Great saying about depression
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Kate check out Dr. Sydney Coleman in NYC.
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What's really weird is that I don't think I've gone through ANY of those stages!! I had life issues before breast cancer, so it wasn't the worst thing that ever happened to me. I also had most of my aunts and uncles and parents already dead from cancer, so I'd been living it a long time and waiting for it to show up. I was very prepared for it and got it over and done in my double mast. No chemo no rads. No reminder except a flat chest every day for the past 3 years. No one made a big deal of it or cried for me so it was just like I'd had knee surgery or something.
I worry about the day that it all hits me....
p.s. I didn't report Jane Henderson, I guess you didn't either Kate, so who did????
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Why would someone report Jane's comment? It was just a short little factoid I found interesting?? Why do you say it was posted its still there??
Determined I loved that post I could relate so well to every stage. I sent it to my BS and he said he was at the conference in TX but breezed through it and found it interesting and would read it further when he was back in his office. I would say I am definitely at stage 5 and stayed way too long in stage 4.
BTW my meeting today went amazingly well!! I am very pleased with the outcome and look forward to being busy this tax season. Yeahhhhh!
Good night all
Diane
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another BTW I was talking to my BS and told him somewhere on BCO I saw a post about a clinical trial in CA for a new implant that includes the giant divot in your armpit the mx leaves behind. He saiid he would check into and report back to me...I crack myself up. I love love love my BS. He has been having conversations with my PS (who just won patients award for top PS in Baltimore County) about what to do about the divot as it is the most often complained about thing in recon.,
anyone else here about this new implant trial???
DD
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DiDel- It wasn't Jane's comment but the link to her website, I think, that goes against the community rules so they took that off. The sad thing is her website is really good. There was some interesting information on there but think she was also selling stuff. That's so cool that you can send your BS info like that. So many times I've come across something that I thought would benefit mine but never talked to her about it. She has become interested in the fat grafting which is great. Usually they leave that to the PS to learn about so think it's wonderful she wants to learn about it. I haven't heard about that new implant. Sounds interesting!
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hey girls: i enjoyed the essay, whatever, you posted, determined.. and 1st, thank you, Kate, i can't tke anything neatural. or otherwise, till they get the hypo staightened out.. i plan to try sam e when i cna...
i must say, my circumstances makes the "gettingready to go the hardest for me.. still wearing a wig, when i go out, the hair is ruff, we HOPE its the hyoo,, so, it goes like this: put makeup on, put a tank on to contain my truncal le; put on dleeves for le in arms; then, put on a shirt that has the foobds in it, then pants.. then, out wig on, mess with that, then a matching jacket to hide the hypo belly!!!by then, im overheated, tired, traumatized by it all, and don't wanna go out!!!!
there are 3 resteraunts we go regularly, where ple have had cancer own.. i don't wear any of it, and just go.. those are the best (at least easier ) ones...
hope you'll get the results, friday from the ent, Barbe.. maybe you can call them today, and they can get the results there, for you, like you wanted..
we have valet parking for cancer center, so im a lucky girl!!!id rather had missed cancer, and PAID full for parking though..hahahaha 3jays
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3jays- Is all the "camouflage" for you or to make the rest of the world feel better? I get if it's for you but, if not, I say 'ef em and go au natural. If they can't see your beauty that's their problem! (((hugs)))
I'm starting to feel the job search stress again. I've pretty much put it on hold until after the holidays but those will be over before I know it and am still not sure what direction to go. It used to be employers took a chance on some untrained but these days it seems they want you to come in already knowing how to do the job. (I actually applied for and didn't get a job at the library. They said I wasn't qualified because I had never worked with the Dewey Decimal System!) Being a flight attendant for 12 years and a stay at home mom doesn't exactly qualify you for a whole lot in that regard. And the thought of going back to school just depresses me. I really wish I could find a legitimate work from home job but most of them seem to be scams of some sort.
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Kate what are you doing up so early?!?!?! You will find something..I can't imagine there isnt a need for someone with your people and communication skills. I was thinking of volunteering for the Pink Ladies at my Cancer Center. They set you up with a new patient to just be support system for them not like a support group but someone who they can call or go to chemo with them or drive them to the store...that kind of stuff that a lot of people can use help with. I have another month before I go back to work and I am done christmas shopping and bored with myself. Maybe you could voluteer to get your foot in the door and find something that suits you for a paycheck. Hang in there I cant imagine how it feels but I feel like employers value the job and skills of a stay home mom recognizing that it is not an easy job. There is always the flight attendant job on my private plane when I win Megamillions.
3Jays I remember that feeling between balancing myself out with the giant TE ..finding clothes to fit my body..putting on the wig in 115 degree weather and drawing my eyebrows on evenly going out was usually more effort than it was worth. Like you I had a place I could go and not do anything...but throw on the wig. Its important to have someplace like that and I am glad you have that.
Hang in there ladies!!!
Diane ---- Off to the gym...podiatrist...then hair salon!!
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DiDel- Good morning! I've been up since 4:00 a.m.! (Damn menopausal insomnia!) Actually I have been kicking around the idea of volunteering at a new cancer center that just opened up nearby. Maybe it will help me see what direction I want to go. I recently saw a job where you are a flight attendant for a pet airline! No passengers- just pets! That's got to be better than a 757 full of crabby people! LOL! Unfortunately, it required vet tech experience. Damn! Would LOVE to be your personal flight attendant! Can you start buying more lottery tickets, please? As long as you allow partying with your staff! 0
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3jays, Kate is right! WHO are you making that effort for??? I've been off work since June and it took only a couple of months to be able to go 'bare-faced' into the public. I've always insisted on at least powder to cover the bags under my eyes. Then I reached a point where I don't care!!! Now when I put mascara on, it seems almost clown-like to me. I've become very attached to my "new/old" face.
Kate, volunteering is a very good way to see if you like a career path. Think of the interns for the politicians!
Diane, I'd love to set up a whole department of buddies like that. If I had more get-up-and-go, I'd approach my hospital to be the lead.....sigh.
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WHEN i make the effort, its' for me, to feel like i used to.. i don't always do it, as i said... if we go to this one resteraunt we go alot to (philly cheesesteaks) almost as good as pats..lol they ask me where've you just been? cause they know i don't do it for them.. 2 of the owners were in chemo when i was.. we joked on who was getting the most hair back. I think they jinxed me.. we have (all three of us) gotten about the same amount.. i was SUPPOSSSED to get more, being the woman!!hahahah maybe if the thyroid kicks in again, i will...thats what i asked santa for, anyway...3jays
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Well then you are doing it all for the right, healthy reasons. I wonder when I'll want to feel pretty again. After years and years of dressing for work, I've actually had to buy jeans and t-shirts to wear since I've been off! Now I'm mixing some of my work tops in with jeans and I really like the look. Still not too big on make-up which is fine by me. My face looks softer without it.
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{{{{{{{{MBJ}}}}}}}}} Just wanted to give you a hug and a shout out!! Hope today is a better day!! Thinking of you
Barbe any news??
Claire Lindsey Martha...anyone else I forgot.....where are you????
Its Friiiiiiiiiiiiidaaaaaaaaaaaaay!
Diane
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No results in yet!!! I have another appt with the surgeon on Dec 21st. The results MUST be in by then. My PCP will probably let me know next week.
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ohh, i hope so, Barbe.. keep calling.. waiting THIS long is ridiculous!!!.......3jays0
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Heh... stages of grief... I skipped all the beginning ones and went straight to anger. And never got past it lol.
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Day- Welcome! I think we'll all be forever circling back to that one at some time or another! LOL! Hopefully, though, it will be mixed with other times as well. I've seen some of your postings in the past and have seen some "stages of resolution" as well where you have helped others through this- myself included. (((hugs)))
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Hi everyone: Laying low-threw out my back Friday, my flu returned with a vengeance except this time I have been running a fever between 100-102. Haven't eaten much of anything the last 2 weeks, ugh. Love my new chiro/pt-after taking a few hours just to get my DH to get me to the dr's, the dr sent me home with a little machine that eventually made my back relax again. Shoulder seems to hurt less, too. Bad news: I have had to go back to sleeping in a chair. Looks like we might have to buy a new bed.
Day-Good to hear from you.
Barbe: Hope you have some good news soon.
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MBJ wow it is one thing after another! I hope you start mending soon!
Day I believe like Kate that the stages are fluid and we go in and out but hopefully with less intensity as time goes on.
Have a good week everyone.
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MBJ so sorry your back is hurting and you have the flu! At least you have some relief from your neck pain. I am telling you Acupuncture. One time before surgery I could not sit I could not stand I could not lay down I was in tremendous pain. My acupuncturist came to my house after 90 minutes I could move..by the next day (I had surgery that day) I was completely better. Give it a whirl..I am such a believer in it.
I am off to a million errands today...one of them being two new tires for my car $$$$$
so sick of spending money when I am not making money. Then off to NYC to see Wicked with my sister and my niece. I have to drive so thats why I have to get the new tires today. I was hoping to drive my sisters car until she ran the laundry list of things that are not working properly on her car...she never takes care of it. Its just annoying to me cause i always always always have to drive whether its my friends or family..then she will complain about my driving no doubt. The tickets were my Xmas present but next time she should spring for train tickets as well. So I get to pay $300 new tires...probably $100 in gass and tolls...$60 parking...all for $20 pizza and $170 broadway show. This is beginning to not sound like a present. Oh well I get to spend the day with my niece in my favorite City!! So looking forward to NY PIzza!!! I will be reading but no time to post until Thursday. Have a good day everyone!!
Diane
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Diane-I've been here--just lurking. So many new people. Wow. This beast sucks that it just never lets go. . . I haven't been on this thread since I quit my job. . . afraid to go there. . . and then I read about everyone else's sadness and pain, mental and physical. It makes me feel so helpless. I so want to wrap everyone in a great big huge hug and say it'll be alright, we will get thru this, we will get stronger. The mother in me, the fixer. It frustrates me that there is part of us that is broken and all we want is to be mended.
Somehow I wish my words could do magic or even offer hope. I don't really have that gift like others do. So i lurk, and I read, and I pray in my heart that all of you beautiful women find peace.
Putting on my happy face now. . .
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cmblastic- those words are like a big, warm, reassuring hug. Thanks!
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MBJ- Moving is definitely a stressor, especially all the way across country, and can really lower your immunity. I'm sorry you are dealing with so much right now. It just seems terribly unfair. I know you must be frustrated, and wanting to get your new life settled, but be extra good to yourself right now. You'll get through it all because you are amazingly strong and resilient! I just know that soon things will be looking up for you and your DH in your wonderful new home!
Diane- Sorry about the car situation. As the "designated driver" in my family, too, I understand your frustration. Just once we want to be the passenger watching the pretty scenery go by! LOL! Hope you have an amazing time, though! A NY show- can I say JEALOUS?!?!
Claire- You DO have that gift. You inspire all of us! Do you know how easy it would have been to continue at a job where you were mistreated simply because it was easier and less scary than trying something new? It shows how strong you are and that life moves on. You spoke up for yourself and said you deserve better! I think that is very inspirational! Glad you're at least lurking but hope you post, too!
This weekend our group of friends/neighbors (8 couples) had our annual holiday progressive party. It was a great time but there was some drama beforehand between 2 of the couples. One of them ended up boycotting the event. It was over something SO petty and unimportant and just wanted to shake the 2 responsible and say, "Seriously? This is what you want to expend your energy on?" These are all couples in their late 40's and early 50's mind you. Unbelievable! Then I come on here yesterday and on one of my other threads there is drama too. WTH? Ugh! Just don't have the patience for it. It's bad enough dealing with my DS's teenage drama. LOL!
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kate I agree, we need to monitor what we expend energy and time on. Sort out the toxic and surround with nuturing and caring people.
Claire I agree with Kate, you are strong and it is also ok not to be strong on some days. That is all part of this thing. Accepting where we are at in any given moment.
Diane enjoy!!!
MBJ we are all hoping you heal soon!
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The mass seems to be B9!! I'll still have to get it out, along with the rest of my thyroid, but I don't see the surgeon until the 21st. It's affecting my breathing a lot and my voice has changed as well...oh well.
MBJ, I CANNOT believe you hurt yourself!! Your body surely didn't need another area of distress!! Sometimes when we're hurting, we compensate for aches and pains and cause our bodies to do things in ways we shouldn't. I mean, REALLY, who lifts with their knees??? If I was counting on my knees to lift things, then I wouldn't even be able to lift my spirits!!
Claire, you're doing great, sweetie!! Hang in there....
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clairea; i agree.. your speaking up for yourself, and doing what was right for you, gives me the inspiration i need to ask for help.. you, and Barbe, going on disability, reminds me that i need to be sas easy with myself as i try to be, with others.. im so hard on myself, all the time..
if youure reading, then let us know your'e here..!!I miss hearing what you're up to low, or high.. you know we all swing up or down, and alwyas round and round!!!!
i hope everyone is squezzing some joy out of this season.. my new "fix" is driving (riding) around and looking at the christmas lights.. it feeds my soul.. this is a hard time of the year, but i DO appreciate the le that go to all the trouble to decorate, for ple like me!!!!............3jjays
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barbe- Congratulations on the good test reports!
3jays- My DH hates hanging Christmas lights, but he knows how much I love them, so he does it for me- although half heartedly sometimes. LOL! This year when we were done we stood back and looked at it from the street. His comment was, "Well, it basically says we made an effort, but we're not expecting to win any awards or anything."
It's been raining cats and dogs here for 3 days and I'm missing my Arizona sunshine. We finally got our live Christmas tree between storms and now our living room smells lovely. Today I'm making my home made sweet pickles to give away as gifts. Christmas makes me feel so domestic! Unfortunately, it doesn't last past new years's! Hope everyone is having a good week!
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Thanks everyone: It's hard not to have a apity party when so many things are so wrong-hoping I get a cortisone shot on Friday so I can start functioning again. I am the doer in the family and I got to tell you, nothing is getting done and I can't do it. Arrrgghh!
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Awww, MBJ, it's so hard to look at boxes waiting to be unpacked, I know! I was bedridden after one move for almost 3 months and lay there looking at all the frigggin' boxes...sigh. I even had a pile in the middle of the condo that we just walked around month after month. Why can't men unpack boxes?????
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barbe, re your "who lifts with their knees" comment, well.... I did do a lot of stuff, for a while,. with my legs and feet lol. As I had a VERY slow recovery after my BMX+immediate LD recon, I did a lot of stuff with my legs. I.e. arranging my blankets, lifting stuff from the floor, arranging furniture, even pushing the vacuum. Necessity teaches us a lot of things. But then I think it was helpful that I used to be a gymnast, long time ago, and my legs were in pretty good shape (not anymore lol)
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