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  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,071

    Chelle, I am sorry that your youngest daughter is having such a difficult time. Your family has been through so much during the past few years so it is easy to understand why she would feel such an emotional overload. I do hope that a good plan can be found with the school, a plan that she will be comfortable with so she can continue her studies. None of it could have been avoided, and there is no logical or plausible reason why so much has happened. Take a deep breath and remember the family and the love that surround you every minute of every day. Close your eyes and concentrate on those good thing at least once a day. You are going through some terrible times, but you still have all that love and kindness around and inside you. As far as friends are concerned, you have more of them on this forum than you realize. Everyone of us understands how you feel. Each of us cares about you. You have helped so many of us during the past two years. I, for one, will never forget all the support you have given me during that time. So, if you go to your friend's party tonight, just have fun. If anyone asks questions like the ones you thought about, just look them in the eyes, smile, and tell them that you are glad that they are interested. Tell them that you would be happy to tell them how to Google MBC to learn more about your disease because everyone should educate themselves about a disease that kills more than 40,000 people in this country every year. Just remember that I am right there with you in spirit.

    Many hugs and lots of prayers from, Lynne


  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Lynne~I hope this finds you well. When I was growing up, in the 70's, we hardly ever even heard about cancer very much. I mean people would smoke and then it would make sense, but healthy active people getting cancer so young these days. It really doesn't make much sense to me really. I am also in awe of everything you and your DH go through together. This thread applies to you so much, the love and devotion. I adore that. Love makes us want to fighter harder. Because we love our lives and families. Friday is here. Rest well ladies.

    Keetmom~hope your dad and you are feeling ok. Thinking of you. Mae~ sending a thought your way as well! Much love ~M~

  • 50sgirl
    50sgirl Member Posts: 2,071

    Micmel, Yes, cancer seems to be everywhere these days. It is indiscriminate when it targets people -young and old, healthy and unhealthy lifestyles, male and female. There is no escape. I read that many new breast cancer genes were discovered recently. There is still so much to learn. And yes, Chelle knows all about my dh's cancer history. Poor Chelle and everyone else who was on the Bone Mets thread two years ago suffered through my husband's long and eventful hospitalizations. I posted every night and received unbelievable support in spite of the fact that my posts were not related to MBC. I poured my heart out night after night and shared the fears that I didn't want to burden my sons with. This forum helped me through that time, and I will never forget the kindness I found here. There is so much goodness in this world.

    Does anyone know when Lynne is due to return from Jamaica? I hope she had a great time and felt well when she was there. I think she said that she has a doctor's appointment on Halloween, so if she isn't home now, she should return soon.

    My DH and I will be leaving for Hawaii on Wednesday. I have been packed for a week. Think I am excited?

    Have a good weekend.

    Hugs and prayers from, Lynne


  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Lynne(50's)~ Hawaii ✈️✈️✈️✈️✈️🍹🍹🏝🏝🏝🏝🌅🌅🌅🍍🍍☀️☀️, wow! I havent been there since I was 13 years old. I am sooo jealous. What island are you visiting, and how long are you staying ? Enjoy every single second and make those special memories. I used to love the sun. I used to stay outside all Day and the sun never effected me. Now I hate it. I don't want to be in it for more than an hour. If that. I sweat profusely. I wish you safe travels and the happiness you deserve being with your incredible DH. Much love ~M~ If you ever feel like giving me a quick over view of your DH, I would be honored to know. I never want to invade, ever. But I care about you ladies and things are very important to know, I want nothing more than to offer support and love, which you all give me here. 💕💕💕~M~

    I looked back and didn't see where Lynne (Manchester) mentioned when she was coming back. I am just hoping this anniversary is one to remember for her and her DH. Everyone taking trips ! Amazing ! I need to go someplace soon. DH work is too busy right now. He is a computer engineer for a VERY large school district, and they have leave restrictions in place because it's considered the beginning of school, time frame for state testings. So maybe soon, yeah soon! That's it! Have a beautiful weekend. Much love to all~M~

    Haven't seen Mae~. Geeze I hope she's ok andNot working to hard, just thinking of you friend. ❤️

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    image...........something my DH and DS would say. The sarcasm is knee deep in this family today. lol It's a lovely day outside. Hope everyone is well. I miss the regs. Tooo hope you're all ok. I'm like a mama bear, I get worried about her peeps!!!! Love you guys ❤️~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    anyone ever watch the clicker for your number of postings that you have made since you were a member.? Mine has said 1300,for A little less than a few days. Anyone know how that works? Mods? Any input? Lol Just a thought.? Hugs ! ~M~

  • bigbhome
    bigbhome Member Posts: 721

    Micmel, I am here, I am always here. It was tough while on vacation due to lack of internet. But I always checked my phone to make sure that you were ok. We had what was one of our best vacations ever! We met so many wonderful people from all over the country! I sometimes forget what lovely people make up the horse world! We had great long rides on challenging terrain, which I love! BigB and Mattie were on their best behavior and loving the challenging trails also! If we had ordered the weather from God it could not have been better! I had so much more stamina than I expected, never got too sore and was able to help Dh with caring for the animals. I felt so blessed to have had this time!

    I finally got in to see Ortho Thugs, he says I have a lot of arthritis in my knee and that is what is causing the pain. Both hips have bursitis. I got a cortisone shot in knee. He hopes I will feel a difference in a week. The hips are better than before, so hopefully they will be fine. He discussed possible knee replacement as a last resort, I didn't know that was possible for me. Hopefully not necessary. We touched on my discs with No cushion between them. He is surprised I am not in much pain. He wants me to continue riding, swimming and yoga. He said no more walking for exercise. I love to walk. Oh well, he said to try recumbent biking. Of course, I loved that he wants me to continue riding! Unlike MO.

    I thought about everyone while I was gone and prayed for you all daily. Chelle, have you started your poster board yet? Spring will bee here before you know it. I am keeping you and your family close to my ❤!

    Mae, your strength and humor are boundless!

    Nan, lifting you up with prayer and holding you close also.

    Lynne(50:-) You rock! Hawaii! I have never been. Take lots of pictures and know that we will keep you in our hearts while you are gone.

    Lynne(manchester) Hope you had a great time in Jamaica!

    Keetmom, You have so much on your plate. We know God does not give us more than we can handle, but he sure does like to push the envelope sometimes! Keep going and know that you can count on us for support.

    Chicagoan, nkb and Tanya, thinking of you always.

    Have a nice pain free weekend everyone. Hugs and prayers,

    Claudia

  • bigbhome
    bigbhome Member Posts: 721

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  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Claudia~I am so thrilled to see your home safe and sound. I am so jealous that you got to ride and happy, beyond happy, that you had magnificent weather. You deserved that! How are you feeling after the fall with Bigb? That picture conveys peaceful, calm surroundings. Fall is such a lovely time of year. You are amazing and way to go with building up that stamina to keep up with DH, I know how much work tending to horses are. I have had two over my childhood. Everyday, all work. Riding is the freedom you feel from all that work. You look lovely in that pic, your bigb horse is a beauty baby. Is he a quarter horse? I hope DH also enjoyed himself, much deserved. The hurricane, preparations for that and the clean up after. Then to prepare for a trip like that! Hats off too you both! Wish it wasn't over, but glad you're home safe and sound. Much. Love ~M~

  • bigbhome
    bigbhome Member Posts: 721

    I think Dh enjoyed it even more than me! BigB and Mattie are Tennessee Walkers! Very smooth gait. Ignore the fact he's not smiling, he hardly ever does for pics.

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  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,739

    I'm here and doing fine except for some extreme allergies. Yesterday's cold front must have blown something crappy my way, stuffy head, leaking nose, so much sneezing! Benadryl is barely working but I've been through worse, lol.

    Bigbhome, while reading your post above, I looked away talking to DH, then back and read "I finally got to see Ortho Thugs" and wondered what kind of band is that? Images of dr's in a rap group came to mind, which I found very amusing before I realized that wasn't what you were talking about.

  • keetmom
    keetmom Member Posts: 299

    Hey all...chemo Thursday so laying a bit low this weekend..but laundry needs to be done and bathrooms cleaned...well cleaning as a whole..
    Dr switched me to Tamoxifin from arimidex, said "Your bones are a mess and you could be around another 5-10 years need to take care of them...I don't have a crystal ball...but they are a real mess now...Hearing that yes not a guarantee but he isn't planning on me being gone next month. That make me feel good..

    Lynne SO excited for you, I would LOVE to go to Hawaii, but thinking someplace south for Spring break may be needed...

    Have a great wknd all....washer is beeping so should move...and I need to match socks which I HATE... Ive been known to go buy new ones other then match them.


  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Mae~ Hi sweetheart! I am so happy to see you! I think about each and everyone everyday! I am happy to hear you're doing really well, my son is also suffering badly from allergies, I completely agree with you. He's been having rough days since last week.

    Wasn't your walk this this weekend?? I hope if it was, you were happy doing in. The weather here in the northeast was sure fall like. Especially today very rainy and chilly. We are on our way to the breakfast buffet!

    Claudia~ your husband looks like he's a tall man. The trails you must have taken must have been so awesome. That is a beautiful horse! So glad your back

  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Member Posts: 1,540

    Good afternoon,

    Breezy Sunday here. I went out yesterday to a movie and lunch with friends. It was great! I'll be in the bed all day today to recuperate. It was worth it.

  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Member Posts: 1,540

    Keetmom great news. I think about the end of all this treatment and with the Ibrance they only say on their website that it extends life two years. Anyone heard anything more about that?

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,739

    Good walk and beautiful scenery :)

    Finished in under an hour and wasn't last this time.

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  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Keetmom~I hope you're all done the cleaning marathon, sounds like a busy Sunday, here we are again another Sunday night, another week on tap. I am walking more since it's not so darn hot!! Hope your father is doing good. I take arimidex as well, and have for a year now. One of these meds is preventing me from loosing any weight! That one is my bet! But if it's keeping me stable I'll just have to ride that train as long as possible !! Hope the girls are well!!

    Big hugs ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Tanya~That's pretty cool getting out to go the movies.i just recently saw IT and I loved it. I hope you had a lot of fun with your friends! What movie did you see? I haven't seen anything that is even playing lately. Nothing has caught my eye. The movie that is military "thank you for your service". That looks pretty good. Since you went out, did you end up in bed all day today like you thought? I hope you're feeling good today again!!!! Big hugs ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Mae~I am so thrilled that you did your walk !!!! The scenery does look lovely and it looked like a perfect day!! I never thought you would be last! Very cool!! That bridge looks very peaceful. I would have wanted to spend sometime looking over it. So I would most likely be last!! Lol. So glad to see you kicked some walking rear end! Much love ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    image......Last night we had a scare with one of our dogs. One minute he was fine, the next he was just stumbling, and his head was swaying slowly back and forth, he couldn't walk, he was lethargic and didn't really make too much aware, eye contact or any awareness behavior at all. So we thought it was going to be time for him to pass away. Our other dog was also acting very strangely, my DH was laying next to the dying one, and no less than two feet was his life long best friend our other dog, closely and calmly watching his buddy and making sure of what was going on. We watched him for about three hours and DH carried him upstairs and he was watching him on and off all

    Night. When he woke up this morning he seemed fine, he ate, he drank water , he walked fine. He seems a little weak, but we are still hoping that the end isn't all that close for him after all.We think he may have had a small stroke. Heartbreaking! I was really worried. Terrible feeling. Helpless! But so far so good today!!

    Hugs ~M~

  • blainejennifer
    blainejennifer Member Posts: 441

    Micmel,

    It is very likely he had a stroke, or some sort of vascular event. The very same thing happened to our chi mix, Brandy. The good news - she lived for two more years, and I had to order the hit because she was having such trouble breathing. It's amazing what they can shake off.

    Much love,

    Jennifer

    PS: Nothing stops you from missing them every day when they are gone.

  • tina_marie
    tina_marie Member Posts: 67

    Hi Jennifer, I see that you are in Upstate NY... I'm outside of Syracuse, where are you? I was just recently diagnosed with Stage IV to the bones... and going to HOA here in Syracuse. Would love to hear from you.

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Jennifer~it was very scary. We spent the night looking for symptoms and watching him to make sure it didn't get worse. I was very upset at the entire thought and the way he was acting. We honestly didn't think he would make it through the night. The way he was acting was very distant and unaware. No focus within his eyes. We were very worried. Thankfully he seems like his normal slow, old self. I'm watching for residual effects in his behavior. He seems at least better. Thank you for mentioning this about the stroke. That thought had also crossed our minds. Just hope it doesn't happen again. Hugs and thank you! ~M~

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Tina~Hello, lots of us here have cancer in just our bones. I know it's very scary to hear anything like that. I sometimes still think I am in shock. And it's been a year and ten months now since I was diagnosed. Some days are easier than others. Some days just plain suck out loud. The only thing we can do is take one day at a time. When people tell you ohhh stay positive this and have a good attitude that, allow yourself to feel whatever the heck you need to feel. I wish you nothing but luck and strength! You're more than welcome to stick around here also at our little pub. We have a great bunch of strong smart women in here. There is always room for one more. Big welcoming hugs! ~M~

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,739

    Micmel, sorry to hear about your dog baby, it really is so painful to see and all that worry. Glad he's feeling better today. DH and I have lost 5 of our 6 pack in only 3 years, it's truely devastating. Give him a nice big pet for me :)

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Mae~ It is exactly like a baby. I was bawling, but wanted to stay calm for him. It got so bad that we were ready to take him to the vet to consider putting him down. I don't like that feeling at all. All I wanted was for him to just recognize me and wag his tail!! I don't think it's going to be the end of the weird episodes, maybe the beginning, I am just hoping that.....we do get some more time with him. He's with me 24/7, daily. He is only 10. I guess for some breeds that's old. 😞Mae~I am sorry about your puppers family! I don't know how I'm going to deal with it. Especially if DH is away. My heart will break! I love my doggies. So very much. So thank you !

    Much love ~M~

  • Lynne
    Lynne Member Posts: 368

    Thanks for the congrats! We came home last night, unpacked our backs, put on costumes, and walked over to my youngest sister's Halloween party for a bit. We had a wonderful time in Jamaica. Yes, lots of drinks brought to us, under an umbrella! Lots of swimming and feet in the sand. Weather was great, only rained on night. At least it was only 20 degrees cooler here when we landed in Boston, 68! I'll try to post a couple of pics tomorrow, when I'm on my regular computer (where all the pics are) vs my laptop.

    Glad to hear you are feeling better, Mae.

    Sorry about the insomnia, M. I'll be having it for the next 6 days Started on my steroids yesterday for my chemo on Tues. Sleep 4 hrs at the most. At least I don't get the bad side effects from the chemo.

    Have a peaceful, sleeping, night everyone!

    Lynne

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    Lynne(Manchester)~welcome back! So pleased to hear you had a nice time on your anniversary vacation With your wonderful DH!! I would love those drinks brought to me and my DH in an umbrella!!🍹🍹! I can imagine someone could get used to that. MyMain concern traveling. Is sleeping, if I don't get enough sleep, I don't function very well at all. That's another reason I was amazed at you going on this trip. Way to go !!! Memories in the bank!!! Can't wait to see these pics! Hopefully I'll be able to sleep tonight. I hope everyone has a good night sleep (Chelle) lol

    Much love~M~

    So....Claudia is home.

    .........Lynne is back also

    Now isn't Lynne (50's)leaving for Hawaii next week? Another possible beautiful picture opportunity. Cant wait to see! So glad you're all back safe and sound. Now Lynne is up for her trip to make some wonderful memories! Gotta admit i am gel gel! (Jealous)

    Nan~ where are you girl? Hope you're ok!!

  • micmel
    micmel Member Posts: 10,057

    I am just waking up. I could sleep for like hours and hours. Especially in this nasty nasty chilly raining weather Which is crazy time with my heater. Do I want it on?? Ehhh do i want it off? One day it's on the next it's not. I wish I had more energy, hell I wish we all didnt have cancer, I can't believe it's past ten o'clock already, makes me feel like such a useless load. I'm getting my grand puppy tomorrow, so that should lift my spirits and get me outside more.. old man winter will be knocking soon. Sometimes I feel like I've been dragged into this perpetual exhaustion that never goes anywhere!! Ugh. Hope everyone is ok! Much love ~M~

  • tanya_djamila
    tanya_djamila Member Posts: 1,540

    Good afternoon all,

    What a busy weekend everyone had. It's nice to see we're all still remaining active.

    Micmel I'm sorry about your dog. Pets being sick is horrible. While my son was sick and we were going through all of the hospital visits my granddaughters cat got sick. First walking wobbly with head hanging. He passed away. All I could do was pray for him my DH handled everything else. I kept the kids away at the end he deteriorated quickly. I pray your dog is better today. They are so much more resilient than we think. Enjoy your grandpuppy. Oh and I went to see Thurgood Marshall movie and then ate at PF Changs. One just opened near us. My daughter and I shared an appetizer meal and desert.

    Mae your race pictures are amazing and the fact that you had a nice pace is a reward in and of itself. Thanks for sharing.

    Lynne NH can't wait to see drink umbrella pictures. I'm happy that you were able to enjoy the warmth and sun.

    I looked at my xrays of my hip bone yesterday. Florida hospital has a patient portal. Big scary words which all mean cancer in my hip bone but it has shrunk. So I keep on taking Ibrance. Someone said that they feel pangs and pain at night and hot flashes and attribute it all to the Ibrance working. I like that scenario. I'm adopting that Mantra.


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