Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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Yeah. They want to get down to the business of seeing if there is going to be any chemistry or not. So you have to really be ready to get down to business. I know I am not. Those guys don't want to play footsie.
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On POF, you have to be a "new" member, not just hide then unhide your profile. I disagree about being provacative. Then you are going to attract men who are just looking to get laid. I used to delete immediately any man who mentioned sex in his profile or in his first correspondence to me. Granted, all men are looking for sex, but some actually do want a relationship with it.
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I don't respond to that crap either Fearless.... It's just so hard to weed through the losers.
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Yeah, on EH one of the canned questions is "5 things you can't live without" or something like that. Most men list health, their children, their job, etc., but a few losers actually put sex. I don't know, it just turns me off. It might not bother some women, but I don't want to see it in a profile.
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Well, it is true that you can only be provocative if you want to play. Remember, I've been the one who is so worried about maintaining my sexual functioning. That's for a reason
Happy Saturday night!
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Fearless I'm so with you.... I see sex listed and I go no further on their profile. I mean we all have those needs it just makes me not think too highly of them.
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I agree wholeheartedly! The mention of sex too early gets creepy.
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More and more I think I must be old fashioned or a prude.... Guys email back and forth and are so quick to ask for sexy pics aka naked pics or whatever. Seriously? We've emailed a couple times, never met wth??? If that's what they are all after I'm going to be out of luck!
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DF, I feel the same way, sometimes. But I think it's a question of weeding these guys out in the beginning - such as severing contact with the ones who speak to provacatively before you even meet them, for example. I've had men ask me my favorite sex position before I have even met them for coffee - NEXT!
I understand every man loves sex - I just don't want them to talk about it before they have even met me.
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I've just been perusing on POF. Someone should tell these guys not to pose in a sleeveless shirt or with a motorcycle. What are they thinking?
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Ok so I'm not alone!! Does every guy have to take pictures of themselves in the bathroom mirror??
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They don't understand that women are not interested in seeing their naked or partially naked body in their profile pic.
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Apparently not huh.... Crazy!
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Supposed to meet a guy for a beer tomorrow night, the more I look at his profile, he's way out of my league... why do I say yes? lol... then i get all stressed. I sure hope it's better than the last guy I met.
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Why do you say he is out of your league? If he seems nice, you should go meet him....
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Girl, remember who you are--in a league of your own!! lol xo
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DF, don't even think about "leagues" and I really don't think such a thing exists. Like age is not an issue either. I remember meeting guys who I thought were "out of my league" for one reason or another - but when I met them, they were just like anyone else. Go meet him and have a nice time. Can't be worse than the last one.
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We'll see.... He hasn't messaged much really but sounds like a nice guy. I hope it's not like last time. However at least this one is at my favorite beer place in town, so I can enjoy the beer and get through it either way
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Unless they are within ten years of my son's age.....then it's not too young.!! My son is 38.......I'm 55 now, so won't date anyone under 48! It's a given that some men go for younger women fearless.....but some go for older, more mature. Just give that a thought instead of thinking that he will go for the younger 0
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Dragonfly...I'm happy for you. You go girl! Maybe you've been dating "out of your league" and by that I mean lower than your standards. Time to meet a nice guy!
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Good luck DF!!!!!!!
Wow.........haven't been able to get on here in awhle, and reading all of your posts have really made me think....in more ways than one!!
I have been seeing a guy Jim for over 5-6 weeks.....almost canceled our date, cause it was the day that I found out I had to have surgery for the lung nodes! He was NO WAY! I will be with you thru it all. He txted me and called me but didn't come see me. Kept telling me to heal up, then we would get together, we had plenty of time, lots of things to do together in the future.... I seen him last week, but asked him if he was still on POF. Yes, we had sex the night before I went into surgery and stayed the night together..........damm it!!! NOW find out he has been on POF STILL all this time......said he answers emails when he gets them only, but "ISN'T STLL LOOKING".......... I am so untrusting with all that I have been thru in the last few years!!!I emailed him this" I see that you have been on here daily.... I can't control that and don't ever want to control you, but after we had talked about being "monogomist", I haven't been on there. a friend of mine who has been on there, said she has seen that you have been on their daily......so I am a bit confused. Please let me know what is going on and what you want to do. I haven't and won't talk to other guys, don't see other guys and don't expect my partner to do so either, but as I said.......its up to you. Please let me know.
then I txted him on the phone and let him know I left him a message on POF. He said Good morning. WIll read it when I get home....
Well we will see. I really like him, but can't take another chance of getting my heart broken........there's not much left in there right now for that........
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Those damn boys and they're so shady!! The guy I was dating for a while was doing the same
Dang thing. Good luck, anxious to see what he says about your message to him.0 -
Sunangel, sorry, but he is still looking. If I meet anyone else on-line I am waiting until I am in a relationship with them and they have hidden or removed their profile. Sorry, I know it is hard when you like them, though...
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Df, I am cheering you on ! Sunangel, I'm so sorry you are going thru all this, it saddens me about these men ! (D) and I had a long honest talk on Saturday. I was real sick that day, he reasured me he was there for me, no matter what. I don't like him to see me that way but .....he came over anyway. We also spent Sunday together and realized he was also grieving the loss of my sweet dog Chubs. I will set my fears aside and roll with this ! He is a very nice man. I'm very bless he came into my life as he did. I do not think I could do the internet date thing anyways. Well wishes to all of you wonderful ladies. Kiley
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Thanks Kiley...I think we're so used to the wrong guys, liars and cheaters etc.... That if/when we do find a good guy we're so skeptical and not sure how to handle ourselves and the situation.
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I am sure everyone will disagree with me, but unless the guy has told a woman that they are exclusive, we can't get angry at them or call them losers for still being on-line - it's a dating site. It's up to us to make sure that we dont' jump in too soon with a man who is not ready to offer us any kind of commitment.
I have a habit of jumping in too soon, and I will not make that same mistake in the future. As look as he is still looking, I will be, too.
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From my own experience we had the not seeing other people conversation, look where it got us! Lol
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DF, then he IS a jerk. In my case, the last guy I dated told me we weren't exclusive, that he "wasn't ready for a relationship" . So I can't really say he was a jerk when I would see him still going on Match.com, even though he was still wanting to see me and calling me. He was honest.
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We had the we are not seeing each other talk also....that is what is so confusing to me.
I haven't heard from him. He said he was going to read it when he got home from work. He gets off at three and it is 620. I called, he didn't answer. So guess I got my answer...............
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Man that just really ticks me off Sunangel
I'm hoping you hear from him and its a misunderstanding....but it seems to me like déjà vu.... 0
