Moving On......After the Flap
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Ha! Jeannie I was just posting for you about constipation on the other thread! We get by with a little help from our friends, no? Thank you for your prayers and support.....and I just reread your "plot twist" saying and it appeals to my macabre sense of humor, so thanks for that! ROFLMAO....I'll have to remember that come December if I get a bad news call...I am going to yell, PLOT TWIST! into the MO's ear, I swear it.
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bailey, on another thread, a woman is dealing with an "incidentoloma" situation. sbe contributed the thought that we have "built a raft of support" for her, and told her to climb on board. liefie added this beautiful "image", (posted below) and I have suggested that likely, all of us, at some time, will be the "person in the middle", as we are bonded together forever. I truly believe there is plenty of love, support, faith, courage and positive energy amongst us, to be able to sit more than one person at a time "in the middle". So consider yourself "rafted"......
Sbe, about that wonderful raft image of yours: I love it, was thinking about it a lot yesterday, and here's my take on it. All of us on this thread are on this raft, which is floating in a tranquil turquoise lagoon somewhere in the Caribbean. Only sound is the water lapping on the sides of the raft. We are sitting in a tight circle in the glorious sunshine with eyes closed, and XXXXXXXX is sitting in the middle. We all have one hand touching her, sending our prayers, healing vibes, and positive energy over to her. That is what I'm imagining for her - I think it's working . . .0 -
Aha! Nihahi, Sbel and Liefie.....what a lovely, lovely idea and image....you gave me "laughter through tears" which is, I think, the VERY best emotion ever invented.....thank you for that! Awesome!
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hi all....sitting in Liefie's kitchen......was supposed to have left 3 hours ago.....can't seem to get my butt in gear........Liefie and I are STILL talking each other's ears off......now not leaving until tomorrow morning......got to see her Mother of the Groom outfit and accessories....wow! SMASHING!
Sbe, Liefie and I have been talking about your presentation today.....I KNOW it went well....hope we get to see some clips (??????)
Bailey......sending Vancouver Island (((hugs))) to you......we love you!
Jeannie.....glad you are recovering so well.......jealous of your flat FUPA........![:\](https://community.breastcancer.org/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
Nihahi......loved the photos, and certainly wish you could have joined us! I have had a lovely time!
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All right, that's it....I am getting my passport. I want to be in Liefie' s kitchen, too (actually I have to get it soon as my parents are headed to Germany in January for surgery for my dad and I'll need it, just in case). Love you ladies, too.
So 1/4 cup goat cheese, 8oz light cream cheese, 1-2 tbsp sundried tomatoes, 1-2 tbsp fresh basil, 1 clove minced garlic....mix it all up and stuff in mini sweet peppers (actually I just slice up the peppers and use it as a dip to help me not eat so much!!!). Yum!
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Bailey, I have been where you are too many times in the last few months. I know you are preoccupied with it, and obsessed with it, but it does no good. I know, easier said than done. Nobody has worked harder to be whole, and well more than you. Nothing bad is going to happen to you. I just know it. I am thinking about you, and praying for you. "Incidentaloma" That's all it is.0 -
bailey....if I liked goat cheese, that might sound yummy...as it is, I'd probably just scarf down all the sweet peppers!
Hubby and I went for a looooooooooong walk today (14+km), and now the weekly "snooze in front of the tv fest" seems to have begun for him. I might just get the laundry done. Get that passport, girl....one of us might win the lottery and plan a sister's getaway on a tropical island somewhere at a moments notice!!!!!!
movie/liefie....bet you're having a great time....how many people can fit in that kitchen?????
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I am having a dairy craving tonight..for dessert I mixed Greek yogurt with a tbls of natural peanut butter, a tsp of vanilla, a tsp of honey and a sprinkle of cinnamon - mixed it all up and ate it with apple slices. Is there a soy cheese equivalent to cream or goat cheese? If so, that'd work, too. We love peppers, too, we go through 4-5 large ones a week, easily. And pea pods....always eating pea pods. Think I might need some now!
I am doing laundry, too, lol! Thing 1 is at a school dance and DH and Thing 2 are watching a movie. I am in "my room".....right around the corner from them....but have my own tv and my own remote in here!!!
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I love red peppers, eat them like candy.....ditto peanut butter and apple slices!!!! AND SNAP PEA PODS!!! Are you sure we're not related????? Currently popping red grapes like they were M&M's!!!!!0 -
Omg.....red grapes!!!! Yep....yep....always with the red grapes here! Didn't get any today.....they were smooshy.....don't want them smooshy! I got a couple of pomegranates but it seems like too much work right now. I think I still have some frozen blueberries, though, have to go look now!!! I think we are definitely long lost cousins, at least!
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smooshy grapes are a definite turnoff. Have you ever put grapes in the freezer for about 15 minutes....ooooohhhh.....cold and crunchy!!!! But you have to eat them quickly so they don't thaw too much! I once had a seasonal job at a Welch's grape processing plant in Westfield, NY. They processed Concord grapes......the whole plant was painted white!!! One of my jobs one day to to keep walking around the pressing vats, with a bucket of bleach and a scrub brush....had to scrub off any purple spots that happened to appear. Duuuulllllll job!0 -
Thank you, Goldie, for your prayers (sorry, I missed your post til just now!)
Frozen grapes......yum.....I wonder if the other grocery store in town has good grapes??? Nah....it's 11pm here. If I run for grapes now DH will think I'm preggers or off my nut (preggers not possible, so it'll have to be off my nut).
And that sounds like a horrible job.....trying to keep the purple-juice factory white...
Good gravy I think the boys took ALL the clothes out of their closets while we were gone and put them in the wash! It's never ending today! I finally got the whites in and still have towels and linens!!!
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Bailey- Sending lots of love and prayers your way! HUGS!!!!!!!!
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been awake since 4:30 here, finally decided to get up about an hour ago and start the day....hard to do while hubby is still sleeping though! I guess my brain is prepping me for getting up at 0'dark:30, tomorrow.0 -
Bailey, you are definitely in my thoughts and prayers. I love the imagery Nihahi gave us. Asking God to give you strength and peace of mind until December. I really get not wishing your life away, but we do want time to fly by. And it does, whether we are having fun or not!
Goldie, it is so good to know you have arrived at a decision you are comfortable with. Now you can just move forward.
You ladies all mean so much to me. Hope you all have a good Sunday. ...Julie0 -
Ooops, Jeannie, I forgot to congratulate you on your moving experience! What a relief. ...Julie0 -
You've rafted me to a good place (ok y'all and an ativan before bed) DESPITE the Detroit Tigers loss last night....grrrrrr......but the raft image "sung" me to sleep last night and its just so lovely (and damn we look fine in our swim suits! Lol)
I am off to work for several hours.....big project in the works....should keep my mind and hands busy!
Enjoy your day!
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Good morning, sisters! Here's the news article from this morning, about yesterday's BC Seminar. As you can see, I wore a jacket with BIG pockets, and I knew you all were in there.
I'll post my whole talk (in written form) on my blog when I get a chance, but even with the quick quotes here, some of you should recognize the wisdom you shared with me a couple of months ago.
And the raft floats peacefully on... Katy
Tears trickled down Verna Pryor’s cheeks as she listened to trauma nurse and breast cancer survivor Katy Hadduck speak at the Ronald Reagan Presidential Library and Museum in Simi Valley.
“I feel like I was in her shoes,” Pryor said, her eyes still wet with tears. “I’m a nurse, too. She gives me hope.”
Pryor, 47, of Calabasas, is undergoing chemotherapy and facing a mastectomy after being diagnosed with breast cancer in June.
Pryor was among about 300 people who sat at pink-draped tables and listened to a panel of experts at Los Robles Hospital & Medical Center’s 17th Annual Breast Cancer Awareness Seminar, the Power of Pink.
Saturday’s seminar took place almost two years to the day from Hadduck’s Oct. 20, 2011, breast cancer diagnosis.
The organizers usually get a celebrity keynote speaker for the event, but they decided this year that Hadduck was the best person to tell the story.
“I have to tell you why I’m here instead of Angelina Jolie,” Hadduck, 58, joked, flashing a photo of herself and Jolie. “She said, ‘Katy,’— she calls me Katy because we’re such good friends — Katy, I’d love to, but that’s the day Brad and I take the kids to Costco for the samples.”
Hadduck — the trauma system manager for the Ventura County Emergency Medical Services Agency — allowed the Ventura County Star to follow her journey from the biopsy through chemotherapy, radiation, mastectomy and, finally, reconstruction.
“I did it for women who came after me who might have to undergo a biopsy and were as scared as I was,” Hadduck said.
Hadduck was the final speaker during a five-hour seminar that featured 11 experts on every aspect of breast cancer from diagnosis to reconstruction to treatment to genetic predisposition.
Seven doctors, a nurse, a psychologist, a lymphedema specialist and a nutritionist sat on a panel, spoke and took questions from the audience, which consisted primarily of women, some wearing wigs or scarves.
Radiation oncologist Dr. Paul Miller was among those who spoke about new horizons in breast cancer treatment, such as radioactive seeds injected into the tumor site twice a day for five days. Radiation treatments ordinarily can last seven weeks or more.
Medical oncologist Dr. Anita Kaul talked about anti-estrogen pills that some breast cancer survivors take if their cancer is diagnosed as estrogen-receptor-positive, which means the cancer feeds on the female hormone estrogen.
Breast cancer patients ordinarily take the drugs for five years after a mastectomy or lumpectomy to discourage the cancer from returning, but new research, Kaul said, suggests patients may need to take the anti-estrogen pills for up to 10 years.
Medical oncologist Dr. Lynn Meyering spoke about the role of genetics in breast cancer, stressing that just because you have a gene predisposing you to the disease doesn’t mean you will develop breast cancer. In fact, she said, 80 percent of breast cancer cases have no identifiable gene predisposing the woman to the disease.
Meyering was jolted into more than a medical perspective when she was diagnosed with the disease herself six years ago and underwent a lumpectomy and chemotherapy.
“It completely changed my perspective,” Meyering said. “It basically has helped me coax women through their treatment when they ordinarily wouldn’t follow through.”
Meyering and Hadduck said they cherish the community of strength they have found among women who share a breast cancer diagnosis.
During her keynote speech, Hadduck said the experience has helped her reach a human depth she didn’t know she had, strengthening her faith in God and her love for her family, which now includes a 3-month-old granddaughter she never thought she would live to meet.
“My universe is deeper and broader and better for the love I experienced and the caring people who have come into my life,” she said.
Hadduck’s husband of 36 years, Jerry, 59, spoke about how he tried to be her comfort when she felt lost and her shield when someone said something thoughtless like, “So what’s your stage?”
One of Hadduck’s twin sons, Dr. Tyson Hadduck, 31, gave his perspective both as a newly minted physician and as a son.
“The one piece of advice I want to give is about the importance of laxatives,” Tyson joked, referring to one of the miserable side effects of chemotherapy.
Tyson said he drew profound comfort from his faith and the knowledge that in this life and the next, “my mom will be my mom.”
And for those with breast cancer who are lost or overwhelmed or terrified, Katy Hadduck offered this advice:
“You don’t have to be brave,” she said. “You just have to show up.”
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Oh my gosh, tears are streaming down my face after reading that, SBE. I think when I got to your son's quote it was all over for me. You should be so proud of yourself, your family, and everything you have done to bring awareness to BC. It's just awe inspiring. I love you joke about Angelina, btw. Can't wait to see the rest in your blog. Thank you again. We here in DIEP 2013,and after, know everything you, and the rest of us have been through, and I am sure you couldn't share every detail with the people at that seminar, but I know you got a huge portion of it across. We are blessed to have you as our voice.0 -
ladies.....I posted on the DIEP thread....and meant to post here.......I put up a few pics from my visit with LIEFIE......jump over there!
Sbe.....you are a rock star! Love what you have shared so far.......can't wait to read the rest! Now you can relax a little??????
Nihahi.....your name came up in conversation frequently this weekend......I hope you can make it to Seattle in January.......it would be so fun!!!!!
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Katy - can't wait to read the text of the speech. What a wonderful day. So glad all the family was there to support you - you needed lots of support to hold up those heavy pockets!0 -
Katy! So excited! Sounds like it was great! The picture is so special! Cannot wait to read it all. Your wit is exceptional:)
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Katy, my tears were running freely reading about your presentation. You have a wonderful family, and you are one special woman that I would love to meet one day. Thank you for representing all of us so eloquently.!
Bailey, you are so welcome in my kitchen anytime. Wishing you well!
Nihahi, I'll remember never to give you goat cheese when you visit - lol. Impressed with your long walks, and good luck for tomorrow!
Movie and her hubs left this morning after a very pleasant time together. We compared battle scars, looked at each other's photos, and discussed everything under the sun. Dragged them with us to a party last night, and they had a ball meeting our crazy friends. Making plans to meet again - seems the next meeting will be in Seattle end of January. Jeannie, how big is your house! LOL!0 -
Today's walk with hubby.....9.4km. Hope it's been a beautiful Sunday for everyone.
liefie and movie....if you were mentioning me that often, it must have been a pretty dull conversation. Thanks so much for the photos....any of the two of you together???? Movie...(and Dave) have a safe trip home..keep an eye peeled for orcas in compression garments!!!!
Katy....wonderful, wonderful photo....thank you so much for representing "us"! No one could do it better than you. Like the others....I'll keep watching for the full meal deal on your blog....it'll be a keeper, for sure.
bailey...I'm confused....you work on Sundays?????0 -
Liefie, my house is suitable but I sadly only have one full-size bed in our guest room. Air bed, anyone? Truly, I can't even think that far because I still feel like I've been hit by a truck. I just talked to one of my PS's residents about a red, tender area on my chest. A lot of work was done there, breaking up necrosis, so we're hoping it is bruising and not the dreaded cellulitis. I am still on post-op antibiotics. And, yes, my PS does insist on showering with this compression garment on! I would probably feel better if Wilbur paid me a visit, but he plugs me up so I'm sticking toTylenol...
Movie, it's good to imagine you and Liefie chatting away in such beautiful surroundings.
Katy, what can I say that hasn't been said? You have helped many women and I know you will continue to do so. You are a light in what can be a dark place.
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jeannie.....swim towards the life preserver.....grab hold and we'll pull you in!!!!!0 -
Jeannie, I was just joking around about all of us coming to stay with you, and you are so sweet! We will work out the particulars closer to the time, don't worry. Some of our friends want to go to the boat show there, so we are going with for company, and will stay in a hotel close to the show. Hope your red spot turns out to be nothing serious! You are already on the raft - can you feel it? Now if Wilbur will just behave . . .
Nihahi, Movie and my conversations can be labelled many things, but dull? Never! You should have seen us yesterday when we lifted our tops, comparing and discussing our scars . . . fortunately the men were off on their own - lol.0 -
Nihahi....not usually (work on Sundays). I have a BIG project that was just laid on me with a tight deadline. Vegas and a sick day (I was violently ill Friday....picked up a gastro bug in Vegas or on the plane
set me back so I went in today to work on it. Sundays are actually my favorite day to go in for catch up, anyway...there is rarely anybody else about and I can turn up the music and eat at my desk (we're not normally allowed to) (lol...eating pea pods and red peppers all day!!!) and rock out LOTS of work, which thrills me (sick, I know, but I do love my job).Jeannie, girl, climb on up here with me on this raft.....there's room for more! Whenever I think of this raft y'all have imagined to life I think of a song by James Taylor called, The Water Is Wide....
The water is wide, I can't cross over, and neither have I wings to fly.
Build me a boat that can carry two and both shall row, my love and I.
There is a ship and she sails the sea. She's loaded deep, as deep can be.
But not so deep as the love I'm in, I know not how I sink or swim.
Oh love is handsome and love is fine, the sweetest flower when first it's new.
But love grows old and waxes cold and fades away like Summer dew.
Build me a boat that can carry two and both shall row, my love and I.0 -
My contribution.......THE RIVER LYRICS - GARTH BROOKS
You know a dream is like a river
Ever changing as it flows
And the dreamer's just the vessel
That must follow where it goes
Trying to learn from what's behind you
And never knowing what's in store
Makes each day a constant battle
Just to stay between the shores.
(chorus)
And I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry.
Too many times we stand aside
And let the waters slip away
'Til what we put off 'til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don't you sit upon the shoreline
And say you're satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And dare to dance the tide.
And I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry.
And there's bound to be rough waters
And I know I'll take some falls
But with the good Lord as my captain
I can make it through them all.
Yes I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry.
Yes, I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
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