Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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Mybee, wishing you all the best tomorrow! I hope everything goes great and you are thrilled with your results! Glad your mom will be with you.
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I am lucky to have her. She will be 73 this month and is still working, strong and independent. Right now I am in worse shape than she is!
On Sat. I am supposed to go to my daughters chosen University and sit all day for an honors college presentation and welcoming reception. I am hoping I can go. If she drives and I sit, I'm hoping. It means so much to both of us. If not Mom/Grandma may step in again. Her Dad, who is a great guy actually, is working on a big project right now and can't go with her. I am hoping I can take some pain pills and suffer through it!! But I don't want to damage anything.............sorry - off topic a bit
Alot on my mind...............And how are you FLWarrior?
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I'm here. Just reading posts mainly. I don't want my negative experiences to taint anyone else. If any of you have the energy and inclination to keep looking, please do. I just know that I am emotionally and physically too fragile to give any other man a chance to hurt me.
Survivor, I'm glad things have worked out for you.
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I don't blame you hrf, I really lean towards your way of thinking more and more! It just seems almost impossible to find someone good. I know others have great stories and luck, but the bad outweighs the good in my experience, and I just don't have the motivation really.
Thank you fearless, we are huge pet lovers at our house too so it was rather sad to lose 3 pets in 2 months.
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mybee, I am trying to put one foot in front of the other...really hoping that next year will be better! If you do go on Saturday do be careful. Maybe your mom can go. Take care of yourself.
Dragonfly and kiley, I am sorry about your loss of your pets. My condolences to both of you. (HUGS)
survivor, nice to hear that someone is finding happiness! Enjoy!
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Mybee, wishing you the best! Write us when you can and let us know how it went! I think as long as you don't have to be the one driving Saturday, you will be fine. Just bring a big pillow to place in front of you on the road just to be safe. I still drive with my pillow.
So true about men being different. The fact is, we are not all the same. We are different from men biologically, emotionally, physically, etc. And I never read any Mars/Venus book.
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Sometimes you just have to make an ass out of yourself!! I was at my friends house for the night, the glass I was using was from the beer fest I went to with the loser boy! So what do I do, text him! Big mistake!! He was such an ass, said hey you chose this path, I said let's take this 1 day at a time but it wasn't good enough for you" I said no, what wasn't good enough for me was that I didn't get the feeling you gave a rats ass about me, that i felt like I had to wait for you to call or text or make plans that I couldn't be myself. He said well it's too late now it is what it is. My last message was that I said yeah, you're right... You chose to be alone, and I chose to not feel like I didn't matter to you at all!
Now I kick myself for texting him, but I see so clearly each time how much of a jerk he is, how he really will never accept the responsibility for his actions. With me, or I'm sure with his ex.
Anyway, that's my latest, no man action on my end, not any luck on the dating sites!0 -
Mybee, praying all went well with yours......and hoping you got to or get to go today!!
My surgery went goodl The dr. cleaned out my lungs and took four nodes out. Two were bigger than they showed on CT scan. Will get results of what all it was or is, on Wednesday.
My guy has been so sweet!!! He was working the day I had surgery, but kept up with everything with me with my dil. Then txted me that night. I talked to him for a few minutes that night, and he was so caring!! Yesterday he called me as soon as he got home from work to check on me and said.........Hey silly girl, everything is gonna be alright......I have lots of wood that we need to burn out by the pond, and we have places to go and things to do, and I need you here to do them with, so get better and let's get on with our relationship. He is so not the type I have always dated...or married, or anything., HE IS GREAT!!!!!
He has his daughter this weekend or he said he would be out to see me. Will see me Monday evening. We have a thing, that we don't want to introduce the family to each other until we are more comfortable about it being a lasting relationship. Too many hearts to be broken if it didn't work out........ Anyway, I am soooooo on pain meds now, and they are wearing off, so gotta get upstairs and take more. My throat is hurting like heck and the incision area is so swollen and hurts like heckers!!!!!!
Hugs to all of you and I am so sorry you two lost pets this week!!!!!! I have a 16 yr old female cat that I love so much and it breaks my heart knowing that she probably doesn't have a LONG more time to spend with me.......but I will love and take every minute I can with her0 -
DF, I'm sorry to hear what happened....but we have all done things like that. Obviously you cared for him and missed him, and that's okay. Certainly, people have done far worse than an out-of-the-blue text. It happens.....
SunAngel, please let us know what you hear on Wednesday - I sure hope all will be okay... ((HUGS))....I'm guessing it will!
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I just don't want to appear desperate to him!!
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DF, You've been thru so much. Be good to you, and take it easy on yourself. Besides, it just verifyed the fact that he is a jerk! Not at all worthy of YOU. You are a beautiful articulate woman and I know waiting is hard for the right man. But you are so worth it! All you ladies are! Sunangel I'm thinking about you and hoping all heals well with good results. Flwarrior I'm also knowing how much strife you are dealing with and thinking of you also. Will be hoping all goes well with you mybee! Fearless hoping and praying you are healing well! Soon maybe you will be ready to date. Hrf I do understand how you feel Took me many years to decide to date again. But am glad I found a nice man who was there all along. Df you are not desperate for him he is just desperately STUPID. Well I 'm still grieving my dog, But did get out of the fog and played with some puppies yesterday. Puppy therapy is good. Take Care All Kiley
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Hello ladies, I'm 6 months out from my BMX w/TE's, still waiting on the next step in my reconstruction (rads slowed me down). I've just started dating someone, the first person throughout this whole thing and actually the first in a long time. Things are moving along very nicely at a pace that I am happy with and I decided I needed to tell him my history because I would rather know right now if it is going to be an issue for him rather than later when I am more emotionally involved. He took it like a true gentleman, said all the right things and was just wonderful all the way around. Whew, what a relief...I've never had to have that conversation with anyone and I had no idea what to expect. Here's to hoping this continues to go well....we'll see when we get far enough into a relationship for intimacy....going to be a challenge for me to let anyone see me this way but if he continues on as he has already demonstrated....I will be a very happy woman.
Best wishes to each of you.
Juls
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Kiley and Juls it is comforting to know you ladies met good guys that stuck around....
DF, you would not believe some of the things I did when I was younger (around your age). There were times I could probably have qualified as a "psycho ex" with all the phone calls and pleading I did. It was pathetic. Believe me, what you did was NOTHING compared to things I have done! Don't beat yourself up over it.
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Hahaha, yeah....I have found that wine and texting/phone calls do not mix. We've all done it.
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Fearless and Julianna are right. We've all done stupid things - far worse that texting. Who cares what he thinks -- you have to stop worrying about how you might appear to him. It doesn't matter what he thinks. You're the one who has to stop giving a rat's ass about his opinion. His opinion is worth nothing, zero, nada .......
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I know, I know, moment of weakness!
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Personally, I don't think he is worth the pain he has caused you. I know it sounds cliche, but you really DO deserve better than the likes of him.
And yup, they need to invent a cel phone that totally shuts down when we have a glass of wine in our hands!
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I know I totally deserve better, not sure what I was thinking. I did like my last text to him. At least I wasn't totally begging for his sorry ass!
I was thinking today, there is nothing that can keep you from texting someone. You can block incoming but not outgoing! That's what I need!0 -
Lol! A cel phone that blocks outgoing calls! And no, you weren't begging. And even if you were, you would only have been one of many women (including me) that have done so. It really is okay, there truly is nothing wrong with what you did.0
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Until we find that outgoing blocker, why don't you send your text to one of us or a friend for approval first? We can help you filter your outgoing messages
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Sounds good, I like an idea of a filter with friends
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We all know the slogan "Don't drink and drive". My friends and I also say "Don't drink and dial"!0
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No drinking and texting tonight
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I think had you been dating others, even casually, you might not have texted him. IMO, no one ever got over someone by not dating. Heck, men don't waste any time.....they get back out there asap!
But I know it's hard and not always so easy to meet people.
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DF...just goes to show you love deeply. Don't sweat it, obviously he can't.
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Yes, it just shows you liked the guy. No big deal - you are human, you have feelings - certainly better than being cold and unable to feel anything for someone.
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I just can't find anyone I even want to go on a date with honestly, I think I'm even more picky now than before. Iteresting email I got today. One of those automated ones from a dating site. It showed a map of the U.S and it said the worst states for me finding a match were Oregon, California, and Washington. My best states were South Carolins, Alabama and Mississippi. . . Guess I'm moving
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DF, that makes no sense. Judging from things I know you like (such as the outdoors, camping, etc), OR seems like a perfect place. Take those things with a grain of salt.
I think the holiday season is a terrible time to do on-line dating, because I think many people are already hooked up by then. People don't like to be alone during the holidays, and tend to hold onto relationships or people just to not be alone, so you see fewer singles during the holidays. At least that's my theory, and I'm stickin' to it!
Whenever I met guys on-line that I dated, it was never during holiday season.
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Oh I did fearless, it made me laugh more than anything
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I will never meet a guy until I move because I have nothing in common with men in my city. Here we have:
Beaches
Hot weather
Nightclubs
Boating lifestyle
Things I hate:
Beaches
Hot weather
Nightclubs
Boating, lol!
Too bad I can't afford to move.
I like really earthy guys and it's very phoney here.0
