Sep 10, 2019 09:26AM illimae wrote:
Wishing you good luck nance
Managing life after a breast cancer diagnosis, including rediscovering intimacy, coping with fear of recurrence, reconnecting relationships, sharing hobbies and interests, and finding inspiration in daily life.
Posted on: Feb 1, 2011 04:28PM
I thought it might be fun to start a thread on what we are having, making or had for dinner. Sometimes it is the best tuna steak you ever had, sometimes it's a can of soup. But we all do it every night in some form or another. Maybe we can give each other ideas on what to make, or bitch about what we had, or the fact that we did enjoy that grilled cheese with tomato soup.
Every night my husband comes home and says "whats for dinner?" no matter what I say he always says "sounds good!" even if I say it's a 'fend for yourself night'. :)
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Sep 10, 2019 09:26AM illimae wrote:
Wishing you good luck nance
Sep 10, 2019 09:22PM ChiSandy wrote:
In your pocket for Friday's diagnostic imaging, Nancy. Hope it's just radiation scarring.
Got my second Butcher Box shipment today, and my freezers are at Defcon 1: stuffed to the gills. I'd better go back and switch my frequency from every 6 weeks (had been monthly) to 2 months. I will probably remove the breakfast sausage from my future orders, since it comes as a 1-lb. bulk frozen blob--I could lace it with fennel and use it for Bolognese sauce, but I don't make breakfasts large enough to make decent use of it. My housekeeper is willing to take some. Think I'll also ditch the sirloin culotte steak, because it's too big. Might go for some chicken thighs & legs instead. I now have 1-1/2+ lbs. of wild-caught Alaskan salmon, which is a PITA to defrost--have to take it out of the cryovac to avoid anaerobic bacteria proliferation (not a problem with the beef, pork or bacon). The bacon--1 lb. pkgs--is delish and Animal Welfare-certified too, but once defrosted & opened needs to be used up w/in a week. I can't (and shouldn't) eat that much of it. 2 slices in a BLT or with eggs are about as much as I can handle. Sigh--I sure do miss my Snake River Farms quarterly Wagyu shipments, but their stuff is much more expensive, and grain-fed to boot. Butcher Box is all from 100% pastured critters.
On my way home from picking up my new custom orthotics (plus some rubber arch support sandals to wear at home), I stopped at Buffalo Wild Wings because it's "twofer Tuesday." Alas, when I got there I found out they changed that to "dine-in only," but rather than walking out I ordered a "small" (9 wings) trad (no breading or flour) Buffalo-mild to go, with celery & blue cheese dressing. Ate 6 for dinner, but all of the celery & half the dressing. Glad I decided to get them, as the salmon filet I began to defrost in the fridge is still hard as a rock.
Sep 10, 2019 10:07PM MinusTwo wrote:
Nance - yup - scanxiety every single time. As Illi says, we'll be in your pocket and anxiously waiting to hear the results.
It's obvious that I've been channeled off to Civic Club stuff and have not time to even contemplate my trip, let alone the spectacular meals. So just a teaser.
The "special" dinner my son arranged was at The Richmond Restaurant on Balboa St. It is owned & run by the chef & his wife. It has 6 (only six) tables. Once you have a reservation at one of the tables, you have it for the entire night. They don't turn the tables. All tables are surrounded by curtains/drapes to ensure complete privacy - but I expect the 'two top' to our West was a bit pissed. We were undoubtedly loud and maybe even boisterous. You can choose a 3 course or 5 course dinner. Each of those can include wine pairings. The three course meal was $50 and the wine pairings was another $40 - but we all wanted different wines so we branched off into the wild and likely spent more on our wines. Dinner courses to follow tomorrow but the Tawny Port with desert was delicious - and all four deserts were to die for.
The rest of the meals were mostly fish. Linguine with shrimp & scallops in Monterey. Boston clam chowder at Boudin's on SF Wharf. Dungeness Crab cup on the wharf (wasn't really Dungeness). The best Alaskan halibut I've ever eaten at the Cliff House in SF. Wild caught salmon with spinach & shrimp cream sauce at Brophy Bros. on the wharf in Santa Barbara. (thank you Special K) Northern Scottish scones at the Tuck Box in Carmel with Olallieberry jam and orange marmalade. Not to mention the Olallieberry pie and cheesecake. After this magnificence, the chicken w/creamed mushroom sauce at the wedding was boring - even though it came with asparagus.
More details about the 3 course meal later. At least I have the menus from that restaurant so I won't forget.
Sep 10, 2019 10:28PM MinusTwo wrote:
Here's the appetizer menu
Sep 10, 2019 10:29PM MinusTwo wrote:
Oops - doesn't look like the photo went through. I'll deal with it tomorrow.
Sep 10, 2019 10:43PM Lacey12 wrote:
Well....yum! That’s a great start, Minus!
Heading to your pocket for Friday, Nance!
Tonight, I did make myself egg shakshuka while DH polished off most of the rest of that not so special (I thought) lobster mac and cheese. I wasn’t even tempted to see if it was more flavorful as a leftover. But I would imagine that your chili would be, Carole.
Sep 11, 2019 07:09AM carolehalston wrote:
Sorry, Nance, that you're subjected to this stress. Fingers crossed. I wasn't worried about my needle biopsy that led to diagnosis of bc. I had undergone a similar biopsy some years earlier with no similar diagnosis. We had the big 5th wheel parked outside the house and loaded up for a long summer trip that was not to happen.
Last night's shared ribeye was good. Sides were boiled new potatoes cut into large dice and a salad of sliced tomato and cucumber. Easy and satisfying.
I have fresh green beans for tonight as a starter for a menu.
Sep 11, 2019 07:22AM auntienance wrote:
Thanks a lot guys 💋
Sep 11, 2019 09:03AM Beaverntx wrote:
Nance, you may need a bigger pocket, I'm headed there too. Seems the "test stress" never ends...
Sep 11, 2019 03:59PM MinusTwo wrote:
Carole - I love your 5th wheel story. I had tickets and reservations for a week of shows in NYC and a month later for a cruise to Alaska with my kiddos. My MO recommended starting chemo right away because I was HER2+, although he would OK NYC if I was adamant. Hell no, I was scared to death. Neither of those happened either.
Sep 11, 2019 05:58PM auntienance wrote:
Well as it turns out, when I went to see my mo today, she said she was going to see if she could finagle me into radiology today instead of waiting until Friday. She did, and after a diagnostic mammogram (including two rounds of "more pictures") and an ultrasound, it was finally determined that the suspicious area is most likely scar tissue. To be sure I have to have another one in six months, but the radiologist was pretty certain and the ultrasound showed nothing unusual. She is the head of the radiology department at the Women's Center where I get treatment (Siteman Cancer Center) so I'm confident in her abilities. At least for the foreseeable future, my tests will be diagnostic so I won't have to play the stressful waiting game for results. Anyway, I am much relieved.
After a very stressful day, dinner was grilled cheese and tomato soup (in spite of the 95° day) and it was perfect.
Sep 11, 2019 06:04PM - edited Sep 11, 2019 06:12PM by ChiSandy
We had a Mediterranean cruise planned for Dec. 2015 when Bob's CT scan after a hemicolectomy (for a perforated colon from a botched colonoscopy) showed a 2cm "incidentaloma" on his lung. We put the cruise on hold in case he needed a biopsy and subsequent cancer treatment. 2 mos. later, it was down to 2mm., so we got the go-ahead to proceed with the cruise. Three weeks later, I got my "focal asymmetry" mammo report, and the rest is history. I told both my surgeon and MO about the cruise, and the MO said that even if my Oncotype were to come back high enough to recommend chemo, she could schedule the cycles so that the cruise would be during a "recovered" week in the cycle. But as luck would have it, I didn't need chemo. Next question was whether I'd have to ditch the cruise due to rads (std. of care had been 33 sessions of whole-breast). But my RO said I was a candidate for 16 sessions of targeted hypofractionated rads--which gave me a good 3 weeks between the last zap and the cruise.
Too late to set up the grill and soak a cedar plank before the storms roll in--so I'll pan-sear the salmon instead, and likely have it with snap peas.
Sep 11, 2019 06:08PM MinusTwo wrote:
Nance - hooray. Great news. Bring on the scar tissue. Well not, but still better than any other lurking things. Glad they've scheduled you for diagnostic up front in the future.
Sep 11, 2019 06:11PM - edited Sep 11, 2019 06:12PM by Lacey12
Interesting to be thinking about the punctuated time of our diagnoses during this week of solemn remembrance of the national tragedy no one in our country will ever forget. Hard to believe 9/11 happened 18 years ago already. But my point is how vivid memories of “assaults" remain for us...whether it be something as horrific as the 9/11 tragedies or the personal/familial sudden impact we experience when learning of a cancer dx.
I was fortunate that my dx, just a bit over 8 years ago, was at the end of my summer, as I was preparing to return to my caseload, and other roles, at school. No trips needed to be missed, but I felt the intense worry about disclosing my condition since several fragile students in counseling with me had recently lost parents to cancer. I decided to share what was happening with the teaching staff, at our staff only day luncheon. I explained what I had just learned, promptly cried (briefly), and took them all into my confidence, explaining that I wanted them to know since my (usually ten hour) days would have to be shortened during my radiation treatment. I was able to return to school two days after my surgeries, so that wasn't too disruptive. I asked the teachers to keep my health info to themselves, not sharing it with their students, school parents, neighbors or local relatives (schools tend to be very “incestuous" in terms of people who work in them often living near them and boundaries are pretty fluid), since doing that would make my job almost impossible and would create unnecessary fear in the children on my counseling caseload. Obviously, I was able to do this as long as I didn't have to undergo chemo. I was lucky my oncotype contraindicated that. In fact, the staff was so wonderful, and never divulged the info to anyone who would be affected by it negatively. What a blessing that was! I'm thankful to this day that I could put that worry to rest! And I'm really glad that I never had to unpack a fifth wheeler while anticipating treatment!
All that said, tonight we had an oddly coupled, but tasty, dinner of things that happened to be available in the fridge: eggplant parm, corn on the cob, and a cucumber/watermelon/scallion/fresh mint salad with balsamic vinaigrette. The salad was absolutely delicious!
Ah ha...just saw your note Nance! Yay! Happy dancing for you....
Sep 11, 2019 07:48PM Beaverntx wrote:
Nance, fantastic!! And praises for a "finaglin'" MO who is a blessing!
Sep 11, 2019 07:49PM Reader425 wrote:
Nance, so happy for your news. I went through quite a lengthy period of 6 month scans on left due to 'probable' fat necrosis. Finally deemed B9 last scan. In October I get L and R diagnostic mammos and, if okay, graduate to yearly. I too get scanziety.
Sandy am horrified your doctor (?) Hub had a botched colonoscopy! Noone should, but I guess I've tended to think healthcare profs. try to take care of each other...wow.
Hubby got home from travel so dinner tonight was Thai takeout of chicken satay with peanut sauce and Pineapple cashew Fried Rice. What was in it seemed healthy but that fried part probably wasnt good.
Sep 11, 2019 08:18PM ChiSandy wrote:
Hooray for scar tissue, Nancy!
Bob had used a freestanding GI outpatient endoscopy clinic affiliated with his main hospital in the near SW suburbs for his first two 'scopes--the principal doc at the clinic is a direct colleague, and his partner actually is our housekeeper's GI doc. For his second 'scope (and my first) a new partner was brought in. Once again, they found polyps in Bob's colon and recommended a 3 yr followup. He went 4 yrs before reluctantly getting a followup (physician, heal thyself?). That day--a spring Friday with storms threatening--patients were stacked up like planes at O'Hare. I didn't know that, and was surprised by how long his 'scope seemingly took. The GI doc came in and said there were 2 polyps, one "sessile" (flat & not moving ) and one "pedunculated" (on a stalk), and were biopsied but didn't look malignant. Bob was getting a nasty caffeine-withdrawal headache, but the clinic had shut down the coffeemaker. We headed north, Bob still sort of drowsy, to go through the Starbucks drive-thru before hitting the freeway north; but the storm clouds rolled in and Bob decided it was best to head home while he slept off the anesthetic. He woke up on I-55 just as it was feeding into Lake Shore Drive, with very sharp pain, and it was still pouring. It was mid-rush hour and we couldn't even get to an off-ramp to turn around or head to his hospital's (or any) E.R.
After a 2+ hr. drive we got home; he decided to sleep in the lounger and hope the pain would abate. I surreptitiously Googled "complications of colonoscopy," and my suspicions were confirmed that his pain wasn't just from polyp excision but rather likely bowel perforation. He awoke still in pain, and I told him "I think they perfed your colon." He replied, "yeah, that's what I think too." He called the GI doc, who told him to come to the E.R. at their hospital. Yeah, right--storms and still massive traffic. So the doc told him to go to any E.R. I asked him if he could make it down the stairs so I could take him to Evanston Hospital--topnotch, 15-20 min, away. He nodded, got up out of his chair, and nearly fell against the adjacent dresser. "Sit down," I told him, "I'm calling 911." The most stoic & self-reliant guy I know just said, "OK." The Chi. FD EMTs couldn't take him to Evanston Hospital, which is too far north for their jurisdiction--he could either go to the hellhole that is Weiss Hosp. in Uptown or St. Francis in south Evanston. We chose the latter, and I followed the ambulance.
CT scan indicated a perforation, but only to the mesentery--not a full-thickness tear. It took two more admissions during which the residents pretty much medically-(mis)managed him nearly into heart failure. Two days after discharge, pain again. This time no fooling around--a different general surgery group saw him and immediately whisked him into surgery, which was successful...until a long-standing hernia blew two weeks later. By the time he healed, we were soooo ready for travel fun...and then Mother Nature said "not so fast--honey, it's your turn."
He likes St. Francis, but I love Evanston & the North Shore system. (And my GI there, head of the dept., was my PCP doc's Chief Resident at UIC Hosp. back in the day...and my PCP was Bob's Chief Resident).
Pan-seared wild sockeye salmon tonight (ATK's easy recipe) with sugar snap peas sauteed with sesame seeds, garlic & ginger.
Sep 11, 2019 09:49PM - edited Sep 12, 2019 09:58AM by Magari
Happy to join in celebrating Nance's good news!
Minus - I've been to The Richmond (which is in my old neighborhood), but not for a few years. Sounds like it's still a special place and we should make a reservation soon!
Tonight we had lamb shoulder chops with roasted potatoes and onions and blistered padron peppers. With a lovely Ridge Primitivo that a friend who's a member of their wine club gave me.
Last night was significantly humbler - vegetable fried rice.
Diagnosis memories - This whole month is a tough one for me. My birthday, 9/11, the anniversaries of my mother's sudden, unexpected death and my diagnosis are all within the same couple of weeks. I'm happy just to get through to October.
Sep 12, 2019 07:40AM carolehalston wrote:
Great news, Nance.
Awful memories, Magari. BC and loss of your mother in the same period. You are indeed a survivor.
Last night's dinner turned out to be stuffed poblanos and the fresh green beans with cooked new potato chunks warmed up in the pot of beans. The stuffing was a combination of what was on hand. Rice, fresh corn, diced small tomatoes from my plant, diced hatch chili, shredded "Mexican" cheese, cumin and chili powder. Not mind blowing but pleasantly tasty.
Tonight we'll be going to dinner at the Y Steak House restaurant, guests of the visiting owners.
Tomorrow night we'll drive to Bemidji with a couple we met at the golf club to dine at Sparkling Water, which is upscale for this area.
Today is a gloomy rainy day with cool temperatures. We needed the heat pump this morning.
Sep 12, 2019 08:04AM auntienance wrote:
Yike Sandy! That's quite a horror story!
Magari, I can certainly relate. I found the lump in my breast while my mom was in hospice and delayed getting my mammogram for three months because of it. I got to spend my birthday in radiology (brachytherapy 2 x a day) after my mom died. Just when I thought I was home free, nope - oncotype score came back. The rest of the year was spent in chemo. 2011 was a year I was happy to see go.
Dinner is yet to be determined.
Sep 12, 2019 10:20AM - edited Sep 12, 2019 10:21AM by Magari
Just edited my post above to clarify that all the difficult September dates didn't occur in the same year.
I lost my mom six days after my birthday, but years before my diagnosis. Although I missed having her support, in some ways I was glad that she was spared the worry of my cancer and treatment. Especially since we have a strong family history.
Sep 12, 2019 07:54PM Reader425 wrote:
Wow Sandy what a story! So glad you and hubby came out of it in one piece!
I have a timing/diagnosis story I'll share sometime when I'm not too tired to type it. It was a busy day today, including Dentist appointment and trip to the local orchard. And last night was a "no sleep no thanks to Arimidex" night. Doesn't happen too much so maybe I shouldn't blame the little pill.
Stuffed multicolored peppers with beef and rice and cantaloupe mozzarella ball salad was what was for dinner. The beef filling was pre-made in the freezer so it was an easy one for a day like this.
Sep 13, 2019 09:45AM Magari wrote:
Our seafood CSA delivered Marin Miyagi oysters yesterday. So I made mignonette sauce and we had them raw, with sourdough bread and salad.
It was nearly 90 degrees yesterday, which is rare in SF. So this was a perfect meal for the weather.
Sep 13, 2019 09:54AM SpecialK wrote:
magari - beautiful photo! And I'm not even an oyster girl!
Looks like several of us share a Sept diagnosis date, makes October a difficult month, right? All I wanted to do was try not to be thinking about breast cancer 24/7 and it was pink everywhere, ugh.
auntie - so happy to know things are ok with your imaging - so nerve wracking for you!
Sep 13, 2019 07:07PM Lacey12 wrote:
What an inviting dinner table, Magari! My mussels monger DH would be out of his mind. 😉 And how hard for you to get through Sept. So sorry that you had to deal with such a difficult time...and all the ongoing Sept anniversaries.
Wild, scarystory, Sandy! Glad that all worked out well, over time!
Tonight I made my favorite cod filet with Rao’s puttanesca sauce and sautéed fresh veggies, over orzo with a side salad. And I made enough that we can have the leftovers either tomorrow or Sunday.
Sep 13, 2019 08:35PM eric95us wrote:
I would love sitting at that table too!!!! :-) DD, on the other hand, no. She is moderately allergic to shellfish.
Last night's dinner main dish was stuffed acorn squash....wild black rice, regular white rice, a LOT of onion, garlic, crushed walnuts, and cranberries and the squash itself.
Sep 13, 2019 08:41PM auntienance wrote:
Yum! What I wouldn't give for a seafood CSA . . .
Sep 14, 2019 02:49PM auntienance wrote:
Yesterday we picked a bushel of apples from a friend's tree, so today I processed apples into apple sauce for the freezer. I also managed to freeze several bags of peeled and sliced apples for pies. Always nice to have for last minute baking projects.
Tonight is lightly breaded and fried pork tenderloin, tiny potatoes a salad (or perhaps broccoli) and - of course - apple sauce.