Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?
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Lauri - so, so happy for you. We love success stories!
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Hey ladies!! It's been a while since I've been on here, wanted to check in and say hi
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My friend reminded me the other day that Sir Paul McCartney married a woman with a prosthetic leg. Great guys exist. (Too bad she turned out to be a monster)
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Hi dragonfly, how are you?
Katarina, he is a nice guy and yes they exist .... And boy was she a monster!0 -
That's wonderful Lauri! So glad for you--
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Welcome back Dragonfly! Love you name--
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I'm doing good Joanne, just busy with work & school and looking for a new job! Sounds like some of you have had great success. I gave up on dating, I was having no good luck at all. A couple dates a few months ago, one lasted 5 1/2 hours and never heard from him again.... I was on POF.com because it's free, but seems to be the same guys over and over.
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dragonfly -- I am done for now. I need to get me mentally and physically strong. I am doing good but I am no where near who I was before the diagnosis -- December will be a year so .... I am starting some exercise classes and walking and back at work and hopefully that will help me ... then maybe I can think about dating.
POF is the same guys over and over ...
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That's what I've been doing, just being happy being ME and not worrying about the boys! I started walking too, and was doing good until we went on vacation and Summer happened. Need to start back up again
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Let me repeat......POF is the same guys over and over. Stop for a few years and then go back. It will still be the same guys.
Hi DF. Nice to have you checking in
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I know, but it's hard for me to fork over $ for the others. I went on match and eharmony at one time and ZERO results.
Thanks, good to see some of the same people still here
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I agree with you on the $$ thing. I don't know if it has been any diff. on Match. My profile on that site is hidden. I would delete altogether but am paid up until mid-Nov. I may just keep it hidden though. It sounds like you are doing well though and that is nice
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Thank you
What's new with you, I read a few pages of the conversation but not all of it! (Didn't realized I hadn't been on in so long) 0 -
Dragonfly - I am busy with my 14 y.o. He had an accident on his bike last week and needed 18 stitches on top of starting 9th grade. He is missing JV soccer and can be a pistol. Needs lots of love. My daughter, 18, went away to college, but is coming home weekends to work. My oldest is still with his Dad, just got laid off but is in college part time, for what we are not yet sure. Unfortunately and sadly, I have had 3 people close to me die of cancer in the last month and my sister chose this time to tell me off; she doesn't feel I am helping enough with my elderly father. Too much to deal with.......
I am still trying to regain my energy from a June surgery and am changing my AI from Aromasin to Femara. Will start the new one in a few days. I have had a lot of body pain, aches and just feeling very stiff. I am participating in a Webinar for women called 'Creating Your Own Happiness'. It started tonight so you see I am still trying to recover from it all. I am on this site less but still find it reassuring to know it is here.
Funny you would have no luck on Match or eHarmony. It certainly doesn't say much for the sites because you look quite pretty and lovely. Maybe online dating has peaked and is not the way to find a partner anymore. Sometimes I think I will be alone forever; I just hope I am not lonely and can find peace that way. I do know my family needs me now. Your pic is very pretty as is your daughter. A man would have to be pretty shallow not to want to join your little family.
Peace to you,
Molly
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Molly
How's your son doing? My daughter just started 7th grade, so far we've escaped any major injuries and all stitches! So sad about losing people close to you. I had 2 great friends lose their moms to breast cancer, I didn't know them personally but it sure hits home huh?
That sounds like a good site to be on, everyone should take something like that and focus on being happy with themselves! That's where it all has to start.
Thank you so much... I truly don't know why I have ZERO luck with the guys. I have accepted the fact that I will not find a match and that it will be me alone after my daughter grows up. I guess my goal in life is to be the best Mom I can be!0 -
My son needs a lot of guidance, some grounding every now and then. He just started homework and it's 9 at nite. He is different than my other two, still an honor student but very social and sometimes impulsive. He scares me as far as the trouble he could get into and has gotten into. I am afraid to date as I would have less time to monitor him. How is your daughter doing?
Yes - Each of these cancer deaths sure hit home, esp. when it is breast cancer as in your situation. I cried last nite about the one last wk. I couldn't make it to the funeral home, but he was such a good man. Specialist in working with autistic children and put his whole heart into it. Left 4 children of his own.
One thing that I find scary about going it alone is the finances. There are a lot of things that need fixing up around here, that could break. I have so little to fall back on and they keep making financial cuts at work (education). Does this concern you or are you good at taking things day by day (as they are always telling us in church - Each day has worry enough of it's own- and I know that it is so!)? My goal is to be a good Mom too.
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Is this pretty much the only single thread active at this point?
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sounds like it's the only thread doesn't it. i agree, it's more about working on me now than guys. also working on energy from a summer surgery.
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Yes, I'm working hard on my exercising, jogging, etc. as it improves my mood tremendously. Also trying to work with my dogs; eg one has a stubborn skin problem - trying all kinds of things - the other one is getting really barky for some reason. The third one is showing her age - probably needs something for arthritis.
Speaking of men - I get along really well with the ones who are younger. Anywhere from teens to 70s. Maybe I act more relaxed around the younger ones and they are more comfortable around me because they don't need to impress an old lady! Whatever the reason - the ones in their 70s and older don't act natural around me. I'm very outgoing and it seems to scare them off or something. There must be ONE old guy around who is outgoing like I am - but so far I haven't found him.
On the few dates I've had they seem intimidated by my exercising -one said "You'll never get me to jog"? What? Did I say I was going to do that. Another said "You marathoners are in a class by yourself" He said he biked. but when I mentioned we could go for a jaunt where he biked and I ran he made up some excuse. Are these guys just afraid a woman will show them up? Are they really that insecure. Hm---
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They are threatened by you. Men seem to be threatened by good jobs, looks, exercise, lots of stuff.
I like the idea of turning this thread into a single support thread. What do we all think?
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By a single thread, do you mean starting a new thread all together? i'm up for whatever
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Either way - starting a new one or continuing this one. I just mean changing the focus but bringing all of us on board if it is a new thread.
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Stanzie and Joanne thank you for caring about me.
I have a lung infection and am taking 2 kinds of antibiotics. Feel very tired; so I didnt read all of the posts.
Still seeing the same guy.
Have a wonderful day
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I've become a lurker to this thread probably cuz I gave up on the dating thing. There is one guy who has been messaging me from POF, wants me to call but for some reason can't find the courage to do it. Perhaps in the back of my mind I'm thinking, "who in the world would want to get involved with someone with end-stage cancer?". blech I really thought when dx 2 years ago with stage 4 that I never would be here today but here I still am! Maybe I just need a big shot of confidence. Any advice?
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Oh Rakulynda- I didn't know your diagnosis was IV but no please do not give up on dating as you may find someone very VERY special and don't give up on yourself!!! They are making such strides so you will hopfully have a very long life still.... I honestly don't know that much about it, but I do know a woman here who was diagnosed at the onset at stage iv and she is doing just fabulous and it has been gosh at least 4 years maybe more. Unless you knew this information about her- you would never be able to tell... Please know you are a very amazing, talented lovely woman who someone would love to spend time with you.....
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My first thought is: Why don't you see if you like him? It might be nice to have a friend. Take it day by day so to speak.
paintedlady - I am so sorry to hear of your lung infection. Here are good thoughts across the miles to get better soon~~~~~
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Hi All, Not been posting much, been on overload with family troubles. My father just passed away last week...not unexpected as he was 91, but have been so sad. Good to know your all still here, DF,, you and your daughter look wonderful ! Painted lady, sorry your not feeling well. What I can say is I'm still with my wonderful guy, the handyman. Boy he sure hung in there for me....It's been really a rough time dealing with my family thru all this.....Sorry if I did not name all you wonderful women, but think of each and everyone of you daily and you are all in my prayers. You know I was dx. with stage IV 10 years ago and with treatment and all did not date for 5 years. My husband left me during treatment. So getting internet and finding all you great gals has been a Godsend to me. Rakulynda it can happen, it did to me....We started out as friends, but it became so much more, I know nomatter what happens he will forever be there for me, as a friend, lover, whatever. None of us really knows what God has planned for us, so with that I just move forward. Some days are more difficult than others, But with D. he just rolls with it....No drama, and that is what I never had before in my life. Keep the faith ladies, when the time is right it will happen for you when you may not even be looking ! God Bless All you ladies, Hugs, Kiley
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Kiley - well said. Sorry about your dad. Mine died during treatment and my husband and I divorced during treatment too (like you). Never easy but with the right attitude everyday gets better.
Karyn
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I'm just lurking these days as well. I've given up on dating so don't have much to contribute. Glad so many of you are doing well.
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Still here my wonderful friends! My daughter is getting married on
October 6th. WE are so excited and happy. I do wish I wasn't "alone" but then I remind myself that I have so many wonderful friends and family and of course my faith in God, so I am not alone at all. But it does get to me, like there is an engine light on the car that just came on and I can't afford it. . . .. .worries but trying to stay positive and thankful for all that I do have! xo0
