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  • BethNY
    BethNY Member Posts: 74
    edited March 2008
    http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexsolo/0,,traceycox_7xmng9h9,00.html

    check out this article if you're a beginner with a vibrator!
  • Claiire
    Claiire Member Posts: 60
    edited August 2005

    Bumping this to the top!

  • Candle
    Candle Member Posts: 5
    edited August 2005
    Ok tell me where you order the pocket rocket. My curiosity is getting the best of me.

    Lackanookyinthesticks.
  • conniec
    conniec Member Posts: 31
    edited August 2005
    Hi Solly! Aaahh, yes, those LOVELY hard, plastic vibrators that always died and never really did the trick .... still have a few hanging around somewhere...

    A dear friend was very inventive, and found me a wonderful SOFT rubber BANANA vibe, but I was wondering just how BIG he thought I was! This thing had to be 4" in diameter, and made enough noise to wake the neighbors! Fun for show and tell, that's about all....

    OK, the Pocket Rocket is a clitoral stimulator. A friend of mine likes anal sex, and decided to use the pocket rocket. Well, as life likes to play nasty jokes on us, it "got lost," and off to the ER she and I went. Yup, she called me, told me what was happening,. how PAINFUL it was to have this thing stuck up there, and could I bring her to the ER. Doc wasn't phased in the least! Sure he's seen worse.... LOL!

    (BTW -- if anyone DOES like anal stimulators / inserts, make sure you buy ones that have long strings attached to them, to avoid the above problem. Not my cup of tea, but many women DO like anal sex).

    Solly -- the MAGIC WAND is also a clitoral and ovearall outer vaginal stimulator. Good on the nipples too, if it is anything like the POCKET ROCKET (if you still have nipples, and I now feel like and idiot....but some women here have had lumpectomies, and DO still have nipples....).

    SSSOOO, both the PR and the MW are made for clitoral stimulation. You CAN use the PR for vaginal stimulation, as well, but make sure you have really good vaginal muscles to push it out if it "gets lost,", or be sure to have a good grip on it! LOL!

    HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Hugs to all,
    ConnierC
  • conniec
    conniec Member Posts: 31
    edited August 2005
    Hello Claiire,

    I've seen people say "I'm bumping this up to the top" many times.

    and I have NO IDEA what that actually means! Does it get lost, or other topics get put in 'above' it, so maybe folks won't see it?

    thanks for any clarification!

    hugs to all!

    ConnierC
  • Solly
    Solly Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2005
    ConnieC,

    Boy do I wish I had nipples. I think that is a lot of my problem. That was my "turn-on". Now hubbie wants to go right to "heart" of the matter and I'm not near ready. Men can be ready in 2 minutes or less. Now it takes soo long for me, I thought I should get back into the daily vibrator thing to speed me up.

    In reply to your "bumping up question" as topics are replied to they go to the top of the page. So the older ones get dropped back pages. When you reply, it goes back to the top. So we don't want this thread to get lost so people bump it up occasionaly.
  • Claiire
    Claiire Member Posts: 60
    edited August 2005
    Connie,

    Bumping it to the top means that the topic gets sent to the top of the list because it has a recent post. Because there are so many active topics, if this one doesn't get at least a post a day, it could get lost on the 2nd page... then where would our mojo be

    Now.... ontopic... I swear I am turning into a man!! I am now looking at men I meet and wondering if they would be good in bed... not as a romantic partner... just as a Friend With Benefits (FWB).

    My girlfriends are cheering me on and seem to be living vicariously through my recent surge in sex drive...

    We are going out tonight for a "girls night" maybe I'll pick up a stud bunny!
  • Fitzy
    Fitzy Member Posts: 55
    edited August 2005
    The Friday Night Cyber Party could become the "Mojo, Go, Go"
    night! Hope you "score" a good FWB in Houston!
  • casinogirl
    casinogirl Member Posts: 476
    edited August 2005
    Connie - I too feel like I am turning into a man....I now think about sex ALL THE TIME. Could it be because I was in a basically sexless relationship for the last several years???



    Now I know why men can seem so distant and not "there"....it's because they think about sex all the time, just like ME now.



    I haven't had sex with anyone other than myself and my "toys" in almost TWO YEARS. I'm no Cindy Crawford, but I am attractive, petite..I bought my dream car 3 weeks ago - a Nissan 350Z and I still can't get laid. How sad is that?



    If I have to "take things into my own hands" for much longer, I'll simply explode. One of my friends said she just feels sorry for the first guy that "gets me".



    To all of you who are having great sex with an actual partner - KUDOS to you!! My day is "cuming" I can just feel it....



    In the meantime, I'll just continue to buy stock in Duracell...



    Donna
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited August 2005
    Connie, Connie, Connie...the Magic Wand is also a vaginal vibrator with the attachments....and they rock!

    So Solly...you have to buy the attachments if that's what you're looking for...It does everything....Pages and pages ago, I wrote about my first experience. I tried it on my neck and had an orgasm hahahaha....

    I, too, have a pocket rocket, but I much prefer the Wand...

    I'm happy to see this thread still kicking butt a year after I first posted....
  • casinogirl
    casinogirl Member Posts: 476
    edited August 2005
    Mena - just let me say I am SO glad you started this post, as I am sure many of us are.

    Although I haven't posted much on it, anytime I need a pick-me-up, I know where to go...

    Thanks!

    Donna
  • Valeriex
    Valeriex Member Posts: 4
    edited August 2005

    Yes. I have had the big "O" since diagnosed. Had pretty good sex during chemo, things were going good until one year into tamoxifen. I was 45 at diagnosis, now 47. No periods since chemo. Now having the hardest time accepting the slow down in mojo. Need to use a vibrator to acheive orgasm. Cannot reach it with husband. Isn't there a "something" that we can take to get our sex lives back? I am very unhappy about sex life. Am not ready to accept "but at least you are alive"?!!? I hate to say it but I am willing to go back on estrogen to help the old sex drive. Maybe it will kill me, and maybe it won't.

  • Candle
    Candle Member Posts: 5
    edited August 2005
    I was wondering about the bumping up thing too. Thanks for the clarity.

    Solly, I feel like your sister in sex. Wish I had feeling nipples too. Was a biiiiiggg part of my turn on ( and hubbies ), but while he can get past it by feeling/sucking the fake ones, I don't. Then it's on to the business. Got to be other steps to take before getting down to business. I know this board has got a number of ideas. Share please!!!!!!!

    I ask before and here it is again. Where are you getting your toys at ladies? Pocket rocket and magic wand. Can you order online or do you have to go to a store? Share please. Desperate housewife needs help!!!!!!

    LIVE LONG & FEEL GOOD,
    Shirley
  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 144
    edited August 2005
    Toys can be ordered from drugstore.com. You don't want to go to a toy site, because of the chance of getting unwanted p*rn spam. Ick!

    8 months...still waiting/trying for the big O again. Feel Like I am being punished for enjoying s*x before. Must be old Catholic guilt creeping up.
    J
  • Mena
    Mena Member Posts: 263
    edited August 2005
    Hi Shirley, et al....anyone looking to purchase toys and read about female sexuality, or lack thereof....first go back to Page 6 of this thread and read Liza's post. Please read the links she provided. The article by the Drs. Berman is especially worth the time. Btw, for those of you who don't know, Liza is our Researcher in Residence here in Mojo. So is Pitanga. And where has Pitanga been?

    And Connie? Well, Connie is Pleasure Dome Curator....if you check out Page 5 (with no children around) and look at the links Connie has provided there, you'll be sure to find something you want or something that really scares you hahahaa.

    I purchased my Magic Wand from the site Liza provided. I can't remember where I bought the pocket rocket though. But I bet if you googled it, you'd find a host of places hawking them. I know I did shop around for the best price and I did buy it online.

    (Remember to order the attachments with the Wand!)

    Now where does one go to find a guy?

    Let's see.....Claire oughta be full of answers and BethNY....I'll give you both good titles here in Mojo if you can find me a date......woo hoo such incentive, I know........xo
  • Jenster
    Jenster Member Posts: 25
    edited August 2005
    Ordered the Magic Wand last night. Looking forward to next weekend when hubby is home.

    Back to nipple sensitivity. That bums me out, too. Huge part of foreplay for both us, also. BUT, do you realize that your skin is an organ? It's so sensitive in spots that you may not even know. The insides of the arms, the collar bones, the neck the back, the inside of the thighs, the back of the knees. I'm not saying any of those places are as good as what we all once knew, but at least it's worth a try. Give licking, nibbling, sucking, kissing all those places a go and see which works best. Gosh, maybe if you get the whole body worked up you'll forget about your breasts altogether!! Okay. I do suppose that's stretching it a little. But I still think you'll enjoy finding the "right" spot!!
  • Claiire
    Claiire Member Posts: 60
    edited August 2005


    So you want to find a "date". What kind of date are you looking for?



    A FWB - Friend With Benefits

    A FB - Fck Buddy

    A LTR - Long Term Relationship

    A ONS - One Night Stand (quickie annony sex)



    One very interesting place is SexyAds.Net The interesting thing about it is that you can find all of the above there. There are interesting discussion boards (called forums there) and it is the same software that this system use. For those of us that are "fluffy" there is an abundance of men there that like their women this way. There are about 75 men for every woman. Their membership is from all over the world. Lots of people from the UK too.



    If you want wild unadulterated "stuff" try Eroticy



    If you want to find the perfect man or woman that meets a specific religions qualification... check out this place LoveMix



    I think that is enough - more than enough for now



  • Solly
    Solly Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2005
    Jenster,

    Yes, "I" know there are other places that can turn you on. But trying to convice hubby to go there is another story. I think he gets tired waiting for me as it does take a lot longer, but I have tried to tell him (with no convincing) that if he would spend more time other places, it may be quicker. I guess it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks.
  • Jenster
    Jenster Member Posts: 25
    edited August 2005
    Solly -

    True that!!
  • conniec
    conniec Member Posts: 31
    edited August 2005
    Mena Baby, it's cause YOU ROCK, that's why this discussion is still going strong! You and your "magic wand" have been a huge hit with this group, and your "tell most" sessions have been very liberating for many folks.

    I think being able to express ourselves as sexual beings in a non-threatening arena is a great way to toss away all those inhibitions we've held inside for way, way too many years (well, OK,I'm not one of those, but there are some....).

    We owe ALL of this to YOU, dear, sweet, wonderful Mena, who is going through so much pain in your own life.

    Miss you very much, sweetie pie, and thank you for letting me know about the vaginal attachments for the magic wand. As you can tell, I have NOT investigated that item yet, as there really is no use. For me, it's a lost cause, that no one can seem to explain.

    There is something (NOT a yeast infection) that is causing me HORRIBLE amounts of pain externally and internally, so ANY type of play is painful. When the totally impersonal GYN did my pap smear and a half-assed exam of me, I was trying to explain about how I felt there, and before I knew it, she had SHOVED that speculum up inside me, snipped cells for the pap, yanked the speculum out, and shoved her fingers inside -- but NONE on my belly, which is what I'm used to.

    For a woman, she did a very good impersination of a rapist. I literally felt violated and abused by her, and am reporting her ( I think....I still need to get a GYN, and if I go with her "group," I can't very well write about what happened, now, can I?")....

    Oh, well, glad the pocket rocket and magic wand are having good sales. We should definitely get discounts from the distributor!!!

    love to all,
    ConnierC
  • conniec
    conniec Member Posts: 31
    edited August 2005
    Hey Solly,

    Well, IMNSHO, most men from the U.S. have NO CLUE on what "love making" actually means. I have had the very fortunate luck to have a French Canadian for a husband, and he would NEVER, EVER even think about not making sure I had had at least 3-4 orgasms before he did!

    Now, he is so terribly sensative to our situation, and the way I feel about sex, that we talk about it quite a bit, to work it out. We are extremely frank with each other, even to the point of showing, while NOT in bed, what works and what doesn't work.

    Yes, he still has it in his mind the way I "trained" him over the last seven years how to make me a screaming maniac -- but those ways no longer work, but hurt.

    So, it's other ways, and he's all FOR trying to get ME going and orgasming before he even thinks about it for himself.

    One of the someone funny / lucky things that happened from my Spinal Fusion in march of '03, was that my Occupational Therapist (who is also now our friend!), had and gave us a book on how to make love with a bad back!

    Sssooo, we just need to try some new positions, NOT because of my cancer situation, but because of my new herniated disc situation. hard to keep track of all this,I know, sorry. I'm just a bundle of screwed up body parts that wouldn't mind at all being turned off, with no thoughts at all. What heaven that would be....

    Sssooo, Solly, I don't know -- whack him over the head, tie him to the chair or bed posts, and get his attention by holding onto his balls rather tightly, so that he'll actually LISTEN to you. It's just AMAZING how a man can actually suddenly HEAR when his balls are in jeapordy!

    GOOD LUCK!

    ConnierC
  • Solly
    Solly Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2005
    ConnieC,

    What is the name of that book. I have 2 bulging discs and 1 herniated disc. Top that with rheumatoid arthritis and horrible neuropathies/RA in my feet I am falling apart quickly.

    Hoping my pocket rocket arrives today so we can have some fun tonight. Thought I would surprise hubbie, haven't told him I ordered it.
  • Claiire
    Claiire Member Posts: 60
    edited August 2005
    Funny thing about the Pocket Rocket. While I was going through my Mother's things after she died I found a "massager" and put it in a box of stuff I wasn't sure what to do with. After all the talk about the PR, I still didn't give it much thought. Last week a friend of mine and I went to an "adult store" and they had them on the shelf. It was my Mother's massager!! I gotta find that box and take that thing out. It really made me laugh... One of those things she didn't talk to me about...
  • Notsopuny5721
    Notsopuny5721 Member Posts: 17
    edited August 2005
    Hi Connie, et al...

    For what it's worth, on more ocassions than I care to remember I have gone well over a week w/o a "release" and am still here to type about it (or, at least it feels as if I am).

    That's not to say that your DH is incorrect; he may very well feel that way. But from a strictly biological POV, seems a bit dubious to me.

    One man's $.02 worth...
    Quote:


    QUESTION: My DH says that men HAVE TO have a release at least once a week or maybe go for a bit longer. I KNOW we have at least one man in this group, so....is this FACT or just conditioning?

    Cause, I'm sorry, that just makes ZERO biological sense to me! As far as I know, WOMEN surely don't HAVE TO have an orgasm every week in order to survive! If so, there would be an awful lot of dead women around! I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 32 -- and had mastectomy at 39.


  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited August 2005
    Yeah, and I have to have a 3 carat diamond ring. It's biological. Really. It is.

    Muffet
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited August 2005
    And I forgot one other thing. What's wrong with Mr. Hand if it truly is for a "biological release?"

    Muffet
  • Solly
    Solly Member Posts: 9
    edited August 2005

    Got a good laugh out of the above "release" issue. My DH will say it "hurts" and he can't go all day like that when he wants a BJ. Of course I know better, but he likes to think he is fooling me.

  • conniec
    conniec Member Posts: 31
    edited August 2005
    Hi Solly,

    Read these last few posts, and decided to talk / answer two in one post.

    First -- yeah, men and that "release or I'm gonna die." Sure, right. But, I gotta tell ya, he SWEARS by it, and therefore has been taking matters into his own hands for quite some time, when I'm not in the mood.

    THEN, one day,he goofed, and said, "Well, with you being in pain, I don't really even think about it all that often and haven't j-d off in three weeks."

    AH-HA! So, guess he didn't turn blue and die, huh? At least I've always known he likes to j-k off and so I have NO PROBLEM with him doing it, with or without me in the room. And if ANY man says they don't, they are lying, I swear, swear, swear - they are lying, either to themselves or to their partners. What a horrible way to think about sex, that masturbation is a "bad thing."

    SOLLY -- My Visiting Nurse gave us a this pamphlet called, "SEX and BACK PAIN ... Advice on restoring comfortable sex that has been lost to back pain." By Lauren Hebert, RPT; Illustrations by Paul Plumer. Copyright 1987, Lauren Herbert. Contact info: IMPACC (no idea what that stands for, sorry!), 6 Wabon Street, Augusta Maine, USA, 04330. Phone: 207-622-4066.

    Since the area codes have changed so much over the last years, I have ZERO idea if that number still works. But, if it doesn't, and operator or information should be able to give you the area code for Augusta, ME.

    This pamphlet (well, she had to photo copy whatever it was for us to give us, so I don't know what form it actually comes in -- you might ask you local VISITING NURSES ASSOCIATION if they have one!), talks both about positions for men with back pain and women with back pain.

    Since I've lived with degenerative disc disease since a teen, by the time I got to my loving Alfred, I was sssooo open enough about sex, that I told him wht hurt me and wht didn't. So, we experimented, and the position we HAD been using (until two weeks ago) is in this "book." Worked great for both of us, and REALLY great for the woman, if the man has any idea what to do with a clit! Or where it is! (Sorry, any gents, but it's a darn sad truth with too many American men!).

    Good luck, Miss Solly -- hope you find a position that works for you!!!!!! We, too, now have to look again thru the booklet, and try some other ways. Then it's off to the Kuma Satra!

    With love and hugs to all!

    ConnierC
  • conniec
    conniec Member Posts: 31
    edited August 2005
    Hey G! Yeah, I figured it was basically a bunch of crapolla, IMNSHO, but I figured I'd ask you all, anyway. And, as you will read in my post to Solly, my DH takes care of himself quite well, and neither of us have any problem with that.

    Well, OK, I have a problem, because I'd like to be able to enjoy sex and have sex WITH him, but that is not always the case.

    Oh, and honey, I laughed and laughed and laughed at your post about your "BJ heaven!" My DH enjoyed it very much, as well, as I tell him what we discuss in here, though of course, he doesn't KNOW any of us, that's for sure! I'm glad your DW was feeling well enough to be intimate with you sexually. When my DH and I talk about that, we feel, ourselves, that if I had shut him out 100% over the last two years (even B4 BC, due to steroids for my back...), instead of at least "lending hands, fingers and mouth as makes him happy," we probably would not have as strong a relationship as we do, even with the enourmous OTHER difficulties we have going on.

    Sure, it means I "fake it" -- wanting to do anything, I mean! -- but he either knows it and plays along, or doesn't know it. Either way, it's kept us close on THAT level as well, which has enabled us to be open with each other about ANYTHING.

    But, phew, it really CAN be a "damn, I really, really don't want to do this" going through my head, while I have a sexy smirk on my face.

    I just know how GREAT we were about sex before, and hope that THAT part of ME will come back, eventually. Very hard to do, when in constant pain for so many years, do to my rupturing discs and perm. nerve pain since march of '03. That's when it got to be unbearable for me, and, of course, chemo.

    So, THANK YOU for YOUR honest two cents! As always, it's a great pleasure to hear a man's POV in this discussion!

    love ya, G!
    ConnierC
  • MattsMom
    MattsMom Member Posts: 4
    edited August 2005
    I'd like to add this link. http://clitical.com/index.php I found it yesterday browsing on the net. OMG, I hope it's not considered porn and I've offended anyone. :-)

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