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I WANT MY MOJO BACK!
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Mena??? "Va-jj"??? That's a new one for me! And while I knew it John Cougar Mellencamp I figured I'd let someone else get your prize as I thought it would be something sexual and I don't need anything but a regular f***.
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Mena,
After my inital research, I found that you could buy via ebay (brand new of course) for around $75 US plus postage. A hell of a lot cheaper than initally thought. I think I might buy one for myself.
oo la la!
Peace and long life
Kelly0 -
Kelly- I have already emailed one of the sellers to try and find out if using one in Australia would *I* need a transformer to change the power voltage to australian measures or if a standard adapter plug would be enough. If a transformer is needed then the price goes through the roof like on the inital website you found.
Will keep you posted....
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I'd let someone else get your prize as I thought it would be something sexual and I don't need anything but a regular f***.
Just nosey'd in with my answer. Don't need the prize as I haven't lost my mojo or my regular f***, but you all make the "toys" sound so interesting. Maybe it's time for a new repertoire?!0 -
I'll just add this comment about the Wand (you'd think I get a commission or something!)....With my man, it takes about 5-10 for the big 'O'....with the Wand....hmmmmm, lemme see.....uh, 20 seconds? Yesssssssss! So though there's nuthin like the real thing when thats not available or there are issues....
And the 'va-jj'....I don't know where Mena first heard that cute term for it, but I picked it up from the Miranda Bailey character on 'Greys Anatomy.'0 -
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The wand is on sale on many web sites in the USA. Check it out...I am going to get one. Today.0 -
I just got one.. a copy of one that is for 24$. I am going to pleasure myself every day in 2007! I am too tired of the new "dryness" in there. When i went to the GYN after chemo it was so dry she could hardly get the insturment in there. That has never happened to me before!
LETS ALL DO IT DO IT DO IT! TO IT!0 -
I was feeling funny about this but since someone else brought it up...ever since i went off of estrogen 2 things happened:
1. I stopped with the sudden urge for peeing. I was thinking i was the poster child for Detrol!
2. I get very dry vaginally and it is not as much fun anymore.
So, I guess my question is, does the estrogen or lack thereof hav something to do with this?
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Hey Ladies,
Thanks for sending me to this thread..........Looks like I have alot of reading to do!!
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Beth...It is precisely the lack/absence of estrogen that gets major credit for both the physical difficulties as well as the 'mojo' problems we talk about here. The stress of having cancer and going through treatment, of course, hasn't helped any of us. Then there's the body changes that affect our feelings of atractiveness. So keep on reading (or check out all of the earlier posts).
One final thing to report here....I rented the first season of 'Weeds' and after logging off earlier today and reading/posting about the Magic Wand, what does the main character (recently widowed) on the show receive as a gift? You guessed it! I recognized it right away!
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Beth, get the Hitachi Magic Wand, some Replens and some lubes and start reading this thread regularly....go back to page 1 (that should keep you outta trouble hahahahah)....
Janis, I can't help you with the regular F***, but you don't ever seem to need any help in that area anyway...give me a tune to name and send me a spectacular, uh, fling.
OK: It's John Mellencamp (The "Cougar" -- his manager's idea -- was dropped like 20 years ago, girls!). I have always loved him; seen him so many times; still have tshirts from 1984 concert and another one from the Dance Naked tour...
HA! Why does everything I do fit here...dance naked for cripes sake...omigod...
Hey, I think I should get some kind of commission for the Hitachi Magic Wand, too...I've been talking about it for two years now I think...
Who said 20 seconds? Yep. And multiples. I'm just afraid I'll drop dead and my kids will find it w/the attachments and turn to one another with looks of utter horror on their faces...not exactly "The Bridges of Madison County"...
Marin, thanks for sharing that! I've been meaning to rent that series forever now...NOW I'll be at Blockbuster tomorrow, for sure; besides I have 4 dvd's that are at least 2 weeks late...still haven't seen the end of "The Breakup." I think I left it at the chemo center on Friday...
Oh about "va-jj"...I thought I heard it here!...Mena...xo0 -
i think janis is right as for trying different positions. the first time that my bf and i were able to have some successful encounters, it's cause we found that doggie style hurt way less.
but guess what? after vacation, when we got back together, that was NOT working. it was veeeeery painful. now, yes, we do have the new lube, but regular old missionary style (and variations thereof) is doing wonders now...so keep trying. what works today might not work tomorrow and vice versa...
leanneb-yes we do understand your fears about sex harming your relationhsip. my bf is the most patient man in the world, and doens't even have a particularly high libido (i was always way higher pre-BC), and still, at times the dark though has crossed/crosses my mind when we're having alot of trouble getting through sex for days at a time...
in addition, i hate that i try to be willing to give him a climax (orally or manually) when i cannot do it/am not feeling up to the effort it now requires...but i resent it sometimes. generally, i like it. but when i have to do it alot because i can't have sex? not to mention the fact that it seems to take him FOREVER to climax when i'm doing it that way. grrr. i really have to fight back resentment sometimes, and i hate that feeling, particularly as it's not his fault. and he's great, he would *never* coerce me to do anything. i do it cause i feel it's an important part of a relationship, no matter how it happens! (plus he'd do it for me.) still it just seems so unfair sometimes...0 -
I just want to add something here. When chemo threw me into chemo pause I was desperate for some 'normality' in my life after all the surgeries and stress of dealing with BC dx & tx and I was lamenting my lack of libido and response to my onc, she said that you just have to follow your body's signals. If you're in treatment and have no desire then just let your body get through that and then get back to sex when your body doesn't have numerous other things going on. I was lucky (?) in that I was alone at that time and while a warm body would have been nice I didn't have to prove anything or deal with the disappointment of the frustration of the situation. I did try to have sex just after chemo started but he kept on hitting my port (yeowch) and that stayed tender for months and I was too keyed up in general (love those anti-nausea meds NOT)to enjoy myself. So, my advice is for those trying to push the issue, just relax and take it easy on yourself. All this crap is normal and you will get to the other side and find your new normal soon enough. And if it takes a 'wand' or 'pocket rocket' or new position to find your happiness now then so be it. I totally hate change (I like routine!) but have learned that change is inevitable and I either change or get stuck in frustration mode and life is too short to be frustrated!
Now, everyone go out and have some fun!
Sincerely,
Dr. Janis
p.s. I think I'm going to see Mr. Huge again!
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ok, which of the new KY's works best? I actually got a sample pack of some minis in my stocking from one of my friends. We kind of have a secret santa with just the girls and had a great time fillin git with girlie stuff. So much more fun than filling the kids stockings with Ygio cards.
I suppose I will just have to try all four of them. Please note the heavy sarcasm. We also ahve the magic bullet, very pretty silver color and it also helps with bunched up neck muscles. It is usually a good lead-in as well.0 -
I haven't tried this one yet, but just saw an ad for the new K-Y Intrigue. It claims to be the 'longest lasting...personal lubricant' available, so it might be very helpful for when you're taking your time..?
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Marin, you must have met my dh! The ex was 1,2,3,done! At the end of our marriage, I was so bored with the whole thing, I used ot watch the numbers onthe digital clock change. Now, I finally know true bliss but now I get tto dry. God bless K-Y! Now...if his back would cooperate at the same time I am feeling ok...
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Just received an interesting email from Women's Health mag and thought of this thread....
Here's the interactive vagina--lol
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/vagina/?cm_mmc=Newsletter-_-2007_Jan_16-_-Health-_-Interactive.Vagina0 -
Me thinks some men folk would be in need of this information! 0
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Hey I didn't know some of those things! LOL I cracked up though--that NAME! Interactive--!
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I didn't know all of those things were going on either....NIIICE! I was sorta surprised with the Bartholin's Glands since the drawing makes them look like little testicles and I was like, 'Hey, I don't have those!" Apparently I do. I remember reading about the 'A-spot' orgasm which is supposed to occur upon stimulation around the back part of the vagina...maybe those glands? Dunno what 'A' stands for (but I can guess, based on its proximity...)
Thanks for the sex ed lesson! Evidently I needed it!0 -
I miss my estrogen! (just HAD to say it again, as it's been a while.)
I NEVER thought the absence of estrogen would affect me in so many ways - all of them unpleasant I might add.
Marin - I LOVE Weeds! Can't wait for the new season to start!!
Cheers!
Donna0 -
I haven't read through ALL 41 pages, but I have read quite a bit on this thread, and it all deals with lack of MOJO because of the chemo/radiation chemopause etc. problems. My lack of MOJO is just because of the mast. I didn't have to have chemo because it was all DCIS--no further treatment necessary. But I had a failed DIEP and am left with a very ugly scar. Will be having implant surgery in about a month, but am having a scarily hard time having any interest in sex because of my appearance. And since I've already had one failed reconstruction attempt, I'm pessimistic where maybe I shouldn't be. Anyway, it is very upsetting to have no desire because of the way I look, knowing that it is possible I may not ever look "normal" again. Even if it is likely things will be better. I'd like to read about problems with the physical appearance side of sex. Does anyone know of a thread I haven't seen where this is addressed more consistently? THANKS!!!
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I'd try the "for those who chose NOT to have reconstruction" thread and start a new thread there with your question.
they seem like a great group and I bet they will be helpful with your questions and concerns.
One thing I've read: wear a pretty cammo to bed, maybe with a built in bra and fill the operative side with a filler. Add some sexy panties and a sexy gown. Just an idea.0 -
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I need a lover (that won't drive me crazy)...someone who knows the meaning of...HEY! Hit the highway!
Readers: Name artist and tune and place of birth and win prize...Mena...xo
Okay Mena...this was ALSO done by...
Pat Benatar...I Need a Lover...Brooklyn, NY, USA
HAH!
What did I win? Huh? Huh? LMAO
Hugs
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Lynn,
After my bilat. last February my DH and I had so much fun finding other "sensitive and interesting" spots that wound up as responsive as my missing breasts if not more so. Think of it as a new adventure. He'll respond to whatever you're up for. If you're self-conscious, he'll be too. I can truly say that my bilat hasn't hindered our sex life in any way.
Best to you,
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John Cougar Mellencamps "I Need a Lover"
born October 7, 1951 in Seymour, Indiana
Peggy - I "won" days ago, but I guess I was disqualified from the prize because I'm still getting it on a regular basis.
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Why not just wear a pretty teddy with protheses and nothing else? It is not necessary to make love with every stitch off!!
Add a pair of boots if you like!0 -
Lini - LOL...I should have read the posts more carefully...we're both right though!
Hugs
Peggy0 -
Oh Peggy (Sige)....WELCOME BACK! We missed you! I asked here about you awhile back and someone said you were taking a break. Glad you've checked back in (sounds like a mental hospital..?)!
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