Great saying about depression
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Claire- I meant to comment on your last post but just spaced out! I sometimes find myself on here too much, too, and wonder if it is helping or hurting. I had started to whittle down the number of threads on my favorite topics list to just a few. Then, on bad days, I found myself adding to it by either finding threads to help me or ones I could help others. I think BCO is a double-edged sword. On one hand it helps me feel connected with like-minded souls- something that is lacking in my "real" life. On the other, though, it keeps me dredged in the BC world 2 years later. So not sure what the answer is. I suppose it would be healthier to move on in some ways but just can't imagine saying goodbye to all of you.
Golden- I'm not able to figure out the triggers, either. I do have a tendency to start taking inventory of my "woes" similar to the married couple that starts a fight about the cap on the toothpaste and ends up arguing about every single slight in their 20 year marriage- lol! So that's something I need to work on. I start getting overwhelmed about everything currently wrong in my life. The funny thing is most of them are out of my control, anyway!
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Kate33....I don't normally post here because I feel you ladies all have such a wonderful
Bond and friendship and I am fairly new here.......was dx in February. However, I do read all your posts here, cry with you all, laugh and learn a lot. I just wanted to say Kate, like you I probably come on here too often but it's like "comfort food" to me.I also have tried to whittle down the number of threads which are my favorites, but find myself getting back on again. I don't talk to family and friend much anymore about my BC....they all figure I should be "moving on now", so I come here for comfort, understanding, to vent, laugh, learn .......I feel so comfortable here with all the wonderful women who are so strong, courageous and good role models for me. So I don't care anymore, if I need to come here a little or a lot, so be it.....whatever it takes to get us through this crap.0 -
Sorry I've been gone so long... have been trying to read and catch up even though I know I've missed a lot! I got myself too involved and then got hurt myself... I just will never learn it seems. It all just got me so disallusioned and still having the battles with my daughter and then the general hectic life with teenagers... sometimes I don't think I have time for myself just to think... and I mean about anything - seems I went for three days going out to buy milk and started on Thursday and finally got it today... That isn't good.
So trying to rejoin the human race even though I do have the paper looming over my head but I've now (for the moment) lowered the bar and just say it will be what it will be and maybe next time I'll have a more interesting take on whatever the subject is.
Kate- Very glad you are going to MDA!!! I feel better all ready!
Debbie- what can I say- owe you a long... private post! but otherwise, going on with all your back issues and migraines and engulfing hot flame attacks... ugh- it is a wonder we function at all.
3jays- any more news on the moving front? So sorry...
Hopeful- even with your name you are always welcome to be human here at least a few times... you can't always be hopeful and happy but you do give us all such inspiration but we do still know you have a lot of concerns as well.
I'm trying to catch up too fast so hope I make a bit of sense...
Love the doggie stories. I was washing and cutting the icky parts off chicken and was drying them on a paper towel when out of the corner of my eye a very quiet and sneaky nose appears and he just slowly sticks out his tongue almost ready to grab his prize- so delicate.... but I caught him!!! He didn't make a sound or just jump up, he has learned to be very very sneaky---- now I'm really in trouble... Thank goodness for furry babies!! More later now that I'm back...
Oh, and love all the new friends posting!! We all just are here to help each other!!
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Hello all,
It was a gray rainy weekend here. The weather itself was enough to bring anyone down. My DS came home tho and that sure cheered me up. He did lots of chores for me that needed to be done with the change of season. Lots of heavy lifting and that sort of thing. We went grocery and pet food shopping, just having someone to "do" things with was fun. We took the dog to the dog park yesterday afternoon and I was trying to explain about pinktober and how it was annoying. He says I love that saying "Save the Ta Tas." And I said of course you would you are a 27 y/o male. Anyway I had to let it go with him. I have to "let it go" with a lot of people it seems. But here we get it!
So he left last evening and I started to sink. But then I got a text from a friend that I went thro rads with (she has a different kind of cancer), we rode the boat together everyday and laughed and laughed about nothing. Her DD came with her everyday. So that gave me something to look forward to. It is the little things that lift me up. Today a friend (much younger) came by to pick up some stuff she had stored in my attic about 3 years ago. She called first and asked if I needed anything and I said no I don't think so. Then I thought about it and texted her and said yes I want an iced chai latte and a bagel with veggie cream cheese. She was so happy to do something for me. We had a nice conversation and she got her stuff and it really made my day.
I am slowly resolving the business stuff. Still don't know what it will look like in the end. Completely closed, work suspended for a while longer, sold, I just don't know, but it feels better to be doing something besides just cringing when the phone rings, and hiding from customers when they pull into the driveway. My DS helped me to compose a new outgoing phone message. I do know that putting myself back into a shop with a lot of dust and chemicals will not help my lungs get better.
The diuretic is certainly helping. I feel like I can move again. I don't think I have a mucus plug, but I will call tomorrow to find out the scan results. It seems to me we are doing a series of tests to eliminate what it might be. But not really putting a finger on what is causing my lungs to wheeze all the time. Oh well, one foot in front of the other.
I know that I have not been going through this journey as long as others and that my problems are not as severe as others, but I find that sometimes I have to let myself sink into the dark place to come out the other side. I let myself cry, feel sorry for myself, talk to my MH provider, go to self help groups, take an anti anxiety med, sleep, then wake up and see what this day will bring. I know that if I hang on long enough the feeling will pass or at least change.
I hope that we all have a fresh outlook on a new week. (never mind the month)
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i'm three pages behind, and i'm going back to "catch up" but wanted to post this poc, before i forgot where it is.haha anyway, my 1st time in public with new "accessories" full on, at my youngest 31st bday..
Only the grands, noticed my "new do".. funny story, but later.. i hope everyone is on the way pout of their dark holes.. i will read, but not tonight. its a synthyroid nite.. puking the bday cake up!!yuck!!3jays
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not a good poic to see the foobs. me and the 3jays.. notivce the new red hair!!(thanx again, Claire)..3jaysmom 0 -
3jaysmom - great photo - you are one hot Mama for those three handsome guys!
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3jays that new hair looks AMAZING!!! I wish the picture was closer of everyone. That's a pet peeve of mine...sigh. I call that a pin-head shot! hehehehee. You can see that there's 4 people in the pic, but not detail. A good looking bunch of guys, too!!
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3jays, what are your taking synthroid for? I take it but I need to take daily to keep my thyroid levels up. If that's the reason you take it there are other meds besides synthroid.
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3jays- you look fabulous but I agree with Barb- I can't see well enough so wish it was bigger! Love the red hair!
Mac- hang in there- I don't think it actually matters how long you have been doing this it just sneaks up on all of us at times and probably always will. Sorry I'm begind on everything- what kind of chemicals would you be breathing? We are here for you....
I've been really down lately too. Wonder if it is the change in season? Also just go too involved in the music cause so letting that die down. Now back to dealing with daughter... and tornados were predicted but fortunantly I think even though we have the watch it doesn't sound like they are too worried now.
Had a friend come over for a spur of the moment lunch and that helped a lot - she is very funny.
Other than baths and brushing any other ideas for a doggy smelling house? I'm used to it but when my kids come back from being at their dad's they say they can smell it. My little Liesl didn't have fur she had hair and she didn't shed or smell so this is new for me...
Scottie- yes I totally agree what ever gets you though then do it!!! Don't worry about what anyone else says or does if it helps then it is right for you and glad you are here!
Ok, back to my paper.... Wish I was about 30 years younger doing this - LOL!
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Hi Kate - so sorry you have been feeling down. I think the recurrence is definitely what sparked it off. We are all rooting for you, and hope you feel better soon. My best friend came for a visit today. She lives in another country, and we had a lovely day. I surprised myself by nearly breaking down and weeping on the station when she left. I just had the feeling I wouldn't see her again. Anyway it gave me a chance to text her once she was on the train to tell her what a special place she has in my heart. Cancer does play with your emotions.
Well ladies we have thrown caution to the winds and booked our holiday to the Greek Isles. My Mother is driving me crazy telling me not to go, but my heart tells me it is the right thing to do. I have bought millions of disinfectant wipes, hand gel and the masks for the plane, so am as organised as I can be. I can't wait!! My fingers and toes are becoming increasingly sore, so I hope this won't get too much worse after the 4th one.
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3jays, a great pic!!!! what a lovely family. you look fabulous!!!
maddie, where are you that it is only 3 hours to Greek Isles? Follow your heart!
stanzie, I have a cobbler shop in my basement. Have worked in my own shop for 30 years. So lots of dye, cements and dust. I forgot what paper are you writing?
kate, hope today was better.
scottie, I agree whatever it takes.
had 2 friends visit in the last 2 days so that was a boost to the spirit. Then the doc called today while I was at the dog park and my cell phone dropped the call, so I have to wait until tomorrow. he didn't even leave a message. sigh.
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Hi Ladies: Thank you for your support and validation. I can't even talk to my friends about this site......They tell me it's not good for me and "only those with issues come here"......ha .....out of the mouth of "babes"..
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Scottiee- Glad you feel comfortable posting with us. We are a tight little group but there is ALWAYS room for more! As far as friends and family thinking it's time for you to move on I think it's the American Cancer Society that says it takes about 2 years from dx for things to start to return to normal. (I believe I am on the 4 year plan, though- lol!) I'd say you're doing pretty darn good especially considering it hasn't been that long for you.
3jays- Aw, what a sweet family! Thanks for sharing! You are rocking that "do"!!!
Stanzie- We've missed you!!!!!
macatac- Sorry about having to close your business. I know that must have been a tough decision. Is there a chance if things improve you can reopen in the future?
Maddie- Hope you have a wonderful time on your trip!!!! I am curious, too, where you live now? I have never been to the Greek isles but it looks so lovely. My wonderful FIL is from there, though, so guess I have some extended family there. Hope you have an amazing, romantic and relaxing time.
Today was a good day. My DH had an appointment with his neurologist (he has Parkinson's for any new members on here) and it went really well. Just a slight adjustment to his meds but overall he is doing so much better than before he was dx. The medications have made an amazing difference. He just got back from his annual guys trip which he missed last year. His friends said he looks better now than he did 2 years ago! His doctor is very optimistic, too, for future treatments so all in all a good visit.
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maddie and mac: oh how bc does play with our emotions..............so much, too much, too often
Kate: glad DH got a good report from the neurologist - hip hip hooray! I get to be happy for you two as I feel like we are all in this together.
mac: let us know what the Dr says when you get hold of him!
Scottie: Even my DH after I had finished surgeries, chemo and rads found me here and he said why would I go here anymore as I didn't have BC anymore. Boy, did he get a yelling from me, along with rage and tears. That was 2 years ago so now he 'gets' how much support I receive from all of you and I will keep on coming here until I feel I don't need to. I don't think coming here keeps me thinking of BC, it keeps on giving me support and validation of my physical and emotional feelings.
I give thanks every day (and I am not religious) to all of you for being here. Just wish we had met under better circumstances!
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Mac- you can build and make things? I'm sooooo jealous! I can't even figure out how to open packages most of the time. I actually am really that bad, I'm afraid. I recently bought a saw which the man said was a fiddle saw and tried and tried to use it. Well apparently another friend said it was a bow saw and you uses it like a bow and then it works just fine... Really? Never occured to me to turn it over.... I do try and stay away from things that plug in...
Scottie- I think when I mention this site, my friends think it is odd as well. But then if I say I'm talking to one of my friends online that I have never actually met then that is about as strange and can't say cyber friends or they think I'm in some scary chat room... LOL! It is amazing how something like this brings people(women) together. Probably more so than other diseases as bc is personal - it affects our femininity! It affects our sexuality and our emotional being..... hence why I think we can so quickly bond. Also, I think with this thread in particular we have gotten to know each other better and actually get our personalities, if that makes sense.... but always room for more as I tell my kids you cannot have too many friends.
Maddie- I have been lucky enough to go to Greece 3 times and it is fabulous, the people, the scenery, the food - just everything.... Hopefully it will be a healing experience - sometimes getting away and taking your mind off everything just helps. Just don't push yourself. Don't walk up to the Parthanon! Take a taxi! Don't get too hot, even though I guess it is starting to get cooler- I've always gone in the summer and the heat is dreadful. The islands are gorgeous and wonderful... just don't do too much! It is lovely just to sit and look at the sea.... which islands are you going to?
Kate- LOL on 4 year plan! So happy your DH is doing well..... now we just need to get you off the worry table. My goodness after the second surgery and the lymphadema and your husband and such... you NEED a break!!
Hopeful, how are you? How are things looking?
Barb....? I know Maybe's passing affected you as well as 3 jays so wanted to acknowledge that... she was lovely in the little bit I knew of her.
3jays- the move??
I just got my report that my generic synthroid is too high so going to a lower dose- I just knew it! Amazing how one can tell since I've been on it since 2002. So..... also got my cholesterol report back- I'm sky high! I've always had low cholesterol.... my Doc gave me some time to lose weight but well.... that didnt' happen so now wants me to go on Atuivastatin--- might not be correct spelling as trying to read Doc's hand writting. I have so wanted to avoid going on these type of meds. But looks like my weight isn't going anywhere- I'm just so tired all the time it is hard to exercise.... So anyone know about these meds? Also is it because of menopause that my cholesterol is up- the bad one is up high. I know my weight isn't great but it is probably up 10 lbs not 80lbs? Would that make that much of a difference? Grrrrr.....
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Stanzie, I can't see how 10 lbs can make a difference. Remember, a large part of high cholesterol is hereditary!!
I sit on this site for hours and sometimes at the end of the evening I say to my DH, I just have to check on my girls...he gets it! I've had MORE, WAY more support from you guys than I have had by the people that can touch and feel me!!! Sad, but true!!! The first time that someone passed that I had talked to (Toyful) I was so upset that I woke up my DH while I was crying and the poor guy thought something had happened to one of the kids!! This site is a lifeline that I refuse to give up. I have threads about sewing, crafts and other non-cancer subjects so I have a broad scope. I've met about 15-18 ladies from here and there is a bond you will never get anywhere else! I would leave my fortune to bco if I had one!
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Hi Ladies- so nice to chat to you again. A few of you have asked where I live. I live in England. If any of you are ever over here send me a message and come and visit. Would love to meet you. I got on to your website through Kate. I googled "Thin skin over breast implant", and Kate's reply came up. It was so helpful by the way Kate. It seems my BS does do fat implants. I went to see the Breast Sister today about it actually. The chemo affects my TE badly, and it gets worse and affects it for a longer period each time. The skin over it gets so tight I can't move. It is not the arm it is the skin over the TE - it seems to shrink and keeps clamping down. When I had the second Tax treatment I sat for 6 hours with is squeezing down with no respite - it was uncomfortable to even pick up a cup. I thought I had capsular contraction - I couldn't sleep worrying about it. Anyway they were MARVELLOUS. Although they have never heard of chemo having these SE's they assured me it was not encapsulated. I could have kissed them I was so relieved.
Stanzie - we are going to the Isle of Rhodes. We chose that one, as it towards the end of their season, and the smaller ones close down a lot of the tavernas and cruises in the second week of September. My DH got a really good deal on a 4 star hotel which sounds super. The flight there will take about 4 hours. The weather should be just perfect. 24/25 degrees - not too hot and not too cold. I have bought a shocking pink latex cap to cover my bald head when we go snorkeling. There are not a lot of brightly coloured fish in the Med, but the sea is so clear and the colour so gorgeous it lifts my heart just to see it.
Macatacmv - I do hope your results are good. Are you asthmatic?
Stanzie - you look gorgeous to me - not over weight at all. Omega 3 really helps with your cholesterol - try taking those if you don't already. I am sorry the music fiasco has got you down. Maybe you are right to step back a bit and let someone else worry about it for a while.
Kate - thrilled to hear you DH is a bit better
Scottiee1 - Welcome!!! Nice to meet you. Living in England I suppose I should be on the Macmillam website. I did sign up there, but felt at home here instantly. Their website is also so complicated. Everytime someone writes anything on any thread they send you an email update. It was like having a computer virus. In one day I had 96 emails from threads I had never been on- thyroid, bowel etc. I had to email them for help
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Maddie, I am soooo jealous! first that you live in England, second that the Greek Isles are only 4 hours away and third that you are going to Rhodes! I have tried each time to get there. Once the ship cancelled, second time - my fault young and drank too much and slept through it and third time they were having fighting with Turkey! To me only being 4 hours away rather than 8-10 hours is a huge difference as far as traveling! Sounds heavenly! I forget not everyone lives here in the States so when I hear going to Greece I think of long plane rides and changing planes and sitting at airports and all.
My son is nuts over England! I so hope to take him there sometime in the future - he would be over the moon!
You are right Barb about heridiary - yes my Mom had high cholesterol and I do think estrogen helped keep mine down but oh well..... Yes I do take omega 3's as well. Of course the Friday and Sat. night before having the blood draw and making Beef Wellingtons (we had to try it the night before to make sure we had a clue what we were doing- LOL) probably didn't exactly help those numbers.... But I did look it up and apparently statins can help MS so I'm going to go for it - Cha ching! In the long run, wouldn't mind being taken out by a heart attack but need to get my kids grown and settled and strokes - nope they pretty much terrify me, so onto meds! Love getting ancient!
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Stanzie- It seems like they just keep changing the "normal" cholesterol levels making it just about impossible for any of us to fall within that range. I'm normally not big on conspiracy theories but have to wonder if the pharmacutical companies aren't behind it somehow. It seems that just about everyone I know is on these drugs now. Normal LDL levels used to be 130 but have now been dropped to 100. Used to be that only people who already had heart disease had to obtain those levels. Now they're saying we all do. They also added diabetes as a risk for heart disease so now diabetics are all supposed to take the statins, too- another new (HUGE!) market. I've seen studies, though, that have linked low cholesterol to everything from higher inflammation, inability of your body to absorp Vitamin D from the sun and dementia. My cholesterol levels are "normal" but not sure I'd take any drugs if they weren't unless they were outrageously high. My sister's was high and her doctor, who is just a GP not a naturopathic, didn't even suggest the statins. Her first suggestion was for her to take a supplement called red yeast rice and see if that would work for her so she just started it. They sell it at Costco. Maybe you could ask your doctor if you could try that first and have your levels checked again in 6 months?
barbe- When my DH sees me typing away on my laptop he always asks, "How are your girls?" lol! I think he really gets it, too. My DS thinks it's a little strange, and didn't get it at all why I was devastated by Mary, someone whom I had never met. Not sure my friends understood either. You're right about the support, though, or lack of it from those who can "touch and feel me". I think I'd be in a totally different place without all of you. I think women in general, though, are starved for the connection we've managed to forge here. I know we need it more than men. In the old days they'd share that over coffee on the back porch while the kids played. Now it's so much harder to come by but I think as women we still need it just as much. So I think BC brought us all together but I feel like it's that innate need we all have that keeps us here. That need to communicate, share and be heard that lives within our souls while men get by with just a grunt or two.
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Maddie, I've been to Rhodes!! We were there just before the season started so there wasn't much in the flower department going on, but everything was so clean!! We were ALONE in the Temple of the Grand Masters!!! Got to take as much time as we wanted. The guard turned the lights off as we left each room. Friends of ours waited 3 1/2 HOURS in a line up to get in and then had to shuffle through like sheep!!! I took 15 ROLLS (no digital at the time) of film on our trip and there is only ONE person in it that I took on purpose!! I have shots that are better than the travel guides!! We were also alone at the Temple of Athena!!! (Except for brown cats...hehehehee0 We did miss the flowers though and while we were there there was an earthquake that damaged the little gift shops. I felt so bad for them as the season was starting and they had damaged goods! We got our pick of all the good stuff before the quake. In fact, we were having a nap and this was when the US had told Iran to disarm or they'd start bombing them. When the earthquake woke us up, our first thought was WAR!!!!! We stayed at the Rhodes Park hotel when we came back from Turkey. That's where the stars like Madonna stayed, but the pools weren't filled yet! Boo! This was the trip where everyone smoked at our end of the prop plane that took us to Rhodes from Athens. I think it was 1998 when we were there...
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Kate great news about your hubby!
Stanzie I am glad the music thing is settling down. A friend of mine has MS and she got a recumbent (sp?) eliptical bike and loved it.
Barbe how are your creative projects going?
Maddie have a fabulous time!!!!!
Scottiee your friends probably haven't had breast cancer right? They probably think that once surgery is over and treatments your done. They can't possibly understand the complexity and layers because their bodies haven't been altered. They don't have the fear that hits you when you read about a woman that has been 20 years out and has a reocurrence. You do what is best for you emotionally and physically and let them know when they have had bc then they can give you advice.
3jays what a great picture.
Hope I haven't forgotten anyone.
Ok the darn drama continues. Both of my hip incisions have become red and burn. I see the PS on Thursday. I wonder what my white blood cell count is. He hasn't drawn blood. Of course suppose to see my onc. on Thursday as well and they cancelled and can't get me in until 10/24. Is it irritation because of where it is? I did have to do a trip 9 hours in car to our condo that we sold. The 9 hours back was in a 26 foot long truck that was very bouncy and maybe it was the seat belt? I am not sure, but a bit discouraged. I couldn't see the sutures before and now on both sides can see the sutures below the skin. I am putting a triple antibiotic ointment on it and gauze to give it some padding. My PS is not into antibiotics. So all I have had is one dose during surgery. The areola seems to be healing without signs of infection. Knock on wood
Healing is very slow since it has to heal from the bottom up now. I also fell out of the 26 foot long truck on to our driveway when we got home at 1am a week ago!! Cab was really high off the ground and I missed my step. Thank goodness I didn't hit my chest or head. Fell like a cat on hands and knees. So bruised knees and skinned up a bit. Funny now ...... not then. Just another day in the life of a bc patient......My daughter called on her way to work. She is a high school science teacher. She said my grandson said "I want to talk Mama" I am Grandmama and he can't say it yet. My kids always called their dad Papa so he is Grandpapa and I am Grandmama. So when I woke up with burning hips and implants that felt tight like the tissue expanders did I was not smiling. After that my face held a big smile and my heart was happy.
Have a great day. How do we want to write our story today?
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OH Hopeful!!! How terrible and awful!!! You poor thing! I can't believe they can't work you in.... what about takeing a picture and sending it to the Doc's office just to say can you tell me if I need to go see my internist? That is way too long to wait.
Why doesn't he like antibotics? Well, you are a nurse too, right? So I guess I'd say if you get worried them maybe go to your PCP? I'm just so sorry! And then falling out of the cab! Oh I would so do that! walk slowly..... thinking of you!
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Wow......you ladies are an amazing group of women and I want to thank each and everyone of you for all your support. As I said before, I don't usually post here but I come on daily to read because you all give me strength, hope and inspiration. So many of you have gone through so much besides BC, I feel like a wimp sometimes and you all bring me up short when I'm having not such a great day. It's wonderful how you all have bonded and support one another, I really don't want to intrude so forgive me if I don't post but allow me to keep reading so you can continue to bring me up short.
On a different topic, that being Greece. Just want to say I have been married to a Greek for 41 yrs!!!!!. Had a very large wedding there and honeymoon on the island of Rhodes,
both my sons were baptized there and we have had numerous holidays on numerous islands. If anyone needs tips on where to go there, I'm your gal.
After we retire, we were planning on spending six months in Greece and six months in Canada, but now with BC, I don't have the same "enthusiasm" or inclination to do this....
Am I crazy......just worry about the health care system now that Greece is in bad shape.
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Hello all, the ENT doc called this morning. I like this guy, very straightforward and direct. He said he was looking over my scans and there is no evidence of infection in my sinuses. He did mention I have a severely deviated septum, but that would not cause my cough and since it is not causing breathing issues that nothing needs to be done at this time. So he says I am not back at square one that we are eliminating issues as we go and now I go back to pulmonary. So I will call other doc tomorrow.
stanzie, yes I fix things. I love taking things apart and putting them back together. I work with all sorts of big machinery. sanders and stitchers and nailers. I still say it in the present tense, but I have not been working since Feb. I just fell into the job when I was young and worked for the man who owned the shop for many years before he retired and I took it over. I started just patching and stitching and slowly learned how to resole and do orthopedic work. It allowed me to have a home based business and raise my kids.
maddie, I am not asthmatic. I caught a cold after surgery in Jan. and couldn't shake it. My docs had me go through with the rads starting in Feb and my breathing,wheezing and cough just got worse and worse. Now I am a mystery (or as my MH person says unique), and on my second pulmonary specialist. I am on prednisone, different inhalers and now bp meds, besides the AI. It just won't stop and I have SOB when just walking the dog. When is your trip? I hope you have a blast! But listen to your body and rest when you need to. I took a trip to St John in May and even though it was the end of the season and pretty drizzily every day, I loved just sitting in a chair on the beach watching the people.
kate glad you had a good day. You are right about the need for women to communicate and work through some of this stuff with others. The thought that I am not alone with my feelings because I hear you saying that you feel the same or close to it, is so comforting. So much better than grunting.
barbe, great memories. You should write a book. I can just picture the plane and all the smoke.
hopeful, what a way to start the day, babies wanting to talk to you. Sometimes just feeling needed is the best medicine. I hope the PS can help you on Thursday.
Have a good night, ladies.
edited for spelling (sigh)
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ok i'm sad. just spent an hour posting profound and emotional and thoughtful response to everyone since I have been "away" and I did the stupid thing and clicked away and it all disappeared. WAHHHHHHHHHHHH!! So I will just say, I missed everyone and I'm back and wish I could make all the boo-boos go away. So glad we are all here for each other and the hell with anyone out there who doesn't "get" our friendships!!!
and 3jays----love, love , love the picture!! So glad to be a small part of such a beautiful family picture.What handsome young men!!!
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I like that- feeling needed is a lovely way to start.... Mac- I'm in awe! Love that you can do all that. I too have a deviated septum and when I broke my nose with a run in with a screen door, had it fixed. NOT! Now I still have a crooked nose, a deviated septum and can only breathe out of one side of my nose.... and can no longer blow my nose but so far Doc's don't have a good solution to fix it except the one who doesn't take insurance so it would be 12-15K. So obviously that isn't happening.
Kate!!! When do you go for the PET Scan or did I miss that?
Hopeful- will be thinking about you tomorrow and hope you get some answers.
I have a question.... a week ago last Monday I had my physical and they did the blood draw from my hand. I've never had that before... So finally figured out that is how I got the bruises on my hand- further over from where they stuck the needle and on the underside of my wrist. Well over the last 3 days it has hurt so horribly- it almost feels like I broke wrist. Is this normal for blood draws in the hand? They are good and always remember not to use my right arm for blood pressure or needles but the vein in my left arm is difficult to find... but the veins on my old lady hands stick up and wave to be used. However, after this wondering whether that is good or not.
Mac- I'm so sorry they are having such trouble figuring out why you can't breathe. That is a terrible and horrible feeling. When I was in the hospital trying to prevent my twins from coming too early apparently I was so scared I didn't move. I woke up and couldn't breathe and they were afraid I had a blood clot in my lungs so rushed me into Nuclear Medicine- Not where you want to go pregnant. Anyway, turned out my lungs had filled with fluid so I remember how horribly painful that is... Then about 2 years ago I was having trouble breathing and went to a plumologist and he did all sorts of odd tests and sent me home with inhalers and all sorts of steriods... it didn't work so my internest deciede to try antibotics and I was great within days.... But I'm sure you have tried all that- hope they can figure it out and soon!
Scottie- how wonderful!!! what an amazing honeymoon! I agree with you being worried about Greece's health care but hopefully it will get straightened out and their economy will pick up. Such a wonderful place. I hope you will at least pop in and let us know how you are doing even if you don't want to post much! Might just have to give you shout outs every once in a while to make you smile!
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Hi Stanzie - no that is not normal for drawing blood from the hand. The hand is more painful initially as there are more nerves there than in the crook of your elbow, but once it is taken there should be no pain. The hand does seem to bruise more easily than the elbow, and perhaps that is why you are feeling pain. Did you hold it for a long time to prevent bleeding under the skin. Your lymphatics have probably been compromised with the mastectomy, so the bruising will take longer to dissipate. That is one of the reasons they don't like using the affected side. If it persists I would see your Dr. Maybe they hit a nerve or something?
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Thanks!! Actully it did hurt during the draw but quickly went away. It is much worse over a week later??? And I had double MX but only took lymph node on one side so they did do this on the non-lymph node side... Thanks!
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Stanzie, you do you have 'standing' pools of blood/bruising? Is the bruise hard? You should see someone if it's been a week! You could be clotted.
Scottie, give us a hug every page or so so we know you're still around.....
I think Kate gets her scan on Friday....no?
Claire, we felt the love through your frustration. hehehehehehe
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