Great saying about depression
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Stanzie- They were playing the radio, an oldies station, and that's just what happened to come on. (I wonder if they play the oldies station for oldies only?) I told my DH afterwards they make you use a special restroom that has a lead door. He said, "Hmm, not sure if I want to be in the car with you right now!" lol!
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thanx for all the nice comments about my heart, ladies.. lets hope its true.. i'm afraid the people here, who know me might not agree..
Monday off to have the bloodwork done, and get this whole thing started.. i tell you.. I'm Sick and tired of being sick and tired..for sure
Kate, i Snagged the pic for my collection, too funny. just how I feel when i'm "flashing"
Hope you all have a good weekend, and Kate, you get the GOOD news on monday!!!3jays
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Hi everyone, as promised, popping in to give everyone a big hug and for those waiting for results.....good news coming, I know it. Have a busy weekend ahead of me as it is Thanksgiving in Canada ...happy turkey day to all Canadians and to everybody else,
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Meant to mention that when I sit down to dinner this year, and we say what we are thankful for, I will be telling everyone that I am so thankful I have all of you here to
Keep me strong, truly mean that ladies.0 -
I have promised to dedicate my Thanksgiving table each year to Marybe. Not a single one of my kids has asked us what we are doing!! Seriously??? They have in-laws up north and try to see them too, but I know they had Thanksgiving dinner with their Dad last year which they cooked on the new appliances that my DH and I had given them for their weddings! (Finally, 2 years after) I'm not even asking this year, for Christmas either. I am just so sick of the excuses of why they aren't coming...sigh. It'll be interesting to see what happens at Christmas.... How many years will it take the kids to realize that THEY have to make the gatherings happen instead of just avoiding them!! Oh, poor me. Boo hoo.
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Morning everyone!!
Today is a beautiful fall day..of course I woke to a mouse laying on the floor struggling for breath and a very guilty dog under the dining room table. I had to use yet another plastic container and take it outside as it was still alive. It either dragged itself back home or became breakfast for some bird..either way its out of my house! So between the camel cricket parts and dead mice I am wondering if I still need to pay an exterminator. Sadie (kitty) is the queen of cricket hunting..body parts all over the place..yuck.
Kate I am glad that is over with ...we will be waiting with you. I hope this test will give you great peace of mind to move forward.
Scottie I didnt realize Thanksgiving was in Canada and that it was now... To all Canadian BCO gals have a wonderful holiday. Hope you enjoy the day!
Diane
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Barbe, Scottiee (and anyone else out there from the north)-
Scottiee- That's so sweet!
Barbe- I have 2 stepdaughters and holidays become so complicated! Even more so now that one just bought her own home she lives in with her fiance and the other is getting married at the end of the month. Guess they'll have to decide if they'll be with their mom, us, their fiance/husband's family or host something on their own! There just aren't enough holidays in the year. We are all getting together tomorrow night to celebrate my DS's 16th birthday so I'm grateful we have that, anyway. I do hope they start hosting now that they'll both have homes. I'm kind of looking forward to being a guest if it happens!
Diane- Now there's a lovely visual- lol! My pups have been after something in the backyard. They come to the door with their tongues hanging to the floor and mud all over their faces. Not sure what poor creature out there they're after but hope they don't manage to snag their prey. When Scout does manage to get a lizard or something she is sooooo proud of herself. Like she's just taken down a bison or something.
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Kate, you have mud!?!?!? Does that mean you got rain???
I had a HAHAHAHHAA moment today as I was busy sewing away in my craft room. My new CD/stereo was playing the radio and I was bouncing away to "Footloose"!!! hehehehehehehe
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We will forever think about Footloose differently! So anyone with a Mac know about that spinning ball and why it is coming on every few seconds? More later as it won't even let me type...
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love that song Footloose and can't imagine having to stay still with it in. Kate, you are amazing!
When I used to run - ha, before my 3 lower discs in my back decided I shouldn't anymore, I had a great mix Max put together for me of uplifting songs like footloose, Bruce Springsteen, rolling stones, and even some of the new ones. It would really give me a good rhythm and make me go. Maybe I should still listen to it for motivation?...to get my ass moving! It should blare out of bedside speakers at 6am! No way.
barbe - glad you are backl in your craft room. Sorry your kids are so unthoughtful to your feelings on holidays. I know it wasn't how you raised them. I don't understand.
And Kate, yes, it's about time your step-daughters start to host some family get-togethers. After all the years you and Paul have been together, why can't his ex and her significant other (if there is one) and all your family mix together? Wouldn't that be wonderful if all could be nice to each other?
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stanzie - battery down?
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Thanks Debbie! I think I've got it. It was some script running in the background that I couldn't see...?? Then my cousin showed me how to empty the cache and the history ... It had gotten so bad I couldn't do anything - now I seem to be fine. Just panicked I'd lose all the information I've already stored for this paper! so Whew!! But thanks.
So anyone else having threads disappear from their favorites? I have had to add this one 3 times in the last two days...
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So the pulmonary doc called yesterday afternoon. Said he had gotten the ENT's report. Now he is not sure if he is treating me for lung or heart issues or a combo of both. I'm like what? He says just continue on all your meds and call me in 2 weeks. By this time I'm in my turtle shell. He says remember we have that cardio-pulmonary exercise test all ready scheduled. I'm like yeah in 5 weeks. Then you will see me to go over the results, yeah in 6 weeks. Is he kidding me? Now because I shut down, I will have to call the office again on Tuesday. My PCP is trying to get in touch with him too, to see if she can get some info. She wants to have the applying for disability talk with me next week. Yikes! I am having blood work on Tuesday and the PCP appt on Thursday.
Happy Canadian Thanksgiving!! barbe and scottie.
barbe, I know it will be bittersweet, b/c you were going to share it with marybe. Then to have the no kids issue! boo hoo is right!
Happy Columbus day to the rest of us!
((((3jays))))
Today was a nice but windy day. I took the pup to the dog park earlier than usual b/c I had to go to the drugstore afterwards. There were no other dogs around. Then 3 young boys showed up on bicycles. They stopped and played with my dog. They would throw the ball in one direction and then take off running in the other direction so she would run to get the ball then have to run to catch up to them. What a blessing, all that boyish energy. I feel like such a stick in the mud and wonder why I have such a young energetic dog when I have no energy at all. But the joy in watching young boys and a young dog play, made my day!
stanzie, sorry no idea what you are talking about. spinning ball? Is the page just loading very slowly? I have a pc and this site is slow, slow, slow lately.
yuck body parts just laying around, diane?
kate, after one test I had they gave me a card to show in case I was getting screened getting on the boat. My DD was like, what I have to ride home in the car with you? LOL with her hip issues she has probably had about as much radiation as me. on second thought maybe not. waiting with you for the results.
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You know Debbie- that reminds me of my sister, she married a man 20 years older and his children are her age. But he and the kids have all remainded on good terms so every January all of them ex-wife and all the kids, spouces and grandkids all rent a huge place in Vermont to ski. Sounds amazing and a bit nuts but seems to work for them.
Barb, I worry about that as well when my kids get older... I have a fear they will all stay away with their families - well except for my son with DS at least he will be around and I guess will take turns with my ex. Can't see wanting to spend any time with him though. Even though we did take a trip to take my son to camp we all drove up together and rented a Condo but it was big enough so it wasn't an issue. But I think I'll always be furious with him for not paying his share for the kids. Just will never respect that.
I'm sorry Barb, and Kate - yes your situation is confusing as well. My parents were divorced when I first got married and my ex's parents were also divorced so we had 4 sets to try and get in! Once the kids were born I said NO I'd do Christmas Eve at my house and anyone was Welcome then went over to my Mom's and she was happy to have anyone extra as well.... It worked for a while.
I have my kids this year for Thanksgiving but not Christmas. Not wild about Thanksgiving as I end up cooking and doing so much work and no one really appreciates it as I'm the only grown up. Christmas will be hard as before I had my bf and so this will be my first Christmas all by myself. Oooh hadn't really thought about that! Joy!
Debbie- yes do get the tape out- would be good even if it was on just when you are cooking -would at least keep you in a good mood I suspect!
Afraid am I'm just thrilled Alfie hasn't brought in any critters these last couple of days.
Happy Canadian Thanksgiving all!
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barbe- Too funny about Footloose! Hope you busted a move! Nope, no rain just sprinklers and a leaky drip system. Just enough mud for them to get into trouble.
justagirl- Paul's Ex/ Ex's BF and us together? Noooooo! Long story but I'll pass on that one. Bad enough I have to see her at the engagement party, wedding and my other stepdaughter's house warming party tomorrow. (Gads, 3 x in one month!)
Today was a good day. Retail therapy all day with my BFF/sister. We had fun! (Maybe too much fun....) Hope everyone is having a good weekend as well.
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mac: can't any of your doctors talk english? And what the heck is with this 5 and 6 week waiting stuff? I do think this bull**** is what wears me down when it comes to health issues now - and the run a round you are getting is the winner for pain-in-the -a****. Can't swear on here and offend anyone and for what's going on or not going on with you, all the words are perfect.
Kate; ok forget my idea of getting all together with ex. My ex and his new wife used to come and stay with us when we lived on Kauai. He was an ok guy and really smart - I just didn't love him enough to be his maid and keep on trying to dig him/us out of the financial trouble he liked to put us in. Once he found his new love, I liked him more as he wasn't my problem.
Animal parts: guess our sweet pets just want to share with us and have us praise them but I just wish it wasn't on the carpeting or a rug. Dead I can take, it's the live stuff Fred insists on bringing in and if he gets tired of playing with them then it's up to me to catch them. Fred is a night stalker - so about 1am he comes in and meows - this is a cat that never meows except when he has something so up I get and come downstairs and the fun begins. I could take day time better but he sleeps all day until 5 minutes before 5pm when he gets his dinner. Then he goes back to sleep until after we come upstairs and then out he goes.
Diane: your new jacket sounds lovely and will keep you warm this winter.
I've never spent a whole day shopping Kate - what do you look at/buy? clothes, things for the house? My shopping is either groceries or the hardware store.
Temperature hit 35 today and of course I was outside gardening but in the shade. It actually felt good and I hope my back doesn't hate me tomorrow. And speaking of tomorrow, I have to go to the dentist to get a crown replaced so keep your fingers crossed for me I don't have a nervous breakdown.
mac: I just thought maybe you would know of a neighborhood boy who would come over and play and run around with your dog to get rid of some of that excess energy and you could sit with a cup of tea and watch the fun.
I am finally finding my down times not so often and not so long. I staying hopeful I can keep improving my attitude and return to feeling happy most of the time. Sometimes I feel like a monster I get so frustrated and angry - at myself, at Jerry (DH), at my son, but mostly at me. I blame it all on Femara but since I know the drug can do this then why can't I stop myself. Am working on it. Ashamed to say I didn't get up until 10am but then gardened from 11am until 4pm without stopping, then baked my son's birthday cake and cooked dinner.
So that's all from me for now. Anyone have any tricks to make me get out of bed and want to start my day?
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Debbie, I truly bet that if you played that kind of music you WOULD feel better!!! There is something about music that just soothes my soul...and wild beasts!!! But seriously, you are a riot!!! I'm reading of you going downstairs in the dark of the night to wrestle a huge snake or some wild spider out of the jaws of your cat in the depths of your house and then you whimper about going to the dentist?????? Really????
The sad thing is that I broke down and sent my son and DIL an email asking if they'd like to come over for dinner on Thursday when DH is off. Remember, this is the son whose house I went over to last weekend, 2 days in a ROW, to redo their bedroom as a surprise for her as she was out of town. It was my sons idea and of course I helped!! Got to see my grand as well and even Zach, as his Dad came over, too! Haven't gotten a reply yet, and that was yesterday...sigh. Bloody technology! If I had phoned they could have just told me 'no' right away instead of me wondering if they've even read the email. But that's why I send it to both, so if one misses it, surely the other picks it up.
Mac, you sould like you're being treated in Canada with those kind of delays!!! Oh well, give the meds time, tie up those loose ends of business, you can always free-lance if you need to, get your disability figured out and then do the cardio test. Six weeks is just long enough to get that all done. You can do it! Enough testing for now...
Stanzie, Marybe would have been in Europe right now. She didn't know Canadians had Thanksgiving so we were driving down for her US Thanksgiving in November, but sharing some of our cooking traditions.
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Mac, do you have an internest who oversees all the different Doc's? Actually I don't know if mine does that anymore but it was how it used to work before medicine went haywire.
Is this the first time someone has mentioned heart? Have you had an EKG? I did at my last physical and everything was fine and they could tell me immediately. Tiredness can certainly come from both heart or not being able to breathe. I cannot imagine waiting though! That doesn't seem correct at all. If you have an internest, I'd call them on Monday cause if nothing else another Doctor can prod another Doctor to get moving or get some answers.
So Barb, now you have me curious - what are Canadian Thanksgiving traditions. And one of them better call you back pronto- as that is rude if you were nice enough to extend the invitation!
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Stanzie....we all sit around and "pig out" on turkey till we can't get up from our seats.
Or, may e that's due to the alcohol consumption....Hmmmm not sure about that one.
On a more serious note, it's an opportunity to be with family and friends (if possible)
One nice tradition is that before we eat, we go around the table and say what we are thankful for. You ladies will be high on MY list. That's for sure.
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Yep- I think you about summed it up! LOL!
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Happy Thanksgiving to all you wonderful Canadian lasses!!!
My oldest DS was home for the w/e and informed us on the way back to UF that he won't be home for T-giving and just for a day or two during Christmas. HUH--WHAT??? He works at a movie theatre for gosh sake and is afraid to ask for time off cause the holidays are the busiest times. Course it could be like retail and they could have told him, its a blackout period. Didn't ask that. . .
Kate and Barbe, I don't envy you in the blended family/holiday/who goes where scenario. I can't imagine how y'all feel about spending the holidays while the kids are with the ex. My sister whose DH was from a split family--split her time three ways but WAY favored his family and not my parents. They have been married over 30 years and it still hurts my parents that my sister hasn't spent a Thanksgiving with them for over 30 years. Christmas used to be split between his mom and my parents. Now my parents live down here and I get them for both holidays. Makes up for the MANY years I never got back to Virginia for the holidays. Funny how we put so much emphasis on those days, when we COULD make any day just as special. . .
Mac, I sure hope your PCP can get your tests pushed up, you deserve some answers. How frustrating! Seems like if they thought the heart was involved they would act with more urgency. I guess that's how we feel as patients, everything needs to be fixed today!!
Debbie, so is it getting warmer down there? Being able to get outside must make you feel better. Maybe a little seasonal disorder? I know even living in Florida, I am pretty blue during the winter months. Just a thought.
Those of you enjoying a day off tomorrow, have fun! Those of you working, have fun anyways!!! Happy Exploration DAY!
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Happy Thanksgiving to all of the Canadian sisters here.
To those of you struggling with your family situations, I hope they will work themselves out though itadds innecessary stress to the mind and ultimately the body. Wish I had an answer, but don't.
Kate - fingers crossed for your results this week.
Talking about radiation, I recently decided my Grandmother's original Fiestaware pitcher from the 1930's was being useless and so started using it for my iced tea. Yesterday I decided to look up vintage fiesta ware on the internet and found out is worth some money, but also that the red and ivory (mine is ivory) were both made with glazes that contained Uranium - eek!! Of course my GM used this stuff daily and lived to 100 so guess it wasn't an issue,but the fact that I use an irradiator for blood products and the recertification and homeland security s*** i have to do yearly makes me slightly uneasy that I have been using the pitcher. I am going to take it to work this weekend and use the geiger counter and see if it reads any radiation. Sometimes I think we were better off being nieve about some of this stuff. Maybe the pitcher gave off too much radiation sitting on my shelf and that caused the breast stuff - LOL. Think I need to stay off yhe internet. Oh yeah, if you have vaseline glassware it is in the same vein - used uranium for the color - glows with black light.
I am feeling sorry for myself this weekend. Have been in sling for 3 1/2 weeks from rotator cuff surgery and can do very little as not supposed to move my arm. Hard not to do. Have to use a cane as not too stable with the arm unusable and still have to work full days. Oh well I will survive - going to take the pain meds and go to bed. Not allowed to take ibuprofen and allergic to Tylenol so have to be on oxy or dilaudid - definitely not fun.
Sorry about my rant but had to get it off my chest.
hugs to everyone.
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Delllahbear - I've no right to complain about feeling 'blue' when you are dealing with so much physically. I think I just need to kick myself in the ass more - if possible but I meant mentally.
And yes, I now listen to the radio, at least when I iron and do gardening and work on glass. I like it low so I hear the music but not the talk so much and might start to use what Max recorded for me when I walk on the treadmill for blue feelings.
And yes, sometimes I agree I wish I didn't know what I do and didn't worry about the negative health effects some things might have on all of us.
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Thanks for all the encouragement and support. So much better than the phone call I got this morning from a "friend" asking if I had thought about maybe having a parasite living in my lungs. She had seen a program on tv last night. ???? I have had an EKG and echo cardiogram, so I don't know what pulmonary doc is thinking. I don't think there is any communication between my PCP and the big hospitals. So I have to wait until Tuesday (b/c of Monday holiday) to talk to both offices and see if they can talk to each other. My PCP is suppose to real good at coordinating these health issues, which is why I switched to her office this summer. It has just been a freakishly long time since I got involved with the first pulmonary doc that made me wait 10 weeks between visits. I have dealing with feeling like this since February. Getting very tired of it, just worn down from coughing all the time.
My family has gotten so small that there are almost no holiday traditions left. I use to take my kids to visit my sister in NH for Columbus Day weekend when she was still living. It was always so beautiful there. We have some great memories and pictures too. Her husband(?) is still there but he got remarried and they didn't have kids so it's too awkward. The new wife does not like reminders of his life before. Sad!
My son also said to me last time he visited that he thought he would not be home for Thanksgiving. He and his roomates thought they would have a dinner at their bachelor pad. Last year was all messed up with biopsies and planning for surgery. This year I have mammo and cardio test and then visit with pulmonary doc the day before. But that is way in the future so no worries for now.
((((delilah)))) we're hanging in there with you!
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Deliliah- Wow, I see Fiesta ware sold all the time at our monthly antique market - I had no idea, will be interesting to know what you find out. So sorry about your arm and needing a cane...
Claire- what is a blackout period - meaning they can't ask for time off? Oh that would be dreadful. I used to work in theatre and we only go Christmas Eve off but since my family was here and I was single at the time it wasn't as big of a deal even though of course it was hard. I do know a friend of mine goes to a movie every Christmas Day and I had never thought about - of course it means people have to work! Seems like it would be nicer if they paid extra and it was voluntary.
Mac- sorry we don't live closer and could get together for Holidays! Well, that was lovely hearing about a parasite... I'm guessing she thought she was being helpful but... Here is an odd thought but I'm Sure your Doc's have thought of this- but Whooping cough? One of my friends had it and it literally took her over a year to get over it and she had trouble breathing... I was surprised as I thought it was a childhood illness but then saw on the news that it is more prevelant in adults these days.
Oh I was on this .. web dissusion group - actually still am but they all go into a separate folder which I usually just delete anyway it was for my son with DS as they had some good suggestions, However! they are sort of nuts. Some are quite brilliant chemists and all but they are soooo safe they only drink milk they have gotten from cows they personally know and make their own everything! It is wonderful but I personally don't know anyone who could keep all that up. Anyway, it would sometimes make me so worried about every pot and pan and ever product I just had to quit.
Barb- I'm so hoping that your family came for Thanksgiving but I'm kind of worried they didn't even call.....
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No email back and no one called except my step-son last night to talk to his Dad...sigh. Bloody hell!! All those years I had get-togethers and when I don't this year, no one asks why not, they just go somewhere else. I got tired of people making excuses as to why they couldn't come on a certain day or that they'd already made plans with Dad. Remember the shit I went through this summer after wanting to see my DD!!!!!
Black-out in retail up here is from mid-September to mid-January. 60% of sales are made in the last quarter of the year!! GREAT time to be in commission sales! NO ONE wants to be off during that time. And yes, if they are salaried employees they get double or triple pay so the kids LOVE that!! To them it's a social scene they'd rather be at than a hot house full of old relatives....
Deliah, I can NOT believe it's already been 3 1/2 weeks since your rotator cuff surgery!!! That seemed like yesterday...to me at least...
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KATE-----THINKING OF YOU TODAY!!!! Sending the most positive vibes your way.
Delilah--how much longer in the sling? I can't imagine working, sling,cane and all. You are truly wonder woman! I inherited my grandmother's Fiesta ware but no ivory or red. Phew!! I also inherited her Iris and Herringbone glassware(depression era 1928-1932) but its not as valuable even tho I think its much prettier! She china painted so I have all kinds of plates, cups, vases. And two sons. So not sure where all this stuff is going to go in years to come.
Barbe--so sorry to hear of your kids and their lack of holiday etiquette. At least a phone call would be nice. Maybe they are expecting you to do all the calling. The sad thing about cell phones--most kids under 30 don't know how to call on the phone--they prefer texting. No one communicates the "old fashioned way." They FB, text, email but the spoken word scares the sh*t out of them. My DS will only call when he truly NEEDS something usually $$ and I am lucky if he answers my texts. On the other hand, he answers my DH's right away. Go figure.
Need to get up and get moving. Ticks me off that I have to move SOOOO much more just to not gain weight. I've given up losing weight. I can practically starve myself and exercise and I am lucky if I lose a pound. Gotta love all the wonderful drugs we are on.
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Barbe.....I cannot compare myself to what you go through with your family. It only happened to me once. My older son had been dating the same girl for 4 years, but they had been living in Halifax, going to uni together. When they came home to Toronto, my son informed me that they would spend Christmas with her parents. This had never happened to me before, Inwas used to having my two sons around for every holiday and special events. I guess I was spoiled!!!!!! They are now 29 and 26 with no serious girlfriends....in some ways I'm happy about this as I get them all to myself...in other ways I would love to have daughters-in-law and perhaps a grandchild, but I guess I can't have it both ways.....which is better?....I don't know considering the heartache some of you go
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My own kids are 31 (son married with baby George 18 mos), daughter 29 (married with Zach aged 2), step-son 30 not married (he called last night) and step-daughter 26 (common-law with Fynn aged 2). (I've been their step-mom since 1993, almost 20 years!!!!!)
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Debbie glad things are warming up for you and I hope the switch to Tamoxifen makes you feel better. Although I must warn you I am a bit of a slug. Some days I have such bad migraine I cant function. Its ok to be down for a bit as long as you recognize you cant stay there.
Kate where are you???? Any news???Are you ok?? Thinking about you today.
Delilah sorry you are feeling beated down as well but you will be good as new when you are fully healed.
Ok ladies I got to get to baking...I have an appointment with my PS tomorrow and I cant show up empty handed.
Have a good monday!!!
Diane
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