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Topic: "The most ENCOURAGING things said to you during your journey"

Forum: Biographies and Inspiring Stories —

Share your personal story, diagnosis, and treatment path, and stories of survival, hope, and success to encourage and inspire others!

Posted on: Sep 7, 2011 07:04PM - edited Jun 7, 2012 10:29PM by ToriGirl

ToriGirl wrote:

Sisters,

I think we can always use another "feel good" thread, so I thought this one would be a good one to go with...

I know we already have a thread for the dumbest and worst things people have said to you during our journeys, but how about the most encouraging things said to or done for you?

I've read many posts throughout BC.org where doctors, nurses, techs, therapists, friends, spouses, partners, family members and other survivors have been exactly where we have needed them to be at the right time and said exactly what we needed to hear when we needed it the most.  (Or for that matter, have DONE exactly what what we needed them to do without even asking)

These are the words and acts of kindness that have stuck with us, whether it was from early on when we first got our diagnosis to when we ended active treatment and started to move on with our new "normal". They kept us going and continue to do so, as we move onto better, happier, and healthier days ahead.

Please share these comments, stories, remarks, acts of kindness, quotes, (whatever you'd like), that have most encouraged you and still encourage you today...OR share how you have "paid it forward" to someone else who is going through this journey, when they needed it most.  Whatever your heart has to share, please feel free to do so.

What you share today, may be the one thing that someone on the board needs to hear right now.

Thanks so much! 

Tori 

DE COLORES! 

"Sorrow carves the opening for joy later..." Dx 6/4/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIA, 1/11 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 6, 2017 01:48AM Freya wrote:

NYCexec, it is lovely that you connected in that way :)

When I told one of my staff, also a friend, that I had BC, her response surprised me. She told me that I could be as intimidating as all hell, and that the cancer would soon learn it was pointless in trying to take me on.

It always makes me laugh when I think of that, for one I have never thought of myself as intimidating, just decisive with common sense. I'm now stage IV, although still doing well, so perhaps I need to up the intimidation factor Winking

Dx 2009, ILC/IDC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/liver, Grade 3, 14/22 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jan 6, 2017 01:56AM Meow13 wrote:

I think the numbers give me some comfort every year that passes with NED the risk of returning goes down even for er+ cancer. The oncodx number was one of the most tramatic pieces of information I received. A huge 34 burned into my brain, It is just a number but so much importance is placed on it. I feel after 5 years the piece of paper is fading away and forgotten. I have not only hope but a good prognosis.

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Jan 9, 2017 11:55AM bcincolorado wrote:

Wonderful story. Thank you for sharing!

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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Feb 16, 2017 08:50PM Fiftyyears wrote:

Me: Stats showed that stage3 has a 75% chance to live X yrs, 25% to lI've pass Y yrs.

Me: How many years do you think I can live.

Husband: 50! Because that's how long I'm gonna live too! 😍😍😍


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Feb 16, 2017 08:52PM cliff wrote:

" daddy, I'm Pregnant" just days after my surgery for stage 4 breast cancer.

Dx 3/16/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, 2/21 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Surgery 4/1/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Feb 16, 2017 09:06PM Hopfull2 wrote:

my sister sent me a message before doing my 1st chemo treatment and told me she always admired me but now she admires me even more for being so strong

E🌺37yrs.old/ oncotype score 39 Dx 7/5/2016, DCIS/IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 8/8/2016 Mastectomy: Right Surgery 9/15/2016 Mastectomy Chemotherapy 11/10/2016 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Hormonal Therapy 3/23/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Feb 16, 2017 09:27PM wallan wrote:

The best thing that was said to me first time was by my radiologist - "I can erase this from your life so its a bad memory". I could have kissed him.

This time around - a friend of mine took me for a spa day with her, her treat, the day before my SNB.

And this time: A coworker from work called me when I took time off and told me to keep putting one foot in front of the other and that I will be back at work. He and I were not close and I thought for a man in management to call and be encouraging was really something.


Dx 3/29/2004, IDC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 2/18 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/31/2004 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 6/1/2004 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 12/1/2004 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Dx 1/25/2017, LCIS/DCIS/ILC/IDC/IDC: Mucinous/IDC: Cribriform, Left, <1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/8/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting Hormonal Therapy Aromasin (exemestane), Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Feb 21, 2017 03:41AM - edited Feb 21, 2017 03:43AM by tessu

I was paralyzed with anxiety over a biopsy of a new lump, and also horribly ashamed and frustrated that yes every new odd "thing" in my body set off yet another cancer scare. My best friend's text gave me enormous relief. I'm still waiting for pathology results, but somehow am not so miserable because she gave me permission to be scared:



Dx 7/29/2015, IDC, Right, Grade 3, 0/9 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 8/19/2015 Mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 9/9/2015 Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy 9/9/2015 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 11/11/2015 CEF Hormonal Therapy 1/25/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 12/20/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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May 13, 2017 08:24PM Dafne wrote:

There are many great things my husband, mom, family and friends told me during the BC journey (I just won't permit myself to count the bullshit, negative ones lol), but one particular comment gave a very strange feeling of calmness and helped me a lot at a very fragile and stressful time. It was a couple days after my bilateral mastectomy and I was still at the hospital. An old lady was a patient in the bed next to mine, and her son was there for a visit. We chatted a little and I needed to get up and move around, you know still having the dreaded drains and feeling like a truck had run over me. I was in great pain and moaning but tried to make a lousy bittersweet joke about my looks. Then, this guy, turns to me and tells me "Why do you say that? You are beutiful, you are an amazon now. Be proud of yourself and your courage".

He made me cry, (very very emotional back then), but somehow he helped me a lot. I still remember his words everytime I'm in pain and I get frustrated over this.

Dear cancer, thank you for making me stop and listen and remember what's really important. You can go now. Surgery 10/25/2016 Lumpectomy: Left, Right Dx 11/1/2016, DCIS/IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 11/1/2016, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/28/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Dx 5/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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May 16, 2017 09:10AM bcincolorado wrote:

My breast surgeon told me I had "nice cancer". Crazy as it seems it was encouraging that I would come out on the other side of surgery and treatment at some point.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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May 19, 2017 08:00AM KB870 wrote:

A couple of ladies at the YMCA told me that I was an inspiration to others because I kept swimming through Chemo and never hid anything, no wigs or caps. That was a pleasant surprise to me because I had never thought of it helping other people.

Diagnosed at 62 when I was feeling great! Active swimmer, erger and more. Surgery 9/19/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Dx 10/6/2016, IDC, Left, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (IHC) Surgery 10/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Sentinel Targeted Therapy 11/28/2016 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 11/29/2016 Taxol (paclitaxel) Radiation Therapy 4/3/2017 Multi-catheter: Breast
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May 19, 2017 12:25PM bcincolorado wrote:

KB870 I used to work with someone years before my dx who had recurrance going on and worked and came into work (had to continue for insurance) and would take off scarf (she was hot) and didn't care if someone came in. She stayed pretty upbeat through her fight (she lost it unfortunately) but when I was dx I remembered her fondly and how she handled it with grace and just hoped I could do the same so if my own daughter should end up facing this battle someday she might be remembered how I did not vocalize to everyone my woes and tried to keep a good outlook to the outside world, even if I was crying inside.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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May 20, 2017 09:33PM JJOntario wrote:

I love this..

44 yrs old. 2 daughters. Oncotype Scoree 16. Breast augmentation done 10 months prior to dx. Surgery 11/30/2014 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Dx 12/1/2014, IDC, 1cm, Stage IA, 0/13 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 12/7/2014 Lumpectomy: Right Hormonal Therapy 1/28/2015 Radiation Therapy 3/28/2015
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May 21, 2017 08:58AM edwards750 wrote:

My BS told me I had a wimpy cancer whatever that really means. He was also the one surprised when the Path report showed a micromet in the SN. So much for the wimpy cancer except that I did have Stage 1b, grade 1 IDC - 6 years out this August.

My most encouraging words came from the techs doing the radiation. I had 33 treatments. One of them had been a tech for over 20 years. She told me I was blessed my tumor was small and early Stage. She told me I had reason to feel positive. She had seen many more BC cases with more unfavorable outlooks. While she isn't an expert I am holding onto her optimism and my 11 Oncotype score.

No guarantees of course but still room for optimism.

Diane


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May 21, 2017 10:02AM Sandeeonherown wrote:

7 years from my original diagnosis... 2.5 years since my bilateral mastectomy... 14 days since the removal of my third implant on yhe cancer side and 26 hours before they do my final surgery to remove the second,Malformed implant... the most encouraging things said to me  have been "You are the most courageous woman I know" and "If anyone can do this, you can".

 Knowing there are people in my camp who believe in me, who cook meals for me when I am recovering at home and who keep their thoughts to themselves when I go back to work (or paddle, or go dancing or fly to China) earlier than everyine anticipates or believes is good for me or what they would do...

These are the things that get me through and these are the people I surround myselfmwkth.

Sandee... still here,still grateful and still the happiest person I know!
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May 21, 2017 05:12PM tessu wrote:

^ JJOntario Thank you for posting that Snoopy cartoon. I need to remind myself of that :)

Dx 7/29/2015, IDC, Right, Grade 3, 0/9 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 8/19/2015 Mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 9/9/2015 Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy 9/9/2015 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 11/11/2015 CEF Hormonal Therapy 1/25/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 12/20/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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May 21, 2017 08:25PM SCM12 wrote:

JJOntario - great cartoon.

The week after my biopsy I dia several exams and I was saying to my BS while crying "I'm so afraid. Everyday I have a bad new". 1st a 18 mm mass in rhe ultrasound, 2nd MRI showed it was 25 mm, 3rd pathology report said it was grade 3 triple negative... I was stil waiting for bone scans and other staging exams. She told me: " my patients are superwomen... working, being with their families while all this is happening, but you know bad news will stop". And it helped me.

During these times (chemotherapy and surgery) i also revisited in my mind one scene from Game of thrones whem someone teaching Arya how to use the sword told her something like "when dead comes to take you, you must fight and say - not today". And i have been thinking that all the time. I might die from this disease - but not today.


Dx 10/20/2016, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 10/28/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 5/15/2017 Lumpectomy: Left Radiation Therapy Breast
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May 22, 2017 02:34PM bcincolorado wrote:

jjontario--I love that! I have a dear friend who works in a mental health office and had to share it with her as well.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)

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