 years older than my nephew and my little friend just diagnosed is 64. Trust me I would never think of anyone other than my mother as my mother no matter the age. I love hanging with people of all ages.. I am more particular about being a real person..no self absorbed selfish self centered drama queens allowed in my circle. They were the first to go when I got diagnosed and they haven't made it back in the circle.

    I had the absolute best time last night. A dozen pals came out and I know for some with kids its not easy. I loved the LBD I wore...it actually was PLUUUUNNNGing and everyone said the girls looked great. I felt great. ALTHOUGH...funny little side note I wanted to "touch up"my roots and my hair dresser could not squeeze me in...so no worries I will do it myself...do you see where this is going...so I picked a "warm medium brown" as I am currently sporting the Ombre look since my hairdresser doesnt want to highlight the crown of my head (thanks Taxotere) cause the hair keeps breaking. So I apply the color at my roots..usually keep it on for 10 minutes..then with wide comb; comb the color through to blend it..for 5 minutes then rinse. My hair is so coarse it just SOAKED up the color and my landscaper came at the precise moment I was to rinse...so YUP you guessed it ...way too dark Embarassed.. my friends said it looked good but I think they were just being nice..oh and I trimmed my bangs myself EmbarassedEmbarassed...thus the plunging neckline to distract from the bad bangs and color.

    Anyhow, let me share with you our meal...appetizers Sliced Tomato, prosciutto, mozzarella with balsamic vinegar and olive oil, House Salad, Shrimp Scampi, Sausage & Peppers (for the boys) next course Penne alla Vodka (Kate I thought you'd like Wink) and Gnocchi Bolagnese. THEN the entrees Veal Marsala and Chicken Picate with capers and olives, dessert, Canollis and triple fudge cake...my mouth is watering thinking about it. Oh and we had endless red and white wine all for $40 per person.My friend George knows the owner and hooked us up with the wine at no charge and to entertain ourselves at the end of the night my nurse friend brought a breathalizer to test everyone...most of us were not driving since most of us live in the city.  

    It is a gorgeous day today and Charlie and I just got back from the park. I took pics and they didnt save. Yell so I will try again tomorrow with a real camera. We did 2 miles and Charlie is seriously the laziest Aussie ever. I hope everyone is having a good day!!

    Diane

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 7,605
    edited September 2012

    OMG KATE!!!! I am so friggin' happy for you! You MUST feel like the weight of the world is lifted off your shoulders!!!!!! 

    Diane, so SO glad you had a great celebration! I don't have 12 friends to invite if I could!

    Hopeful......SHIT! 

  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 674
    edited September 2012

    Kate---you know I could not be happier!! I so worry about each one of you and all the different tests, issues, scans,etc. It is so wonderful to have that weight off your shoulders, isn't it? Diane, don't you know us brunettes have more fun? Or at least that's what I have been told. . . .

    Hopeful, I think about your healing and can only think there must be something the doctors are missing in your bloodwork or something that effects your healing. Sending very,very, gentle (((((HUGS)))))

    Mac are you back in your nice comfy island bed yet?

    Dreamer--all you have to say is "pins" and "removal" and I'm on the floor. Ewwww, you are a brave woman.

    Barbe, I gave up on fancy dancy heels years ago. I have wide feet and a mangled toe so I wear the ugliest shoes.Its so hard to find shoes that cover my toes and aren't tennis shoes.  Can't wear ballet flats cause they hurt my back. So many cute shoes I have never been able to wear. Wahh, wahh. Such a whiner. . .

    3jays--so glad to bring some extra Florida sunshine your way! Have fun struttin your stuff!!

    And I agree---Debbie--you are one of the hottest sixty year olds I know!  

    Putting this week in the books--friend of mine lost her brother to bone cancer, he was DX as I was finishing my chemo, a year and half ago. My MIL's BF lost her  troubled 46 year old daughter in a bike accident. My DH employee found our her Hodgkins has progressed. She's 31 and been married less than a year. Not been a upbeat week in our house. Hopefully, it'll be over soon. This aging crap is for the birds. 

  • Delilahbear
    Delilahbear Member Posts: 206
    edited September 2012

    Kate - great news, I know you can relax a bit with this part behind you and let's pray the PET scan confirms.

    PT - hope getting the pins out is not painful - they are leaving the plate and screws in my elbow and anchors in my rotator cuff - I am just as glad as tired of this stuff. Understand though that the pins routinely are removed.

    Diane - belated happy birthday and glad you had a real celebration

    Barbe - love the idea of the hot pink flats - I still like my heels and will use my new purple cane with them and pray I don't fall again.

    Hopeful - sorry about your setback with the areolas and hope you getting some healing goo to heal them.

    Claire - sorry your week has been such a downer - hopefully next week will be better

    Prayers and hugs for all

  • justagirl
    justagirl Member Posts: 633
    edited September 2012

    Hopeful: I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you that nothing else goes amiss.

    Kate: I say Party Girl and yes, I'm into getting back to the little joys in life.  Like waking up, grabbing a coffee and sitting out on the porch with Jaki and looking at the crystal blue morning sky and nature. Loved the hair colouring story - sounds just like what I can do to myself and I love to cut my bangs myself too....much to my hairdresser's horror. Am drooling over your lovely dinner - no one serves that way here in Australia anymore - it's all 'novelle cuisine' in little tiny bits.

    Diane: No, my girl is the laziest ever.  Sometimes I think I should get a stroller for when Jerry takes her for her morning walk since I don't run anymore but that would defeat the purpose of exercising her and she has lost 4 pounds, which is good for her hips but.....now after Jerry walks her along the river he takes her to McDonalds for a sausage McMuffin as a reward!

    Just read an article that older woman, to not look so 'old' should not wear long hair past their shoulders.  Heck, I just now have got mine to my shoulders after growing it back after chemo and 'they' are saying no more?

  • justagirl
    justagirl Member Posts: 633
    edited September 2012

    Hopeful: I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you that nothing else goes amiss.

    Kate: I say Party Girl and yes, I'm into getting back to the little joys in life.  Like waking up, grabbing a coffee and sitting out on the porch with Jaki and looking at the crystal blue morning sky and nature.

    Diane:Loved the hair colouring story - sounds just like what I can do to myself and I love to cut my bangs myself too....much to my hairdresser's horror. Am drooling over your lovely dinner - no one serves that way here in Australia anymore - it's all 'novelle cuisine' in little tiny bits.

     No, my girl is the laziest ever.  Sometimes I think I should get a stroller for when Jerry takes her for her morning walk since I don't run anymore but that would defeat the purpose of exercising her and she has lost 4 pounds, which is good for her hips but.....now after Jerry walks her along the river he takes her to McDonalds for a sausage McMuffin as a reward!

    Just read an article that older woman, to not look so 'old' should not wear long hair past their shoulders.  Heck, I just now have got mine to my shoulders after growing it back after chemo and 'they' are saying no more?

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 7,605
    edited September 2012

    As for hair, "they" say it's when older women try to keep the same dark colour as when they were young - that is what ages them! Debbie, you have dark hair, but it looks so natural that maybe it is???? AND long hair!!! Yet we've all decided you are the hotest 60 year old we know!! So much for that theory!!!

    My hair is almost all silver at the front, and yet in back it's dark brown!! Go figure!! I highlight it all over to blend in the silver in front and bring the light colour around to the back. It looks like that popular ombre blend of light to dark. 

  • macatacmv
    macatacmv Member Posts: 1,200
    edited September 2012

    Hello all, 

    YAY!!! Happy news Kate!!!!

    Sounds like a great party Diane. I'm glad you were surrounded by love and friendship! We were there in spirit!

    I had a party like that for my 50th, just friends at a good restaurant with great food. Make the most of every day I say!  This year (60th) I and my  DD are going to FL, actually Orlando (the city of my birth) to hang with my high school buds.  Fitting the trip in between doc appts, LOL.

     I do love my bed, it lets me sleep in a lounging position, so I can breathe.  

    I am home safe. It was quite the trip and I will probably take a friend or family member the next time. But I did it! For the afternoon appt the valet parking was full so I had to park on the roof of the parking garage and walk all the way to the Center for Chest Diseases dept. I was 1/2 hour late, but they were all worried about me b/c they knew I had been there earlier for the scan. They are very sweet. Anyway they fit me in and it is more of the same, no glaring problems in the scan. The mystery of why my lungs sound so much better while I am on the higher dose of prednisone. This new doc is committed to finding out what is going on, tho. So that feels good. He spoke to my old doc who said at the end of the conversation Good Luck! LOL So I had more blood work, was referred to a ENT doc, have been scheduled for a Cardio-Pulmonary exercise test. Then yesterday I had an appt with my PCP here at home, my bp was high again even on the med so she has doubled that med. And to add insult to injury I have a wicked yeast infection which needs to be treated with an oral med. Waahhhh!

    On the hair dying. Last time I colored my hair myself for some reason I picked out an auburn color, for a change. It was really red. LOL I now have a regular stylist and we have been going darker and shorter. When my hair turned gray in my 40s it got all wirery and frizzy, now it would be almost all white. So the coloring keeps it smooth and managable. Most of my friends are younger than me and almost no one believes me when I say how old I really am. LOL  

    barbe, i love how your hair looks in your pic.  

    So today I have to do some work on my business. It does not appear that I am going to open it again anytime soon, since no answers and still on all the medications. So I have to call the insurance agency and do some filing of online tax forms. I've really been putting this off for long enough. I think it will be freeing for me, to finally get it out of the way.

    hugs to hopefull, claire, anyone who needs one! (no memory!!)

    Kate, I join you in your goal of finding something to put the spring back in our steps no matter what shoes we are wearing. Here's to happy joyous and feeling young at heart! 

  • Kate33
    Kate33 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited September 2012

    Mac- It may have been challenging but hope you got a great sense of accomplishment at doing all that on your own! 

    As someone who has had her hair blonde, brunette and redhead I'm not sure who has more fun!  Debbie- I think you should grow your hair as long as you want it, though!  Phooey on rules!

    I did have a great time yesterday.  Went to lunch with 2 GF's to celebrate my test results and then we went out again for dinner with our DH's.  There's a golf club restaurant near us that's open to the public so we met up for drinks and dinner on the patio listening to one of our favorite bands, Soul Catcher.  The patio overlooks the desert with the city views in the distant and there was a gorgeous sunset.  So that's my captured joy for yesterday.  Today my sister and niece are coming down (they live 2 hours to the north) and we're celebrating my Mom's birthday this weekend.  So take-out dinner tonight at my Mom's and tomorrow we are going to see a play (The Secret Garden- one of my favorite books as a child) and dinner out.  Should be a great weekend!  Hope everyone else has one, too!  

  • hopefulhealing
    hopefulhealing Member Posts: 581
    edited September 2012

    Kate sounds like another fun weekend for you!

    Barbe I like your hair too.  I once had hot pink loafers.... too long of a story to get into but your mention of hot pink shoes made me smile. 

    Mac doesn't seem ironic that you were going to a lung disease appt. and you had to park that far away!! They need to reserve spots for you up front or the valet should have offered to park your car for you. What was your business? It must be difficult to have to close it for now.  Or is it a bit of a relief?

    justagirl thanks so much for the good wishes. I love to putz in my flower garden too.  I find it is so relaxing and helps puts things into perspective somehow. Haven't been out there for awile but it seems to be a calming thing.

    Ok I am NOT being Pollyanna but don't you think sometimes this disease has given us such a new way of looking at so much. Before we tried to keep our friends even though we knew they were not a postive nurturing thing in our lives. Now we feel the freedom and ability to cut loose those that don't enhance our lives. Before we were maybe not as assertive (that has never been a problem for me :) ) in dealing with our health care team. Now we are so informed and do not hesitate to question and push for what we know we deserve. Before we may have held back loving as completely and fully over petty things. Now we love more completely because we are aware of our mortality and the need not to waste time on things that are small and non-important in the grand scheme of things. Before we may have thought nice things about our spouses, siblings etc and not said them outloud. Now we take the time to make sure our loved ones know how much we appreciate and love them. Before we didn't take the time maybe always to reflect on the things that are TRULY important in our lives. Now we recognize those things on a daily basis and give thanks.  Before we didn't allow ourselves to be human and express/experience the deep emotions that come with life's challenges.  Now we embrace those emotions, know how important it is to fully experience them and move through them carefully and respectfully.

    Sorry for the long post. But coming out of a deep dark hole and so very grateful for all of you. It is wierd I have been applying the antibiotic ointment to the debrided areola without any problem. I am an RN after all :) But now all of a sudden I don't want to look at it.  Wierd.

  • justagirl
    justagirl Member Posts: 633
    edited September 2012

    hopefulhealing: so glad you are finding the strength to crawl out of this deep hole you have been in.  Mind you, it's been a bit crowded down there with all of us with you!  I get the being an RN and not wanting to look at something going on with your own body as you are the patient now but I've always been too curious not to.

    I know now I'm more assertive than I used to be and it's good for me, but maybe not for others around me.

    mac: no you shouldn't do that visit again if you have to hike for a 1/2 hour from where you park your car to get to the doctor's office.  That in itself is way too much.  I just keep hoping your system, with help of the Prednisone, will fight off whatever is going on in your lungs.

    Kate: sounds like it's going to be party central for the next few days for you - whoopee!

    barbe and Kate: I only have a few grey hairs at the temple areas and a scattering through my hair. My normal hair colour is auburn but as it grows out it gets really red then goes blond - looks like a bad dye job.  So for years I have been dumping a light brown semi colour on it every 6 weeks. I'm going to let it grow past my shoulders about 3 inches.  That's long enough if it will do it.  In summer, with the heat and working outside I like to put it up in a ponytail and in cold weather like it hanging down keeping my neck and shoulders warm. As I did chemo in fall and winter I always had to wear a cotton cap and when I went out just threw a loose scarf over that.....but it was never like hair.

    My son Max did take a recent photo of me, but I didn't have any makeup on so no, I'm not posting it.  Will try again while he is home on mid-semester break.  It will be nice to have my boy home, all 6' 3" of him.  My dear dog  Jaki who is my shadow, diverts her attention to Max when he comes home as she really had a hard time adjusting when he moved out in February for uni.  Max says he, Jaki, our cat Fred, Jerry (my DH) and me are a pack and Jaki isn't happy unless the whole pack is home.  Oh, funny thing, Max says I am the Pack Leader - how nice does that sound?

    I give thanks every day for all of you and wish we hadn't become friends because of bc, but at least I can say it brought all of you into my lives and I truly know you are heartfelt friends.

  • Maddie57
    Maddie57 Member Posts: 85
    edited September 2012

    Hi Ladies- sorry was laid a bit low after the 3rd round of chemo, so had a bit to catch up on. 

    Kate- I am soooo thrilled with the test results! Couldn't be happier if they had told me the news myself. I think it is a wonderful idea about doing something young and joyeous. Can I suggest we all go and blow some bubbles and send happy thoughts to one another. They are such beautiful ethereal things when they dance in the wind. It feels like being a child again. Last Christmas I had everyone outside with a large bubble wand. It was cold and muddy, but everyone from all the age groups had a wonderful time. We were all fighting over who had a chance with the bubble wand next. I have bought a book on how to make 8 foot bubbles(!!!! go figure) and will be trying that soon. If I succeed will send one over.

    Di - great news about Kate. We just need to sort you out now. When will they drain the last cyst? Are you feeling any better? It is lovely to think you have some time off - could have punched your last client myself with no problem!

    Hopeful- I am so sorry about the areola and the healing issues. I only have to decide about nipple reconstruction next year, but am toying with the idea of leaving it. My husband says he doesn't mind the pristine look!!

    macatamv - I am so sorry to hear about your respiratory issues. There is often a moment when the student is on their own with you. Take this opportunity  to tell him how you feel. Eg - does it hurt. It will make them a better Dr in the long run, and they seem to appreciate it. With my last inflation I was really suffering, but put on a stiff upper lip. When my BS went off, I told the student as they were training they may as well know it hurts like hell.

    Ladies - I really need your advice on this, as you are much further down the line than I am. My last Taxotere treatment is in 2 weeks time. I am on Herceptin then for a year, but my DH and I would really like to go away for 10 days after the last Taxotere. We want to go to the Greek Isles - a place close to our hearts. It involves a 3 1/2 hour plane trip. We plan to go in the 2nd and 3rd week post chemo. I am worried about all the bugs on the plane- if someone coughs, you all get sick.

    I took out medical insurance before I got BC for a year, but they say they will not cover me to travel as this is a pre- existing condition. I said it wasn't pre-existing before I took  out the policy. **** insurance companies. My husband says he is willing to take the chance and go with no insurance. When would you suggest I time the trip? Would you take antibiotics with you in case you got sick- any other suggestions? Do you think I am crazy thinking about this. It has just been such a tough year - BC - family members dying, I really think I need this break

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 7,605
    edited September 2012

    Pack Leader sounds better than Mother Hen!!! hehehehee

    Mac, I, too, suffer when I have to get from parking to my appointments!! Don't they think?? I do have a handicapped (or handicapable) license plate. Maybe it's time you got one...

    Maddie, I would wear a mask!! It would scare people away from you, too. My DH and I once flew from Athens to Rhodes and we happened to be put in the smoking section (don't smoke!!) so EVERY man on the plane was huddled around our seats smoking their lungs out!!! Ask to be put in the front and wear the mask in the airport too!!

    Great idea about joy. I guess that's why I like being with my grands. They have no boundaries to their joy! I've heard if you blow bubbles in the winter (up here where it gets really cold!) that they will freeze!!! I was blessed enough to give my littlest grand his first look at bubbles this summer and it almost burst my heart to see his amazement at what NaNa could do!! 

  • Kate33
    Kate33 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited September 2012

    Hopeful- One thing I promised myself through this is I wouldn't drink the pink Kool-aid and ever, ever say anything good has come from BC.  But in reading your post I realize that I've had most of the changes you described and they are good.  (Damn!)  When they opened up my chest something inside of my opened up too.  Maybe it came from the BC or maybe it just came from this place and being able to open the floodgates of everything inside and not feel judged for it.  Whatever the source I see a difference in myself like you described, too.  I don't think it's being Pollyana but I think it's how life is supposed to be before we get bogged down by our insecurities, past hurts and fear.  Thanks for always putting words to my thoughts in such an eloquent way.  I'm glad you're moving out of your dark hole.  Hope you can move forward with healing so you're soon on level ground.

    Debbie- I can definitely see you as leader of the pack- or is it a menagerie?   

    Maddie- When I read your post the "old me" crept out and I was thinking, "No, don't go!  What if something happens and you don't have insurance?  What if you get sick from someone on the plane?  What if...."  Well, I'm guessing no one puts "what ifs" on their bucket list.  I think it's wonderful that you both want to throw caution to the winds and whisk each other away on a romantic trip.  Those are things we never look back on and never regret.  I say do everything you can to prepare like boost up your immunity as much as possible (lots of protein, vitamins and hydrate, hydrate, hydrate beforehand), wear some protective garb on the plane and then have a wonderful time.  I didn't do chemo so can't give you much advice there but maybe on some of the chemo threads they can give you some tips.  I just hope it works out for you!  And, you're right- ******* insurance companies indeed.

  • Stanzie
    Stanzie Member Posts: 1,611
    edited September 2012

    Sorry I've been away.... will catch up with everyone - So upset and angry about how our symphony musicians are being treated, wrote a letter and now I'm in the hoopla! However yesterday I was "handled" and I'm so angry I could just scream especially when it involves a mom of my daughter's - also trying to cook Beef Wellington for 8 for my wonderful 87 year old music teacher... I am so not a cook! Now trying to make sauce and NOT burn the house down... so I will catchup.... Sorry - thrilled and relieved big time for Kate! More after tonight/this weekend is over!

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 639
    edited September 2012

    maddie, have you looked at site like insure my trip? the time frame may be problematic but worth a look since they have so many different companies. on one hand i would love to say go for it. i do worry about your immune system and having been in a foreign country and had a medical situation i know that the insurance was a blessing. that said could this trip be one that you plan for in greater depth to celebrate alittle further out and take a fantastic trip by car closer to home for now? Whatever you choose to do celebrate being together and looking forward to more special moments. Take all the precautions you can but do something to lift your spirits. Hugs and good luck.

  • macatacmv
    macatacmv Member Posts: 1,200
    edited September 2012

    barbe, i like that, handicapable. I keep thinking I'm going to be better any day now. (denial or optimism?)

    I have an appt with the ENT doc this wednesday at the same hospital, but I am going to use a different entrance which should have the valet parking especially since it is in the morning. It is also closer to the doc's office. It will be just a day trip so not so exhausting hopefully. I had to laugh when the doc at the Center for Chest Diseases said they have the fittest patients  because they have to walk so far. I said yeah it's real fun when you feel like you can't breathe.

    maddie, I took a trip after rads in May to St John Island. It did wonders for my spirit. I wasn't in great shape, I was the one coughing and gasping for breath. We booked the first seat on the plane so there were not people around me just behind me and the plane attendant gave me a mask to wear. She probably thought she was protecting everyone else but it works both ways. Everyone we met on the trip was so accomadating, from giving me rides in golf carts, to letting me try to snorkle to just being very kind. I wouldn't trade the memories for anything. I didn't even think about insurance to tell you the truth. I did take some airborne and tried to keep up my supplements and healthy eating. Anyway, you know what is best for you! 

    stanzie, my kids always said, we know it's time to come in for dinner when the smoke alarm goes off in the house. 

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 7,605
    edited September 2012

    I've learned from years on this forum to NEVER delay a moment of joy. GO ON THAT TRIP NOW. A better time might NOT come around and you'll wish you did when it was so much simpler!! A mask that is used during a contamination can be found in a normal drug store. Not a big deal, people will just think it's YOU that is infected on the plane!!! I don't get sick flying OUT of Canada, but almost always in coming BACK.