Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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LOL - just read the rest of your post. He's 69? I seriously doubt he could manage sex every day. Do men really think statements like that turn us on? It has the complete opposite effect. Like the guy I met on POFwho made the remark about his penis on our first (and only) date. Ugh! did he really think that remark would make me curious about the size of his. Gag
Men are so clueless about how women think.
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Hope you ladies are having a great day
Dogs I am definitely amnot going to see this "69 year old stud" again. lol
He was so cheap and apparently he has money: I traveled 30 miles to meet him and talked with him for over 2 hours and all he bought me was a soda! When I left it was 5:30 pm, he didn't even offer to buy me a cheap dinner.
M drove 4 hours to see me plus bought me dinner.
I have met some others but no sparks. Honestly the only one I had any desire to kiss was M.
Dogs your post is funny.
I am going to take a nap: these guys are exhauting! lol
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Any guy, no matter how young or old, who told me right away that he was highly sexed and wanted it every day would be a major turn off. And then not even buying dinner at 5:30 .... cheap.....forget him. And it has nothing to do with marriage/commitment or anything else. He's just not good enough. Actually he sounds creepy. Move on. LOL.
Lovemyfamily, I know Franklin is a good guy and you are working at remaining friends. But as you know, I worry about the situation for you. Even just being friends can keep you from being truly open to loving someone else.
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EWWW really? That would so be a huge turn off. Sounds like he is only interested in Sex.
Even though I never want to get married again as I don't want to have to take care of some old man I still wouldn't get together with someone just for sex. From what I remember I certainly enjoyed sex but a good relationship and having fun comes first and being able to talk and just like being with each other. If you have all those things then sex will come and be lovely. Just to have somone to have sex with - no way.
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EWWW! lol Feel supported by my sisters, thanks hrf and pl and all my bc sisters! xo
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Hi Ladies
Every one must be busy today. Hope everyone is okay.Have a wonderful evening Sisters.
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I'm better than ok... I'm in Disney with my sisters family and mom. The firefighter I'm dating is working so he's at home. I don't have much to add to the posts but i still read daily.
April will be 3 years since bc and being div. I'm very happy. The guy I'm with now was a set up by friends.
Karyn
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Nothing new for me to report either, not dating, not looking and super happy
Although my girl is away for spring break so I'm a bit lonely! lol0 -
Brice called to go out again. He was okay. Can't say I am super happy, just effed up with feelings for Frank. I am glad I found a good therapist to work this out, myhead is spinning. xo
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Kward glad you are having a great time in Florida. Did you go to Epicot center. It is very interesting.
Dragon do you have a puppy Boxer? I think they are smart, good looking dogs.
Lovemy family I am soooo happy Brice called you for another date. Perhaps as you get to know him, you will begin to care for him. In the mean time it is good that you are talking to a therapist. A hug to you xx
Hugs to all of you xxxx
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Yes I sure do, his name is Zorro and he's 9 months old. He is such a good/sweet boy and well behaved. We just got back from an almost 3 mile walk so he's pooped! lol
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Still reading and keeping in touch. Hugs ladies.
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Still here but the Tucson desert remains frightfully dry!
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RE: On-line dating. I tried match.com with no luck. The ones who were interested in me, I didn't like the sound of. The ones I liked? Some responded and then when I answered back they didn't respond again. One guy said he enjoyed "long walks on the beach" When I asked him if he wanted to go for one of those walks he said he has a bad leg. Hm---false advertising or didn't like the looks of me-who knows. I think a lot of these guys are just on the sites for their egos. They want someone to respond, but don't really want to follow up. I did go out with one guy from match.com. We had several dates, but there were no sparks. I wouldn't have minded going out for an occasional lunch or dinner just as friends, but he stopped contacting me after I made a funny remark about the moon. We had just had dinner and on the way out he commented about the full moon. I said "does that mean all the crazies are out" I thought he would think it was funny, but he didn't. He probably expected me to say "Oh yes, isn't a full moon romantic?" Whatever--
P/S I was brutally honest in my profile. Said that my dogs and family were very important to me. That I preferred the outdoors, was a runner/jogger, dress very casually, prefer small neighborhood restaurants, like to read, etc.
I suppose they find all that boring--
I've given up on on-line stuff (at least for now)
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RE: On-line dating. I tried match.com with no luck. The ones who were interested in me, I didn't like the sound of. The ones I liked? Some responded and then when I answered back they didn't respond again. One guy said he enjoyed "long walks on the beach" When I asked him if he wanted to go for one of those walks he said he has a bad leg. Hm---false advertising or didn't like the looks of me-who knows. I think a lot of these guys are just on the sites for their egos. They want someone to respond, but don't really want to follow up. I did go out with one guy from match.com. We had several dates, but there were no sparks. I wouldn't have minded going out for an occasional lunch or dinner just as friends, but he stopped contacting me after I made a funny remark about the moon. We had just had dinner and on the way out he commented about the full moon. I said "does that mean all the crazies are out" I thought he would think it was funny, but he didn't. He probably expected me to say "Oh yes, isn't a full moon romantic?" Whatever--
P/S I was brutally honest in my profile. Said that my dogs and family were very important to me. That I preferred the outdoors, was a runner/jogger, dress very casually, prefer small neighborhood restaurants, like to read, etc.
I suppose they find all that boring--
I've given up on on-line stuff (at least for now)
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Hey dogs, I think we would be a good match! lolz
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Hi Ladies
Dogs I think most of these guys are nuts and liars. At least you got the guy to take you out to dinner!
The guy that thought looking at other women is ok has left messages on my phone a couple of times. I have not responded because there is no way I am going to compromise with that behavior.
Another coupleof guys have messaged me today, but they live on the east coast of Florida and I live on the west coast of the state.
To be honest, I just want to kiss M. I was immediately attracted to him the minute I laid my eyes on him. Gee, I sound like a teenager!
Well you all have a great afternoon.
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Well, then, go on and kiss the boy!! xo
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Good Morning Ladies
I was in the process of typing a rant about the conversation that I had with M yesterday. Suddenly it was wiped out. You all are spared lol. Too tired right now to retype it.
Hope you all have a wonderful day.
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We want details painted lady (when you feel up to it) xo
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Well M called yesterday: Said he would not be able to come up here until after the first of April because that is when he gets his SS check. He also said that he was thinking about renting a place up here but he couldn't do it financially. Then he said that his brother and family said that he may be able to stay at their place while they are gone for the summer( Brother's place is 1 and1/2 hours from my house) Then he said but that would mean his place would be empty while he is up at his brothers. I then said that we really don't know each other long enough for you to stay in my house. With that he said "Oh I would commit suicide if I had to stay with someone 24/7 !!!! When he was up here he told me that he wanted to find someone and eventually get married. I think these two statements are conflictual.
Anyway he suppose to call Saturday with some ideas as to how to deal with the distance.
I am confused because the money and distance didnt seem to be an issue. Now the cost
of traveling here seems to be an issue Oh yes, and I forgot that he mentioned that after driving 4 hours he doesnt have enough energy to take me out in the evening dancing.
I hope I made some sense. My head is spinning from the conversation
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Good Grief! How can he even be thinking of dating (let alone marriage ) if he is living on Sec. Sec?
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Sorry, meant Soc. Sec LOL Does this guy not work?
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PaintedLady, what conclusion do you draw from that conversation?
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My conclusion even though I wasn't asked lol... he's not that interested, maybe it's not you but maybe he's just not interested in a relationship? He sounds all sorts of confused and he needs to grow a set before you should even consider him.
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I don't know I think he sounds like he is just being cautious and wary and giving himself an out if needed. He gave an awful lot of information, makes me think he sounds nervous. But I think he is interested just nervous.
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Thanks Ladies for the input.
Dragon please know that your input is valued and appreciated.
I want all of you to feel free to give me your input
Hrf All I know is when I got done talking to him I was confused. I think it hit him how expensive it will be to travel up to see me every week. Also when I talked to him another time, I told him that I just did not want to sit around and look at each other, I want to do some activities
Dogs He is not working because he has a heart problem. When I went to the mall with him he could not keep up with me and I was not walking very fast. He walks very, very slowly.
Stanzie I think you may be on to something. He did tell me that he doesnt trust people right away.
We will see what he says Saturday.
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Paintedlady, I see all kind of red flags here. Your attraction for him may be preventing you from seeing those warning signs. Proceed with caution is my opinion.
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I agree, HRF
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