My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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So sorry Mel.
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I never thought I'd be scheduling an appointment to end my dogs life. Welcome to the thread Goldens. It's always so nice to know there are people out there that read our little living room tales. I also agree the group here is amazing. Truly a place where we care. And just dont say it. I made masks and I shared them with those sisters that needed them. I wanted to make sure they are taken care of in my smallest way I could. This is my second home and the support is unmatched. Because we all understand so much. The same Your dogs are gorgeous!!!
Candy~ you sweet dear. I was crying also. I agree with wanting to be in a place where there is no cancer or pain anymore. Problem is We face pain and cancer to get to that place should there be one. I struggle with my faith as I've said before. thank you for caring.
Thank you alll for caring about my Tag. Of course today he's doing a little better. Makes me confused. So difficult to know when the exact time should be. I'm trying to spend time with him, petting him. Some Snuggles. He's such a little love. Always has been.
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oh Tag, keeping mom guessing. Have you guys used up all the pain med options? Deramaxx kept my guys going for quite a while. Prednisone gave us several months at the end.
But when all is done, there's just cuddles and love. I used to be a foster home for several animal rescues. I know someone who runs a senior animal rescue and death visits often. She gives the dogs MacDonalds just before vet - let's them go out while "stealing" yummy burgers
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in between all this with Tag. My DHs office arrived. During the shipment many pieces were damaged and we were waiting for replacement items. Well they came and it’s together. I love it. Not that I want him to work anymore than he has to. But it’s so damn nice
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GoldensRBest, welcome. It’s hard to fathom what it would be like being diagnosed at such a young age and then a recurrence and MBC. I’m so glad you’re doing well on treatment.
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Welcome Goldens
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Micmel - in your pocket as you navigate through Tag’s final days. It is so hard to lose a pet. Virtual hugs to you. Hugs for Tag, too. So sad. Tears fill my eyes and sorrow fills my heart.
Tanya- in your pocket for your procedure tomorrow.
Love all the fur baby photos. We lost our grand fur puppy the day after BC dx. It was a tough weekend. I think we are to the stage finally of being ready for a new dog but I know I am not physically able to care for a dog. Such a struggle between wanting a dog vs rationally acknowledging that I don’t think I can “do” a dog
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hi Goldens, welcome! I'm a setter girl at heart but currently owned by a sweet black lab mutt. Love goldens too. Knew a couple super gundog goldens. Such versatile dogs.
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thank you dodgers 🌹 it's upsetting for sure.
That dog is beautiful.
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Welcome to Mel’s living room, Goldens. You already know about the wonderful support here and the “comfy place” it is, so plop down whenever you want to.
Moth, I love your black lab mutt pic too.
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Goldens,
I add my welcome to the group and hope you will visit and post often. We call this Mel’s living room, and we all imagine ourselves plopping down on her sofa and having a nice chat. Or a good cry. Or sharing happy times when we talk about the good stuff (like camping, travel, our pets, etc.). I have learned so much about this disease from my sisters here. It seems there is always something new to learn.
But most of all, I feel so very blessed to call them all my family—because that’s what they have become. I can now welcome you as a family member too!
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Mel, feeling for you as you navigate this time with Tag. I've only been through this with a 20 yr. old cat, but she was my first and it was so hard, but I knew we were doing the right thing for her. Our black lab had a chocolate lab friend down the street and he would come visit every day for years. When our lab died, his friend came every day for a week before he realized our dog was gone and not coming back; he never returned. It was so sweet, but so sad, too.
Tanya in your pocket tomorrow. I hope all goes well and you get the pain relief you need.
Moth in your pocket for port surgery, too! I've had mine for over 5 yrs. not needing it for 3.5 yrs, then wham, back to it, but glad I don't need surgery again. I think you're gonna love your port.
Mae in your pocket 8/31 and Simone on 9/1, too!
GoldensRBest, Welcome! I always loved goldens, but never had one. Beautiful puppers you have! We haven't had a dog since we lost our Dachshund two years ago. I miss having one although we've ended up caring for our daughter's rabbit since she can't have him in her new apartment. He's an indoor bunny and actually quite a hoot.
Hello and hugs to all.
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OMG GoldensRbest, beautiful pups for sure. I remember a very loving golden retriever my Aunt Fran had named Tawny. Though I am more of a cat person, this was the absolute nicest dog ever.
Mel, still been thinking of you today. Realizing that what you are going through is so tough and so wishing I could do more than just type here.
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Today he is with it more. But it’s his back legs. Can’t get up alone. Wobbles and falls with the slightest restraint or tug against him. We’re just deciding what day this week. I keep putting it off so does Dh I know. We both are heartbroken.
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Again welcome Goldens!
Mel a very difficult time for you... have also lost a much loved cat Frankie at 18 years old and have never quite forgiven myself, or really recovered, for making that decision, even though I know it was the right one. I do think animals have a wonderful sense of being and do understand when another dies.Fionn the half dug def knows there’s a thing with me as he’s Velcro’d to me when with us, which my DH thinks is weird. Might just be the smell of the drugs. He will likely outlive me as he’s only just 2 bless him.
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Welcome Goldens.
Thanks all for the support tomorrow. Anxiety tonight I'm sure. I'll be taking everything to try to get some rest. AWW but the mind wanders where it will.
Mel so sad about Tag. We've gone through the loss with dogs and cats over the years. The last cat, Berlios we said no more but then this rescue Moon kitty and all so now we start all over again.
Tanya
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Tanya~That cat of yours is a beauty! We are taking our time. As long as he isn’t in any pain, and we can help him. But it’s going to be this week at some point. I have alot of doctors appointments this week. (Making excuses) Here are my buddies together on the old furniture! Pals always.
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Thanks to all for the welcome! Since Covid, our weekends consist of virtual happy hour on Saturday with our bestest friends from Michigan (38 yrs of friendship!) and virtual happy hour on Sunday with our youngest daughter's in-laws. We are blessed to have such wonderful people in our lives! Wishing all a peaceful week.
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The virtual happy hour sounds like a great idea I think. You can still get together. It is great.
Mel the dogs look very sweet.
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Mel, I’m thinking of you and your DH as you face your dog’s decline. I hope it will be very clear to you when it is the right time. I think our pets are blessed to live in the present, mostly, so they do not have the mental anguish we do. The main thing is they know your love for them.
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Micmel, I see you have the same "no dogs on the furniture" rule as we do. How do you say "no" to this face? We're looking, too, at maybe saying good-bye to our guy. It's breaking our hearts, but as long as he can get up (maybe with a little help) and can walk, we're going to let him enjoy life.
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Oh Mel, sending love. This is hard but kind.
Good luck tomorrow Tanya.
Goldens, your goldens are beautiful.
I have a beagle and terrier. They give such love.
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Tanya,
Praying for you-hoping for a smooth, successful surgery and for the pain to be gone.
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heavy pockets Tanya.
Sunshine. I am a sap when it comes to snuggles with my Tag he wasn’t much of a bed sleeper Deeohgee is. Tag loves his dog bed. It’s adorable. He knows it’s his. Precious dogs we have....
Jen~Cute Lil guy. I love beagles. They make us smile no matter what ! I want to hug him. Lol
Waving to Chicagoan
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The virtual happy hour is great! It is the highlight of my week as I am stuck at home and have many conversations with my dogs! They are not very conversational. Maybe I should get a husky - they are pretty talkative. My hubby assumes that even when I’m talking to him, he figures I’m talking to the pups - lol!
So very thankful for modern technology which allows us to see who we’re speaking with0 -
I agree Goldens, seeing people makes such a difference for sure. I will say I have a person who started as a wellness check call and she asked me if we could be friends outside of the wellness check. We talk 5 days a week as friends and that has been a godsend to me. We do not ever intend to meet in person, we both like the phone only idea and we are friends on facebook. It is a good boundary to have in order to maintain out wellness check relationship as well.
I am also hoping the best for Tanya and was snuggled in her pocket early on.
More beautiful dogs, good tto see as well. Saying hello right back to Mel. A person at the grocery store complemented me on one of Mels masks, it had some pink, purple and somewhat gold tones. Wore it with a pink shirt and head covering. Thanks Mel.
I did a lot yesterday, feeling tired today so taking it easy. Mostly laundry and surveys being done. My cat is helping me with the surveys on the laptop as you can see. Very cute boy my Tigger.
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Micmel, I am so sorry about your baby. Mine are long gone, but looking at their pictures still makes me happy. Here are the last two darlings I had:
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Tanya, you are in my thoughts. I hope all goes smoothly and you get great results.
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precious kitty!!!!! Looks like a nice pal! Love affectionate cats.... glad your mask was a hit for you Mara. Glad you’re all getting use of them. My next postal run should be Wednesday or Thursday. Doctors appointment tomorrow. (Simone🥰).
Thinking of you Tanya.
Hello Melissa. Love your puppies!!! Miss then when they go. I know it’s been a while for me But I’ll miss them when they go. Only one for now. But eventually we loose them all.
Goldies...welcome back. You now have a chair with your name on it. sunshine. Hello darling. Good to see you.0 -
This is my other Deeohgee. This is is new hang out spot. Behind the curtain and under my ironing board. He’s been very clingy to me lately. I think he may sense my sadness and know something is going on 0
