My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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Mel-So sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I remember Chelle from years ago when she used to post here. Glad you two formed such a loving bond. It must be very tough now to lose such a close friend who really could understand what you are going through. May Chelle rest in peace and I pray that God will comfort you in your grief.
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Thinking of you with love, Mel. ❤️
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Mel Sincere condolences for your dear friend Chelle. May her gentle soul rest in peace Hugs❤️.
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Mel - sending hugs and love and light to you at this difficult time. May Chelle’s memory be a blessing ❤️. - Rhonda
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I am very upset and wasn’t ready to talk about it. She passed October 4 @ 2:40 am. I’m just in shock right now. I miss my friend terribly. And I’m so saddened for her family. Her DH called me at 300 in the morning. It was one of those calls you don’t want to get. I didn’t hear the call but saw in the am the he had phoned and I knew right away she was gone. It took her fast. I’m left with wonderful memories of her and our daily talks about anything and everything. Chelle G , will live on in my heart. I needed her and she and I found each other. She needed me too. I love her dearly and I am so sad. I miss my friend. I miss my sister in battle. I just have love for her and no where to go with it. I’m just so lost without the only person who really understood my illness and my life and all the things that went with it. 8.5 years of a beautiful friendship I wouldn’t trade for the world. God help me. If there is one. Please help me with this one. I’m struggling deeply. 💔
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Mel, so sorry for this tremendous loss. A friend like that is irreplaceable. I will hold you in a virtual hug and pray for peace and comfort.
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she was so special to me. I’ll never be the same ever. Just blows my mind how you can love someone so much and build such a close friendship in 8.5 years. It just hurts so bad. Her poor family. They were all so close. May you fly with no pain, with your sister my sweet friend. I love you always and forever . I hope to see you someday.
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Mel sorry for your loss of Chelle G.
Tanya
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Dearest Mel - May the love of all your MBC family in the living room you started, help to bring you comfort in the loss of such a special friend. My deepest sympathy to you and Chelle’s family.
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Mel, I am sorry to hear about the passing of your very dear friend, condolences to you and her family and friends. Hugs coming from me.
I am quite sick today. Not sure if cold or fever but nasty chest congestion and stuffy nose, got all meds to make symptoms feel better and hopefully it passes quickly. Will drink extra fluids. At least no sore throat. May also go outside for a walk as well to feel better. I will see about that. My cat also got sick again, used wet dry hand vac to clean up the worst of it. Not sure what the problem is with him. Will feed wet food and hold back the water in case he is drinking too much as he eats and wait half an hour before water given. Plus side is the new hand vac is very good at cleaning the mess up and now smells good as I spray enzyme and pick it up and better able to clean it since it uses a sponge filter, drying out the filter with a fan as well, can put back together. Laundry under way as well, probably vacuum as well, my place is tiny so no reason not to.
My illness cannot be too serious as I am hungry today, probably do something with scrambled eggs, cubed hashbrowns, onions, lentils and beefless ground, seasoned with taco seasoning and adding cheese to the pan. I have learned to add the eggs last as they cook the fastest. Freezer is now at the point where I do not need to tape it shut and I will be able to organize it a bit
In everyone's pocket who needs me wishing us all better days and a good weekend as well. Hugging Mel, Mae and all others who need it.
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Mel - Thank you for posting the photo of your friend and her husband. She looks like a wonderful person - you can just tell with that smile. I also posted on the in memoriam thread yesterday, but wanted to say again here, just how very sorry I am for your loss. You were a good friend to Chelle, and will remain so forever. More hugs.
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Possible meal disaster, was putting two eggs in the magic bullet and pouring some milk but too much has gone into the meal. I am simmering on low and added a ton of seasonings to it. The onions, potato cubes (hashbrowns) and peppers will be fine, will take the other part and hope I got most of it out. Used a sloppy joe seasoning pack, a veggie seasoning and of course salt, I will see if it is good, if not, will add some tortilla chips and salt to fill it out, I will see.
Edited, I managed to eat about half but it was really gross to me so dumped the rest. I will just cook an egg in the mini griddle, chop croutons into it and still add the onion and peppers. I did enjoy that part of it but the milky egg mixture was just gross to the point that I had no problem throwing it out. Even adding extra seasoning and tortilla ships really did nothing for me. Oh well, no more scrambled eggs with milk. Thinking of giving up milk unless mixed with boost.
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I know my words may fall short of comforting you at this time, Mel. I wish I could take your pain away. Sending love to you and Chelle's family. From her photo you could feel what a warm soul she was. May her light shine down upon you for all time. I am so very sorry for the loss of your best friend.
We lived in Boone, western NC for 23 years in Valle Crucis near the Watauga River. It was so beautiful and peaceful and we loved our home. We finally reached a neighbor to check on others and homes, but she evacuated and hasn't had contact. Our "adopted" niece, nearly died in her home in Todd, NC. An angel of a neighbor grabbed her and her son (who is 4) just as they were about to tie themselves to a tree. After all settled, she didn't know what to do as the house made it, but with water and mud damage. A group of Baptist volunteers showed up at her door and tore out flooring and dry wall and removed water soaked items. She found food at an Olive Garden and hoped to find shoes for her son at a store. We are so grateful to the angels among us who saved their lives and started them back on the path to living again. There are so many small hamlets and hollars where people live in Western North Carolina. A number of low water bridges were the only way in and out. This makes everything so much harder for rescue of folks. My love to all that lost so much and prayers, too.
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Well, still feeling pretty sick with what I believe is a bad cold. Appetite not affected but got a nasty chest cough and runny nose, keeping on top of meds like advil and tylenol along with expectorant in the day. Cough suppressant at night
I went to bed before 10 pm last night and just got up so other than bathroom trips, slept well. I do credit the new sleepmask, really is a blackout mask for me.
No idea what I want in the way of food. I know I do not want to scramble eggs anymore, just cook up in the wee griddles and chop up with croutons and beans or lentils. I've lost my appetite for weird stuff and sticking to textures I like, still like the peppers and potato cubes, can mix all of it together.
I hope everyone has a good day, in everyone's pocket including my own to stop being whiny about being sick.
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Mara Sorry to hear you have a nasty cold. Rest up, stay well hydrated and I hope it passes quickly. I know your a busy bee but make sure you listen to your body and rest! Hugs.
Irish My heart breaks for everyone who is battling through this horrible tragedy. So many sad stories of despair but glad to hear of amazing rescues by angels that walk the earth. May God bless and watch over all and restore them to safety.
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Mel, I'm sorry to see your friend pass, but know that she is at peace now, away from all the sorrow and struggle that accompanies this disease. I recognize the name even though I've only been around here for 5 years, perhaps you mentioned her in the past. Take gentle care of yourself while you grieve for sure.
Got hauled into hospital yesterday after coughing up two globs of deep pink phlegm from some chesty cough that had developed since Wednesday. Was not happy about that but better safe than sorry given that kinda happened with my last go round with lung pneumonitis. Anyway, now we are back on the 'spiking fever of 38.1' merry go round and antibiotics and I had some sort of ptsd break down this afternoon. So sick of this crap, I don't have an infection its a pain response. Although I have gotten two bags of blood, saline, big bag of potassium and something else while I've been here, I'm also constipated out the wazoo and can barely eat or drink I'm so full up. I do have a suppository waiting for me on my request once this bag of blood finishes, and I should get out of here tomorrow but its just annoying. Still no idea if I have lung pneumonitis!
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Oh Sondra! So sorry to read this. Wishing you all the best; get well soon!
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@sondraf I am so sorry to read you are in the hospital and with a load of issues. I will be praying you get relief fast.
@mara51506 Glad you are at least hungry although getting a virus on top of everything else is rough. Praying for you.
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please feel better Sondra. Hospitals are no fun. Hugs to you. Hope your sprung soon.
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Sondra, I am so sorry you are in hospital but glad you are being treated and of course hoping you are released soon.
I am still dealing with a chest cough, no colour to the phlegm and an earache due to sinus congestion. Just taking advil, Tylenol and the expectorant by day and suppressant at night. I did purchase a neti pot as well as some salt packets because I used one years ago and remember it being helpful. Everything is coming tonight.
Other than laundry and dishes and the litter, no real chores to really do. I gave DB the Qualicat litter as I was not satisfied with the clumping or odour control, Tidy Cat is better for the light weight and better clumping. Garbage will not be overwhelmingly heavy this week for a change.
The freezer now does not require tape to hold it closed now, need to organize it when almost everything is gone. Thinking today about having pepperoni, chopped egg and lentils into croutons and some onion and potato. Will spray cooking spray and likely add some spreadable garlic, got a milder flavour. Got to keep up with stuff I buy, pizza sauce got moldy ewwww. Oh well, stuff happens.
Today, not sure I am going out due to illness, don't need to spread it around but that is OK, rather take it easy here and take care of housework.
In everyone's pocket who needs me, including my own for not being whiny about this cold as others have been in hospital, no crying about it for me and hope everyone else has a good day.
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sondraf Ugh sorry you wound up in the hospital and are so uncomfortable! Hope you get released today and start to get much needed relief. Sending love and hugs.
Mara Thinking of you , hoping you slept well last night. Colds are annoying and I hope today is a better day for ya.
Mel Thinking of you, hope Theo is giving you extra love and comfort.
Sunshine your in my thoughts and prayers for comfort and peace.
Feel horrible for Florida now dealing with Milton, endless prayers for all. Love and support to all here this week❤️
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Cookie, when I do not feel whiny, it really is not bad. I do have the cough meds and purchased a neti pot to ease up the sinus congestion. I do have a wet cough but am not short of breath nor having chest pain and everything is clear I am coughing up is clear. Ordered a thermometer as well, can't be too safe.
Ordered an egg mcmuffin breakfast as a treat today as well. If my appetite is not affected, I cannot be super sick.
In pockets for anyone here or who know anyone in Florida dealing with Milton.
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Hello all ! Been a minute since I dropped in. Many pages of posts which I did not read all. I stand here on Micmel's porch, my hand poised to knock on the door. I can hear you all inside. When I open the door I know I will see a rollercoaster. Some of you in cars that are chugging up a steep hill and you grip the sides as you move upward, you are quiet, stable, hanging on. Other cars are at the pinnacle, that balanced sweet spot and the view is vast. Then the car tips down and holy sheet!, the descent is terrifying! Will you crash? Will you level out? Will you throw up? Will a passing bird get caught in your hair? You hit the bottom and for a brief moment things are level. Sort of normal, even though you are still in the car that is attached to a rollercoaster. Even though you know another climb and another drop are likely to come your way. No getting off this ride. And then I swing the door open and step across the threshold…..
Hub's genetic disorder moves from bad to worse steadily. Walking is a nightmare. His pain never stops. We don't know if we can continue to live here. And if we stay here on this property, how? What changes can we make to ease the constant upkeep? Right now neighbours have their place listed for sale because these properties are constant, high maintenance and not friendly to older folks. As one neighbour said, you can have this place, or time, but not both. That's where Hub and I are. We are on opposite sides of this debate from each other. He says stay. I say go. It's ugly. I worry about his total loss of ability and what that will mean to life here. But what no one is seeing is that more and more I do more and more as he can do less and less. He does not grasp how much I carry and how much he relies on me. What he needs to admit is that I am on the rollercoaster. Right now my car is sitting at the top. But for how long? And when I fall, he has no clue how sideways things are going to go when I cannot do the extra work that I have been doing for a while now. He is deeply in denial about everything and it is making me desperate and extremely miserable.
MICMEL, I am so sorry about losing your heart friend. It's like some part that was necessary to your existence is ripped away and you are left protesting, how the hell am I supposed to live all shredded and torn up like this? How can life be so brutal and yet expect people to keep on going? I have no answer. I only know that people do. I don't understand how. Sad hug.
Back where I last posted I read a post by CANDY678 about a phone friend who just talks on and on and on. This went right to my heart! I don't think fatigue can always be blamed on cancer, sometimes people's mindless behaviour is exhausting! I have friends whom I love but I WILL NOT answer their call unless I have an hour or more to sit and do nothing. I resent this. It makes me bitter and bitchy. I always have shit to do. Always! Like, today, before posting here I put away garden tools and fertilizer, rolled up hoses, shoveled chicken shit out of the hen house and lugged it away. Raked up debris from chicken yard and lugged that away. Re-piled a bunch of smallish tree trunks from recent chainsaw activity that were lying on the septic field and needed to be moved out of the way. Then I processed the yogurt I made, took meat out of the freezer, folded laundry, split some kindling and carried garbage out to the bear proof container we keep it in (seacan!). Then I'll get a friend on the phone who blah blah blabbity blah. No. Just no. And for the love of god when I say a polite, "well I ought to get going…" shut the eff up and conclude the call! I have a friend who WILL NOT take a hint and like you CANDY, I begin to yawn and my eyes slam shut and it's because I am so pissed off I'm holding my breath and my brain is shutting down from lack of oxygen. Friends who don't know when enough is enough on the phone are a danger to your health! At least that's what I think.
Sending much love and hope and peace to you all . Now I'm going to go out and stare at my few last dahlias before frost wipes them out. Hang on to the ride!6 -
Mel, I'm sorry for the loss of your dear friend. finding a friend is one thing but creating a deep and meaningful bond is truly special. I hope the memories you shared together can help fill the void. thank you for sharing her beautiful photo.
Sondra, I am mad for you, it just doesn't give you a chance to catch a breath. have you tried any anti-inflammatory meds, if your MO agrees? I hope you get better soon.
Irish, what a terrifying story. I'm so glad both your niece and her sone are safe. and those neighbors and volunteers what incredible people. precious moments like this seeing people come together to care for and help each other despite all the hardships.
Mara, get well soon. your suggestions are always spot on.
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Runor, glad to hear from you, you amaze me with all the work you do around your place but I cannot blame you for wanting to sell to go to somewhere easy for the both of you to live. I also understand about the talking on and on of people. I used to be guilty of that but was able to put the kibosh on it. My wellness check in call is a person who could keep talking but when I get tired of it, I tell her I have to poop. She lets me go right away. My wellness checker these past two weeks is great, its how are you doing today, I say fine or I have a cold but alright. Usually clocks in 10 to 15 seconds.
I got my netipot this evening and used it twice so far, feels weird but my nose is clear which is great. If it stays clear I won't bother, if I am stuffy tomorrow will follow up. Now just waiting for the bit of a cough to subside for me but I have meds for that.
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runor Sorry you really sound like you have an overflowing plate! I loved your roller-coaster analogy, you have the gift of expression. I hope you and your DH can come to a mutual agreement soon so you can catch a break. Life is just so hard sometimes, wishing you better days ahead.
Mara Glad the neti pot did the job!
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Mel - I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend. It sounded like she knew you inside and out, and vice versa.
Sondra - you need to catch a break. I hope you can be released soon.
Runor - good to see you. I hope there's a way you can cut back on your workload, accepting that sometimes good enough, is just that.
Mara - you're aloud to be whiny when you don't feel good. Just because there are others worse of doesn't mean you don't feel like crap.
Praying for all our ladies on the the Florida peninsula right now. I hope they're right, that Milton will weaken, but I don't trust them. Please take the safest course of action available.
n here. I have my daughter's dog while she's traveling for another day. DH has a three hour appt on Wednesday, so I talked him into dropping me off in a shopping area while he goes to it. He's worried I'll have to much time. Umm... no. I never get to shop, and I need some shirts in between t-shirts and office clothes, and maybe some new jeans before winter. The shopping area has a Kohl's, next to a Ross, next to a shoe store (can't remember which one - doesn't matter), and a place to get my hair cut past that. If I'm really desperate (I won't be), there's a Walmart nearby. I'll be fine. ;)
Love and hugs to all in Mel's Living Room.
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Our security cameras captured this the other night. I'm used to seeing the deer in the yard, but not like this.
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Slept alright last night, I do credit the new sleep mask for that. Paid some bills, yay. Laundry will be happening, need some vacuuming and cat box duty. Netipot for the nose coming up, need to boil some water for that and let it cool since they do like distilled water. My ear has not been aching from the sinus congestion so that is good. Believe I am on the way out of the illness. I will say. Skipping cough meds until I head to bed tonight. May wear a mask to bed, kind of like the surgical one to make it more humid for me to av
It is getting cooler now, down to 39 most nights but that is fine, have plenty of fleece blankets and if I am correct the building will jack up the heat again like last year which made it hot. Ordering cat food, cats will be happy. Nothing needed for me, just organizing the recycling for myself and it is garbage this week. Next week will move ahead a day to put stuff out since Monday is Thanksgiving in Canada. I am unsure what I will do for myself on Thanksgiving, might order a chicken dinner if Swiss Chalet is open. Option two, if I am taken shopping this week, would consider a rotisserie chicken and do it up the multitude of ways Chicagoan mentioned earlier.
Planning to open some black beans up. Chop them in the chopper with croutons and a couple of cooked eggs. Add some beefless ground and combine whole thing into mexican rice. It is meant to last more than one meal and would be good. Other thing I want to do is heat up some KD pasta and once it cools, keep some in the fridge as well, would make it easy to fill a meal. I will keep the cheese powder aside until needed. I realize that by the end of day, I lose spunk to make anything so I need some meal prep, not the kind that requires a freezer but something that can stay in the fridge for two to three days. Making in the morning where energy is supposedly high. Doing the mexican rice first, no butter, used some spreadable garlic instead. Has a long simmer time, give me time to clear sink and cook up a couple of eggs to chop up with croutons along with cheese in there with black beans or lentils, that mix will be kept separate. Not sure what my seasoning will be, got the KD cheese
I decided to have a portion of the mexican rice and add some pepperoni and lentils with some shredded cheese, heated in microwave. It was very good, figure the rice can feature in several meals.
I do hope everyone has a great day, for those who are dealing with hospital stays, grief for a dear friend or just life in general, I am sending my love out from your pockets.
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Hi Mara! Busy food prep I see. I’m officially hungry. I just wanted to say that I’m thinking of everyone in Florida. Tanya, looks headed for Tampa. Are you inland more ? Just want you all safe out there. Thoughts are with you that the storm Peter’s out.
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