Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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gshnead - goodness you have been through some huge emotions. Wow! I'm sorry that had to have been difficult. I thinking taking it slow is good. I'm glad you were able to meet nice men.
Dragon- know what you mean about not many men in your area. Well there are some in mine but so far none that I have seen that I want to meet or know more about.
Maybee- I totally agree - Timing is totally Everything!!!!!
So I went to Pikes to get some flowers to plant and the woman checking me out says she doesn't mean to be rude but did I know that Senior Day is on Wednesday? ACK! I'm 51. Usually Senior discounts you have to be 60 around here.... I'm thinking how old do I look? I know I have never looked younger than my age but not usually almost 10 years older... I better try and work on that one.... not that I'm going for surgery! Had way too much of that right now!
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Yay! Welcome, Heidi. Sounds like your love life is going well. Sorry about Mark. It must've been heartbreaking but it sounds, too like you're moving along in a positive way .
DF - glad to see you popping in. I want a new car too but little old Saturn will have to do for now. And,yea, what's up with guys not wearing their wedding rings?
Mybee and lovemyfamily - I sure miss the touch being held thing too. My daughter gave me a bunch of that last week when I visited her but she's so far away.
So my tow truck driver friend calls alot to see if I'm ok, but he too is far away and not gonna be my heart throb.
Met a guy thru pof and had dinner 2 weeks ago. Nice, super smart guy, then was away for a week visiting my daughter. He said to contact him when I returned and messaged me during the week. He gushed on about the nice time we had, my beautiful smile, blah, blah blah, and so I messaged him a couple days ago that I was home and now I think he's avoiding me. :-( Maybe all that sweet talk was meant to let me off nicely, but then why bother messaging me while I was gone? I don't understand men.
Also had contact with 3 other guys from pof but all went nowhere. Guess I'm back to a dry desert again!0 -
Hi ladies
Welcome ghshead. Glad you found someone to enjoy.
Dragon Wow! A new car. Congrads. You go girl!
Stanzie I get that too around here with the senior stuff. Some people think everyone over 29 is old lol.
Rak I know your post had some serious stuff in it, but the way you word things makes me laugh.
Mybee the doctor told me the brown color will fade but it can take years.
Here is the latest. Met Ed yesterday for a soda. I drove for 45 minutes and he just bought me a soda. He did ask me if I wanted anything else but he said he wasn't going to order anything. Cheapo!
He had a good sense of humor but I didnt feel attracted to him. I guess a cheapo would n't attract me.
Meet Mike this morning. We had coffee and talked for a couple of hours. Going to chat with him tonight. He wasn't as good looking as in his picture. At least he isnt short and he does have blue eyes.
I must confess I was very attracted to the guy that lives by Naples (4 hours away from me). Wish I would meet someone like that locally.
Problem is no one seems to be exactly what I want.
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Ladies
Get this: Mike just chatted with me and wants to meet me for breakfast. I said to him "what is this breakfast thing?" Dont you go out at night?
Here is where it gets weird he said his separated daughter and her 10 year old son live with him. He watches the boy while she works. I said to him "what does she work 24/7" He said she works 6 days a week; I am not sure what the hours are but he claims he picks the boy up from school and makes supper for him. He said on Sunday they all go to church and out to eat.
Does this sound fishy to any of you?????
What are you doing on a dating site if you can just do "breakfast"????
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Even in that case ... he should be able to have lunch .. lol -- suggest that
I agree it does seem a bit fishy.
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Meeting Edward for lunch on Saturday. He called me three times in the last 2 days. Coming on a little too strong for me. We shall see! Need to fill the void so I can stop obsessing about Franklin. Still miss him, sigh. Like an addiction, one day at a time. xo
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Joanne I think it may be fishy too.
Lovemyfamily I am happy that you are going to see someone else on Saturday. Maybe you two will click. Go and enjoy yourself. Try to stay in the present. I know that is easier said than done.
Sometimes I still hope that Mark would call and find a way to deal with the distance, I can still hear him singing the Hebrew prayers. I know it is a waste of time and energy to think like this. Then I think if i could just meet someone very similar to him than that would make me happy. So far that hasn't happened. Guess just the passage of time will help rid us of the thoughts of these men. Cyber hugs to you.
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So....I go to work, have a busy day and wham! 10 posts!
PL - I think it is a numbers game. That combined with patience ..................
Joanne - it doesn't sound so fishy to me. I work in a school and you would not believe the number of grandparents who come to meetings, conferences, and raise their grandkids. I think it is worth checking out futher only because...........if he is a con.....I think you will know it.
Or we will tell you
Lovemy family - I used to love guys that came on strong, thought that was decisive, commanding, etc. all that BS that you read in womens novels. So wrong. I have studied this phenomenon. A number of my books indicate that if they come on too strong............it means control, possible, cow towing or extreme selfishness or even much, much worse. You are getting a gut instinct my dear.
Stanzie - I just found out that my local school district, for community ed. classes (water areobics in particular, count anyone 50 and up as a senior! I wanted to swim but it is all in the day time.
Hey ladies - having a number of famliy/kids problems and medical issues too. Some semi- serious stuff.
If youcould spare a minute for a sweet prayer or two, I would be most grateful.
Love!!!!!!!3>
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I love the honest and sweet advice/feedback I get from my bc sisters! Mybee, Iwill pray foryou and feel free to share- we are here to listen. Ah--staying in the present-- a most wonderful goal, but so challenging. Requires continual monitoring! xo
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Mybee
I just prayed for you and your family: You be blessed.
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Well, the guy I thought was avoiding me messaged to ask if I'd listened to the music he'd given me. That's it. ? ? ? ? ? Hmmmpf. . guess I'll just play this silly game for awhile before I message him back with some inane answer.
Painted - he could very well be tied up with grandkids but his daughter can't be working 24 hrs a day!0 -
Awww Maybee- of course thoughts and prayers sent and ((hugs)).
I agree you will know if he is fishy ..... ask how old the child is - that will tell you something quickly. If he is little maybe you could meet at a playgound and talk while the child plays. Seeing how he acts with a child will tell you tons!
rakulylinda- maybe he had hoped you would mention the music and he got hurt you hadn't listened to it yet?? guessing of course....
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mybee -- prayers your way --- you are in my thoughts
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Praying for you mybee ! Hugs, Kiley
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Thank you so much for the prayers. What a sweet group of women! Things are looking a little up....hoping tomorrow goes well. Blessings to you all too!!
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Good moring Ladies
Well like I mentioned it is either feast or farmine. Guess I am now in a famine phase:
No message from a guy who was messaging me every moning. He also called me every other evening. I messed up the Rose guy. He called and told me that I said that I would call him back and I didnt. That was last Sunday night. I had a few calls coming in at same time and I forgot about his call. I apologized to him. It really was an oversight. Now I havent heard from him any more. The cheapo guy has not contacted me since the meeting. Mike seems unavailable accept to go out to breakfast.
I wonder what I am doing that some of these guys are so interested and then lose interest. Or they meet me than dont contact me again.
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paintedlady --- it is nothing that you are doing --- I think that it is the game of the chase with some men .... they like the game and once they meet, it isn't fun anymore .... they just want the game ..
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I think so too.... the chase if the fun part - sometimes for us too... LOL!
Hey you could still call Rose guy and you suggest something to get together..... He really may have felt it was a brush off.
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paintedlady - I agree about the fun of the chase thing. I've had so many guys message me and then when I reply, don't hear from them again. I think they're keeping score in their little black books and then comparing hatch marks with their weird guy friends.
So mr. smart guy messaged me last night and asked if I'd like to do something this Sat, gave me his phone number and said to call him. I told him I was old-fashioned that way and don't call guys. tee hee. Gave him my number and he messaged me back saying he liked my idea of doing a short hike on Mt. Lemmon (a short drive to a cooler climate) with my dogs who I warned would leave hair and slobber in his car. He said he didn't care, he likes animals. Good thing this plan is for Sat. cuz Sunday and Monday are my "down" days after chemo. I'll be all jazzed up on Saturday from the decadron (I think that's the one) and will be able to take to that trail like a 20 year old! Well, getting a bit ahead of myself here. . Nothing happens 'till it happens.
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Thanks for your input Joanne,Stanzie and Rak. I did message the Rose guy and apologized again and told him what a wonderful time I had with him. Haven't' heard from him.
Oh, a little more on Mike: I think this is strange. He doesnt like to talk on the phone but likes to chat back and forth on POF. Also, when he i call that one time there was a strange caller ID; so I questioned him when I met him. I called the number back right in front of him and a recording came on telling me "to put in your magic number" He denied knowing anything about He also
had a ring on his left hand. I asked him again if he is married. He said "no, it is a spin ring" (never heard of such a thing) He said that his daughter gave it to him and she insists that he wear it. Is this all weird or what?
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Sounds very wierd to me painted lady
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Paintedlady -- I think it sounds odd too but .... a spin ring is a worry ring .. something to play with or twirl but if that is the case then why not wear on your right hand and what does the daughter really have to with it -- if this is really true then the daughter certainly rules that "roost".
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I agree why wear it on your left hand? Odd. The phone thing is strange too since you called with him sitting there... I don't know??? Well as far as Rose guy- I'd say you tried your best to make ammends and if he doesn't pick it up from here then he wasn't interested enough or has met someone else... I'm sorry.
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My friend dated a guy from Match.com. He said he had custody of his 6 year old daughter so couldn't date very much. He would call her, arrange a date and then back out. She liked him so asked a friend if she would babysit the daughter so they could go out more often. He never took her up on the offer and finally stopped e-mailing or calling her. She couldn't stand the suspense so asked him if he was "moving on". He said no, he just didn't have time to date. Then she got an e-mail obviously not meant for her which mentioned getting together. She called him and he apologized for sending her an e-mail meant for someone else and admitted that he had, after all, moved on.
What a coward!
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PaintedLady - very fishy. I wonder if he is married and the young woman is his wife - not his daughter. Something's not right.
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Hrf I am thinking the same thing. I haven't heard from him since I started questioning him about his limited time he has for a woman. I think if he really only was watching his 10 year old grandson, he would make time to go on dates. I smell a rotten fish on POF!
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Ladies
This is very strange: I just went on POF to my inbox. Mike's profile is not in my inbox anymore. I went to search and put in his screen name: He closed his account! I cant believe it. He seemed to be very interested in me and wanted to go out to breakfast than poof, he cancels his account.
That makes absolutely no sense!
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he deleted his profile --- he got caught --
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Joanne is right. He got caught.
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Lunch date tommorow with Edward. Open mind! I am on a 12 step program getting over Franklin--kind of kidding,but not really! xo
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