My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
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Kitty, I’m so sorry you’re still not well. You are in my thoughts as well. Hugs.
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Thank you Mods! Happy New Year!
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Kitty, I am sorry you are still in hospital. Only nice thing is the sunshine to brighten things up. Hoping you feel better soon.
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I was having trouble going to sleep, even with Zquill onboard, because the fireworks were going off like crazy. Finally had a thought that even though it won’t be that comfortable, I have wireless headphones. I put them on and put on some sleep music. Worked like a charm. I remember hearing about two booms and out I went.
Thank you, Mods. Happy New Year.
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Morning all to 2021 (8am here).
I slept thru midnight. I went to bed at 9:30 (usual bedtime) and did not hear anything. Usually neighbors set off fireworks or shoot a gun. I don't know if they did or not.
Kittykat- I pray you get to feeling better and turn the corner on this illness. Not a good way to start 2021 in a hospital bed. The skies are blue though--- is it summer there for you?
Same old same old here. Piddling around the house. I am thankful though that I am stable and in my own home. Just wish, well you know, I have said it enough. Just get bored and lonely.
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Hi Candy, yes its summer here, it's going to be in the mid 90's all week, I live one street back from the beach, that is where I would normally be if I
wasn't stuck in this hospital. My oncologist, Sanjana, came to see me and has ordered a big dose of prednisone via iv drip, she thinks that will fix my breathing problem within a day or two. I trust her so much, she has been calling and texting me every day since I got here.
Besides being in the hospital I feel so lucky to be living down here, I'm sorry you're stuck inside ,I truly hope that they can get on top of this virus so that all of you can get back to some sort of normality. This is my backyard, I can't wait to get back there.
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absolute heaven! Feel better soon.....
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Kittykat- I hope the pred works for you and you turn the corner on this. I am a winter person. I do not like summer. And 90's, yuck. But our summers are humid, so it feels like "the air you wear" and I cannot breathe too well in the summer. I hope you can get back to your beach soon though.
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Happy New Year or content New Year or better than last year New Year to all!!!!
Woke up yesterday with nasty hip pain radiating. The acupuncture doctor worked on it for an hour and I am grateful for that. I hate to start the day with pain meds. I also got a B-12 shot. Had a nap for a few hours which is really fine sleeping that I don't usually get. Surprised myself and was asleep by 10:30 even after a nap and with fireworks going off. Woke up refreshed.
Kitty I hope your steroid drip helps your breathing. Your backyard is wonderful. I hope you get back to sandy beach life soon. We can go out here in FL for exercise and necessities.
I think people are still partying and vacationing here in sunny FL. My grandson snuck out one night this week and went to a party. Disgusting for us but I suspect he's not the only 15 year old who's sneaking. And then there are the adults ...and so I suspect that all of my fellow Americans who know how to fix everything now since they can bake a non soggy banana bread can try to take Covid seriously and consider that we're all in this together; there's no "us" or "them", just "we". and "we" need to fix this.
Tanya
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after the time I’ve had dealing with it. It’s NO joke. My son was very sick. Everyone needs to mask up. Wash your hands. And keep away from crowds and mixing households. I think that’s what it’s gotta be. We all get enough food for two weeks straight. No going anywhere. Just stay inside. There would be no hosts for it to attach. Someone needs to get a bright idea in government somehow. Because too many are dying. And it’s only getting worse. My son is better but who says he can’t get it again. ? I still have to be careful everywhere I go. So we are still heightened. Quite.
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Kitty, I'm sorry you're still in the hospital too. Although, it may be the best place for you if your lung issue is still not improving? That beach looks very inviting. I hope you're able to get there soon!
Mel, I'm glad your DS is getting better, and I hope maybe things are calming down a bit for you?
Mae, thanks for the product name. I think I'm going to try it, especially because it’s OTC and you’re someone I “know” who vouches for it. It says no hormones and that’s what my MO seems concerned about. My current prescription product is not helping much.
Happy 2021 to us all. I hope it lands gently for us and we can turn the corner on Covid.
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Rosie, I've tried a couple different ones and this absolutely works best plus it's versatile and comes with plastic applicators or can be used from the tube as a lubricant. The only downside is that it must be ordered from their website, so no running to Walgreens when you're out.
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Hello Ladies~ my step father came home today with a stent and he is worried about every little twinge and movement in his chest. Which I can't blame. My mom already said she knows she's gotta move back closer to me. She was quite upset at having to be all alone. It woke her up. It just seems everyday brings such challenges. The covid , my daughter having issues in her marriage, my son and his failure to launch. Having it pointed out that it's probably my fault. Too much coddling . Bad cancer lady. I am the only one that speaks to my mother out of two of four siblings. So it falls on me . My 60 year old brother had a heart attack back in the summer and he is still having complications with it and wears a boot for stability with his right side. So he cannot help at all. It makes me so mad ecause it was all lined up for her, makes me a little angry. This would be such an inconvenience for my family. If this was sudden .Why don't people think of others ? The ones close to you as well. Ugh! People suck!
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Mel, I am sorry that there is so much happening with your Stepfather's heart and your mother as well, people saying you coddled your son. Too much to deal with. I hope your DH is squarely in your corner for extra support which is obviously needed given the fact that you are also dealing with DD as well and your own situation. There better be some clear boundaries set if she does move near for both your sakes. You do not need more stress and quite frankly I am sure your mother and rest of the family don't need it either. Best of luck with this.
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Tanya, I am really not surprised your 15 year grandson snuck. I am definitely a believer in covid rules and lockdowns on gatherings. I can sympathize for kids not seeing friends they used to. It is tough.
I have a harder time with the adults who cannot be bothered staying in and partying as well. Definitely too much entitlement going on for adults and not enough of this pandemic taken seriously. Too much political arguing, too much covid deniers, anti maskers and antivaxers around as well and quite frankly, too many selfish thoughtless people in the world. Fines need to be high and strictly enforced. This is not just US but other places as well. Canada has its own jokers protesting masks and lockdowns or saying covid is a hoax. I stay home because of all those jokers and don't do very much when out other than groceries, some at Walmart, Dollarama and my local stores. I do go to DB as I am alone and allowed to be absorbed as part of his household but that is the only human in person contact I have unless being scanned or infusions at the cancer clinic. At the rate we are going, the pandemic feels like it will last years and years. I just don't see an end anytime soon.
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Mel, this is not your fault. None of this. It makes me angry that you’ve been made to feel it is. You didn’t coddle your son, you loved and raised him. He made choices and did what he had to live his life, and sadly go infected. Your daughters choice in husband was not something YOU could control and heaven forbid you reject him that you would lose your daughter, and finally, I’m sorry that your step dad had a heart attack. It isn’t your fault and not your responsibility to fix the situation. We do the best we can with the information we have and the tools at hand. It’s not always going to work out. And it’s not your fault if it doesn’t. Give you a break, and know you have done the best you can, gone above and beyond, and win or lose you still love them all. Xoxo
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Mel, I’m also sorry for all that you’re going through. I wish you could have peace and tranquility and not so much crap happening at once. Hugs to you from afar.
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Molliefish,
Exactly on point. Mel, you are, and have always been, the person everyone comes to for answers, but those same people need to stand on their own two feet. You are not “Mrs. Fixit". You have enough on your own plate. Once your DS is well and able, it's time for him to go. Why not have a family sit down with you, DH and DS and tell him it's time to find his own place. Then it's not all on you.
Your mother chose where she wanted to live, not you. So let her figure out what next steps are. Your DD may need to move back home until she can get back on her feet, but as Molliefish said, clear boundaries (a nightly curfew) are in order. When I moved back home after college, my parents gave me a curfew. It wasn't long before I found a good job and moved back out.
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Mel, still agree with all posters above and hope that you give yourself space to say no if too much being put on you to fix. Hoping today is looking a bit better for you as well today.
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I had a good time at DB last night for dinner, just the 5 of us but was good. Stayed up late last night for some reason so woke up tired. Since I have no real plans, just listening to some 80s and 90s music, singing along as well and occasionally dancing sort of. I will probably put on some cleats and do some outdoor walking. Is beautiful and sunny out and that does not happen so often.
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My husband and I decided yesterday that it's time to say good-bye to our sweet boy, Jeeves. He has multiple tumors growing on him and he's getting so weak. He falls and has trouble getting up. Last night (early this AM), he came into out bedroom and asked to get on our bed. He hasn't been up there in ages because he can't even get his front paws up there without collapsing. My husband lifted all 90 pounds of him up there and he (Jeeves) turned around a couple of times and then settled down to sleep. It was nice to be sharing our Queen-size bed with him again.
He's still eager to go on his morning walks with my husband, but he's now having trouble eating. There is a wonderful vet who provides in-home euthanasia. We've sent her a message and hopefully can do this on Tuesday. Our hearts are breaking, but it's harder to see him suffer. He is such a stoic guy, as most Airedales are. He's our third Airedale Terrier.
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Micmel-Sorry for all the stress you are dealing with right now. I have a slightly different perspective on the situation with your son. Is it you who wants him out of the house or just your DH? It seems kind of unfair to brand him as a "failure to launch" since he has been an essential worker with a steady job; many young adults are living with their parents so that they can save for their own homes these days. If your DH will be required to relocate again once the vaccines are readily available, it could be quite handy to have your son living with you, helping with snow and yard work, rather than you being alone most of the week. I'm just raising these questions for you to think about. To me it seems like you have been a great mother to your kids and they both seem to have found careers. I know the situation is probably pretty complicated. My best wishes for a peaceful solution for all parties that doesn't shame anyone.
Sunshine-I feel for you. So awful to have to say goodbye to a beloved pet.
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Aw Sunshine, big hugs. I hate the endings so much
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Hello all.
I have been reading along, just do not know what to say.
Family issues are hard. Multi-faceted. I know mine are. Seems family is the ones we should rely on, but usually the ones that hurt us the most.
Sunshine I am sorry. My cat of 10 years sleeps with me, walks around the house in whatever room I am in, and sits in my lap when I am reading. The day I was gone to my all day MO visit, when I came home he was screaming for me. Screaming. I hope I outlive him, because I don't know what he will do without me. But I dread the time when I lose him.
Today is cloudy and cold. Snow showers earlier. Making out bills and doing laundry.
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Oh sunshine, I’m so sorry. Many of us have be where you are in recent years and know how devastating it is. Sometimes doing the right thing for them is the hardest thing for us. Big hugs.
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Sunshine, I am sorry to hear about your dog jeeves. My thoughts are with you.
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Sunshine, we were just where you are in September with our beloved Tag. I feel so much for your family. I still think of him every day. Sending a big hug of support. And understanding.
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Mel, I remember that and I cried when I read your posts about Tag. It's so damn sad! You don't want to wait until they're totally miserable, but sometimes when they look at you, you just know... Jeeves is an "only dog" so the only broken hearts will be ours.
Thank you all for understanding and your kind words. It never gets any easier, does it?
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Sunshine, I too had to say goodbye to my boy in September. My heart goes out to you. It really is the sucky part of having a wonderful life with our pets. Hugs to your family.
Do you ever see those commercials where they show how excited the dog is for his owner to come home from a long deployment from the military? I can walk out of my house and come back five minutes later, and I get that exact reaction from my doxie. She screams like she hasn’t seen us in months every time we come home.
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