Great saying about depression
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Kate, my diagnosis day hit me hardest, let the sun and fresh air sweep through the house, that's what I did yesderday. You were right, I saw 333 twice yesterday and thought about what you said, it was comforting. Definitely a WTF letter, who could be better than you? There essentially would be no training needed if they hired you - their loss definitely!! Karen
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Kate, you had two anxiety producing events this week, your anniversary date and that stupid form letter. No wonder you are feeling like you are floundering, just one of those would have been quite a stressor. Be gentle to yourself this week. Karen
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Thanks Karen! Instead of opening the windows I sat down at the computer and looked for a job. (Sometimes I just don't know what my brain is thinking at times!) Now I'm even more depressed. Should have just opened the windows and gone at sat out in the sunshine. Would have been more productive. Oh well, tomorrow, tomorrow, there's always tomorrow.....
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Kate: Bubble bath tonight, a walk in the sun tomorrow and maybe next week go back to job hunting. Right now it's more important to be good to your self. Big hugs!
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Oh Barb - you just have to get the job!!!!
Kate - well shoot - I'm sorry the letter and the anniversary all at the same time.... but you are right tomorrow is another day and it will be better. You must not have been supposed to get that job and you will find something that fits better and you will really enjoy. Maybe because you have already done that something new will be better for the new you!
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What is 333? Sounds like half the devil....
I finally texted the guy yesterday to see if he had gotten the results of my on-line testing. He called me back saying he literally just got them. He had already hired a manager for Newmarket!!! So I told him I'd do sales and he said no way, my results were right off the charts for management and would I like a job in another store (1 1/2 hours away!!) I said why can't I just do sales and he said I wouldn't make as much money and......he had already hired everyone!! What a shock. So I told him I would get back to him. He asked if I could meet with the manager in Oshawa Thursday, so I'm going there this afternoon.
Do I really want to have a 3 hour commute??? OR, is he priming me for another store opening????
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Barbe: Wow, if the commute time is in traffic, that would be my worse nightmare. If he is priming you for a better job, it might be worth it. Would a move be practical for you?
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Stanzie- That's what my mom keeps saying. That I didn't get the job because something better is around the corner. Hope you're both right!
barbe- Here's what the 33 and 333 thing is all about. After my Dad died I started seeing 33's (which is my favorite number) everywhere! (Which is why I'm kate33.) If I looked at the digital clock it would be 1:33, 4:33, etc. Whenever I was driving I would see 33's on license plates in front of me. My change would be .33. Where ever I looked 33's would pop up and I said it was a sign from my Dad that he was near and watching over me. Then everyone in my family started seeing them, too. So now when we see 33's it's kind of comforting. Since karen333 was missing her godmother who had recently passed away I told her to look for signs. (Not necessarily 33's or 333's but that she'd know them when she saw them.) And now she has started seeing 333's. So that's what that is all about.
Sorry the job is not working out like you hoped. You could always take the job and see how it goes. Or drive the route and see how bad it is before you say yes. It would be nice to know it would only be for a certain amount of time and then you'd get a new store that would be closer. Always hard to know which way to go, huh?
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Kate I LOVE that about the 3's!! Too cool!!!
We clocked the distance today as I went to meet Michelle the store manager in Oshawa. It is a smaller store than the Newmarket one, but very pretty stuff! We hit it off fabulously and 2 hours later I left her and me and DH drove 1 hour and 45 minutes home!! Yikes!!!
I asked Michelle what happens when I'm not a manager-in-training anymore. It takes 3-6 months to complete their online course that I would work on at home and at the store for 2 hours a day. (I'm kind of a keener, so I don't see it taking 6 months.) She said once I'm a full-fledged manager, I get moved to a new store!! Woo hoo!!! They don't have 2 managers in a store as it's too expensive of course. So.....I'm trying to think of this as a 3-6 month training course. Say like a university course, that at the end of, I'll be placed at a new location with a higher pay!
She said that she was called yesterday to see if she would meet with me today and not to "lose" me. So it looks like they really want me. They know the distance is a long one, but as I would be moved on and it's not the worst weather coming up....I'm going to take it if they offer. I've asked for 3 weeks holidays (paid of course) and benefits immediately (not to wait 3 months) and the top $$ that was mentioned as a "range" last week.
She said she will call Skip (how do you take someone seriously who is called Skip) who is the Regional and have him draw a contract up. We'll see if I like the offer...I'll keep you posted. (Can I counter-offer?)
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Oooh, meant to mention: I asked her why no one presently working there had applied for the position. She told me that someone had and they didn't pass the online test!!! And I thought that was a bunch of phooey!!0
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I mean, I thought the test was just phooey, like a time waster to stall from hiring me.
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Good luck Barbie, hope they offer what you want.
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Wow, Barb - that is a lot of information to process. So.... my first question was if he literally just got the results of the online testing how could he have already hired someone? However I think you are right... I'm thinking that was just some kind of a ... what was the word you used? Phoey! I think when they saw your testing they had something else in mind but might want to know what is that phrase that I'm not fond of - if you are a "team player" . Anyway I would thing personality wise that you hit it of so well with Michelle and they don't want to "lose" you. Sounds like things will all work out great and you will be off buying those black and white outfits in no time!!
From what I can tell of your personality - which does shine through, by the way - you will be a wonderful asset to the company!!! I'm happy for you just know you will be glad when things are signed sealed and delivered as they say... sorry seem to be full of cliches tonight - I guess that is what happens when you are avoiding doing your taxes....
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Barb that's awesome! Seems like the drive may be worth it for a while. I live 15 mins from my office and sometimes it takes me over an hour to get there. it stinks but in the end its always worth it to be in a position you are passionate about with people you like. GOOD LUCK!!
Kate I too love the 33 story, that is so sweet and amazing...and really with the letter..I hate form letters so impersonal. Dont worry I got my megamillions ticket for the week...I won't forget ya
I feel bad. I am tired and hungry no food in the house and the rain and wind is so bad I dont feel like going out. Looks like toast for dinner..and i just yelled at my puppy and he's looking at me all sad. UGH he just chews on my poor kitty's head and he pins her down and she cant get away. My puppy is 63lbs btw...kitty 5lbs. I just want to relax but I am constantly pulling him off of her. I know he's itchy for a good long run but with all this damn rain my yard is a swamp...I can not wait for summer! Ok I feel better. Im gonna log off and give my puppy some love.
Good night everyone!!
Diane
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Kate: What a great story. sorry I haven't been on much as this week has been crazy busy but I am with your mom-something better is on it's way.
Barbe: This sounds like a great opportunity and the drive sounds temporary. You asked for what you wanted, and if they agree, I think you are on your way!
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Thanks guys!!
Diane, puppy love is the best! Why isn't your kitten sticking up for herself? Maybe she likes it? Is the puppy really hurting her or just playing?
Dull gray rainy day again! I swear it's been the grayest winter in record. It doesn't help with the mood because even though the rain is dissolving away the last of the snow it doesn't look hopeful out there. Just wet and gray....sigh.
I'm also afraid to be excited because I don't want to be disappointed...again. How sad is that?
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Barbe: Change is always scary, but even if this isn't "the one" it will move you forward to a new place in your life, something we all need! Hugs.
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barbe- It sounds like they know what a asset you would be. What a great feeling to be appreciated and you haven't even started working there yet! I think you have a great attitude in looking at it as a training course. And you'll hopefully get closer to home when you're all done. Sounds like congratulations are in order!!!! Woo hoo!!!!!!
I feel bad for all you guys with your gloomy weather. It's hard not to let that get you down on top of everything. Wish I could magically transport you all (even DiDel's puppy who could play with my two- no cats in sight) to my very sunny (87* today!) back patio. I'd break out the iced tea (or something stronger) and we could have a yack session. How much fun would that be?! One of these days we should plan a get together! I can always get free passes on Southwest Airlines (my DH works for them). (Of course, you have to fly stand by!) Would love to meet all of you in person!
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Kate: A get together sounds like so much fun and I can't believe it's already in the 80's where you live. Kate, I have some bad news. I won't be going to the wedding or visiting you after all. It turns out that I will have a surgically attached "hat" for my new nipple placed on Tuesday and I will have to wear this for two weeks plus 2" worth of gauze for several weeks. We were planning to drive and have a long, leisurly weekend and now that I know more, we have had to cancel our plans! I am so disappointed that I won't get to see you. My husband wants to plan a trip after I have healed up so maybe come mid April or early May, we will attempt to do this. I have to say I was looking forward more to meeting you then the wedding, but maybe we can have a group visit!
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I would LOVE a group get together!!! Kate, can we come over and play???
No phone call yet confirming a job, so I'm staying calm.
Got a phone call that DH has a 1 cm growth on his kidney. He has to get another US on Monday. I'm supposed to work at my current job and we're down to one car. But I only have enough gas to go to work on Saturday, take Sunday off and then drive him to the ultrasound for Monday. I get paid Tuesday. I HATE living like this!!! We've already bounced our car and home insurance this month...sigh. We have $16 in the bank and only because our insurances bounced. Anyone else as bad as that? Do I have the right to be anxious???
Kate, I have to wonder if the sun all the time would be better for those of us who don't have it rather than those of you who live in it. If it was that good for us, why wouldn't we all live there?
So though you don't get SAD (seasonal affective disorder) you have the right to be depressed for your own reasons...0 -
Barbe: I have seen so many other women in your same situation. Can you get a $50 paycheck advance? My boss did this for me in the past and then I paid it back on pay day. Sorry to hear about your DH. I really hate cancer. Hugs!
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My company is based in Edmonton, about 2,500 miles away or so. They specifically state they do NOT give advances to commissioned sales people. I have about $17,000 owing to me but I can't get it until the goods are delivered. Even though they're paid for. I will lose that when/if I change jobs, too!
Also, my boss is about $20 of gas away and I only have enough to get where I mentioned. Even if they did, it would take days and this is the weekend and I'll have my pay by Tuesday, but it just kills me! They don't believe me, I think, when I say that I can't go in because I don't have gas money, but I'm hurting myself by not being able to get to work. I can't get paid unless I sell, and I can't sell unless I'm there. So frustrating!! Also, that $17,000 is spread over the next 6 months or so....
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Kate, I would love to sit on your back patio and visit with all of you, my vote goes for something stronger, maybe an added ingredient to the ice tea! I bet we could all talk for hours. I post on another site, "Western New York" and we will all be getting together in the late spring, it will be nice to put names to faces. There are about 6 of us from around the Buffalo area. I am in Batavia, NE of Buffalo, so we don't always get the worst of storms, but get our fair share, Maybe you could send a box of sun and temp. degrees to us. It is a cloudy day again today and in the hgh 30's. Barbe, they sound so impressed by you both on paper and in person. Sounds like you really established a good bond with Michelle! Sounds like aa good plan to try it out, and get all your questions answered. MBJ, sorry yours and Kates' plan has to be delayed. Sounds like an exteded trip in the Spring would be great. Don't you just hate when something you have so been looking forward to, is delayed by this stupid disease? DiDel, Do you have a shy retiring kitten? I have a 5 pound dervish who always attacks my friend's great dane. He is terrified of her, I keep telling him just to lay a paw on her or bark, so she stops. He comes in the door now very slowly with this scared look on his face. More often then not, I have to put her in a different room while he is here. Karen
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MBJ, I hate to ask, but I'm nosy. You say you are so busy now...did you start to take on a project? Or two?
Karen, I'd like to see a pic of them nose-to-nose.
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Barbe, I am computer illiterate when it comes to taking digital pictures and then posting them, so no picture, actually Luther, the dog, refuses to look at her, he is busy getting away from Sophie (such a ladylike name, she is anything but a lady). Sophie once chased him down the stairs, poor babe was just skittering down and trying to keep his balance. If I know they are coming over, I put Sophie in the den so she cannot terrify him. Karen p.s. I saw 333 on the T.V. last night, isn't Kate's way a good way to think of our loved ones! I just notice and smile now, where before I was crying. Don't get me wrong, I still do cry over losing my Godmother. Something will happen and I think "oh I'll just call Aunt Theresa" and then I realize I cannot. Karen
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MBJ- I am seriously BUMMED OUT, girl!!!! I was looking forward to meeting you and sharing some adult beverages. We've been posting together long enough! Oh well, maybe later in the spring. Don't want anything to mess up your last few steps in all this.
barbe- MG! How much crap can one person take? You are like Wonderwoman! Sorry about your DH. Are there any services available that provide transportation to patients who can't afford it? Maybe the hospital or cancer center would know of something. I'm really hoping that new job works out for you so at least one source of stress will hopefully be eliminated.
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Barb - Kate has a good point - isn't there any free shuttles? What about any group that offers rides? Barb - I can't believe you would lose all that money if it is due you and you changed jobs - that is awful! Is that really possible - gosh no wonder you need a better job!
Kate and mjb- I'm so sorry you all won't meet I was looking forward to hearing about it all.....
It does seem like we all should meet some how some day and like everyone!!! Wouldn't that be amazing...
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Barbe: I did take on 4 side projects on my own, but I am overwhelmed by it all. I will be using the money to sort out my health which is still a mess. Kate had a great suggestion. There are all sorts of free services for cancer patients! I would look into this immediately. I worked in sales for 8 years and never had this issue. I can't imagine never being able to get an advance of any sort. I understand you worked during your treatments-can't you take an emergency family leave? I know you only get paid if you sell, but they still owe you the money and if you decide to change jobs, maybe this is a way to get paid by the state while you sort out things with your husband's health. I hope I am making sense. In California there are all sorts of programs including state disability, which pays you 2/3's of your income, which is almost the same as working less taxes. I hope this helps. Also, is there anyone at your work that you can commute with in emergencies like this? Hugs!
Kate: I was really looking forward to meeting you, too. I haven't told the bride yet but I guess I had better do so as the 26th is coming up fast. I am hoping we will still get to do a mini vacation after I heal up.
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MBJ, you mentioned an option I'm already going to do when I start my new job. They called last night to say everything looks good and I just have to meet the Big Guy in Burlington on Wednesday. Did I already type this? It seems so familiar......?
I am going to go "on holidays" at the old job when I first start the new job. Then I'll go on short term (but not disability) leave. I'll tell them I'll just take my commission for now as I have to deal with Paul's issues. They'll be happy enough. Then when I know my new job will really work, I'll quit this one. That should give me a good buffer of time to decide.
This morning there was $1,400 in my bank account! I have an income tax refund of $2,008 due, so I hope that wasn't it, but what was it? Weird, eh? Now I'll have gas money for all the days to work!! Today was a good day at work. I sold $6,200, so at 5% that's over $300 in commission. Now I just have to be "employed" long enough to receive it!
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Barbe: That's fantastic news! You must have someone looking out for you--that is the best news ever. I would do exactly the same thing-take some time off, get your life in order, checkout the new job situation, and if it doesn't work out you aren't left without a job. I have a feeling you won't ever have to go back and that you are one your way to new and beautiful things! Congratulations, and I don't think you mentioned Wednseday, but I still have chemo brain, lol.
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